Social Psychology - Attraction
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Interpersonal Interpersonal Attraction:Attraction:
Who likes whom and why?
What situational factors promote liking?What personal factors promote liking?
Are there universal features of attractiveness?
Are there sex differences in attraction?How do men and women get others to like
them?
Sources of AttractionSources of Attraction
Propinquity
Similarity
Reciprocity of Liking
Physical Characteristics
Bodily Arousal
Non-Verbal Behavior
PropinquityPropinquity
The Propinquity Effect The more we see and interact with people, the more
likely they are to become our friends Dormitories, classrooms, neighborhoods, etc.
Explanations of Propinquity Effect Availability and Propinquity Anticipating Interaction The Mere Exposure Effect
Similarity and AttractionSimilarity and Attraction
Similarity with respect to many things Personality, Attitudes, Appearance, Demographics
Reasons for similarity-attraction: People who are similar validate our own self-worth
Similarity makes it easier to “synchronize” our thoughts, attitudes, moods, desires
We assume that people who disagree with us have negative personality traits (“Dissimilarity-Repulsion”)
Wide range of application Friends and mates
Politicians and pets
Reciprocity of LikingReciprocity of Liking
• We like others if we believe they like us• Based on perceived liking, not necessarily actual
liking
• Explanations:• Reinforcement
• Liking and positive affect are rewarding• Social Exchange
• Reciprocity governs social interaction• Social Coordination
• Liking signals smooth social interaction
• “Self-fulfilling Prophecy”• If we believe somebody else likes us, we will be a
more likable person in their presence; this will lead them to actually like us more
• Positive feedback loop
Reciprocity of Liking:
Caveats• Suspicions about sincerity
• “Ingratiator’s dilemma”
• Self-esteem and self-verification• People with high self-esteem like and interact
with those who like them• People with low self-esteem prefer to interact
with those who criticize them (Swann, 1990)
• “Gain-Loss” theory (Aronson & Linder, 1965)
• Comparison Level (subjective value)• Competence (“winning over”)• Perception of discernment (“not easily
impressed”)
Physical AttractivenessPhysical Attractiveness
Universal features of attractiveness Large eyes, prominent cheekbones, big smile, “symmetry”Large eyes, prominent cheekbones, big smile, “symmetry” ““Smell of symmetry”Smell of symmetry”
T-shirt studies
Attractiveness in females Small nose & chin, narrow cheeks, high eyebrowsSmall nose & chin, narrow cheeks, high eyebrows Waist-hip ratio (.7)Waist-hip ratio (.7)
Attractiveness in males Depends on phase of menstrual cycleDepends on phase of menstrual cycle
Non-ovulation: “Cute”Non-ovulation: “Cute” Ovulation: “Rugged”Ovulation: “Rugged”
Attraction and average facesAttraction and average faces
• Within a culture, much variation in people’s faces
• Average face is viewed as most attractive
• Extreme characteristics and asymmetries are diminished
• Take a look at these photos
Arousal and Attraction
• Arousal and polarization of affect• Arousal promotes strong and consistent feelings• Slight bias in one direction becomes extreme• Arousal can produce intense disliking as well as intense
liking
• If you approach an attractive or likable person, you’ll approach more enthusiastically if you are aroused
• If you see an unattractive person, you’ll show greater avoidance (even repulsion) if your are aroused
• You’re still energized even if you know your arousal came from a cup of coffee, a threat of electric shock, or crossing a wobbly bridge
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Arousal-induced polarization of feelings toward an attractive and an unattractive
womanWhite, Fishbein, & Rutstein (1981)
How do men and women attract How do men and women attract
one another?one another?
• Language of flirtationLanguage of flirtation• “Getting attention”• “Recognition”
• Raise eyebrows, lock gaze, sing-song voice, laughing
• “Touching”• Pats on the shoulder,
accidental bumps
• “Keeping-time”• Nonverbal
coordination, face-to-face alignment
Nonverbal Cues and Nonverbal Cues and
AttractionAttraction Non-verbal gestures and body language communicate
attraction and interest in forming a relationship
Mutual staring in opposite-sex pair can produce sexual attraction (Kellerman, Lewis, & Laird, 1989)
Mimicry of nonverbal behavior promotes liking
Women in singles bars use several nonverbal gestures that initiate interactions with men (Moore, 1985)
• Head tosses• Hair flips• Eyebrow flashes• Smiles –>
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SummarySummary• Many Sources of “Social Chemistry”
• Propinquity (“Love the one you’re with”)
• Similarity (“Love others just like you”)
• Reciprocity of liking (“Love others with good taste”)
• Arousal (“Is it hot in here?”)
• Physical characteristics (“Nice ratio!”)
• Sex differences (“I’ve got what you’re looking for”)
• Non-verbal behavior (“Did you say something?”)