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W h a t i s i t ?

Dating violence is controlling, abusive, and aggressive behavior in a

romantic relationship. It can happen in straight or gay relationships. It

can include verbal, emotional, physical, or sexual abuse or a combination.

Co n t r o l l i n g b e h a v i o r m a y

i nc l ude :

Not letting you hand out with

your friends

Calling or paging you

frequently to find out where

you are, whom you are with,

and what you are doing

Telling you what to wear

having to be with you all thetime

V er ba l & E m o t i ona l abuse m ay i nc l ude :

Calling you names

Jealousy

Belittling you (cutting you down)

Threatening to hurt you, someone in your

family, or himself or herself if you don't do

what he or she wants

P hys i ca l A buse m ay i nc l ude :

Shoving

Punching

Slapping

Pinching

Hitting

Kicking

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Hair Pulling

Strangling

Sexua l A buse m ay i nc l ude :

Unwanted touching and kissing

Forcing you to have sex

Not letting you use birth control

Forcing you to do other sexual things

Anyone can be a victim of dating violence. Both boys and girls are

victims, but boys and girls abuse their partners in differnt ways. Girls are

more likely to yell, threaten to hurt themselves, pinch, slap, scratch or

kick. Boys injure girls more and are more likely to punch their partner

and force them to participate in unwanted sexual activity. Some teen

victims experience violence occasionally. Others are abused more often,

sometimes daily.

You ' re No t A lone - The

Sta t is t ics

Approximately 1 in 5 female

high school students report

being physically and/or

sexually abused by a dating

partner.

Among female victims of

intimate partner violence, a

current or former boyfriend or

girlfriend victimized 94% of

those between the ages of

16-19.

Between 1993-1999, 22% ofall homicides against females

ages 16-19 were committed

by an intimate partner.

Nearly one-half of adult sex offenders report committing their first sexual

offenses prior to the age of 18.

58% of rape victims report being raped between the ages of 12-24.

Half of the reported date rapes occur among teenagers.

Only 33% of teens who were in an abusive relationship ever told anyone

about the abuse.

Among 13-18 year old teens who have been in a relationship, 15% said

they've had a partner hit, slap or push them. 4% of teens agreed that it's

okay for someone to hit their partner if they really did something wrong

or embarrassing. More Hispanic teens (13%) reported that hitting apartner was permissible.

30% of 13-18 year old teens reported worrying about their personal

physical safety in a relationship.

Intimate partner violence among adolescents is associated with increased

risk of substance use, unhealthy weight control behaviors, sexual risk

behaviors, pregnancy and suicide.

Paren ta l Aw areness

81% of parents surveyed either believe teen dating violence is not an

issue or admit the don't know if it's an issue.

A majority of parents (54%) admit they have not spoken to their childabout dating violence.

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Nearly 25% of 14-17 year-olds surveyed know at least one student who

was a victim of dating violence, while 11% know multiple victims of

dating violence. 33% of teens have actually witnessed such an event.

20% of surveyed male students report witnessing someone they go to

high school with physically hit a person they were dating.

39% of female high school students report that students talk in school

about whether someone is attempting to control the person they are

dating.

57% of teens know someone who has been physically, sexually, orverbally abusive in a dating relationship.

45% of girls know a friend or peer who has been pressured into either

intercourse or oral sex.

One in three teens reports knowing a friend or peer who has been hit,

punched, kicked, slapped or physically hurt by their dating partner.

In 9 out of 10 rapes in which the offender is under 18, so is the victim.

I n c i d en t Re p o r t i n g

When female high school students were asked whom they would talk to if

someone they date is attempting to control them, insults them, or

physically harms them, 86% said they would confide in a friend, whileonly 7% said they would talk to police.

83% of 10th graders surveyed at the 4th Annual Teen Dating Abuse

Summit, reported that they would sooner turn to a friend for help with

dating abuse than to a teacher, counselor, parent or other caring adult.

Only 33% of teens who were in an abusive relationship ever told anyone

about the abuse.

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