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Shadow Dancing
Accepting and Embracing the Self
elcome to Energencia Online and your journey of personal transformation and
spiritual development.
This single self-study module is designed to take around 180 minutes, with a further
180 minutes for the practical meditation and exercises. You will need a journal,
coloured pencils and an open heart and mind.
It is recommended that you do not complete this single module eBook in one sitting as you will need
some time to process the information shared; and embrace all that you are. It may also be necessary
to repeat or to spend more or less time on certain exercises as we all develop uniquely and assimilate
information differently; and the outcome and learning from the, eBook will be unique to each individual
person
SURRENDER to who you are and ACCEPT all that is. Know YOU are enough, whole and
complete just as YOU are.
Brightest Blessings
Shadow Dancing is included in our campus - based training course Personal Alchemy a Journey of
Personal Transformation,available in both Durban and Johannesburg. More details on our campusbased training is outlined at the end of this eBook.
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Shadow DancingAccepting and Embracing the Self
A shadow is an area where direct light from a light source cannot reach due to obstruction by an
object. It occupies all of the space behind an opaque object with light in front of it. The cross section
of a shadow is a two-dimensional silhouette or reverse projection of the object blocking the light. ~
Wikipedia
Introduction
Most of us set out on the path to personal growth because at some point the burden of our painbecomes too much to bear. Shadow dancing is about unmasking that aspect of ourselves whichdestroys our relationships, kills our spirit, and keeps us from fulfilling our dreams. It is what thepsychologist Carl Jung called the shadow. It contains all the parts of ourselves that we have tried tohide or deny. It contains those dark aspects that we believe are not acceptable to our family, friends,and most importantly, ourselves. The dark side is stuffed deeply within our consciousness, hiddenfrom ourselves and others. The message we get from this hidden place is simple: there is somethingwrong with me. Im not okay. Im not lovable. Im not deserving. Im not worthy.
Simply put, we all have a dark side, and if deny our dark side, it will cast a shadow that willnegatively impact our lives. In learning how to confront these shadows, you can achieve harmonyand let your own light shine through by owning every aspect of yourself. Owning means toacknowledge that a quality belongs to us.
The purpose of doing shadow work is to become whole. To end our suffering and to stophiding ourselves from ourselves. Once we do this we can stop hiding ourselves from the restof the world.
By facing these aspects of ourselves, we become free to experience our glorious totality: thegood and the bad, the dark and the light. It is by embracing all of who we are that we earn thefreedom to choose what we do in this world. As long as we keep hiding, masquerading, andprojecting what is inside us, we have no freedom to be and no freedom to choose.
Quote from: The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford
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Meeting and Embracing Your Shadow
It is only when we have the courage to face things exactly as they are, without any self-
deception or illusion, that a light will develop out of events, by which the path to success may
be recognised.
I Ching, the Book of Changes
Active Meditation and Exercises
For this meditation and the practical exercises you will need: Coloured pencils, pen and a dedicated
journal
Explore your Inner Sacred Space
When you ready, close your eyes and take five slow, deep breaths. Inhale for five counts, retain the
breath for five counts, and then exhale slowly through your mouth. Use your breath to relax your
entire body. Focus all your attention on your breath as you continue. This is one of the best ways to
quiet your mind.
Now with your eyes shut, imagine yourself walking into an elevator and closing the door. Press one of
the buttons in the elevator and go down seven floors. Imagine youre going down deep into your
consciousness. When the door opens you see a beautiful sacred garden. Try to clearly visualise
everything about it. Notice the trees, the flowers, the birds. What colour is the sky? Is it a brilliant,
clear blue or is it laced with clouds? Feel the airs temperature and the wind caressing your cheeks.
How are you dressed? Are you wearing something you love? Imagine yourself at your best, looking
you most attractive. Take off your shoes and feel the earth beneath your feet. Is it grassy or sandy? Is
it dry or moist? Do you see a pathway of stone or marble? Are there waterfalls or statues? Are there
any animals? Take a minute to look around in all directions and notice what else is in your garden.
When youve finished crating your garden, crease a sacred meditation seat where you can come to
find all the answers youve ever desired. Spend a minute exploring your inner sacred place and make
a commitment to visit if often. Return your attention to your breath and take five more, slow, deep
breaths. Bring yourself to an even deeper state of relaxed awareness.
Now ask yourself the following series of questions below and take your time in listening to your inner
voice. After each question open your eyes for a moment and write down your answers in your journal.
The best way to do this is to write fast and to write whatever comes to your mind. There are no right
or wrong answers. Dont worry about what you are writing; just let yourself feel and express whatever
needs to emerge through this process. When you have the answer to the first question, close your
eyes, return to your garden, and sit down in your meditation seat. Take two slower, deep breaths
before you ask yourself the second question and so on. Take your time.
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Now answer the following questions in your journal, take your time and take four deep breathsbetween each question.
You can go back to your sacred space at any time. Express any else in your journal that needs to be expressed
1. What am I most afraid of?2. What aspects of my life need transforming?
3. What do I want to accomplish by completing this module?
4. What do I want to accomplish by completing this course
5. What am I most afraid of that someone else will find out about me?
6. What am I most afraid of finding out about myself?
7. What is the biggest lie I have told myself?
8. What is the biggest lie I have told someone else?
9. What could stop me from doing the necessary to transform my life
Shadow Dancing
In the end the Shadow was only a small passing thing: there was light and high beauty forever
beyond its reach. ~ Tolkien
Our wounded self is our dark or shadow side, not because it is bad but because it is cut off from the
light of God. It lives in the darkness of fear and the heaviness of false beliefs instead of in the light of
love and truth. Moving toward "enlightenment" is moving into the light of truth. When we heal our fears
and false beliefs, our energy lightens. We may even hear from others, "You seem so much lighter!
Doorways to Darkness
Just as the light of God enters our hearts when we choose to open to love, the darkness enters when
we choose to close our hearts and act from anger, fear, shame, judgment or hurt.
Our anger, fear, shame, judgment and hurt are the cracks in our energy field through which the
darkness enters. The darkness can also enter when we cloud our energy with drugs, alcohol, nicotine
or sugar.
Exercise 1
Choose 10 20 Positive Adjectives that best Describe You
Exercise 2
Choose 10- 20 Negative Adjectives that best Describe You
Write down the Negative Adjectives on your list and answer the questions in Exercise 3
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Exercise 1 - Choose 10 to 20 Positive Adjectives that best describe you
Positive Personality Adjectives
adaptableadorableagreeable
alertalluring
ambitiousamused
boundlessbravebrightcalm
capablecharmingcheerfulcoherent
comfortableconfident
cooperativecourageous
crediblecultureddashingdazzlingdebonairdecisive
decorousdelightful
detaileddetermineddiligentdiscreetdynamic
eagerefficientelated
eminentenchanting
encouragingendurableenergetic
entertainingenthusiasticexcellentexcited
exclusive
exuberantfabulous
fairfaithful
fantasticfearless
finefrank
friendlyfunny
generousgentle
gloriousgoodhappy
harmonioushelpful
hilarioushonourable
impartialindustriousinstinctive
jollyjoyous
kindkind-hearted
knowledgeable
levellikeablelivelylovelylovinglucky
maturemodern
niceobedient
painstakingpeacefulperfect
placidplausiblepleasant
plucky
productiveprotective
proudpunctual
quietreceptivereflectiverelievedresolute
responsiblerhetoricalrighteousromanticsedateseemly
selectiveself-assured
sensitiveshrewd
sillysincereskilful
smilingsplendidsteadfast
stimulatingsuccessful
succincttalentedthoughtful
thriftytough
trustworthyunbiasedunusualupbeat
vigorousvivacious
warmwilling
wisewittywonderful
zanyzealous
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Exercise 2 - Choose 10 to 20 Negative Adjectives that best describe you
Negative Personality Adjectivesabrasiveabrupt
abusiveafraidaloof
ambiguousangry
annoyedanxiousarrogantashamed
awful
badbelligerentbewildered
boorishboredboringcallous
carelessclumsy
combativeconfusedcowardly
crazy
creepycruel
cynicaldangerousdeceitfuldefeateddefectivedefiant
demonicdepressedderanged
disagreeabledisillusioned
disturbeddomineering
draconianembarrassed
enviouserraticevasive
evilfaded
fanatical
fiercefilthy
finickyflashy
flippantfoolish
forgetfulfranticfretful
frightenedfurtivegreedy
grievinggrouchy
gruesomegrumpyguardedgulliblehelplesshesitant
homelesshorriblehungry
hurtignorant
illirresolutejealousjitterylacking
lazylonely
maliciousmaterialistic
meanmysterious
naivenasty
naughtynervous
noisyobnoxiousoutrageous
panickypathetic
possessivequarrelsome
repulsive
ruthlesssad
scarysecretive
selfishsillyslow
sneakysnobbish
sorespendthriftsqueamish
stingystrangesulkytackytense
terribletesty
thick-skinnedthoughtlessthreatening
tighttimidtired
tiresometroubledtruculent
typicalundesirableunsuitable
unsureupset
uptightvague
vengefulvenomous
volatile
voraciousvulgarwary
wastefulweakwearywickedworried
worthlesswretched
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To continue .....
Becoming immune to darkness means never acting out of the wounded self's feelings of fear, anger,
shame, judgment or hurt but always moving into intent to learn about these feelings. Through
purifying ourselves on the physical and emotional levels by eating well and doing our healing work onour journey of self transformation, through our inner alchemy as we become SOLID GOLD , we can
hear our spiritual guidance and connect with our sacred self. Being in conscious connection (and
dialogue) with both our sacred self and inner Child (shadow self) is one of the goals of Shadow
Dancing. We begin to heal the cracks through which the darkness enters, and we shine the light of
truth into the wounded self's fears and false beliefs, our Dragons.
When we feel hurt, angry, judgmental, shamed, blaming, depressed or frightened, our dialogues are
with the wounded aspect of our Inner Child. These painful feelings come from our own unloving
behaviour toward ourselves. However, when you have been operating most of the time from thewounded aspect of your inner child, you cannot suddenly become a loving Adult in order to do the
dialogue process. We cannot bring light to darkness with darkness. In other words, we can't heal our
darkness by being furious at it. We can transform darkness into light only by learning about and loving
the darkness. We heal darkness only with light the light of love.
Our challenge is to love the part of us that we judge as bad, unlovable or unworthy, and it's a
challenge that calls for the loving Adult.
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Exercise 3
Write down the Negative Adjectives on your list, in your journal, and answer
the questions as a loving adult.
Now gently close your eyes and contemplate the first negative adjective on your list, ask yourself
these questions and hear the answer from deep within.
1. Is this my own belief about myself or did I adopt it due to the words and actions of others
2. Why do I believe this of myself, what incident occurred in my life to reinforce this belief.
3. Does this belief empower me
4. What do I need to do to give up this belief
Now do this for the next four negative adjectives
1. In your journal, do this exercise for all of the negatives adjectives on your list
2. Write a short letter to each of the belief systems on your list, thank it for serving you and
replace it with new positive adjectives from your list, make a personal pact to honour this new
belief.
3. Write a positive affirmation for this new positive belief
Example
Negative Adjectives Cold and distantPositive Adjectives Warm and caring
Affirmation
I am a warm and caring person, all my relationships uplift and nurture others while uplifting and
nurturing me.
Develop a POWER Statement
Once the exercise is complete create a POWER statement for yourself, a statement that empowers
you, inspires you and uplifts you. (Say it 20 times a day paste it all over your space on Post Its)
Example
I make a difference
My life is filled with magic, love and fun all that lies ahead is good
Wherever I look I see truth and beauty
There is nothing that I cannot manifest today
The universe is my friend and lover and meets all of my needs
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You cant ask for what you want unless you know what it is. A lot of people dont know what they want
or they want much less than they deserve. First you have figure out what you want. Second, you have
to decide that you deserve it. Third, you have to believe you can get it. And, fourth, you have to have
the guts to ask for it.
Barbara De Angelis
Meditation
Embracing Shadow Self
Close your eyes and return to the sacred garden. Create a safe, sacred environment to do your
exercises in. Again, use your breath to quiet your mind and to bring you deeper into your
consciousness. Now take your internal elevator down seven floors and go into your garden. Walk
through and admire its beauty. When you feel the soothing presence of your surroundings, find your
meditation seat. When you are comfortable and feel safe, bring forth the image of your sacred self.
Imagine basking in all of his or her light. When the image is established, go in and call forth the dark,
shadowy aspect of yourself. Allow this all-loving, beautiful part of your to hold this scary, dark, unloved
part in his or her arms. Imagine sending love, kindness and forgiveness to your dark side. Tell this
dark aspect of yourself that it is safe and that you are going to spend time understanding and learning
to love it.
Spend as much time as you need and dont be upset if your shadow self does not allow itself to be
embraced. Go in and try daily until it does. Often resistance will show up in visualisation, so after ten
minutes or so, say goodbye to both these aspects of yourself and come back to your room.
Take out a piece of paper and some crayons and draw a picture of your experience. You shouldspend about five minutes on it. When youve finished, take out your journal and write about your
meditation and your drawing experience for at least ten minutes.
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Namaste
We are delighted to have accompanied you on your personal journey. Should you wish to give us
feedback we would welcome your comments by email [email protected]
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Personal Alchemy A Journey of Transformation
Campus-Based Training at Academies in Durban and Johannesburg
Shadow Dancing is included in our campus based training course Inner Alchemy a journey ofPersonal Transformation available in both Durban from Energencia Academy and in
Johannesburg at Soul Healing Academy the course overview is outlined below.
Personal Alchemy Course Overview
Human Needs and Development
Everyone - dependant on age, circumstance and many other external factors and according to
Freuds unconscious biological drives - is at a unique different level of development and awareness.
This often creates misunderstanding and conflict. Understanding the stages of human development
and adopting an accepting and non-judgemental approach makes our life-path much easier to
navigate and those of others much easier to appreciate.
EnneagramsEmbracing the Self and understanding others
The Enneagram is geometric nine-pointed star (ennea, meaning nineand gram denoting diagram) it
is a triangle and a hexagram enclosed by a circle. The Enneagram is a personality-type tool, which
dates back to the time of the ancient Greek philosopher Pythagoras and to the time of the Sufi
mystics. It identifies nine distinct and unique personality types. The Enneagram is a tool that helps us
understand ourselves and others better, it identifies, nine personality types with nine different
perspectives of the world.
Shadow Dancing
Most of us set out on the path to personal growth because at some point the burden of our pain
becomes too much to bear. Shadow dancing is about unmasking that aspect of ourselves which
destroys our relationships, kills our spirit, and keeps us from fulfilling our dreams. It is what the
psychologist Carl Jung called the shadow. It contains all the parts of ourselves that we have tried to
hide or deny. It contains those dark aspects that we believe are not acceptable to our family, friends,
and most importantly, ourselves. Simply put, we all have a dark side, and if deny our dark side, it will
cast a shadow that will negatively impact our lives. In learning how to confront these shadows, you
can achieve harmony and let your own light shine through by owning every aspect of yourself.
Owning means to acknowledge that a quality belongs to us.
Slaying the Dragons
You as an individual cannot transform yourself unless you personally face your own fears. This is not
easy, but it is absolutely required for any personal breakthrough. Facing fear often means looking at
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the dark, shadowy side of yourself-not to feel guilty or shameful or to punish yourself; but to release
the potential vitality locked up therein. These modules are a guide to facing your fears in the forms of
the seven personal dragons. The dragons exist to make you strong. They are the vehicles of
transformation. Nothing of great value in life is attained without some kind of test. Seven mighty
dragons appear to block the path of all human beings.
Archetypes
Archetypes are your energy guides to your highest potential. The nature of your archetypes is both
intimate and impersonal. Viewed through the heart, they are personal enough to be called
companions. Viewed with the mind they are impersonal, symbolic patterns that serve in the energetic
organization of your spiritual evolution. Working with your archetypal patterns is a way to become
conscious of yourself, the effects of your actions, and the need for choosing wisely every day.
Additional Course Requirements
Internet Access, a Dedicated Journal, and Coloured Pencils
Your own copy of the board game: Scared Contracts: The Journey
(Available from both the Soul Healing and Energencia Academies at a reduced price)