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Social SkillsSocial Skills7th grade Advisor-Advisee
Lesson 3- Accepting Compliments
from the book: How Rude by Alex J. Packer, Ph.D
7th grade Advisor-AdviseeLesson 3- Accepting Compliments
from the book: How Rude by Alex J. Packer, Ph.D
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Accepting Compliments
A compliment is a gift. It may be a verbal gift, but it is still a gift.
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Most people...
“Deflate” compliments
Example: “I love your new shirt” “Oh, it is a little something I picked up”
Example: “You played your instrument so well” “It was ok, I didn’t practice that much”
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Why do people “deflate” the compliment??
low self esteem
nervous, not sure how to handle a compliment
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Implications
When you “deflate” a compliment, it implies the person who gave it has no idea what they are talking about.
That is rude to do to someone who was just very nice to you.
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What should I say?
Thank you
Thank you so much
Thanks
You are very kind to say that
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Giving compliments
Sometimes giving compliments can be as hard as getting one.
It can be really hard, especially if you are disappointed.
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Things to look for...
Don’t compliment one person by putting another down.
Wrong: It is great to have someone on the team that doesn’t drop the ball like Jeff.
Right: It is great having you on the team.
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Don’t use envy or bitterness
Wrong: Congratulations on winning the scholarship. At least you’ll be able to go to college.
Right: Congratulations! You worked really hard!
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Don’t pollute your praise with criticism
Wrong: You were great today. It is about time you scored a goal.
Right: Great goal- You were terrific out there.
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Don’t undercut your compliment with nosiness.
Wrong: Those are cute shoes! How could you afford them?
Right: Cute Shoes!
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Now you try it!
Find 3 people and give and receive a compliment!!