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Successfully Navigating the Parent Landmines in the NICU
DEB DISCENZA, FOUNDER, PREEMIEWORLD, LLC & INSPIRE’S PREEMIE COMMUNITY
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AgendaS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S I N T H E N I C U
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2
3
4
5
Introduction
Empowering the Families in the NICU
Supporting Families in the NICU & Home
Working Through Tough Times in the NICU
Q&A
❤️ NICU Nurses💉Parent Landmines
✔️Provide Tips & Key Points👶Preemie Parent Voices
Part One: Introduction
Love for NICU NursesW H Y Y O U M AT T E R T H E M O S T T O PA R E N T S
NICU Nurses are Angels
You love the babies
You are our connection to the NICU
You are the glue to the NICU
You are the person we remember the most after the NICU stay
What are Parent Landmines?S C E N A R I O S T H AT C R E AT E H I G H S T R E S S W I T H PA R E N T S
Parent Landmines
Intro to the NICU/Trauma
Parent Bonding Challenges
Breastfeeding & Pumping
Life Challenges Beyond NICU
Baby’s Health Declines
Baby is Dying/Dies
Inspire Preemie CommunityH T T P S : / / P R E E M I E . I N S P I R E . C O M
28,000 MEMBERS WORLDWIDE
I AM THE FOUNDEROF THE FORUM ANDTHE MODERATOR
IN THE NICU, AT HOME,IN SCHOOL, ADULTS, PREEMIEANGELS, PREEMIES WITH CP, PREEMIE HOPE, PREEMIE TIPS
PARENTS, GRANDPARENTS,ADULT PREEMIES,WOMEN INHIGH RISK PREGNANCIES, PARENTS OF ANGELS,PARENTS OF DISABLEDPREEMIES
Survey Demographics: ResponsesH T T P S : / / P R E E M I E . I N S P I R E . C O M
• 182 Female• 26 Male
212
Survey: Gestational Age at Birth
20%
31%
49%
MICRO-PREEMIEMODERATE TO LATE PRETERM
VERY PRETERM
102 RESPONDENTS41 RESPONDENTS
65 RESPONDENTS
*data & insights generated from (July 2016) survey of Inspire Preemie Community
Survey DemographicsH T T P S : / / W W W . I N S P I R E . C O M / G R O U P S / P R E E M I E
• Global: Responses from most continents• 60+ pages free text responses
Part I: Empowering Parents in the NICUS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S I N T H E N I C U
NICU Intro
Bonding
Breastfeeding
• Entering the NICU for the first time.• Seeing the baby and medical equipment.
• Control over connecting with infant• Fear of medical equipment
• Pumping Breastmilk • Breastfeeding• Working with team members or not
Quick Share: How does your NICU welcome the parent for the first time?
Landmine #1: Welcoming the Parent
Entering the NICU for the First Time
Deb’s Take
• Middle of the night birth• No welcome packet• Wheeled to NICU post-
birth• Trauma and Back to
Room
1.• Next Day Wheeled to
NICU• At Bedside with Incubator• Had no idea what to do
2.• A nurse came over and
said hello and showed me a couple of things to do and then left.
• Alarms went off and I screamed out for the nurse.
3.
Survey: What made you feel the most welcome in the NICU?
31%
36%
33%
PUMPING ROOMRESOURCE ASSISTANCE
NICU NURSE
PROVIDED A BREAST PUMPING ROOM IN THE NICU
GIVEN RESOURCE ASSISTANCE SUCH AS FREE OR REDUCED
PARKING PASSES
GREETED BY NICU NURSE UPON ARRIVING AT BEDSIDE
The Top 3 Items Out of a List of 7 Items
*data & insights generated from (July 2016) survey of Inspire Preemie Community
NICU Families Speak: WelcomeS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
The nurses informed me that I had access to my
daughter 24/7 and to come anytime I felt wellenough. Not knowing anything about the NICUor what was to come, that made a world ofdifference in reminding me that I had an
importantrole as the parent. — MOTHER, VERY PRETERM INFANT
NICU Families Speak: WelcomeS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
We entered the room that had both babies andeach nurse had a sign up welcoming each
baby, by name, to the NICU. The sign said, “Happy Birthday” and was decorated in pink and white. Each nurse told us, “Congratulations on yourbeautiful twin daughters, do you have any questions?” We saw our babies for the first
time and fell in love. — MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE TWINS
Tips: Bonding for Parents, Baby, Nurses
Personalize “Your daughter” “Your Son” “I love the name!”I
Intro Introduce yourself and talk about what you are doing for their child.II
Reassurance All emotions are normal and the baby is in the best place.III
Parenting Show them what they can do right now to help their baby.IV
Patience Rollercoaster reminder but that parents are KEY.V
Key Points on Parent/Nurse BondS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Parent OwnershipPromoting that bond making the baby and the NICU less scary.
Parent/Nurse & NICU BondFeeling welcome, feeling useful. Part of the team, no degree needed.
CommunicationStarts a healthy dialogue between parent and professional.
Building TrustThis will be very helpful later on during the tougher discussions.
Quick Share: How does your NICU help parents bond with their infant? How do you give them a sense of control?
Landmine #2: Bonding & Control Over Infant
Trying to be a mother in the NICU
Deb’s Take
• Holding my daughter was
bittersweet.
1.• Doing Kangaroo Care
really changed my approach in the NICU. I could do something!
2.• Doing the first bath was
both scary and delightful I re-wrote the birth experience in my head.
3.
Survey: What helped you most in bonding with your baby in the NICU?
21%
20%
20%
20%
19%
TALKING GENTLY TO MY BABYHOLDING MY BABY
KANGAROO CARE
SIMPLY TOUCH MY BABY
READING SOFTLY TO MY BABY
*data & insights generated from (July 2016) survey of Inspire Preemie Community
Survey: How did Kangaroo Care Help You Best?
18%
18%
17%15%
15%
10%7%
VALUABLE MEMBER OF TEAMCOMFORTED ME
COMFORTED BABY
HELPED IN BABY CARE
EMPOWERED TO HELP BABY
INCREASED BREAST MILK
*data & insights generated from (July 2016) survey of Inspire Preemie Community
Tips: Parent/Infant Bond
Remind “The baby knows your voice and your smell.”1.
Love Notes! On days of no stimulation - Love Notes help greatly.2.
Kangaroo Care It has great benefits for Mom and baby. 3.
Key Points on Parent/Infant BondS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
ConnectionDirect connection or indirect connection - it all helpful.
Increased VisitationWhen parents have a connection they are more likely to visit and for longer.
BreastmilkWhen a Mother sees her importance in the NICU it can have a significant impact toward breastfeeding.
Reminders to ParentsReminding the parents that the baby knows smell/voice and is seeking them out for comfort is a part of the bonding.
Quick Share: How does your unit promote breastfeeding? How is the topic introduced?
How is there a NICU-wide unified message?
Landmine #2: Breastfeeding
Breastfeeding
Deb’s Take
• I started pumping on my
own in the postpartum unit less than 12 hours after birth.
1.• Proud of myself though no
one ever praised me except the postpartum nurse on Day 1.
2.• Latching was difficult and
support was not consistent. I gave up and kept pumping.
3.
Survey: Did you attempt breastfeeding (putting your baby to the breast)?
73%
27%
NO
YES
*data & insights generated from (July 2016) survey of Inspire Preemie Community
Survey: Who helped you the most with breast pumping and breastfeeding matters?
14%
14%
11%11%11%
10%
10%10%
8%
FRIEND NICU NURSE
LACTATION CONSULTANT
ANOTHER PREEMIE PARENT
NICU NUTRITIONIST
FAMILY MEMBER
POSTPARTUM NURSE
NEONATOLOGIST
POSTPARTUM DOCTOR
*data & insights generated from (July 2016) survey of Inspire Preemie Community
NICU Families Speak: PumpingS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
It was positive up to the point where I stoppedproducing milk. At that point some NICU
nurseswere making me feel guilty for not pumpingenough!
— MOTHER, MODERATE-LATE PRETERM INFANT
NICU Families Speak: PumpingS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
I had a postpartum nurse dump my colostrum, telling me that my micro twins couldn’t have it
anyway.— MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE TWINS
NICU Families Speak: PumpingS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Our hospital had a wonderful pump room decorated
to look like a nursery. That made it seem more likepumping at home with a baby. That helped a lot. They had lights down and lamps. The room also
hadextra pump bottles and cleaning supplies for whenyou were done . . . every small touch helped. — MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
NICU Families Speak: PumpingS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
I couldn’t get the hand expressing to work for the
colostrum and we brought down a drop in thesyringe, delighted that we got even a bit and
thenurse that was on looked aghast at how little
wewere bringing and looked like she was thinkingwhy did we bother with so little - it upset me
andmade me more worried about getting it.
— MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
NICU Families Speak: PumpingS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
It was really stressful in low dependency, trying toestablish breastfeeding yet they insisted on tube feeding her every 3 hours and said I could breast-feed every 4 hours. Yet how would she be hungry?. . . the staff were nursery nurses and I felt there
wasa lot less understanding and too many differingopinions, voices, training, etc. and it wasn’t helpful.
— MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
Tips: Pumping & Breastfeeding
Milk = Medicine Her breastmilk is the ultimate medicine for her baby. 1.
Stress Every drop, every ounce, counts. Period.2.
The Drop-Off Regardless of amount, “Liquid gold!” or “You are doing awonderful thing.”
3.
Love Notes Baby talks to Mom . . . with praise and encouragement. Theteam can write there to Mom, too. Family and friends as well.
4.
Daily Check-Ins A check-in to see how milk production is going and if the the team can do anything to help. No judgement, problem-solving.
5.
Key Points on Breastfeeding/PumpingS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Positive IntroductionDirect, honest and positive introduction helps. Trying is key.
Unified Team MessageRegardless of amount, be positive about the fact that there is milk coming in right now. If you support it, make sure the unit is properly set up with a nice pumping room.
Daily Check-InsNo judgement - just asking how things are going and what the team can do to assist.
Praise, Praise, PraisePumping and breastfeeding a NICU infant is hard work. Always praise a parent who is trying.
Part II: Supporting Families NICU/HomeS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S I N T H E N I C U
Juggling
Competing
Discharge
• Emotions• Priorities
• Opinions in the NICU• Opinions of Family, Friends, Public
• Lockdown During Cold/Flu/RSV Season• Over-Protective Parent• Pediatrician/Doctor: Developmental Watch
Quick Share: How do you support families with siblings, jobs, longdistance commutes to the NICU? How do you encourage
a parent to visit when visitation starts waning?
Landmine #1: Juggling Priorities & Emotions
Juggling Life & Emotions
Deb’s Take
• Went back to work part-
time one week after birth. I used the latter part of the day to visit my daughter.
1.• Pumping breastmilk
throughout each day was hard and exhausting.
2.• Life happens - Hurricane
Isabel, Mother-in-law wanted daily phone calls with full updates. My emotions didn’t hit properly until later on.
3.
Survey: Which of the following priorities did you have to juggle while in the NICU? Select all that apply.
31%
27%15%
14%
12%2%0%HAD TO RETURN TO WORK
PUMPING BREASTMILK
HEALING FROM BIRTH
SIBLINGS AT HOME
OTHERNONE OF THE ABOVE
*data & insights generated from (July 2016) survey of Inspire Preemie Community
NICU Families Speak: Juggling EverythingS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Death of identical twin, extremely high risk of death
for my son. I was alone and a hundred miles from
home planning a funeral for one son and makinglife and death decisions for the other. Hospital
bills,insurance coverage, finding time to eat, do
laundry,pay bills, self-care, and sleep.
— MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE TWINS
NICU Families Speak: Juggling EverythingS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
My husband was trying to work and in the midstof losing his job because he was driving me back and forth [and] visiting the baby himself. [And
then] taking care of household chores and caring forourselves.
— MOTHER, VERY PRETERM INFANT
NICU Families Speak: Juggling EverythingS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Recovering drug addict. I debated sharing this,but it is a huge aspect of my life and I hope themore people are honest about this issue, the
lessthe stigma will become.
— MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
Tips: Juggling Everything
Emotions Remind Parents: All emotions are normal for all people involved in this. 1.
Support Support groups can be a huge help to families on many levelsincluding priority challenges.
2.
Priorities Like breastfeeding, the guilt is always there. So “just try.” 3.
Stops Visiting Call with an update. “Is there anything we can do to help?” 4.
Love Notes When a parent looks forward to these notes, it will likely increase visitation. But breaks are necessary. 5.
Key Points on Juggling EverythingS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
VisitationJust a simple “Great to see you” is all is needed. Guilt will only create more distance.
Check-In on ObstaclesSee what obstacles are creating problems for visitation. See if the social worker can help or a local support group.
Support Groups are GoldA local support group can be useful on many fronts. Partnering with one is worth the time and effort.
Praise, Praise, PraiseRecognize the challenges and tell the parents they are doing great and just do the best that they can.
Quick Share: How do you advise parents when others do not understand this experience?How do you advise parents on RSV season and keeping smokers/ill people away?
Landmine #2: Juggling Opinions
Juggling Opinions
Deb’s Take
• It helped that my daughter
was coming home on medical equipment. RSV season had just started as well. I sent pics/emails.
1.• After that passed people
started to be less understanding about our ongoing concerns for developmental delays.
2.• People got really quiet
once the testing, the diagnoses and more came about. I definitely changed my address book due to this.
3.
NICU Families Speak: Juggling OpinionsS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Family and friends who never experienced a medically-fragile baby often disregarded
requestsfor hand washing as “first time parent” concerns.It was frustrating to try to explain to them that hand washing could mean life or death to our
son. — MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
NICU Families Speak: Juggling OpinionsS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Family members did not understand and were very
difficult to deal with. NICU nurses provided a comfort barrier for me, the mother, and took theburden off of me.— MOTHER, MODERATE-LATE PRETERM INFANT
Tips: Juggling Opinions
Visitors If you encounter family and friends, start with thanking them for supporting the family requests.
1.
Opinions #1 The visitors may need to receive a blunt story of what happenswhen a baby gets sick due to germs.
2.
Opinions #2 Backing up families with visitors is so helpful. 3.
Opinions #3 Remind the frustrated parent(s) that they are not alone in thisand blaming the doctors is key. Maybe a letter can be created? 4.
Love Notes A “love note” directed at visitors is very helpful. “My immune systemis going to be weak for a while. Thank you for hand washing!” 5.
Key Points on OpinionsS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
VisitorsYou backing up the parents on hand-washing, illness, etc. is key. Blunt talk also helps. Blame the doctor helps, too.
Parents Need ValidationGiving visitors a positive view of the parents is helpful now and for at home. “They are smart, diligent parents who know their child’s health depends on them.”
Support GroupsSupport groups can help with supplies, understanding and more especially as that baby goes home.
Love Notes“Mom I really appreciate your hard work being my advocate” or “Mom is a crucial part of the NICU team.”
How do you prepare parents for discharge?Hand off to the community doctor?
Make sure developmental checks are happening?
Landmine #3: Discharge
Discharge
Deb’s Take
• I wanted to take every
team member home with me. I was THAT nervous!
1.• I found the pediatrician
nice but not as well-versed in preemies and developmental issues as I would have liked.
2.• I realized that the
pediatrician was more a generalist than a specialist. I was the expert of my child, the connecting point of information and requests.
3.
Survey: When your baby was discharged home, how prepared did you feel?
21%
48%
10%9%
4%8%RATHER UNCONFIDENT
VERY CONFIDENT
SOMEWHAT CONFIDENT
VERY UNCOMFORTABLE
EXTREMELY UNCOMFORTABLEOTHER
*data & insights generated from (July 2016) survey of Inspire Preemie Community
NICU Families Speak: DischargeS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Desperate to go home (after 3 months)! So yes,
confident. Confident that it would be so mucheasier to look after my baby away from the disempowering situation of the hospital.
— MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
NICU Families Speak: DischargeS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Nervous - first time parent of premature twins.
— MOTHER, MODERATE TO LATE PRETERM INFANT TWINS
Tips: Discharge & Parent Ideas
Nerves Its normal to feel that way. Just take it one step at a time.
1.
Concerns Trust your instinct. You know your child better than anyone.2.
Development Always educate parents on specialists and therapists. 3.
Support Always try to connect a parent to a support group before they head home if that isn’t already happening. That can really helpthem cope with anxieties and isolation.
4.
Part III: Tough Moments in the NICUS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S I N T H E N I C U
Declining Health
Death
• Emotions• Opinions
• Helping the Family• Team Effort
Quick Share: How does your NICU handle giving tough news to parents?How does your NICU support parents at this time?
How does your NICU maintain trust with parents during this time?
Landmine #1: When a Baby Declines in Health
Decline of Baby’s Health
Deb’s Take
• My daughter grew very
sick and I did not know about it until I arrived at the NICU. No touch. It was an infection.
1.• I wished I had known
earlier. I would have been there sooner and stayed later in order to be by my daughter’s side.
2.• If my daughter had died
before I got there, I would have missed a chance to say good bye.
3.
Survey: Did your baby have a point where he/she was declining and you believe was expected to die?
40%60%
NO
YES
*data & insights generated from (July 2016) survey of Inspire Preemie Community
NICU Families Speak: Baby DecliningS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
The baby got NEC when under 2 lbs in weight,three weeks old. The nurse told me when I
camein, saw my face and gave me an enormous
hug.I will always remember that hug - it is what Ineeded (the baby survived).— MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
NICU Families Speak: Baby DecliningS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Calmly. The team was professional and told
me everything matter of factly.— MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
NICU Families Speak: Baby DecliningS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
The doctors always gave me worst case scenariosThis worked well with me. [The baby’s] nurse was the best. She sat with me and discussed
everything Ihad questions about. I so love the NICU staff.
— MOTHER, MODERATE-LATE PRETERM INFANT
NICU Families Speak: Baby DecliningS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
The NICU team was supportive and
compassionate. They were also very
straightforward with the information provided. — MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
Tips: Baby’s Decline
Trust From the top down, building trust is important and starts with the introduction to the NICU.
1.
Communication Regular updates continues trust.2.
Supportive Showing emotion is perfectly okay. The parent needs it. 3.
Map Steps Always frame medical plans in terms of steps being taken sothe parents know the full plan. This includes the positive and thenegative. Always update as things change. Always ask if thereare questions.
4.
Love Notes Communication from the baby, from the team. 5.
Key Points on Baby DecliningS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Honesty = TrustParents will trust you when you are honest about the situation. Otherwise “Dr. Google” will be consulted.
Directness Keeps TrustParents will pick up on someone trying to be indirect.
Willingness to Keep TryingParents whose NICUs were willing to think of other ideas, even going to another NICU, were grateful. This is about the baby.
Love NotesA piece of paper can go a long way to speak for the baby, the NICU and the parents.
Quick Share: What procedures are in place to support a family as a baby dies? After a baby dies? Who is involved
with the process ?
Landmine #2: When a Baby Dies
Death of a Baby
Deb’s Take
• My daughter did not die.
though we had some very close calls. I have talked with families where they fought the NICU to try and save their infant.
1.• Those same families had
horrible experiences as well as the aftermath with the team.
2.• I also see the side of the
NICU team, as they watch a baby suffer while the families try to continue care that won’t change.
3.
11 died during the NICU stay; 3 died after the NICU stay.
families on the survey whose babies died
14
NICU Families Speak: Baby DiesS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
They were amazing. All of the nurses were affected by her death. On the night of her deathone of the docs came straight to the ER to see if he could do something to revive her. When she codedhe stayed with us, hugged us, did everything hecould to comfort us. When she passed, the doctorhelped us with the service for our daughter andspoke beautiful words in the ceremony. Many
nursesand NICU staff came to the service . . . they arefamily to us [to] today. — MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
NICU Families Speak: Baby DiesS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
We had to hold our baby for the last time inthe same uncomforting ugly room. The lighting was depressing and everything looked orange and even more sad in our photos. They had thenastiest smelling soap and lotion for the little bathwe gave the baby first. We would have loved tohave him smell like Johnson & Johnson’s just
once.They did their best taking some other pictures for
meafter he passed but they were so depressing I justthrew them away.
— MOTHER, MICRO-PREEMIE
Tips: Baby’s Death
Emotion Seeing your emotions helps them cope.1.
Communication Be clear how things will happen as support is removed, time withbaby and hand off information on organizing an infant’s funeral.
2.
Supportive Having clergy there, social work there is key. Doctor, too! 3.
Family Time The family needs a quiet space to spend time with their infant. Ask a support group to fundraise to set it up, decorate it and provide information for social workers to hand out.
4.
Love Notes Sending a love note from the team would be so welcome. 5.
Key Points: When a Baby DiesS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Parent GriefThe parent’s grief is shaped by those last days, hours, minutes and what you say to them.
Having a PlanHaving a clear plan on how to handle things is key to helping a family focus on what is most important: their beloved infant.
Supportive TeamA team surrounding a family is helpful. So is expressing emotion. They want to know their baby meant something to you.
Love NotesCommunicating with a note to the family later on really makes a difference. The family will treasure it because it means their baby has not been forgotten.
Ending SummaryS U C C E S S F U L LY N AV I G AT I N G T H E PA R E N T L A N D M I N E S O F T H E N I C U
Trust, Day 1, Minute 1.Having a parent’s consistent trust i.e. key to all of the tough discussions that happen later. It could save time, and a life.
Mixed Message.I found that mixed messages were a constant in the surveys. This goes across every landmine. Consider doing an assessment of your NICU and make changes.
Respecting Parents.Regardless of background or education, these parents are the expert of their child. They knew him/her first.
NICU Nurses are Special.You have a unique position in the NICU. You see everything surrounding that baby. You are part of the family.
Contact InformationP L E A S E F E E L F R E E T O C O N TA C T M E
Deb Discenza, PreemieWorld
+1 703-678-3922
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