‘Skill Focus: Self Confidence & Fulfilling your Potential

Sonia Bate, Director & Executive Coach, EDIT Development

Self Confidence and Fulfilling Your Potential

You want to be confident and feel confident, but what if your confidence levels vary and sometimes you find yourself feeling short of confidence in certain situations? How do you get from Point A to Point B?

True self-confidence isn't an overnight acquisition. It is about building self-awareness, exploring techniques to grow your self-belief and developing a clear route map to maximise your full potential.

Self Confidence and Fulfilling Your Potential

In this session we will:

define confidence and explore what it actually is and bust some of the myths around ‘lack of confidence’

develop your understanding of your confidence enablers and destroyers and develop a framework for managing them to ensure you are at your best when it matters the most.

review the ingredients you need to be in the right mind-set (climate) in your head to determine the environment (weather) for your day - techniques to anchor you in the positive and stop you feeling negative about yourself

What is Confidence?

Adapted from Gardenschwartz& Rowe

Complexity of Self

Self belief and creating the weather in your Mind

Self belief and creating the weather in your Mind

Voting

You at your best…..

Mind-set

Skill set

Positive Thought – Thought Effect Model

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Do Feel

Reinforce

NegativeStage 1 – I can’t do this. I will failStage 2 – I feel so nervous about this. I am bound to fail Stage 3 – Look, I am failing! Stage 4 – I told you I couldn’t do it.

PositiveStage 1 – I can do this. I will succeedStage 2 – I feel so confident I know it will work Stage 3 – Look, I am succeeding! Stage 4 – I told you I could do it.

The Importance of Confident Language

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You have choices

• Choose to walk away – you don’t need to surround yourself with mood hoovers, it takes one bad apple to turn a barrel!

• If you have been criticised remember feedback is a gift – you can keep it wrapped or unwrap the message. Remember not all feedback is valuable, unless it is fact based it is someone’s opinion. Do you value their opinion?

• Who are you viewing yourself from; Other people’s eyes or your own?

• Surround yourself with mood radiators to help your energy

• Smile!

Fear of being exposed! Reality check – Are you being your hardest critic?

Reality check – What is the worst that can happen if you take a chance?

Reality check – Preparation is important, but do you need to know more than you know right now? If so TAKE ACTION!

If you don’t try then how will you know?

FAILURE does not exist, you either WIN, you LEARN and then you do take different actions next time

Self talk

• Change the voice and turn the volume down

• Take a reality check – is it going to matter in 5, 5 and 5

• Use your affirmation anchors to make you remember how amazing you are

• Give compliments and positive feedback to others

• Seek feedback and say thank you when you are complimented

• Say out loud the value you made today at work and at home

The power of anchoring

Anchoring: When we think about a good time or a bad time, the emotions that were associated with that time come up too. This is called ‘anchoring’.

The emotions are ‘anchored’ or attached to a thought, like perfume reminding you of someone; when you smell it, your body starts to re-create how you feel about that person.

This shows that your body ‘remembers’ emotions. When you think of a time that had emotions attached, your body re-creates the emotions.

You can make yourself feel good or bad, just by remembering something.

Self esteem

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Ask yourself

Are you the carrot?

Are you the egg?

Are you the coffee bean ?