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07 – 13 February 2019 Dear all! Resilience in Children: Strategies to Strengthen Your Kids (https://www.psycom.net/build-resilien ce-children) All children are capable of working through challenges and coping with stress. Resilience is the ability to bounce back from stress, adversity, failure, challenges, or even trauma. It’s not something that kids either have or don’t have; it’s a skill that kids develop as they grow. Resilient kids are more likely to take healthy risks because they don’t fear falling short of expectations. They are curious, brave, and trusting of their instincts. They know their limits and they push themselves to step outside of their comfort zones. This helps them reach for their long-term goals and it helps them solve problems independently. Stress and Resilience All kids encounter stress of varying degrees as they grow. Despite their best efforts, parents can’t protect kids from obstacles. Kids get sick, move to new neighbourhoods, encounter bullies and cyberbullies, take tests, cope with grief, lose friends, and deal with divorce, to name a few. These obstacles might seem small in the eyes of an adult, but they feel large and all-consuming to kids. Resilience helps kids navigate these stressful situations. When kids have the skills and the confidence to confront and work through their problems, they learn that they have what it takes to confront difficult issues. The more they bounce back on their own, the more they internalize the message that they are strong and capable. Strategies to Build Resilience Parents can help kids build resilience and confront uncertainty by teaching them to solve problems independently. While the gut reaction of the parent might be to jump in and help so that the child avoids dealing with discomfort, this actually weakens resilience. Kids need to experience discomfort so that they can learn to work through it and develop their own problem- solving skills. Without this skill-set in place, kids will experience anxiety and shut down in the face of adversity. Build a Strong Emotional Connection Spend one-on-one time with your kids: Kids develop coping skills within the context of caring relationships, so it’s important to spend one-on-one time with them. This means you need to put down the smart phone and focus on your child. When kids know they have the unconditional support of a parent, family member, or even a teacher, they feel empowered to seek guidance and make attempts to work through difficult situations. Positive connections allow adults to model coping and problem-solving skills to children. Promote Healthy Risk-Taking In a world where playgrounds are made “safe” with bouncy floor materials and helicopter parenting, it’s important to encourage kids to take healthy risks. What’s a healthy risk? Something that pushes a child to go outside of their comfort zone, but results in very little harm if they are unsuccessful. Examples include trying a new sport, participating in the school play, or striking up a conversation with a shy peer. When kids avoid risk, they internalize the message that they aren’t strong enough to handle challenges. When kids embrace risks, they learn to push themselves. Resist the Urge to Fix It and Ask Questions Instead When kids come to parents to solve their problems, the natural response is to lecture or explain. A better strategy is to ask questions. By bouncing the problem back to the child with questions, the parent helps the child think through the issue and come up with solutions. Teach Problem-Solving Skills The goal is not to promote rugged self-reliance. We all need help sometimes, and it’s important for kids to know they have help. By brainstorming solutions with kids, parents engage in the process of solving problems. Encourage kids to come up with a list of ideas and weigh the pros and cons of each one. Label Emotions When stress kicks in, emotions run hot. Teach your kids that all feelings are important and that labeling their feelings can help them make sense of what they’re experiencing. Tell them it’s okay to feel anxious, sad, jealous, etc. and reassure them that bad feelings usually pass. Demonstrate Coping Skills Deep breathing exercises help kids relax and calm themselves when they experience stress or frustration. This enables them to remain calm and process the situation clearly. Embrace Mistakes—Theirs and Yours Failure avoiders lack resilience. In fact, failure avoiders tend to be highly anxious kids. When parents focus on end results, kids get caught up in the pass/fail cycle. They either succeed or they don’t. This causes risk avoidance. Embracing mistakes (your own included) helps promote a growth mindset and gives kids the message that
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07 – 13 February 2019
Dear all!
Resilience in Children: Strategies to
Strengthen Your Kids (https://www.psycom.net/build-resilience-children)
All children are capable of working through challenges and coping with stress. Resil ience is the ability to bounce
back from stress, adversity, failure, challenges, or even trauma. It’s not something that kids either have or don’t have; it’s a skil l that kids develop as they grow. Resil ient kids are more likely to take healthy risks
because they don’t fear fall ing short of expectations. They are curious, brave, and trusting of their instincts. They know their l imits and they push themselves to step
outside of their comfort zones. This helps them reach for their long-term goals and it helps them solve problems independently.
Stress and Resilience All kids encounter stress of varying degrees as they grow. Despite their best efforts, parents can’t protect kids
from obstacles. Kids get sick, move to new neighbourhoods, encounter bullies and cyberbullies, take tests, cope with grief, lose friends, and deal with divorce, to name a few. These obstacles
might seem small in the eyes of an adult, but they feel large and all -consuming to kids. Resil ience helps kids navigate these stressful situations. When kids have the skil ls and the confidence to confront
and work through their probl ems, they learn that they have what it takes to confront difficult issues. The more they bounce back on their own, the more they
internalize the message that they are strong and capable. Strategies to Build Resilience Parents can help kids build resil ience and confront
uncertainty by teaching them to solve problems independently. While the gut reaction of the parent might be to jump in and help so that the child avoids dealing with discomfort, this actually weakens resil ience.
Kids need to experience discomfort so that they can learn to work through it and develop their own problem-solving skil ls. Without this skil l-set in place, kids will
experience anxiety and shut down in the face of adversity. Build a Strong Emotional Connection
Spend one-on-one time with your kids: Kids develop coping skil ls within the context of caring relationships, so it’s important to spend one-on-one time with them. This
means you need to put down the smart phone and focus on your child. When kids know they have the
unconditional support of a parent, family member, or even a teacher, they feel empowered to seek guidance
and make attempts to work through difficult situations. Positive connections allow adults to model coping and problem-solving skills to children.
Promote Healthy Risk-Taking In a world where playgrounds are made “safe” with bouncy floor materials and helicopter parenting, it’s important to encourage kids to take healthy risks.
What’s a healthy risk? Something that pushes a child to go outside of their comfort zone, but results in very l ittle harm if they are unsuccessful. Examples include trying a
new sport, participating in the school play, or striking up a conversation with a shy peer. When kids avoid risk, they internalize the message that they aren’t strong enough to handle challenges. When kids embrace risks,
they learn to push themselves. Resist the Urge to Fix It and Ask Questions Instead
When kids come to parents to solve their problems, the natural response is to lecture or explain. A better strategy is to ask questions. By bouncing the problem back to the child with questions, the parent helps the
child think through the issue and come up with solutions. Teach Problem-Solving Skills The goal is not to promote rugged self-reliance. We all
need help sometimes, and it’s important for kids to know they have help. By brainstorming solutions with kids, parents engage in the process of
solving problems. Encourage kids to come up with a l ist of ideas and weigh the pros and cons of each one. Label Emotions
When stress kicks in, emotions run hot. Teach your kids that all feelings are important and that labeling their feelings can help them make sense of what they’re experiencing. Tell them it’s okay to feel anxious, sad,
jealous, etc. and reassure them that bad feelings usually pass.
Demonstrate Coping Skills Deep breathing exercises help kids relax and calm themselves when they experience stress or frustration. This enables them to remain calm and process the
situation clearly. Embrace Mistakes—Theirs and Yours
Failure avoiders lack resilience. In fact, failure avoiders tend to be highly anxious kids. When parents focus on end results, kids get caught up in the pass/fail cycle. They either succeed or they don’t. This causes risk avoidance.
Embracing mistakes (your own included) helps promote a growth mindset and gives kids the message that
mistakes help them learn. It can be helpful to talk about a mistake you made and how you recovered from it.
Promote the Bright Side—Every Experience Has One Optimism and resil iency go hand in hand. Some kids may appear more naturally optimistic than others, but
optimism can be nurtured. If you have a mini pessimist on your hands, acknowledge the feelings that lead to pessimistic thinking and teach your child to reframe his thoughts to find the positive.
Model Resiliency The best way to teach resil ience is to model it. We all
encounter stressful situations. Use coping and calming strategies. Deep breathing can be an effective way to work through stress. Always label your emotions and talk through your problem-solving process.
Go Outside Exercise helps strengthen the brain and make it more
resil ient to stress and adversity. While team sports are the most popular method of consistent exercise for kids, all kids really need is time spent outdoors engaging in a physical activity. If team sports don’t appeal to your child,
encourage them or introduce them to bicycling, playing tag, or even just swinging at the playground. These are all great ways for kids to engage in free play that also builds resilience.
Resil ience helps kids navigate the obstacles they encounter as they grow. It’s not possible to avoid stress, but being resil ient is one of the best ways to cope with
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>> SCHOOL CALENDAR (FEBRUARY) 7 – 8, 11 : Photo Day (Class photo and individual photo) 11 : Year 4 fieldtrip to TMII
16 : Chun Sun Chinese Language Writing Competition 18-22 : Be Yourself Week
20 : Year 7 Fieldtrip 23 : NHJS Fairground 27 : Year 11 Fieldtrip
>> Photo Day Please be informed that we will be having Class Photo and note the following information:
- 7-8 February 2019 taken by Kingfoto.
- It is free of charge and compulsory. - Student dress code: School attire (no PE attire) - Additional day (Monday 11 Feb) is given by
Kingfoto for absent students. - Few classes will be rescheduled to other day
and respective mentor will update about this. - On Monday 11, we also have CCA group photo.
Detailed info will be sent via email. We have distributed order form for purchasing of photo package for parents who want to purchase those
packages. The form and payment must be given to Kingfoto officer on the Day. Late order will be accepted by 15 February 2019.
If you have a question please contact Marketing Department. Thank you.
*Few classes will be rescheduled to other day and respective mentor will update about this.
>> National Exam Schedules The schedule of National Exam for Year 6, Year 9 and
Year 12 for your reference. Please see the detail of each schedule based on level: Year 6 :
- Ujian Try Out : 1 - 3 April 2019 (TBC) - Ujian Sekolah : 8 - 9 April 2019 (TBC) - Ujian Nasional : 22, 23, 24 April 2019 Year 9 :
- Ujian Try Out : 18, 19, 20, 21 February 2019 - Ujian Sekolah : 12 April 2019 - Ujian Nasional : 22, 23, 24, 25 April 2019 Year 12 :
- Ujian Try Out : 26, 27, 28 February and 1 March 2019 - Ujian Sekolah : 13, 14, 15, 18, 19, 20, 21 March 2019 - Ujian Nasional : 1, 2, 4, 8 April 2019
>> Project for Prefectorial Board We are pleased to inform you about the projects the Prefectorial Board will be undertaking this semester.
Please take note of the details below: 1. Books for Cambodia
The objectives are: a. to donate English story books to needy
children in Cambodia.
b. to help underprivileged children in Cambodia to have a better education.
c. to help set up libraries in rural areas.
2. Eco-Drive 2018-2019 The objectives are:
a. to develop the habit of recycling among students.
b. to help protect the environment. c. to raise funds for Rachel House Foundation
(http://rachel-house.org) Feel free to contact the following teachers if you have any questions about the projects:
Ms. Marites Reyes ([email protected] ) Mr. Leo Ranchez II ([email protected])
Mr. Ding Liang ([email protected]) Ms. Sheila de Guzman
([email protected]) Kindly refer to the parent letter for more details. >> Year 3 Service Learning Programme We would like to inform you that the Year 3 service learning programme will be held during Term 3. This programme will be a great experience for your child to
learn to : - spread happiness and kindness. - continuously do good deeds in their daily l ife. - understand that small acts count and
contributes to their ability to have care and compassion for others.
There wil l be two fundraising projects during Term 3 to
support Year 3 service learning. The projects are as follows:
1. Book, Clothes and Toy Drive (1-8 March 2019) 2. Piggy Bank Project (8 March 2019)
For more information, please kindly email: Ms. Kunthi ([email protected]) >>Year 6 Immersion (24-30 March 2019) We are committed to your child’s/ward’s success and
have specially planned the PIAGET Academy Year 6 Immersion Programme, in partnership with Naval Base Primary School (NBPS), Palm View Primary School (PVPS), Rosyth School (Rosyth), Lian Hua Primary School and Pei
Ying Primary School to facil itate your child’s/ward’s final lap towards preparation for the iPSLE.
For further information please contact: Ms. Chie Sipin-Bjarenas ([email protected]) Kindly refer to the parent letter for more details.
>> Year 2 Service Learning We would like to inform you that the Year 2 students will be having their Service Learning in Term 4.
This momentous activity aims to: 1.1 Develop students’ passion, patience and kindness through saving of money, 1.2 Demonstrate care and compassion towards others,
1.3 Create a platform for children to show their gratitude and love for one another.
There will be a fundraising project, “Big Love Mission” that will be carried out from Monday, 11 February 2019 to Friday, 29 March 2019. We aspire our students will do a good deed by donating part of their own money every
day into the piggy bank that they will make from used milk boxes or pringles cans during mentor time. Each student will need to bring 1 used box or can on Thursday,
7th February 2019. If you need clarification, please feel free to ask your respective Year 2 Mentors. Kindly refer to the parent
letter for more details. >> Year 4 Fieldtrip We are pleased to inform you of our programme for the Year 4 Field Trip this year.
The Year 4 Field Trip involves the following objectives: In Science, observe a demonstration of the
different properties of magnets and learn about the use of a telescope when observing the sun and the use of Systems.
In Math, learn about and experience hands -on
Math activities; shapes, angles, symmetry and operations.
In English, write a personal narrative about the
trip to Taman Mini.
Please find the schedule below: Day / Date : Monday, 11 February 2019 Venue : PPIPTEK,Taman Mini.
Reporting Time : 7.00am (Respective classroom) Departure Time : 8.00am Kindly refer to the parent letter for more details.
>> Chinese New Year 2019 (01 February 2019)
>> SASMO 2019 COMPETITION This is an open invitation to all students from Year 2 to Year 10 who are interested to participate in the annual Singapore and Asian Schools Maths Olympiad (SASMO)
2019, Asia's very popular mathematics competition. DATE OF COMPETITION : 06 April 2019
DEADLINE of PAYMENT : 01 March 2019 PAYMENT : Rp 200.000 /participant Complete an application form and submit to your Math
Teacher attached with proof of payment. For more information regarding SASMO, you may visit this website: http://sasmo.id.
>> Invitation for Japan International Science and Mathematics Olympiads 2019 Greetings! We would like to invite your child/ward to represent our school in the Japan International Science and
Mathematics Olympiads (JISMO – Science competition ONLY), which will be held on 30 March 2019.
Registration for the Olympiads is open to students from
Year 2 to Year 5. The objective of the competition is to provide a platform for students to develop their aptitude in Science through critical thinking.
The participation of qualified school representatives will only be confirmed when full payment of competition registration fee is made to NJHS finance department by February 22, 2019.
If your child is selected to join the competition, the training sessions will be held as follows.
Should you have further queries regarding the competition, please do not hesitate to contact me at [email protected]
Kindly refer to the parent letter for more details. >> Junior Soccer Singapore League (JSSL) 2019, Singapore Please be reminded that JSSL will be on 19-21 April 2019. With this team, we plan to participate in the Junior Soccer Singapore League (JSSL) 2019 in Singapore ([email protected] ). This will be a fantastic
platform for our students to pitch their skil ls against an international host of students. It will also be an opportunity for our students to grow in
character by competing on an international platform. The itinerary is as follows:
Kindly refer to the parent letter for more details.
>> 2019 SINGAPORE INTERNATIONAL PRIMARY SCHOOL LEAVING EXAMINATION
Kindly refer to the parent letter for more details. >> SRE (Situational Response Exercise) Session for incoming P1 AY 2019-2020 Dear NH parents, Please be informed that we will be starting SRE session for incoming P1 on Monday 11 February until March.
Kindly submit your schedule to Admission/Marketing staff. The letter regarding this subject has been emailed to parents last week.
Please contact us if you haven’t received the email. Thank you.
Re: NationalHigh Jakarta School Highlights
Dear all,
Our PIAGET vision is to create a better world through education and as a school we are committed to nurturing good sons and daughters who are l ifelong
learners, active citizens and are grounded in values. To this end, each year we review and map out our direction to achieve our dreams for every child. We like to reiterate some of the key initiatives in
NationalHigh Jakarta School (NHJS).
1. PIAGET 12 Years Education Journey (P12YEJ)
PIAGET Academy has envisioned our graduates not to be followers of trends but be the trend setters. We like them to explore and create future employment.
Under the P12YEJ framework, there are milestone programmes to impact the students’
growth. These programmes are designed with the specific age groups and the learning outcomes are articulated and enforced. For example, we gradually enable the students’
confidence through a series of learning journeys from Years 4 to 6 to build their sense of confidence, responsibility, teamwork, problem solving skills and independence. This
is in addition to using these journeys to inculcate school values. Even at the young stage of a Years 1 to 3 have a milestone
programme designed to improve their basic personal effectiveness and confidence. For example, we have signature programmes
that meet the P12YEJ framework such as the Coming of Age Programme which is a 25 days immersion and learning programme for our Year 8 students. The parents of the
participants who had completed this programme noted its great impact on the habits and values of the participants. Being
away from the creature comfort of home, the Secondary two participants were forced to learn to be personally accountable, to work in teams and to take care of each other.
In addition, the Meaning and Purpose Programme for Year 11 in Bhutan enabled the
participants to seek out what is truly important as their personal mission. This is targeted just prior to the articulation of our students to the university and having the clarity of purpose and
being anchored in values will set them on the path for personal success.
Please note that the participation at milestone programme is one critical consideration in our selection of students to helm key student
leadership positions. A full explanation of the P12YEJ may be found on our school website.
2. Values and Spirituality
NHJS offers religion classes for Christianity, Catholicism, Buddhism, Islam and Hinduism classes for all our students. This is in l ine with the national curriculum and also expanded to
ensure lessons are customised to the learning needs of all students. The curriculum are taught in class and there is also Youth Ministry
and Chapel sessions catering to all our Christian and Catholic students. These two initiatives were championed by the students two years ago and has gained traction in attendance and
parental participation. The school also has mentor lessons for class mentors to transmit values and address issues
raised by the students. This takes place after the Monday Mass Assembly which is the platform for celebrating student efforts and
successes as well as a key platform for the local principals to share on the Indonesian values, cultures and stories. Of late, Indonesian song was also taught to the students to help them
learn Indonesian values. The Pancasila is shared and the students’ understanding deepened by staff sharing.
3. Student Leadership Platforms
Other than the traditional leadership platforms
of Prefectorial Board and Student Council, the school has also initiated the Sustainable High initiative for students to take on leadership in social enterprise.
We have also started Student-initiated clubs and movements. Three student-initiated clubs,
namely Ignite and Inspire Club, Student-led Newspaper, and Art Club are inaugurated this term by the students and will continue to grow.
We have also supported the first Model United Nations in our school which was also initiated
by students. The proposal was to enable the other national schools to participate in the
programme which has enabled better student exposure to international issues and to engender interest to follow up with actionable initiatives to address world issues.
In 2020, we will l ikely see a student scripted musical which is currently underwork by a group of passionate Year 10 students,
mentored by our Music Teacher. We believe students learn best by doing. We
encourage them to take on the responsibilities to propose measures to improve the school tone and well-being of the students.
4. External Competitions
The school noted that some of our students are
representing our school in external sports competitions and are trained externally. To further grow the pool of sports talents, the school will initiate competitive sports teams,
starting with Swimming, Tennis, Basketball and Soccer. The key focus is to leverage on sports to teach values. Players and members of these teams are expected to be role models
and be in their best behaviour in and out of their sports.
The school has also expanded students’ involvement in non-sports competition. To date, we had received many accolades for participation in Mathematics-related, Science-
related and Debate competitions. We have also participated in the Harvard Model Congress (Asia) in Singapore and hopes to consistently expose as many of our students to
competition as possible.
Our students in Year 11 and 12 participated in
the inaugural SUSS-PIAGET Impact Challenge which was a business proposal competition focused on social enterprise. This programme which was co-organised with Singapore
University for Social Sciences is a credit bearing programme and it saw the participation of teams from Pancasila University, i3L and
Singapore National Academy. We had a panel of judges hailing from successful Indonesian start-ups and businesses. This will be an annual event to be hosted in NH.
5. Revisiting and Reinforcing Manners and
Courtesy The school’s culture can be sensed by what goes on during daily classroom routines. We will continue to expect our students to greet
others, including visitors and their peers. We will be looking into ways to enforce a conducive school environment for learning. Student will be expected to be more
responsible in taking care of their personal belongings and common property.
We want our students to be dressed well. They will be expected to wear the school uniform with respect and to be proud of the uniform and the school it represents. We have many
opportunities for our students to participate in competitions, to immerse in other schools and go on overseas learning journeys. All students
are ambassadors of the school and must be dressed smartly.
6. Beyond Examinations The school has adopted milestone examinations which are internationally recognised. The most important of which is the
General Certificate in Education Advanced Levels offered by Cambridge International Examinations Board. We would like to share
that the subjects taken at A Levels can be transferred as credits for university admission . These will be shared by the school’s university admission team (GROW) headed by Mr Josh,
Ms Martha and Mr Dexter. The team is actively expanding the range of internships and summer programmes for our
students. Information of these are regularly sent via the Weekly Bulletin which serves as our main source of communicate to parents
and stakeholders. The school has partnered two top Singapore schools (Raffles Institution and Raffles Girls
School) to offer the Raffles Programme Scholarship to select students. The first batch of test for the scholarship will take pale in
April/May 2019. Successful candidates will be granted full scholarship in RI/RGS for Years 9 to 12 in Singapore. This scholarship is open to present Year 8 students.
7. School Building Extension Ideas
The Board is considering building extension, to allow NH to continue to provide a quality education. There had been intense discussion on what kind of education will be provided in
the new school and what kinds of facilities will allow the school to meet the demands and learning needs of the children.
We will be calling for input from the students as well as from parents to hear what they hope to see if we are to design the spaces to support
teaching and learning for the students.
We look forward to the strong continued support of all
stakeholders and wishes everyone a great year ahead. Without your support, the grow of the child is not possible.
Best wishes. Mr Ang Hwee Khoon
Principal
Dear Parents,
Re: Tuition Fee Invoice The school would like to inform that in order for the school to meet its financial obligations, the school must
increase the tuition fees by at least five percent (5%) every year thereafter. Hence since AY 2017/2018 onwards, there will be a steady fee adjustment of the five percent (5%) to allow us to meet the inflation and
rising the costs. Exact amount to be paid will be advised through the invoices which will be sent out to all parents half a year before the start of the academic
year. Since last week, we have sent tuition fee invoice and the amount written in the invoice is normal school fees. You
are eligible to get early bird discounts if you follow the payment timeline. We attach the school fees for your reference.
Kindly note that:
- All payment made is non-refundable and non-
transferable for any reasons. - Email your copy of transfer payment to the
school to [email protected] or
[email protected] . Please write your child’s name and class for our
reference. Feel free to contact Finance or Marketing Department for any inquiries via email or phone at 5890 2962.
Thank you for your kind attention and support.
Best regards,
NHJS Administration
