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Spiritually Awakened Integrated (S.A.I.)

Parenting Workshop

Quiz Time

What’s Your

Parenting Style?

Golden Spiritual Rule:Our child is our Teacher

Our children act as mirrors of our own behaviors

• Remember everything the child does is a reflection, reaction, resound of our own actions.

• If we correct these behaviors in ourselves, the behavior in our child will disappear miraculously

• Keep this in mind next time your child misbehaves

Is Discipline Necessary?

Definition of Discipline:

• Discipline is the conscience telling us to stop

• Discipline is the brake on a car.

• Discipline helps one to grow spiritually.

• Discipline trains you

2 Types of Discipline: A: Active

• Extra Chores• Extra Study

2 Types of Discipline: B: Passive

• Restrict Activities• Restrict Actions

Discipline Pointers for parents with babies & toddlers

• Let them cry within reason • Do not constantly rock or cradle or allow

your infant to sleep in your bed• Keep toddlers in playpens or closed off

areas • Always feed them in a highchair• Learn to Say “No”• Start responsibilities early as early as 2

Discipline Pointers for parents with older children

• Be Firm but nurturing• Learn to Say “No”• The more you give in, the more they will

test you. • Don’t be inconsistent • Show anger but do not feel angry• Give them responsibilities

Examples of Responsibility Charts

Days of the Week

Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday

Black mark for wasting time

Colored StarFor finishing way before time

Week 1

Week 2

Week 3

Week 4

Week 5

Week 6

Week 7

Week 8

Week 9

Week 10

THREE (3) in one week is equal to No watching television or videos and no playing computer games.

If all in one week and no then we get to go to a fun place on Saturday or Sunday.

Things Bharat lost cards for!!!!!

Reward vs Punishment

No Absolute Reward or Absolute Punishment needed

• Use words and actions to commend the child for successes

• Talk it over with a child before resorting to punishment

• Ask the child to go outside to dump his/her negative energy

• Use Divine magic techniques like spirit guides and samasta loka

How to avoid over indulgent parenting styles

How to avoid over indulgent parenting styles

• Explain that there are different rules for parents and children

• You must be in control• Be their boss but lead with love

What is that one object in the house that is making parenting

so difficult?

Answer: Television

A Poem by Roald Dahl

TV rots the senses in the head! O

His brain becomes as soft as cheese! O

It clogs and clutters up the mind! O

It makes a child so dull and blind O

He can no longer understand a fantasy.A fairyland! O

It kills the imagination dead!

His powers of thinking rust and

freeze! O

What Experts say:T.V. does to your child’s brain?

“ the actual act of viewing television as even more insidious and potentially damaging to the brain of the developing child than the actual content of what’s on TV.”

From the report of Healy 1990, Pearce 1992,Buzzell 1998, Winn 1985Scientists who have investigated the effects

of T.V on a child’s brain

What Experts say:T.V. does to your child’s brain?

“Watching television has been characterized as multi-level sensory deprivation that may be stunting the growth of our children’s brains.”

From the report of Healy 1990

Scientist who investigated the effects of T.V on a child’s brain

T.V. hurts normal development

• In the first three years of life, a child learns to walk, to talk, and to think.

T.V. prevents normal development of these:• Walk… Television keeps us sitting• Talk… Leaves little room for meaningful

conversation• Think… Seriously impairs our ability to

think because there’s no problem solving

What Experts say:about T.V. hurting our child’s

normal development

“The ability to search out, scan, focus, and identify whatever comes in the visual field is impaired by watching TV. These visual skills are also the ones that need to be developed for effective reading.”

“Children watching TV do not dilate their pupils. Show little to no movement of their eyes. Lack the normal eye movements of jumping from one point to the next that is critical for reading”

From the report of Buzzell 1998Scientist who investigated the effects of T.V on a child’s

development

Television desensitizes children

The message sent to their brain is:

• You don’t need to listen when another person speaks.

• You don’t need to comfort anyone if you hear crying.

• It’s normal to see people being killed, abused, yelled at

• You don’t have to be sensitive to your parent’s emotions

Quentin Tarantino – Film Producer says: “Because people are so desentized

shock therapy is used to get people’s attention”

Children copy what they see on TV

Spending Quality Time

Group Activity Time

Ideas for Spending Quality Time

Some of our ideas for quality time:

• Compose a song or poem with your family• Watch a wholesome movie with the family and discuss the

spiritual aspects of it – for younger children guide them and point out spiritual aspects.

• Meditate together• Sing devotional songs together• Create a play with a value and act it out for the whole family or

other relatives and friends.• Write a story or draw or paint.• Have a quiz show • Have a talent show – ask each member of the family to present

his/her talent.• Have a cooking contest.• Have a Scavenger hunt – You hide items around the house based

on a particular theme – have your family members find them.• Read or tell good stories• Have a family game night• Tell each other jokes

Working vs Stay At Home Moms

If you don’t need to work – stay home

• There is a time-scale to brain development, and the first few years are the most important

Frank Newman-former president of the US Education Commission

“From birth, a baby’s brain cells proliferate wildly, making connections that may shape a lifetime of experience. The first three years are critical.”

If you don’t need to work – stay home

Joseph Chilton Pearce in his book, Evolution’s End 1992, shows that during a child’s development, there are a series of learning windows.

• 1st year: the child has established its ability to understand words & feelings of self-esteem.

• 2nd year: the child’s vocabulary will be determined by how many different words he/she hears.

• 3rd year: the ability to think, learn or not learn is developed by the age of 3.

Statistics in America• In America, 76 percent of

mothers are working outside the home.

• 10 million children under the age of 5 have employed mothers.

WorkingMothers

Stay at homemoms

If you don’t need to work – stay home

Working mothers say that the little time they spend at home they don’t want to spend disciplining but want to spend quality time.

• It is the duty of the mother to discipline

• Quality time is helping children prepare for real life

• By indulging them this is not quality time

Introducing Spirituality at a Young Age

How to have a spiritual child• You can affect your child’s spirituality even

before he or she is conceived?• A few months before conception, the father

should foster noble thoughts and actions• Consciously create your child• The Mother affects the personality of the child

through her thoughts, words, actions while carrying the child in her womb

• Both parents should adopt a high vibration lifestyle e.g. being a healthy vegetarian, avoiding GMOs and preservatives, being eco-friendly, etc.

How to have a spiritual child

When your child is a little baby:

• Say prayers• Sing spiritual songs• Tell spiritual stories

It all goes into their subconcious minds

How to have a spiritual child

When your child starts to speak:

• Teach them simple prayers• Make God a part of their daily life

It makes them truly believe that God is

an important aspect of themselves

How to have a spiritual child

When your child gets older:

• Teach them to talk to God • To make God their friend. • For teenagers teach them to meditate

This makes God real and tangible

Final word to parents

The Final WordThe Do’s & Don’ts

• Don’t fight in front of your children • Don’t argue about disciplining in front of the child• Do be consistent• Don’t give permission to your child unless your

spouse has been consulted• Do create house rules• Do re-enforce positive energies• Do listen to your children with total attention• Do show affection to your spouse in front of your

child• Do constantly show affection to your children

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