session 1 vincentian retreat
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FAMILY. . . .
Seedbed of Vocation
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INTIMACY AND LOVE IN THE FAMILY
It is in the family that one learns
to truly live,
to value
life and health,
liberty and peace,
justice and truth,
work, concord and
respect.
Pope Benedict XVI
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most important element in the personality
development of the Filipino and his day to day
behavior as an adult. (Guthrie and Azores)
Provides emotional security and support, and
a feeling of belonging. (Guthrie)
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According to CFC . . . . .
In the family we find strong support andenvironment for our growth.
We continue to value marriage highly.
We firmly believe that children aretreasures given by the Lord to be loved and
nourished.
We extend extraordinary care at home toour elderly.
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What is Happening to the Filipino Family?
The family in the modern world, as much more than any
other institution, has been beset by the many profound
and rapid changes that have affected society and culture
(FC, 1).
The family "is the object of numerous forces that seek to
destroy it or in some way to deform it" (FC, 3).
this fundamental institution is experiencing a radical
and widespread crisis (Novo Millennio Ineunte, January
6, 2001, no. 47).
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PRESENTFAMILY SITUATIONS
ANDCHALLENGES
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A. CHANGING ROLE STRUCTURE OF THE
FAMILY; RISE OF MATERNAL DAD
Womens roles have changed at home and in
the workplace. Most women now hold jobs
outside the home either to supplement their
husbands earnings or to be the main and
sometimes, the only breadwinner in the family.
There are now more women OFWs.
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When the adjustment does not
go well, women become
overloaded and fatigued in
trying to fulfill their duties as
breadwinners working outside
the homes and as housewives
still taking care of the household
and even parenting from a
distance. The widely McCann-
Erickson Youth Study of 1992
states that the youth are
increasingly parented by
television. This has led to
unclear expectations and
pressure, and a generation gap
between children and parents.
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This is the challenge for working wives and
mothers. . .
adjustment in parental roles so that women do
not become overburdened and burn out. Time management quality time for the family,
esp. for the growing up children and for the needs
of the husband.
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2. DECLINE IN THE FAMILY VALUE SYSTEM
Absentees OFW parents, compensate their
absence and lack of time spent with children with
material gratifications, through modern
technologies, internet, cellphone etc.
This lead to consumerism, materialism and
hedonism, the worship of pleasure and
commercialization of the human person.
o a great impact on the value system among the
children . . . they have nobody to talk with, to
model with especially to teach values that must
be learn inside the home.
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it is more important for the parents to
communicate and express their loving
feelings on a regular basis. Regularity ofcommunication and its reliability is very
important to the children because in doing
so, the children will know when their
parents will call and they were able tohave a sense ofemotional security that
comes with predictability.
As an effect we have ACULTURE OF OVER-
COMPENSATORY BEHAVIOR and THEGRATIFICATION-DRIVEN GENERATION.
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Families have become smaller. In the past, the
Typical Filipino family household would consist ofextended family system ( including the
grandparents, aunts, uncles and so forth ); now the
families are more nuclear.
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C. Illegitimacy
unwed mother and her child, or a mistress and herchildren by a married man. Again this indicates a
problem in our values system especially on the
sacredness of sex within the sacrament of
marriage.
4. THE TRAGEDY OF INFIDELITY
y Having a mistress continues to be a status
symbol for many men, pagkalalake syndrome
proof, positive of virility, manhood and the abilityto provide. This is also due to the increasing
permissiveness and availability of contraceptive
devices .
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5. POWER OF MEDIA
some detrimental effects on the lifestyle of our
young people, such as lack of physical exercise,
exposure to aggression and violence and
information overload.
Aconsumer electronics and computer
technology become more commonplace in the
lifestyle of family members, the adverse impact of
these services are starting to emerge ( ex. Over-
addiction to the internet/games) THERE IS ANEED TO ADVOCATE RESPONSIBLE USE OF
TECHNOLOGY to ensure the introduction of
these products to the family are handled
with more care.
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young people today are demanding more
freedom and autonomy to make decisions for
themselves. In these sense authority and
control of the elders is gradually declining
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5. OTHER SOCIAL FORCES WORKING
AGAINTS THE FAMILY
A. Children witness adult lying
children are natural truth-tellers until adults
teach them to lie or they learn to lie becauseeverybody is doing it. It is the family that we can
count on to preserve childrens truth telling.
B. Family violence or domestic violence done
by the father to the mother or children
To respond to these increasing number of victims, an
NGO organized Bantay Bata to safeguard the
children from domestic violence.
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The main reason that children left their homes
was the abuse, neglect and violence theyexperienced in their families by family members
themselves.
Their deepest wishes and most fervent prayers
to belong to a nurturing family that could take careof them;
wished that their parents would change their ways,
so that they could return to their birth families and
be taken care of.
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EFFECT:
Psychologicalharmtothechildren. . . .POOR SELF WORTH/SELF CONCEPT.
. . howtheyvaluethemselves
constitutestheirself-esteem.
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2. TEACHINGS OF FAMILIARIS CONSORTIO
Family, Become What You Are !
An intimate community of life and love
The mission to guard, reveal and
communicate love
Sharing in Gods love for humanity and the
love of Christ for the Church his bride.
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Following the 1980 Synod of Bishops on the
Family, Familiaris Consortio emphasized four
general tasks for the family (FC, ibid.):
a) forming a community of persons;
b) serving life;
c) participating in the development of society;
d) sharing in the life and mission of the Church.
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A. FORMING COMMUNITY,
SAYING NO TO DIVORCE
Thefirsttaskofthefamilyis"toliveinfidelity
therealityofcommunion" (FC, 18) between
husbandandwife,betweenparentsandtheir
children. Communionisfoundedonlove.Marriageisacovenantoflovebetween
husbandandwife. Bysuchacovenant,they
"arenolongertwobutoneflesh." Thus,from
thebeginning,marriageisindissoluble. "Whattherefore Godhas joinedtogether,letnoman
putasunder" (Matthew 19:6).
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C. PARTICIPATE IN BUILDING A JUSTAND HUMANE
SOCIETY Thefamilyisthebasicunitofsociety,itswherethe
transmissionoflifeandeducatingtheminto
responsiblecitizenhappens.
Asafamilyyouarecalledupontolivealifebasedonthevaluesoftruth,freedom, justiceandlove.
Imitate Christcompassiontothepoorespeciallythe
sick,theelderliesandthosefamiliessufferingfrom
allkindsofpoverty.
Intheworkoftransformationfamiliesareencouragedtocommitthemselvestoworkfor
justiceandhumanizationofpeopleswith
preferenceforthepoorandmarginalized.
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D. SHARING IN THE LIFE AND MISSION OF
THE CHURCH
Families ought to be a place where the Gospel istransmitted and from which the gospel radiates( Evangelii Nuntiandi, 71) As members of theChurch, families have the responsibility to
proclaim the Word of God by word and deed: thewhole church is missionary and the work ofevangelization is the basic duty of the people ofGod. (PCP II 432)
Centered on the Eucharist, the life of the family
must reflect Jesus love for the people of Godmost especially the poor, the lowly, the oppressedand those without status in society. As theDomestic Church, the Christian family is thefirst community
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THE FUTURE OF THE FAMILY
Pessimistic view of the family high rates of delinquency,
separation ,
desertion, and
sex outside marriage are among the signs
that the family is in danger of extinction.
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greatest strength as a social institution is its
ability to adapt and change in the face of social
and cultural changes.
The family is not dying , but rather is changing,evolving and adapting. (Gelles .
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Commission of the Family . . . formulate policies and
recommend measures that will help strengthen the
solidarity of the family and promote its total wellbeing.
Committees on Women and Family Relations . . .
initiate and monitor bills affecting women and
domestic concerns.
Other organizations concerned with strengthening
family life . . .
y a. Episcopal Commission on Family Life
y b. Commission on Marriage and Family Life Ministries
y c. Couples for Christ Foundation
y d. Marriage encounter Foundation
y e. Christian Family Movement
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THE BEST MODEL WE FIND IS THAT
OF THE HOLY FAMILY.
its sole desire was to fulfil the will of God,
incarnate in the adorable presence of Jesus.
On the one hand, it is a family like all others and
as such is a model of conjugal love,
collaboration, sacrifice, trust in Divine
Providence, industriousness, solidarity, of
all those values safeguarded and promoted by the
family, contributing in a basic way to the
formation of the fabric of every society". BenedictXVI
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The family molds the personality and character of young
people. In shaping and developing individuals, the family
produces people with certain values, attitudes, and skills
which can influence the functioning of other institutions.
it is the family which launches young people into their
adult occupations, and channels their initial contacts with
the outside world.
Thus many of the changes the individual initiates in the
community maybe traced back to the family which
brought him up.
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Indeedfamilylifeisveryprecious. Itisthe
mostnaturalenvironmentforthegrowth
anddevelopmentofmembersespecially
children,andthereforethedesiretocreate
astablefamilyenvironmentforthemselves
andtheirchildrenrunsdeepandstrongamongpeople. (Boyden, 1993) As Cooley
sumsitup,thefamily asaprimarygroup
isthenurseryofhumannature.N
ootherformalinstitutioncanevertakeoverthis
function
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ROLEOF THE FAMILY IN NURTURING VOCATIONS
Seedbed is the literal translation of seminary
from the Latin term semen meaning seed.
the Pope refers to the family as the first
seminary' for the formation of young
people in the ways of faith.
Parents, you are less the gardener and more
the steward or caretaker laboring under the
guidance and direction of the Gardener Himself.
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RESPONSIBILITY OF THE PARENTS AS
STEWARDS OR CARETAKER. . .
a. to care for the seedlings and their
development in the faith.
b. to guide these seedlings towards full maturity,
helping them to know and live their vocation. c. to provide the necessary conditions for their
children to seek, know, and follow the call the
vocation that God has for them. Every child has
a vocation! Yes, everyone has a vocation to be a
disciple of Jesus Christ that takes on a personallyunique manifestation in the call to marriage,
consecrated life, or priesthood.
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There is much labor to be done in a garden that
produces beautiful fruit. How much greater the
care necessary for a family to produce the fruit of
a beautiful vocation?
Jesus says, The harvest is abundant but the laborersare few; so ask the master of the harvest to send out
laborers for his harvest( Lk 10:2). This harvest of
vocations will be plentiful insofar as families live
up to their calling as rich and fertile seedbeds ofvocations.
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RESPONSIBILITY OF THE PARENTS AS
STEWARDS OR CARETAKER. . .
a. to care for the seedlings and their development
in the faith.
b. to guide these seedlings towards full maturity,
helping them to know and live their vocation. c. to provide the necessary conditions for their
children to seek, know, and follow the call the
vocation that God has for them. Every child has a
vocation! Yes, everyone has a vocation to be a disciple
of Jesus Christ that takes on a personally uniquemanifestation in the call to marriage, consecrated life,
or priesthood.
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