A Compendium of Positive Psychology

Quotations

Marcello Spinella, Ph.D. Richard Stockton College of New Jersey

Version Updated: May 17, 2012

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Contents*

1. Wisdom and Knowledge – Cognitive strengths that entail the acquisition and use of knowledge

Creativity [originality, ingenuity]: Thinking of novel and productive ways to

conceptualize and do things; includes artistic achievement but is not limited to it Curiosity [interest, novelty­seeking, openness to experience]: Taking an interest

in ongoing experience for its own sake; finding subjects and topics fascinating; exploring and discovering

Judgment & Open­Mindedness [critical thinking]: Thinking things through and examining them from all sides; not jumping to conclusions; being able to change one's mind in light of evidence; weighing all evidence fairly

Love of Learning: Mastering new skills, topics, and bodies of knowledge, whether on one's own or formally; obviously related to the strength of curiosity but goes beyond it to describe the tendency to add systematically to what one knows

Perspective [wisdom]: Being able to provide wise counsel to others; having ways of looking at the world that make sense to oneself and to other people

2. Courage – Emotional strengths that involve the exercise of will to accomplish goals in the face of opposition, external or internal

Bravery [valor]: Not shrinking from threat, challenge, difficulty, or pain;

speaking up for what is right even if there is opposition; acting on convictions even if unpopular; includes physical bravery but is not limited to it

Perseverance [persistence, industriousness]: Finishing what one starts; persisting in a course of action in spite of obstacles; “getting it out the door”; taking pleasure in completing tasks

Honesty [authenticity, integrity]: Speaking the truth but more broadly presenting oneself in a genuine way and acting in a sincere way; being without pretense; taking responsibility for one's feelings and actions

Zest [vitality, enthusiasm, vigor, energy]: Approaching life with excitement and energy; not doing things halfway or halfheartedly; living life as an adventure; feeling alive and activated

3. Humanity ­ Interpersonal strengths that involve tending and befriending others

Capacity to Love and Be Loved: Valuing close relations with others, in

particular those in which sharing and caring are reciprocated; being close to people

Kindness [generosity, nurturance, care, compassion, altruistic love, "niceness"]: Doing favors and good deeds for others; helping them; taking care of them

Social Intelligence [emotional intelligence, personal intelligence]: Being aware

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of the motives and feelings of other people and oneself; knowing what to do to fit into different social situations; knowing what makes other people tick

4. Justice ­ Civic strengths that underlie healthy community life

Teamwork [citizenship, social responsibility, loyalty]: Working well as a member of a group or team; being loyal to the group; doing one's share

Fairness: Treating all people the same according to notions of fairness and justice; not letting personal feelings bias decisions about others; giving everyone a fair chance.

Leadership: Encouraging a group of which one is a member to get things done and at the time maintain time good relations within the group; organizing group activities and seeing that they happen.

5. Temperance – Strengths that protect against excess

Forgiveness & Mercy: Forgiving those who have done wrong; accepting the

shortcomings of others; giving people a second chance; not being vengeful Modesty & Humility: Letting one's accomplishments speak for themselves; not

regarding oneself as more special than one is Prudence: Being careful about one's choices; not taking undue risks; not saying

or doing things that might later be regretted Self­Regulation [self­control]: Regulating what one feels and does; being

disciplined; controlling one's appetites and emotions

6. Transcendence ­ Strengths that forge connections to the larger universe and provide meaning

Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence [awe, wonder, elevation]: Noticing and

appreciating beauty, excellence, and/or skilled performance in various domains of life, from nature to art to mathematics to science to everyday experience

Gratitude: Being aware of and thankful for the good things that happen; taking time to express thanks

Hope [optimism, future­mindedness, future orientation]: Expecting the best in the future and working to achieve it; believing that a good future is something that can be brought about

Humor [playfulness]: Liking to laugh and tease; bringing smiles to other people; seeing the light side; making (not necessarily telling) jokes

Religiousness & Spirituality [faith, purpose]: Having coherent beliefs about the higher purpose and meaning of the universe; knowing where one fits within the larger scheme; having beliefs about the meaning of life that shape conduct and provide comfort

7. Other Related Topics

Benefit Finding & Post­Traumatic Growth

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Flow Savoring Meaning & Purpose

*Quoted from the The VIA Institute Classification of Character Strengths: http://www.viacharacter.org/VIAINSTITUTE/Classification.aspx

Wisdom and Knowledge

Creativity “Creativity is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Art is knowing which ones to keep.”

—Scott Adams Adams, S. (1996). The Dilbert principle. Boxtree. p.324.

"Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world."

—Albert Einstein Vireck, G.S. (1929). What life means to Einstein : An interview by George Sylvester Viereck. The Saturday Evening Post, 202, p. 117. 26 October.

"Genius means little more than the faculty of perceiving in an unhabitual way."

—William James James, W. (1892/2001). Psychology: The briefer course. Toronto: Courier Dover Publications.

"The way to get good ideas is to get lots of ideas, and throw the bad ones away."

—Linus Pauling Brian, Denis. (2000). The voice of genius: conversations with Nobel scientists and other luminaries. New york: Basic Books.

"Imagination is better than a sharp instrument."

—Mary Oliver Oliver, M. (2003). Yes! No! Owls and other fantasies: Poems and essays. Boston: Beacon Press.

"Discovery consists of seeing what everybody has seen and thinking what nobody has thought."

—Albert Szent­Gyorgyi

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Good, I. J., Mayne, A. J. & Maynard Smith J. (eds.) (1962). The scientist speculates: An anthology of partly­baked ideas. London: Heinemann.

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Curiosity "An intellectual is someone whose mind watches itself."

—Albert Camus

Camus, A., (1963). Notebooks, 1933­1942. (P.M.W. Thody, Trans.) New York:Alfred A. Knopf “Not to know is bad, but not to wish to know is worse.”

—West African Proverb Gleason, N. (1992). Proverbs from around the world: 1500 amusing, witty, and insightful proverbs from 21 lands and languages. Secaucus, NJ: Carol Publishing Group.

“I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.”

—Albert Einstein

Letter to Carl Seelig (11 March 1952), Einstein Archives 39­013

“Curiosity is lying in wait for every secret.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

Emerson, R.W. (1897). Progress of culture, in Works of Ralph Waldo Emerson. London: George Routledge & Sons.

“Discipline and concentration are a matter of being interested.”

—Tom Kite

Benson, M. ed. (2008). Winning words: Classic quotes from the world of sports. Lanham, Maryland: Taylor Trade Publications

"How many common things are trodden underfoot, which, if examined carefully, awaken our astonishment?"

—Augustine of Hippo

Augustine. (2004). Confessions and letters of St. Augustin with a sketch of his life and work. (P. Schaff, Ed.) Whitefish, Montana: Kessinger Publishing.

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Judgment & Open­Mindedness "Where observation is concerned, chance favors only the prepared mind."

—Louis Pasteur Pasteur. L. (1854). Lecture, University of Lille (7 December).

"Sit down before fact as a little child, be prepared to give up every preconceived notion, follow humbly wherever and whatever abysses nature leads, or you will learn nothing."

—Thomas Henry Huxley

Huxley, L. (2000). Life and letters of Thomas Henry Huxley: By his son. Volume 1. Chestnut Hill, MA: Adamant Media Corporation.

“Loyalty to petrified opinion never yet broke a chain or freed a human soul in this world—and never will.”

—Mark Twain Twain, M. (/1991). Consistency, in The Complete Essays of Mark Twain. Charles Neider, ed. Da Capo Press. (Original work from 1884).

"The rule is perfect: In all matters of opinion, our adversaries are insane."

—Mark Twain Mark Twain. (1907). Christian science. New York: Harper & Brothers.

“He who knows only his own side of the case, knows little of that”

—John Stuart Mill Mill, J.S. (1859/1991) On liberty. Gray, J. & Smith, G. W. eds. London: Routledge.

"Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow­mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts."

—Mark Twain Twain, M. (1911). The innocents abroad. New York: Harper. (Original work from 1869).

"The problem with certainty is that it is static; it can do little but endlessly reassert itself.

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Uncertainty, by contrast, is lull of unknowns, possibilities, and risks." —Stephen Batchelor

Batchelor, S. (2010). Confession of a Buddhist atheist. New York: Spiegel & Grau.

"The truth you believe in and cling to makes you unavailable to hear anything new."

—Pema Chödrön

Chödrön, P. (2010). The wisdom of no escape: And the path of loving­kindness. Boston: Shambhala Publications.

"The best of ideas is hurt by uncritical acceptance and thrives on critical examination."

—George Pólya

Pólya, George (1957). How to solve it. Garden City, NY: Doubleday. "Disagreement shakes us out of our slumbers, and forces us to see our own point of view through contrast with another person who does not share it."

—R.D. Laing

Laing, R.D. (1984). The politics of experience; and, The bird of paradise. New York: Penguin.

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Love of Learning "The mind is not like a vessel that needs to be filled, but rather like a wood that needs to be lighted."

—Plutarch Plutarch, Super, C.W. (tr). (1910). Plutarch on education: embracing the three treatises: The education of boys, How a young man should hear lectures on poetry, The right way to hear. Syracuse, NY: C.W. Bardeen.

"In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert's mind there are few."

—Shunryu Suzuki Suzuki, S. (1970). Zen mind, beginner's mind. Boston: Shambhala.

"To be fond of learning is to be near to knowledge."

—Confucius Confucius. (1971) Confucian analects, The great learning, and the doctrine of the mean. (J. Legge, Trans.). New York: Dover Books. (Original work from ca. 500 B.C.E.)

"Isn't it a pleasure to study and practice what you have learned?"

—Confucius

Confucius. (1990) The Analects of Confucius. (A.C. Muller, Trans.). University of Tokyo. Retrieved on January 28, 2011 from http://www.acmuller.net/con­dao/analects.html (Original work from ca. 500 B.C.E.)

"Be a student so long as you still have something to learn, and this will mean all your life."

—Henry Latham Doherty

Doherty, H.L.(1923). Principles and ideas for Doherty men: Papers, addresses, and letters, vol. 3. New York. No publisher indicated.

"If you were teaching and you weren't learning, then you probably weren't teaching well." —John Francis

Francis, J. (2008). John Francis walks the Earth. TED Talk. Retrieved on 8/3/2011 from: http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/john_francis_walks_the_earth.html

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Perspective "Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know."

—Pema Chödrön Chödrön, P. (2005). When things fall apart: heart advice for difficult times.Boston: Shambhala Publications.

"The years teach much which the days never know."

—Ralph Waldo Emerson Emerson, R.W., Edwin, I. ed. (1844/1981).Experience, in Emerson's Essays. New York: HarperCollins.

"Flexibility is a form of practical wisdom, an intelligence that lives in the present, that knows how to read the slightest sign of change and then has the facility and pliability necessary for adapting to the new conditions. This kind of wisdom comes from understanding that we cannot control every single element of our existence."

—Piero Ferrucci Ferrucci, P. (2006). The power of kindness. New York: Tarcher/Penguin. "To him whose elastic and vigourous thought keeps pace with the sun, the day is a perpetual morning."

—Henry David Thoreau Thoreau, H. D. (1854). Walden; or, life in the woods. Boston: Ticknor and Fields.

"The only medicine for suffering, crime, and all the other woes of mankind, is wisdom."

—Thomas Henry Huxley Huxley, T.H. (1868). Science and education, vol. 3. New York: D. Appleton.

"Men are wise not in their experience, but their capacity for experience."

—George Bernard Shaw Shaw, G.B. (1905). Man and superman. New York: Brentano's.

"If you want to make an apple pie from scratch, you must first create the universe."

—Carl Sagan

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Sagan, C. (1985). Cosmos. New York: Ballantine Books.

"When we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the Universe."

—John Muir

Muir, J. (1992). The eight wilderness discovery books. Seattle: The Mountaineers Books. (Original work from 1869).

"When your mind is narrow, small things easily agitate you. Make your mind an ocean."

—Thubten Yeshe

Yeshe, T. (2003). Making your mind an ocean. Boston: Lama Yeshe Wisdom Archive. "The test of a first­rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function."

—F. Scott Fitzgerald Fitzgerald, F.S. (2009). The crack­up. E. Wilson, ed. New Directions Publishing. (Original work published 1945).

"Wisdom tends to grow in proportion to one's awareness of one's ignorance."

—Anthony de Mello De Mello, A. (1989). One minute wisdom. New York: Image/Doubleday.

"Wisdom...has a profoundly positive influence on life satisfaction independent of objective circumstances."

—Monika Ardelt

Ardelt, M. (1997). Wisdom and life satisfaction in old age. Journal of Gerontology: Psychological Sciences, 52B, P15–P27.

"Wisdom, I know, contains a powerful charm, To vanquish fortune, or, at least, disarm."

—Juvenal (Decimus Junius Juvenalis)

Juvenal. (1806). The satires of Decimus Junius Juvenalis, second edition. (W. Gifford, Trans.) London: W. Bulmer.

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"A wise man is out of the reach of fortune." —Thomas Browne

Browne, T. (1831). Religio medici. Oxford: J. Vincent.

"The most manifest sign of wisdom is a continual cheerfulness: her state is like that of things in the regions above the moon, always clear and serene."

—Michel de Montaigne

de Montaigne, M. (1905). The essays of Michel de Montaigne, Volume 2. (C. Cotton & W.C. Hazlitt, eds.) London: George Bell & Sons.

"Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom. It is the result of long and patient effort in self­control. Its presence is an indication of ripened experience, and of a more than ordinary knowledge of the laws and operations of thought." —James Allen

Allen, J. (2005). As a man thinketh. New York: Cosimo, Inc.

"Wisdom and goodness are twin­born, one heart Must hold both sisters, never seen apart."

—William Cowper

Cowper, W. (1900). Expostulation. London: Macmillan and Co. "No outward thing—nothing, nobody from without—can hurt me inside, psychologically...When I recognized all this how free I felt!... And I just stopped hurting myself. Now someone could do the meanest thing to me and I would feel deep compassion for this out­of­harmony person, this sick person, who is capable of doing mean things. I certainly would not hurt myself by a wrong reaction of bitterness or anger. You have complete control over whether you will be psychologically hurt or not, and anytime you want to, you can stop hurting yourself."

—Peace Pilgrim Peace Pilgrim. (1991). Peace Pilgrim: her life and work in her own words. Santa Fe, NM: Ocean Tree Books.

"The ultimate goal of yoga is to always observe things accurately, and therefore never act in a way that will make us regret our actions later."

—T. K. V. Desikachar

Desikachar, T.K.V. (1999). The heart of yoga: developing a personal practice. Rochester, Vermont: Inner Traditions.

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Courage Bravery "The brave man carves out his fortune, and every man is the son of his own works."

—Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra Cervantes, M. (1993). Don Quixote. Hertfordshire, UK: Wordsworth Editions. (Original work from 1605).

"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear—not absence of fear." —Mark Twain Twain, M. (1894). The Tragedy of Pudd'nhead Wilson. Charles L. Webster & Company.

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”

—Anaïs Nin Nin, A. (1969). The diary of Anaïs Nin: Volume 3, 1939­1944. (G. Stuhlmann, Ed.) Boston: Harvest/HBJ.

“Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcoming it.”

—Helen Keller

Keller, H. (1903). Optimism. New York: T.Y. Crowell and Company.

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Perseverance "Fall down seven times get up eight."

—Japanese Proverb

Galef, D. (2000). Even monkeys fall from trees: The wit and wisdom of Japanese proverbs. North Clarendon, Vermont: Tuttle Publishing

"I have learned this at least by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours."

—Henry David Thoreau Thoreau, H. D. (1854). Walden; or, life in the woods. Boston: Ticknor and Fields.

"Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination are omnipotent."

—Calvin Coolidge

Coolidge, C. (2001). The quotable Calvin Coolidge: sensible words for a new century. (P. Hannaford, Ed.). Bennington, Vermont: Images from the Past.

"Courage and perseverance have a magical talisman, before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish into air."

—John Quincy Adams

Adams, J.Q. (1802). An oration, delivered at Plymouth, December 22, 1802: At the anniversary commemoration of the first landing of our ancestors, at that place. Boston: Russell and Cutler.

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Honesty “It is easier to fight for one's principles than to live up to them.”

—Alfred Adler Bottome, P. (1939). Alfred Adler: Apostle of Freedom. London: Faber and Faber

“If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything.”

—Mark Twain

Twain, M. (1935). Mark Twain's notebook. (ed. Albert Bigelow Paine). New York: Harper & Brothers. (Original work from 1894).

"The man who speaks the truth is always at ease."

—Persian proverb

Fitzhenry, R.I. (1993). The Harper book of quotations, 3rd edition. New York: HarperCollins. "We lie loudest when we lie to ourselves."

—Eric Hoffer

Hoffer, E. (1955). The passionate state of mind, and other aphorisms. New York: Harper. "Integrity has no need of rules."

—Albert Camus

Camus, A. (1991). Return to Tipasa, from The mth of Sisyphus ad oher esays. New York: Vintage Books. (Original work from 1954).

"When one is pretending, the entire body revolts."

—Anaïs Nin

Nin, A. (1973). Anaïs Nin reader. (P. K. Jason, Ed.). Chicago: Swallow Press. "No man, for any considerable period, can wear one face to himself and another to the multitude, without finally getting bewildered as to which one is true."

—Nathaniel Hawthorne

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Hawthorne, N. (1850). The scarlet letter. Boston: Ticknor, Reed & Fields.

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Zest "Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm."

—Ralph Waldo Emerson

Emerson, R.W. (1841). Circles, from Essays: First series. Boston: James Munroe & Co. "Wheresoever you go, go with all your heart!"

—Confucius (K'ung­fu Tzu)

Confucius, Dawson, & M.M. (1915). The ethics of Confucius: the sayings of the master and his disciples upon the conduct of "the superior man. New York: G. P. Putnam's Sons.

"I feel my heart glow with an enthusiasm which elevates me to heaven; for nothing contributes so much to tranquillise the mind as a steady purpose, a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye."

—Mary Shelley

Shelley, M.W. (1891). Frankenstein: Or, the modern Prometheus. London: George Routledge and Sons.(Original work from 1818).

"Enthusiasm is that secret and harmonious spirit which hovers over the production of genius."

—Isaac Disraeli

Disraeli, I. (1839). The literary character, 5th edition. London: E. Moxon.

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Humanity Capacity to Love and Be Loved "My three­word summary of positive psychology: Other people matter."

—Christopher Peterson

Peterson, C. (2006). A primer in positive psychology. Oxford: Oxford University Press. “The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.” —Elisabeth Kubler­Ross Elisabeth Kubler Roth Foundation, http://www.ekrfoundation.org/quotes.php "Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joys, and dividing our grief."

—Joseph Addison

Addison, J. (1888). Friendship, Essays and tales. London: Cassell & Company.

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Kindness "When you are good to others, you are best to yourself."

—Benjamin Franklin

Wright, E. (1990). Benjamin Franklin: his life as he wrote it. Cambridge, Massachusetts: Harvard University Press.

"A loving person lives in a loving world...A hostile person lives in a hostile world...The world thus tends to be your mirror."

—Ken Keyes Jr.

Keyes, K. Jr. (1975). Handbook to higher consciousness. Berkeley, California: Living Love Center. "No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted."

—Aesop

Baker, R.F., & Baker, C.F. (III.) (1997). Ancient Greeks: creating the classical tradition. New York: Oxford University Press.

"Benevolence is the characteristic element of humanity."

—Confucius

Confucius. (1869). The Chinese classics: Life and teachings of Confucius. (J. Legge, Trans.). London: Trübner & Company.

"There’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end."

—Scott Adams

Adams, S. (1995). A kind word, Dilbert Newsletter, #9. Also published in Cavanaugh, B. (1998) Sower's seeds of encouragement: Fifth planting. p.46. Mahwah, New Jersey: Paulist Press.

"When you have once seen the glow of happiness on the face of a beloved person, you know that a man can have no vocation but to awaken that light on the faces surrounding him."

—Albert Camus

Camus, A. (1998). Notebooks 1935­1951. (translated by Philip M. Thody & Justin O'Brien). New York: Marlowe & Company.

"A bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives roses."

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—Chinese Proverb

Zubko, A. (2000). Treasury of spiritual wisdom. New Delhi: Motilal Banarsidass Publishers. “When we understand that the secret of happiness lies not in possessing but in giving, by making others happy we shall be happier ourselves…”

—André Gide Gide, A. (1889­1913/2000). Journals, O'Brien, J., tr. Champaign, IL: University of Illinois Press.

“This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy…I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it whatever I can.”

—George Bernard

Shaw, G.B. (1903/1987). Man and superman. New York: Viking Penguin. “Everything is given to me and I pass it on.”

—Peace Pilgrim Peace Pilgrim. (1991). Peace Pilgrim: her life and work in her own words. Santa Fe, NM: Ocean Tree Books.

"Beginning today, treat everyone you meet, friend or foe, loved one or stranger, as if they were going to be dead at midnight. Extend to each person, no matter how trivial the contact, all the care and kindness and understanding and love that you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again."

—Augustine "Og" Mandino II Mandino, A. (1990). A better way to live. New York: Bantam Books.

"Where there is no love, put love, and you will find love."

—St. John of the Cross

Peers, E.A. (2003).Spirit of flame: A study of St. John of the Cross. Whitefish, MT: Kessinger Publishing. [Letter written on July 6, 1591, from Letters XXII (works III, 296)]

"How easy it is for one benevolent being to diffuse pleasure around him; and how truly is a kind

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heart a fountain of gladness, making everything in its vicinity to freshen into smiles!" —Washington Irving

Irving, W. (1819). "The Christmas Dinner," The Sketchbook of Geoffrey Crayon. New York: C.S. Van Winkle.

"I've never known any human being, high or humble, who ever regretted, when nearing life's end, having done kindly deeds. But I have known more than one millionaire who became haunted by the realization that they had led selfish lives."

—Bertie Charles Forbes Forbes Magazine, September 15, 1946. (Quoted in v. 158, nos. 6­10 ­ 1996)

"No matter how little you have, you can always give some of it away."

—Catherine Marshall

Marshall, C. (1993). The best of Catherine Marshall. (L. E. LeSourd, Ed.) Chosen Books "Nothing that you have not given away will ever be really yours."

—C. S. Lewis Lewis, C. S. (1952/2001). Mere Christianity. San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco.

"No man is an island entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent, a part of the main… Any man's death diminishes me because I am involved in mankind and therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee."

—John Donne

Donne, J. (1624/1959). Devotions upon emergent occasions. Ann Arbor, MI: University of Michigan Press "Until he extends the circle of his compassion to all living things, man will not himself find peace."

—Albert Schweitzer

Schweitzer, A. (1949). The philosophy of civilisation. (C.T. Campion, trans.) New York, Macmillan Co. "Compassion for ourselves is the basis for compassion toward others."

—Henepola Gunaratana

Gunaratana, H. (2001). Eight mindful steps to happiness. Boston: Wisdom Publications.

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"Thus, living with compassion completely changes your life. It transforms an ordinary life into a transcendent one. It elevates everything you do. Your entire life becomes totally different; highly meaningful; your heart is full. Your heart is not empty and neither is your life."

—Lama Thubten Zopa Zopa Rinpoche, Lama T. (1998). Virtue & reality: Method and wisdom in the practice of Dharma. Weston, MA: The Lama Yeshe Wisdom Archive.

"I am concerned that many among you are more concerned about making a living than making a life. You are prone to judge success by the index of our salaries or the size of our automobile rather than by the quality of our service and relationship to mankind."

—Martin Luther King Jr.

King, M.L. Jr. (1997). The papers of Martin Luther King, Jr: Birth of a new age, December 1955­December 1956. (C. Carson, Ed.) Berkeley, California: University of California Press.

"A compassionate life is one in which our resources are used to optimum effect. Just as we need to know when and how to give ourselves fully to a task, so we need to know when and how to stop and rest."

—Stephen Batchelor Batchelor, S. (1997). Buddhism without beliefs. New York: Riverhead Books.

"We will find that kindness is a way of making less effort. It is the most economic attitude there is, because it saves us much energy that we might otherwise waste in suspicion, worry, resentment, manipulation, or unnecessary defense. It is an attitude that, by eliminating the inessential, brings us back to the simpicity of being." —Piero Ferrucci Ferrucci, P. (2006). The power of kindness. New York: Tarcher/Penguin. "Ultimately, it is all very simple. There is no choice between being kind to others and being kind to ourselves. It is the same thing."

—Piero Ferrucci Ferrucci, P. (2006). The power of kindness. New York: Tarcher/Penguin. "People who give will never be poor."

—Anne Frank

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Frank, A. (1998). Anne Frank: The biography. (Kimber R., tr. & Gies, M. contrib.). New York: Holt Paperbacks. (Originally published 1947).

"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted."

—Aesop

Baker, R.F., & Baker, C.F. (III.) (1997). Ancient Greeks: creating the classical tradition. New York: Oxford University Press.

"Love is patient and kind."

—St. Paul of Tarsus Bible. 1 Corinthians 13

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Social Intelligence "Imagining ourselves in another person's situation shakes up our indifference. We begin to realize that in joy and sorrow, we are equals…we understand how others feel."

—Pema Chödrön

Chödrön, P. (2005). No time to lose: A timely guide to the way of the bodhisattva. Boston: Shambhala 2005 “Understanding and love are not two things, but just one…When you understand, you cannot help but love”

—Thich Nhat Hanh

Hanh, T. N. (1987). Being peace. Berkeley, California: Parallax Press. "Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves."

—Carl Gustav Jung

Jung, C.G. (1989). Memories, dreams, reflections. (A. Jaffe, Ed., C. Winston, Trans., R. Winston, Tran.). New York: Vintage. (Originally published 1989)

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Justice

Teamwork “Many hands make light work.”

—John Heywood

Heywood, J. (1867). The proverbs and epigrams of John Heywood. Manchester, U.K.: Spenser Society.

"Union gives strength."

—Aesop Aesop. (2004). The bundle of sticks, in Folklore and fable: Aesop, Grimm, Andersen. (Eliot, C.W., ed.) Whitefish, Montana: Kessinger Publishing. (Original work from 1909).

"Competition has been shown to be useful up to a certain point and no further, but cooperation, which is the thing we must strive for today, begins where competition leaves off."

—Franklin Delano Roosevelt

McElvaine, R.S. (2002). Franklin Delano Roosevelt. Washington D.C.: CQ Press.

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Fairness "Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere."

—Martin Luther King Jr.

King, M.L. (1963). , Letter from Birmingham Jail. April 16. Retrieved on April 27, 2008 from: http://www.stanford.edu/group/King/frequentdocs/birmingham.pdf

"Whoever degrades another degrades me, And whatever is done or said returns at last to me." —Walt Whitman

Whitman, W. (1907). Song of myself, in Leaves of Grass. Boston: Small, Maynard & Co. (Original work from 1855).

"A just person is most free from disturbance, while an unjust person is full of the greatest disturbance."

—Epicurus

Epicurus. (1994). Fragments #28, from The Epicurus reader: Selected writings and testimonia. Inwood, B. & Gerson, L.P. tr. Indianapolis: Hackett Publishing Company. (Original work from 4th century B.C.E.)

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Leadership “Leadership is practiced not so much in words as in attitude and in actions.”

—Harold S. Geneen

Geneen, H.S. & Moscow, A. (1984). Managing. New York: Doubleday.

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Temperance

Forgiveness & Mercy “If we could read the secret history of our enemies we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.”

—Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Longfellow, H.W. (1890). The prose works of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow. Boston: Houghton, Mifflin & Co.

"Learn to forgive yourself as easily as you forgive others."

—Peace Pilgrim Peace Pilgrim. (1991). Peace Pilgrim: her life and work in her own words. Santa Fe, NM: Ocean Tree Books.

"He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love."

—Martin Luther King

King, M.L. (1981). Strength to love. Minneapolis: Fortress Press. "We cannot be kind while we carry the weight of our resentments...We can be kind only if the past no longer dominates us.

—Piero Ferrucci

Ferrucci, P. (2006). The power of kindness. New York: Tarcher/Penguin. “Know all and you will pardon all.”

—St. Thomas à Kempis

Kempis, T. (1989). The Imitation of Christ. (W.C. Creasy Ed.) Macon, GA: Mercer University Press. (Original work from 1418)

“All sorts of things may lead to a man behaving badly…It is a waste of energy to be angry with a man who behaves badly, just as it is to be angry with a car that won't go.”

—Bertrand Russell

Russell, B. (1942/1988). How to become a philosopher, In The collected papers of Bertrand Russell. London: Routledge.

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“If all my enemies were free of pain, dissatisfaction, affliction, neurosis, paranoia, tension, and anxiety, they would no longer have reason to be my enemies. Once free of the force of negativity, an enemy is just like anybody else—a wonderful human being.”

—Henepola Gunaratana

Gunaratana, H. (2001). Eight mindful steps to happiness. Wisdom Publications “If only there were evil people out there insidiously committing evil deeds and it was only necessary to separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being.”

—Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn

Solzhenitsyn. A. (1973). The gulag archipelago. New York: Harper & Row. “You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well.”

—Lewis B. Smedes

Lewis B. Smedes. (1984). Forgive and forget: healing the hurts we don't deserve. New York: Harper & Row. “It has been shown that our thoughts influence each cell in our body…The quality of our thoughts is felt throughout our organism. Will we make them thoughts of hatred and revenge, or of love and happiness?”

—Piero Ferrucci Ferrucci, P. (2006). The power of kindness. New York: Tarcher/Penguin. "One cannot forgive up to four hundred and ninety­nine times without it becoming the habit structure of one's being. Forgiveness is not an occasional act; it is a permanent attitude.”

—Martin Luther King Jr.

King, M.L. Jr. (1981). Strength to love. Minneapolis: Fortress Press.

"When we genuinely forgive, we set a prisoner free and then discover that the prisoner we set free was us."

—Lewis B. Smedes

Smedes, L.B. (1994). Shame and grace: Healing the shame we don't deserve. New York: HarperCollins.

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"Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you were."

—Cherie Carter­Scott

Carter­Scott. C. (1999). If love is a game, these are the rules: 10 rules for finding love and creating long­lasting, authentic relationships. New York: Random House.

"Forgiveness is free; trust is earned" —Robert Enright

Enright, R.D. (2001). Forgiveness is a choice. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.

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Modesty & Humility “Humility makes great men twice honourable.”

—Benjamin Franklin

Benjamin Franklin. (1970). The complete Poor Richard almanacks. Barre, Massachusetts: Imprint Society. (From 1735 edition)

"No really great man ever thought himself so."

—William Hazlitt

Hazlitt, W. (1845). Table talk: opinions on books, men, and things, Volume 1. New York: Wiley & Putnam.

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Prudence "Measure twice, cut once."

—Carpenter’s Proverb (unknown origin) “Wisely, and slow. They stumble that run fast.”

—William Shakespeare

Shakespeare, W. (1839). Romeo and Juliet. London: J. Pattie. (Original work published 1599). "Affairs are easier of entrance than of exit; and it is but common prudence to see our way out before we venture in."

—Aesop

Aesop. (1868). The sick lion, in Fables. New York: S. R. Wells. "We must expect reverses, even defeats. They are sent to teach us wisdom and prudence, to call forth greater energies, and to prevent our falling into greater disasters."

—Robert E. Lee

Jones, J.W. (1906). Life and letters of Robert Edward Lee: soldier and man. New York: Neale Publishing Company.

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Self­Regulation "Patience is the companion of wisdom."

—St. Augustine of Hippo

Augustine, A. (1847). On patience, from Seventeen short treatises of S. Augustine, Bishop of Hippo. London: John Henry Parker.

"Patience is not something we either have or we don't. It's a decision we make, a choice we take, again and again. And the more we recognize patience as a decision, the more we are free to make it."

—M.J. Ryan

Ryan, M.J. (2003). The power of patience. New York: Broadway Books. "Nothing can be more useful to you than a determination not to be hurried."

—Henry David Thoreau

Thoreau, H.D. (1962). June 27, 1852 entry, The Journal of Henry D. Thoreau, Volume 1, 1837­1855. (F. H. Allen, Ed.). N. Chelmsford, Massachusetts: Courier Dover Publications

"The man who will suffer only as much as seems good to him, who will accept suffering only from those from whom he is pleased to accept it, is not truly patient."

—Thomas à Kempis Kempis, T. (1878). The imitation of Christ. (A. Croft & H. Bolton, tr.) Milwaukee: Bruce Publishing Company. (Original work from 1418).

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Transcendence

Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence "There is something of the marvellous in all natural things."

—Aristotle

Aristotle. (2001). On the parts of animals. (J. G. Lennox, Ed., Trans.). New York: Oxford University Press. (Original work ca. 350 B.C.E.)

“There are two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other as though everything is a miracle.”

—Albert Einstein

Journal of France and Germany (1942 ­ 1944) by Gilbert Fowler White, in excerpt published in Living with Nature's Extremes : The Life of Gilbert Fowler White (2006) by Robert E. Hinshaw, p. 62.

"The most beautiful experience we can have is the mysterious. It is the fundamental emotion that stands at the cradle of true art and true science."

—Albert Einstein

Einstein, A. (1995). Ideas and opinions. (C. Seelig, Ed.). New York: Random House. "A morning­glory at my window satisfies me more than the metaphysics of books." —Walt Whitman

Whitman, W. (1907). Song of myself, in Leaves of Grass. Boston: Small, Maynard & Co. (Original work from 1855).

"If the day and the night are such that you greet them with joy, and life emits a fragrance like flowers and sweet­scented herbs, is more elastic, more starry, more immortal, ­ that is your success."

—Henry David Thoreau

Thoreau, H. D. (1854). Walden; or, life in the woods. Boston: Ticknor and Fields.

"All the phenomena of nature need to be seen from the point of view of wonder and awe." —Henry D. Thoreau

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Thoreau, H.D. (1962). June 27, 1852 entry, The Journal of Henry D. Thoreau, Volume 1, 1837­1855. (F. H. Allen, Ed.). N. Chelmsford, Massachusetts: Courier Dover Publications

"Rest is not idleness, and to lie sometimes on the grass under the trees on a summer's day, listening to the murmur of water, or watching the clouds float across the sky, is by no means a waste of time."

—John Lubbock

Lubbock, J. (1894). The use of life. New York: The Macmillan Co. "Those who are awake live in a constant state of amazement."

—Jack Kornfield

Kornfield, J. (1996). Buddha's little instruction book. New York: Random House.

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Gratitude “For gratitude not merely stands alone at the head of all the virtues, but is even mother of all the rest.”

—Marcus Tullius Cicero Cicero, M.T. (1961). Pro Plancio, in The speeches: with an English translation. (N. Watts, Tr.) Portsmouth, New Hampshire: W. Heinemann.

"I am constantly thankful. The world is so beautiful, I am thankful. I have endless energy, I am thankful. I am plugged into the source of Universal Supply, I am thankful. I am plugged into the source of Universal Truth, I am thankful. I have this constant feeling of thankfulness, which is a prayer."

—Peace Pilgrim

Peace Pilgrim. (1992). Peace Pilgrim: Her life and work in her own words, 2nd ed. Shelton, Connecticut: Friends of Peace Pilgrim.

“If I think of everyone in my life to whom I can feel grateful, an interesting thing happens. Bit by bit I realize that all that I have has come to me from others.”

—Piero Ferrucci

Ferrucci, P. (2006). The power of kindness. New York: Tarcher/Penguin. “When eating a fruit think of the person who planted the tree.”

—Vietnamese proverb

Rutledge P. (1992). The Vietnamese experience in America. Bloomington, IN: Indiana University Press. “Gratefulness is heaven itself.”

—William Blake

Blake, W. (1966). The complete writings of William Blake: with variant readings. (G. Keynes, Ed.). London: Oxford University Press.

“Write injuries in dust, benefits in marble.”

—Benjamin Franklin

Franklin, B. (1914). Poor Richard's almanack. Waterloo, Iowa: U.S.C. Publishing Co.

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“He is a wise man who does not grieve for the things which he has not, but rejoices for those which he has."

—Epictetus

Epictetus. (1888). The discourses of Epictetus: with the Encheiridion and Fragments. Long, G., tr. London: George Bell & Sons. (Original work from 1st century C.E.)

“One becomes old on the day one forgets the good that has been.”

—Epicurus

Epicurus. (2002). Pronouncements (Vatican Sayings) #19 from from Beck, S. tr. Wisdom Bible. Goleta, California: World Peace Communications. (Original work from 4th century C.E.)

"In at least one sense, we can say that other people are really the principal source of all our experiences of joy, happiness, and prosperity, and not only in our day­to­day dealings with people. We can see that all the desirable experiences that we cherish or aspire to attain are dependent upon cooperation and interaction with others."

—Dalai Lama

Dalai Lama. (2001). The compassionate life. Somerville, MA: Wisdom Publications. "Whether life is seen as a struggle or a gift depends on one's attitude of mind, not on one's circumstances."

—Cheri Huber

Huber, C. (1990). That which you seek is causing you to seek. Murphys, CA: Keep It Simple Books. "Interestingly, the number of stressful events in the last six months showed no relationship to the [Gratitude, Resentment and Appreciation Test] (r = .04)."

—Philip Watkins & colleagues

Watkins, P. C., Woodward, K., Stone, T., & Kolts, R. L. (2003). Gratitude and happiness: Development of a measure of gratitude, and relationships with subjective well­being. Social Behavior and Personality, 31, 431­ 452.

"The test of all happiness is gratitude..."

—G.K. Chesterton

Chesterton, G.K. (1909). Orthodoxy. New York: John Lane Company. “I spent years cursing my miserable commute each morning. It turns out to have been a total waste of time...Now instead of the twenty­minute drive from hell, I spend twenty minutes

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thinking about and appreciating all the marvel in my life...If I add up all my commute time over the next fifteen years I can spend more than twenty­six hundred hours being angry at the world or appreciating it. I’ve made my choice.”

—Josh

Quoted in Foster, R. & Hicks, G. (2004). How we choose to be happy: The 9 choices of extremely happy people—Their secrets, their stories, 2nd ed. New York: Perigree Trade.

“For kindness begets kindness evermore, But he from whose mind fades the memory Of benefits, noble is he no more.”

—Sophocles

Sophocles. (2006). The Greek classics: Sophocles—Seven plays. (J.H. Ford, Ed.; The Athenian Society, Trans.) El Paso, Texas: El Paso Norte Press.

“Men of ill judgement oft ignore the good That lies within their hands, till they have lost it.”

—Sophocles

Sophocles. (2006). The Greek classics: Sophocles—Seven plays. (J.H. Ford, Ed.; The Athenian Society, Trans.) El Paso, Texas: El Paso Norte Press.

"Be grateful for every hour, and accept what it brings..." —Henry David Thoreau

Thoreau, H.D. (1962). Entry from July 6, 1840. Journals (1837­1855). New York: Dover Publishing.

“Man only likes to count his troubles, but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up as he ought, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for it.”

—Fyodor Dostoyevsky

Dostoyevsky, F. (1960). Notes from underground & The grand inquisitor. New York: Dutton.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. It turns problems into gifts, failures into success, the unexpected into perfect timing, and mistakes into important events.”

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—Melody Beattie

Beattie, M. (2003). The language of letting go journal. Center City Minnesota. Hazelden Publishing.

Hope "Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."

—Viktor Frankl

Frankl, V. (1963). Man's search for meaning. New York: Simon & Schuster. “Hope is itself a species of happiness, and perhaps the chief happiness which this world affords; but, like all other pleasures immoderately enjoyed, the excesses of hope must be expiated by pain; and expectations improperly indulged must end in disappointment.”

—Samuel Johnson Johnson, S. (1888). Wit and wisdom of Samuel Johnson. (G. B. N. Hill, Ed.). Oxford, U.K.: Clarendon Press.

"Where there is no hope, there is no endeavor."

—Samuel Johnson

Johnson, S. (1801). The works of Samuel Johnson, LL.D. (A. Murphy, Ed.) London: H. Baldwin.

“I will either find a way or make one.” (Latin: Aut viam inveniam aut faciam.)

—Hannibal (attributed)

Jones, H.P. (1900). A new dictionary of foreign phrases and classical quotations. London: C. W. Deacon & Company.

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Humor "A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor's book."

—Irish Proverb "Time spent laughing is time spent with the gods."

—Japanese proverb "Nonsense wakes up the brain cells."

—Theodore Geisel Seuss

Quoted in Corwin, M. (1983, November 27). Author isn't just a cat in the hat. The Los Angeles Times. “Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand.”

—Mark Twain Twain, M. (1922). The mysterious stranger: And other stories. New York: Harper & Brothers.

“Laughter is the sun that drives winter from the human face.”

—Victor Hugo

Hugo, V. (1879). Les misérables. New York: Albert Cogswell.

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"Fear is the lock and laughter the key to your heart." —Stephen Stills

Stills, S. (1969). Suite: Judy blue eyes. Atlantic Recording Corporation.

“Among those whom I like or admire, I can find no common denominator, but among those whom I love, I can: all of them make me laugh.”

—W. H. Auden Auden, W. H. (1962). “Notes on the comic,” in The Dyer's Hand and Other Essays. University of Michigan

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Religiousness & Spirituality "A pilgrim is a wanderer with purpose."

—Peace Pilgrim

Peace Pilgrim. (1991). Peace Pilgrim: her life and work in her own words. Santa Fe, NM: Ocean Tree Books.

"This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness."

—Dalai Lama Dalai Lama. (1990). Kindness and compassion, in The Dalai Lama, a policy of kindness: an anthology of writings by and about the Dalai Lama. (S. Piburn, ed.) Ithaca, New York: Snow Lion Publications.

“My country is the world and my religion is to do good.” —Thomas Paine

Paine, T. (1985). The rights of man. New York: Penguin Classics. (Original work from 1791).

"Whether the universe is composed of an infinite number of blind atoms or one all­seeing nature, two things are clear: first, I am a part of the universe governed by nature; and second, I am related in some way to the other parts like myself. Once I acknowledge this, I shall be content with any role the universe assigns me, for nothing is bad for the part that is good for the whole, and the whole contains nothing which is not good for it...Realizing that I am part of just such a universe, I will calmly accept whatever happens. And because I am related to the other parts like myself, I will not seek my own advantage at their expense, but I will study to know what is our common good and bend every effort to advance that good and to dissuade others from acting against it."

—Marcus Aurelius

Aurelius, M. (2002). The emperor's handbook: a new translation of the Meditations. (C. S. Hicks & D.V. Hicks, trans.). New York: Simon and Schuster. (Original work from 180 C.E.)

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Benefit Finding & Post­Traumatic Growth

"Pleasant experiences make life delightful. Painful experiences lead to growth."

—Anthony De Mello

De Mello, A. (1992). Awareness: a de Mello spirituality conference in his own words. (J.F. Stroud, Ed.) New York: Random House, Inc.

"Mistakes are an essential part of education."

—Bertrand Russell

Russell, B. (1956). How to grow old, from Portraits from memory and other essays. New York: Simon & Schuster.

“Most men in a concentration camp believed that the real opportunities of life had passed. Yet, in reality, there was an opportunity and a challenge. One could make a victory of those experiences, turning life into an inner triumph, or one could ignore the challenge and simply vegetate, as did a majority of the prisoners.”

—Viktor Frankl

Frankl, V. (1963). Man's search for meaning. New York: Simon & Schuster. (Original work published 1946)

"They say [cancer] concentrates the mind...You're bowled over initially and then you say…'You know something? You've been taking a lot of things for granted.' It's not in a morbid way. It helps you also to be laid back."

—Archbishop Desmond Tutu

Cancer­free Tutu says the disease was a gift. (2001, December 21). Reuters.

“Bad times have a scientific value. These are occasions a good learner would not miss.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

Emerson, R.W. (2006). Considerations by the Way, from The conduct of life. (Callaway, H.G., ed.) Lanham, Maryland: University Press of America. (Original work from 1860).

"Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know."

—Pema Chödrön

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Chödrön, P. (2005). When things fall apart: heart advice for difficult times. Boston: Shambhala Publications.

“There is no education like adversity.” —Benjamin Disraeli

Disraeli, B. (1880). Endymion. New York: Appleton and Company.

"Opportunities do not come with their values stamped upon them...To face every opportunity of life thoughtfully and ask its meaning bravely and earnestly, is the only way to meet the supreme opportunities when they come, whether open­face or disguised."

—Maltbie Davenport Babcock

Babcock, M.D. (1902). Thoughts for every­day Living. New York: Scribner. “An inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered.”

—G.K. Chesterton

Chesterton, G.K. (1908). All things considered. New York: John Lane & Co. "Yes, at the very bottom of my soul I feel grateful to all my misery and bouts of sickness and everything about me that is imperfect, because this sort of thing leaves me with a hundred backdoors through which I can escape from enduring habits."

—Friedrich Nietzsche

Nietzsche, F.W. (2001). The gay science: with a prelude in German rhymes and an appendix of songs. (B.A.O. Williams, ed., J. Nauckhoff, tr., A. Del Caro, A. tr.) Cambridge, UK: Cambridge University Press. (Original work published 1882).

“To me all omens are lucky, if I will. For whichever of these things happens, it is in my control to derive advantage from it.”

—Epictetus

Epictetus. (1750). The enchiridion, 4th ed. (E. Carter, Trans.). The Internet Classics Archive, retrieved on October 10, 2010 from http://classics.mit.edu/Epictetus/epicench.html

"If I had a formula for bypassing trouble, I would not pass it round. Trouble creates a capacity to handle it...Meet it as a friend, for you'll see a lot of it and had better be on speaking terms with it."

—Oliver Wendell Holmes

Quoted in: Gee, R. (2004). Who said that? Newton Abbot, Devon, UK: David & Charles.

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"I have learned silence from the talkative, toleration from the intolerant, and kindness from the unkind; yet strange, I am ungrateful to these teachers."

—Kahlil Gibran

Gibran, K. (1926). Sand and foam. New York: Alfred A. Knopf. "When we see those who challenge us as teachers rather than burdens, our patience instantly grows."

—M.J. Ryan

Ryan, M.J. (2003). The power of patience. New York: Broadway Books. "Whenever I catch sight of others, By thinking, 'It is through them, That I will reach awakening', I’ll look with sincerity and love."

—Shantideva

Shantideva. Bodhicaryavattara, V.8. from Pearcey, A. ed. (2008). A compendium of quotations, 6th ed. Retrieved from: www.lotsawaschool.org

"If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment."

—Henry David Thoreau Thoreau, H.D. (1906). The writings of Henry David Thoreau: Journal. (Bradford B. Torrey, F.B. Sanborn, eds.). Boston: Houghton Mifflin.

"What we have before us are some breathtaking opportunities disguised as insoluble problems."

—John Gardner

Simon. T, and Stamberger, R. (producers), Winship, & M. (writer). (2000). John Gardner: Uncommon American. Dobbs Ferry, NY: Working Dog Productions.

"Everything in life comes to you as a teacher. Pay attention. Learn quickly."

—Cheri Huber

Huber, C. (1990). That which you seek is causing you to seek. Murphys, CA: Keep It Simple Books. "A happy life consists not in the absence, but in the mastery of hardships."

—Helen Keller

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Keller, H. (1933 February). The simplest way to be happy. Home Magazine. "Concealed in every new situation we face is a spiritual lesson to be learned and a spiritual blessing for us if we learn that lesson. It is good to be tested. We grow and learn through passing tests. I look upon all my tests as good experiences... Every test turned out to be an uplifting experience. And it is not important that the outcome be according to our wishes."

—Peace Pilgrim

Peace Pilgrim. (1991). Peace Pilgrim: her life and work in her own words. Santa Fe, NM: Ocean Tree Books.

"What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.” –Oscar Wilde Wilde, O. (1899). The importance of being earnest. London: Leonard Smithers and Company.

Flow "Things won are done, joy's soul lies in the doing. "

—William Shakespeare

Shakespeare, W. (1953). Troilus and cressida. Philadelphia: Lippincott. "I feel my heart glow with an enthusiasm which elevates me to heaven; for nothing contributes so much to tranquillise the mind as a steady purpose, a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye."

—Mary Shelley

Shelley, M.W. (1891). Frankenstein: Or, the modern Prometheus. London: George Routledge and Sons.(Original work from 1818).

Savoring "Most men pursue pleasure with such breathless haste that they hurry past it."

—Soren Kierkegaard

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Kierkegaard, S. (1992). Either/or: A fragment of life. “Not what we have, but what we enjoy, constitutes our abundance.”

—Jean Antoine Petit­Senn

Douglas, C.N. (Ed.) (1917). Forty thousand quotations, prose and poetical: choice extracts on history, science, philosophy, religion, literature, etc. London: George G. Harrap.

Meaning & Purpose "When we don't find meaning in life, we seek stimulation instead."

—Charlotte Davis Kasl

Kasl, C.D. (1999). If the Buddha dated: Handbook for finding love on a spiritual path. New York: Penguin. “So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half­asleep, even when they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”

—Morrie Schwartz

Albom, M. (2007). Tuesdays with Morrie: an old man, a young man and life's greatest lesson. New York: Random House.

"Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self­gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose."

—Helen Keller

Keller, H. (1933 February). The simplest way to be happy. Home Magazine.

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Photo Credits

All photos used are in the public domain and used in accordance with the permissions granted. Cover "Flower In Hands" by Anna Cervova. Retrieved on January 12, 2011 from: http://www.publicdomainpictures.net/view­image.php?image=845&picture=flower­in­hands Teamwork: "Black and White Handshake" by Sam Mugraby (www.photos8.com). Retrieved on January 22, 2011 from: http://www.photos8.com/view/black_and_white_handshake­other.html. Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence "Morning Glory On Fence" by Andrew Schmidt. Retrieved on January 12, 2011 from: http://www.publicdomainpictures.net/view­image.php?image=3111&picture=morning­glory­on­fence&large=1 Humor: "Smiley Stone Fat Face" by Sam Mugraby (www.photos8.com). Retrieved on January 22, 2011 from: http://www.photos8.com/view/smiley_stone_fat_face­other.html

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