Self Esteem

Family Wellness and Youth in DistressLesson 4: Self Esteem

Lesson 4: Self Esteem

Title: Self Esteem

Teacher Introduction:This lesson is designed to introduce students to the concepts of self-esteem. As well asintroducing a way to identify current strengths and resources that youth will have at theirdisposal. The exercises included in this lesson will focus on developing a positiveoutlook on ones self. There are several handouts and activities within this lesson. Youmay have to limit the number of activities based upon time and your judgment. It isencouraged that you include Activity 4-B on Asset Mapping/Medicine Wheel andActivity 4-E the Stitch and Design.

Goal:• To understand what self-esteem is and how it can be positively developed and

integrated into each person’s life to help her/him recognize how improving self-esteem builds character.

Objectives:• Define self-esteem• Identify personal strengths• Identify ways to build and improve self-esteem

Background:Utilizing the Medicine Wheel each participant will identify core strengths and interest inwhich create a since of balance in the relational worldview, thus creating a healthy Self-Esteem.

What is self-esteem?Self- Esteem is the opinion you have about yourself. Everyone has self-esteem. Itis based on your attitudes and beliefs about your-self. Your self-esteem can have aneffect on your behavior and the choices you make. Sometimes it is difficult to think ofand express good characteristics about ourselves; often bad or negative points seem to beeasier to identify. The best thing you can do when you have a negative thought aboutyourself is to realize that just because you think it doesn’t mean that it’s accurate.Replace the negative thought or belief for a positive one. This practice will help buildyour self-esteem.

Materials Needed:Poster paper Copied handoutPencils/Markers ScissorsLined Paper Beach Ball

Recommended http://www.self-esteem-nase.org/Resources http://www.cyberparent.com/esteem/

http://www.promoteprevent.org/



ClassroomActivities

Handouts EvaluationActivities

TeacherNotes

Listen to thepresentation ofthe BackgroundLesson andparticipate in awhole classdiscussion.

Observation ofwhole classdiscussion

Read or otherwise provide the Backgroundinformation to the participants

Individualcompletion ofthe DiscussionStartersworksheet 4-A.

Handout 4-A

Evaluation ofDiscussionStartersworksheet 4-A

Handout worksheet 4-A and have participantscomplete individually. Lead a discussionregarding why someone might not have goodself-esteem. Remember that all students needto receive positive feedback to their statementsand/or observations about the subject matter.

Guidedcompletion ofHandout andMedicine Wheel.

Handout 4-B

Evaluation ofHandout 4-B

Handout worksheet 4-B (3 pages) and haveparticipants identify strengths and personalassets. You may have to brainstorm withindividuals to help them see the good. Whileeach participant is filling out his/her medicinewheel you may show an example of classstrengths and fill out a medicine wheel on awhite board utilizing various strengths that youhave observed up to this point. Show that eachcompleted Medicine Wheel represents healthyself-esteem.

Listen or readalong with theSitting Bull storyand participate ina groupdiscussion

Handout 4-C

Assessment ofparticipantsattention andparticipation inthe Sitting Bulldiscussion.

Give Handout 4-C to participants. Read thestory then lead the participants in a discussionto answer the questions at the bottom of thepage. On poster board fill out a MedicineWheel for Sitting Bull as a group.

5. Groupparticipation inthe Bounce BackActivity

Handout 4-D

Observation ofparticipation inthe BounceBack activity

Have a beach ball fully inflated and explainthat it will represent self esteem. Demonstratethe resilience of the ball by pushing on it anddropping it on the floor. Ask students forexamples of events they experience that canlower self esteem. For each example, let someair out of the ball Stop when 1/3 to 1/2 of theair has been let out. Demonstrate thedifference in the resilience of the ball now.The ball is not bouncing back. After thediscussion, blow the ball back up and reinforcethat self esteem can be raised.


difference in the resilience of the ball now.The ball is not bouncing back. After thediscussion, blow the ball back up and reinforcethat self esteem can be raised.

6. Individualcompletion ofStitch andDesign Activity.

Handout 4-E

Observation ofparticipationandunderstandingof Stitch andDesignHandout 4-E

Guide each participant to write downsomething that they learned from Lesson 4.Instruct them to draw a “Stitch” for theirmoccasin that will remind them of what theylearned. Then instruct each participant to drawa “Design” for their moccasin that will remindthem of what they will use in the future thatthey learned in Lesson 4.


Handout 4-ADiscussion Starters

When considering your own self-esteem and how healthy it is, think about and answerthe following questions.

1. What is your opinion of yourself?

2. Do you make decisions or take risks that can be harmful to you without muchthought?

3. Do you criticize yourself?

4. Do you think you’re not as handsome/pretty or as popular as someone else?

5. Do you see faults or characteristics in your friends that you don’t like but youignore them because you don’t think you can have or deserve better friends?

If you listed negative comments on question one or answered yes to the other questions,your self-esteem may not be as healthy as it should. But don’t worry, it can be nurturedto become healthier.

If you listed a positive opinion of yourself or answered no to the other questions, you’reon the right track. General happiness and self-acceptance will help you maintain yourhealthy self-esteem.


Handout 4-BAsset Mapping Page 1 of 3

Asset Mapping is a way to identify the strengths and resources that you will have at yourdisposal as a leader. It is also an excellent way to shift the focus away from what we maycommonly struggle with and place greater attention on what we have in our favor. Wewill apply the Medicine Wheel, which will help us identify balance within our lives.

Answer the following questions with as many answers as you can:

1. (Mind) What are your gifts of the mind?Example: Good listening skills, creative, analytical, etc…______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

2. (Emotions) What are your gifts of the heart?Example: Compassionate, empathetic, tolerant, etc…______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

3. (Body) What are you gifts of the hand?Example: Practical skills like building, driving, texting, athletics, etc…______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

4. (Spirit) What are your gifts of the spirit?Example: Things you have faith in; Family, friends, church, the sun coming up,etc…______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Take two or three minutes with each of the questions above and then have the groupshare their answers. After taking a few responses, move on to the next set of questions.All answers are valid and respected.

5. What are your areas of interest?Example: Athletics, computers, art, etc…______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________



6. What are you passionate about?Example: Helping others, racing cars, robotics, etc…Note: a passion can be anything that you feel really excited about. It is importantto note that a passion may be something that you struggle with or are not able todo. This is okay.____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

7. What are some of your most powerful relationships?Example: Relationship with sibling, community member, coach, etc…____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Using your list of answers fill in each quadrant of the Medicine Wheel. Hand outworksheet Asset Mapping Page 3 of 3. Make sure to place at least one answer in thecorresponding quadrant of the Medicine Wheel. You have just identified core strengthsand interest in which create a sence of balance in the relational worldview. This is ahealthy Self-Esteem.

Lets make this a daily thing.


Handout 4-CSitting Bull Page 1 of 2

Sitting Bull was born in 1831 near present-day South Dakota. As a child Sitting Bull’sparents didn’t give him the name Sitting Bull. They named him Slow because theycouldn’t identify any outstanding traits in him.

In 1845, when Slow was only 14, he wanted to join a war party. Everyone thought Slowwas too young, but he desperately wanted to prove himself. As the rest of his partywaited for the enemy to approach, Slow got on his pony and charged toward the enemy.The others quickly changed their plans and followed Slow. Shocked by such a bold actas Slow’s, the enemy warriors retreated.

Slow’s father was so proud of the victory led by his son, that he gave him the nameSitting Bull, that which the Buffalo God had given him. The buffalo was considered astrong, and courageous creature with lots of endurance. As a result of Slow’s behavior,these were now qualities the people saw in him, Sitting Bull.

What kind of self-esteem do you think Sitting Bull had?

What did his parents and community think of him at first?

Did Sitting Bull let other’s opinions of him affect his self-esteem?

What were some of Sitting Bull’s strengths?

Does anyone know what happened to Sitting Bull later in his life? If so, please explainhere:

Using the previous questions identify strengths that Sitting Bull possessed to earnhis name. As a class fill in a Medicine Wheel for Sitting Bull.


Handout 4-CSitting Bull Page 2 of 2


Handout 4-D

When you have healthy self-esteem, you are able to bounce back from problems. Youknow that everything is not your fault and that for whatever reasons something hashappened, it will pass and you can handle it. When you doubt your ability to handlesituations, you are less likely to try new things or advance yourself.

A beach ball is an example of a healthy self-esteem that is resilient and able to bounceback. What do you think might happen if obstacles or situations are allowed to lowerself-esteem?

When the ball was full of air and was pushed on, what happened?

When it was full of air and dropped on the floor, what happened?

After air was let out of the ball, what happened when it was pushed on?

What about when it was dropped on the floor with less air in it?

What are some things that can lower self-esteem?

Can people lower your self-esteem? How?

Is low self-esteem permanent? Why or why not?

Is our self-esteem the same all the time? Why?

How can you raise your self-esteem?

Can other people help raise your self-esteem?

How can you help others raise their self-esteem?


Handout 4-E

Stitch and Design

Stitch:Please write down something that you learned from this lesson:

Now draw a “Stitch” for your Moccasin that represents and will remind you of what youlearned from this lesson.

Design:Please write down something that you will use in the future from this lesson:

Now draw a “Design” for your Moccasin that represents and will remind you of what youwill use in the future from this lesson.

Examples of “Stitches” and “Designs” can be simple pictures or patterns.

Such as:

You may use the same or repeat “Stitches” and “Designs” from other lessons, but maywant to change the color, so that you can remember the lessons learned and how you willuse this in your future.

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