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REPUBLIC OF SOUTH AFRICA
IN THE HIGH COURT OF SOUTH AFRICA
GAUTENG DIVISION, JOHANNESBURG
CASE NO.: 15986/2016
In the matter between:
M.: K. PLAINTIFF
and
M.: C. (BORN H.) DEFENDANT
Heard:13 November 2017 – 17 November 2017, 15 December 2017- 22 December
2017, 8 January 2018 – 10 January 2018, 12 January 2018
Delivered: 22 January 2018
(1) REPORTABLE: YES / NO
(2) OF INTEREST TO OTHER JUDGES: YES / NO
(3) REVISED
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DATE SIGNATURE
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JUDGMENT
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Coram: VAN DER SCHYFF AJ
Introduction
[1] The parties cited in this matter seek a decree of divorce. It is common cause that they
were married to each other in community of property on 17 November 2011 at
Johannesburg. Two boys who are currently respectively 6 years and 7months, and 3
years and 5 months old, were born from this marriage.
[2] The parties have agreed prior to the onset of the hearing that a liquidator will be
appointed to facilitate the division of the joint estate.
[3] Since the parties agree that the marriage has irretrievably broken down (a fact
attested to by the evidence presented by both parties) the remaining issues that need to
be adjudicated are the maintenance of the defendant, and the maintenance of the two
minor children, and the appropriate post-divorce care and contact regime pertaining to
the two minor children.1
[4] Both parties agreed that it would be in the best interests of the minor children if both
parties retain full parental rights and responsibilities in respect of the minor children as
1 Section 6(1) of the Divorce Act, No 70 of 1979, prescribes that a court may only grant a decree of divorce if the court is satisfied that satisfactory provisions are made or contemplated with regard to the welfare of any minor child, or that the provisions made or contemplated are the best that can be effected in the circumstance. Section 6(3) of the Act provides that a court, when granting a decree of divorce, may in regard to maintenance, or custody or guardianship of, or access to, a minor child make any order which it may deem fit. It goes without saying that this wide discretion must be exercised judicially and in accordance with the principles of the law. Section 1(2) of the Children’s Act, No. 38 of 2005, determines that ‘in addition to the meaning assigned to the terms “custody” and “access” in any law, and the common law, the terms “custody” and “access” in any law must be construed also to mean “care” and “contact” as defined in this Act.’
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envisaged by section 18 of the Children’s Act, No. 38 of 2002 (hereafter the Children’s
Act).
[5] The trial was conducted over a period of 14 days and concluded on Wednesday 10
January 2018. During this period evidence was heard from the plaintiff, two expert
witnesses called by him, Dr. Martin Strous, and Prof. Lorna Jacklin, the defendant and
the witnesses called by her - Ms. Chantelle Anderson, the head mistress of the
Montessori school attended by the parties eldest son T., and two expert witnesses – Dr.
Deidri Kruger and Dr. David Benn; and the Family Councillor, Ms. Naidoo, and Family
Advocate, Adv. Maikoo. The matter was adjourned until Friday 12 January 2018 for
closing arguments. Counsel were requested to prepare and submit heads of argument.
Both counsels’ heads of argument provide a good indication of their respective
submissions on how the evidence lead in the case support their respective cases.
Counsel for the plaintiff also provided me with an extensive bundle of authorities. I am
indebted to both counsel for the analysis of the evidence.
Background
[6] The plaintiff instituted divorce proceedings during May 2016 and sought from the
onset an order that the minor children’s primary place of residence shall be with him. The
defendant did not oppose the granting of a decree of divorce, but in her counterclaim
sought an order that the minor children’s primary place of residence shall be with her in
Germany and that she be granted leave to depart from South Africa permanently
together with the two minor children. The implication of the pleadings as they stand is
that both parties request the court to order that the primary residence of the children vest
with them, within the context that if the children’s primary residence is ordered to be with
the defendant, it will effectively sanction the relocation of the children to Germany.
[7] It was only during the trial that the plaintiff advanced the proposition that a shared
residency regime would be in the best interests of the children. Despite this apparent
change of heart, neither the final draft order submitted on behalf of the plaintiff as part of
the plaintiff’s counsel’s heads of argument, nor the argument contained in the plaintiff’s
counsel’s heads of argument, promote a shared residency regime. Since the court is
however obliged to make an order pertaining to care and contact that is in the best
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interests of the children, I am not bound by the parties’ “preferences” and, if
circumstances dictate the need to implement a shared residence regime in the best
interests of the children, in circumstances that allow therefore, such an order would
follow.
[8] During the hearing the plaintiff advanced the argument that the defendant’s proposed
relocation is entirely at her election and that the defendant is not considering the best
interests of the children in contemplating the relocation, but endeavouring to frustrate a
possible shared residency arrangement and alienate the children from the plaintiff. Such
a contention is unsupported if viewed from the perspective that plaintiff, in his summons,
claimed that the minor children’s primary place of residence should be with him, without
entertaining, even in the alternative, the possibility of a shared residence agreement. The
plaintiff’s claim that the minor children’s primary residency must vest with him was
reiterated during opening argument. Although the plaintiff testified during cross-
examination that the relief as claimed in the summons was directed at obtaining primary
residence of the minor children due to the fact that the defendant has threatened to take
the children to Germany even before the divorce was instituted, it is insightful to note that
the allegations made by the plaintiff in the summons, would, if substantiated, require any
court to seriously consider granting the sole residence of the minor children to the
plaintiff. The allegations are directed at the defendant’s ability and suitability to act as the
minor children’s caregiver. Allegations are, inter alia, made that the defendant is abusive,
aggressive, and emotionally unstable, that she neglected the interests of the minor
children, and through her behaviour placed the minor children at risk. The content of the
summons issued by the plaintiff does not support the contention that was raised during
his testimony that a shared residency regime is what he was seeking or that such a
shared residency regime would be in the best interests of the children.
[9] However, in the light of the contention that the defendant’s elected relocation is selfish
and occasioned in an effort to not only frustrate the contact between the plaintiff and the
children but also to alienate the plaintiff and the children, and specifically in light of the
fact that Dr Strous, the plaintiff’s main expert witness, said in no unclear terms that if the
defendant cared about the best interests of the children she would not even consider
relocation, it is imperative, at the outset, to contextualise the defendant’s request to be
allowed to relocate the children with her to Germany.
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[10] It is common cause that the defendant is a German citizen who is currently residing
in South Africa in terms of a relative’s visa (spouse). The defendant has been residing in
South Africa since 2009.2 The conditions of the current relative’s visa are that the
defendant must reside with SA citizen […] (the plaintiff), and she may not conduct work.
This visa expires on 3 February 2018.
[11] I am of the view that the defendant’s status as a foreigner, whose permission to
remain in the country is soon expiring, creates a unique context within which the question
of the children’s primary residence must be determined. When the defendant’s visa that
permits her to stay in the country expires, she is obliged to leave the country. Although it
has been canvassed by the plaintiff that there was (and is) an option open to the
defendant to obtain ministerial consent to remain in the country after the expiry of the
relative’s visa and the divorce, no proper case was made out in this regard:
[11.1] The defendant was asked in cross-examination whether she endeavoured
to obtain legal advice to prolong or secure her stay in South Africa. She testified that she
did not because she was advised by two separate professionals that there was no good
prospect of success because she does not have any special skills.3
[11.2] During closing argument plaintiff’s counsel argued that s 31(2)(b) of the
Immigration Act No. 13 of 2002 provides an option that could be utilised by the
defendant. (The applicability of s 31(2)(b) was canvassed to a certain extent during the
trial.)
[11.3] Although plaintiff’s counsel did not address me on s 27 of the Immigration
Act, neither referred to s 27 at any time during the trial, she also incorporated a copy of s
27 of the Act in the heads of argument. Section 27(g) provides that the Director-General
may, subject to any prescribed requirements, issue a permanent residence permit to a
foreigner of good and sound character who – is the relative of a citizen or permanent
resident within the first step of kinship.
[11.4] Counsel for the defendant did not address the applicability of s 27 of the
Immigration Act during oral argument or in his heads of argument. This failure is
2 See paragraph [14] below. 3 The defendant testified that she did not consult Mr. Chris Watters as proposed by plaintiff, inter alia, because she obtained her own independent advice.
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negligible in light of the fact that the applicability of s 27 was never canvassed during the
trial.
[11.5] During closing argument, defendant’s counsel addressed plaintiff’s
contention that s 31(2)(b) of the Immigration Act provides a viable option that the
defendant should have pursued. Counsel for the defendant argued that the plaintiff had
to prove the extent of available options by calling an expert witnesses if the plaintiff
wanted the court to consider this argument. He argued that the plaintiff’s submission
assumes the existence of special circumstances that are required for the application of s
31(2)(b) without having proved any. He also argued that it was premature to expect the
defendant to submit an application to the Minister in terms of s 31(2)(b) in view of the fact
that the plaintiff summarily requested that the primary residence of the minor children be
afforded to him when the summons was issued. The need to approach the Minister in
terms of s 31(2)(b), and subsequently the special circumstances required by the relevant
section, would only arise in the event of the court dismissing the defendant’s claim to
relocate with the children to Germany. Note should be taken of the fact that the
defendant did state under cross-examination that if the court do not authorise the
relocation of the children she can pursue s 31(2)(b) of the Immigration Act, although she
does not know whether it really provides a viable option.
[11.6] Defendant’s counsel drew the court’s attention to the cumulative effect of
the fact that the defendant was charged with, and finger printed for criminal charges laid
at the instance of the plaintiff. It was put to plaintiff during cross-examination that he was
aware of the fact that if the defendant was found guilty of a criminal charge, it is not a
foregone conclusion that she will be able to obtain any permission to stay in or visit the
country again. It was also argued that until all the criminal charges were withdrawn the
defendant would not be able to obtain any positive police clearance certificate, hence
another obstacle in obtaining permission to remain in the country. Despite an undertaking
to withdraw the most recent charge given by the plaintiff when he was under re-
examination on 15 November 2017, the plaintiff only submitted a withdrawal statement
on 13 December 2017 and the defendant is still required to appear in court on 18
January 2018.4
[11.7] Section 31(2)(b) provides an unqualified discretion to the Minister of Home
Affairs to, on application, grant a foreigner the rights of permanent residence for a
4 At the time of writing this judgment I was not privy to what happened on 18 January 2018 pertaining to the charges.
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specified or unspecified period when special circumstances exist which would justify such
a decision, on terms and conditions determined by him. I cannot predict whether the
Minister would have granted such an application if it was submitted. The pending criminal
charges in itself would, to put it mildly, complicate any application for permission to stay
in the country at this point in time. In addition the plaintiff gave evidence that the
defendant did work and earn an income in South-Africa for a period before her first son
was born. This, now documented, violation of the condition of her visa might likewise
prevent, or hamper the future acquisition of permission to visit or stay in the country.
[11.8] There is no basis in law on which I can forbid the defendant, a foreign
national whose permission to stay in the country is expiring within weeks, from leaving
South Africa. Neither can I intervene and authorise her continued stay in the country on
the facts before me. I must adjudicate the matter based on the current factual reality that
she is obliged to leave the country on 3 February 2018.
The factual matrix
[12] Plaintiff’s counsel contended that the historic position of the care of the children and
the attachment of the children to the parties prior to the plaintiff’s departure from the
former matrimonial home is irrelevant and unhelpful in this enquiry. I cannot agree with
such an approach. The defendant’s early conduct and her view that the plaintiff renewed
his bonds with the children after obtaining legal advice have to be evaluated within the
context created by the historic events.
[13] The reality of the parties’ relationship enfold in four distinct phases. This analysis is
based on the facts that I found to be common cause between the parties, or established
during evidence. In some instances the parties disagree on the interpretation to be
placed on the facts that I found to be undisputed. I only refer to facts that I regard as
relevant and central to the decision that needs to be made.
[14] The first phase of the parties’ relationship: The plaintiff and the defendant
commenced their relationship in 2002 in Germany. The plaintiff was pursuing a career in
professional football and the defendant was a graphic design student. In 2003 the plaintiff
returned to South Africa to pursue his football career with the soccer team Kaizer Chiefs
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of which his father was the founder. The parties sustained a long distance relationship.
The plaintiff visited Germany for short periods. To sustain the relationship the defendant
visited South Africa for substantially longer periods on a visitor’s visa. Although the
defendant successfully completed her graphic design studies in 2003 she completed only
a short internship thereafter. Due to the fact that the defendant was frequently absent
from Germany for substantial periods to spent time with the plaintiff in South Africa, she
was not able to secure any permanent employment in Germany. She was employed by
her father during the periods that she was in Germany. The parties’ relationship
continued on this basis until the parties broke up during 2008. They reconciled towards
the end of 2008 and decided that the defendant would move to South Africa to live with
the plaintiff on a more permanent basis.
[15] The second phase of the parties’ relationship: In 2009 the defendant acquired a
relative’s visa on the basis of her permanent relationship with the plaintiff. It was a
condition of the visa that she may not work while in South Africa. The defendant fell
pregnant unexpectedly but the pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. The parties planned
their next pregnancy and the parties’ son T. was born in June 2011. The plaintiff was
present at, and an involved parent after, T.’s birth. He assisted the defendant to the
extent that his professional football responsibilities allowed. The defendant exclusively
breastfed T..5 She took various courses including baby massage, baby exercise and
baby swimming courses. The defendant suffered postpartum depression6 and was
assisted during this period by both her mother and the plaintiff’s mother because the
plaintiff travelled frequently due to his professional football responsibilities. The parties
married in November 2011. The plaintiff’s mother was very involved in the parties’ lives.7
The plaintiff has a very close relationship with his mother. He testified that she played a
large role in his life, ‘and in my boys’ lives and our marriage and everything else’.8 The
evidence indicates that the plaintiff’s extended family has very strong familial relations.
5 She never used any formula to feed the baby. 6 Plaintiff’s counsel contended at one stage that a negative inference should be drawn pertaining to the defendant’s emotional state on the fact that she developed the depression while she was not subjected to stressful living conditions. It should be considered, however, that the evidence before the court, provided by the plaintiff, is that the defendant, was devastated after her miscarriage, and that she fell pregnant with T. not long thereafter. 7 The evidence indicate that the defendant’s mother also assisted the parties but the extent of her involvement was not a contentious aspect during the trial. 8 Transcript p 193 15-20.
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[16] The third phase of the parties’ relationship: The third period in the parties’
relationship commenced more or less after K., the parties’ youngest son’s conception
during the end of 2013. During this period the plaintiff terminated his football career and
became employed as an administrator at Kaizer Chiefs Football Club. He enrolled for a
BComm degree during this period (but abandoned his studies during April 2016). K. was
born in June 2014, and at that stage the marriage had already begun to deteriorate. The
plaintiff attributed the conflict, inter alia, to the fact that he had a significant reduction in
income and this frustrated the defendant. The defendant said that the plaintiff became
depressed when his football career ended. According to the defendant the plaintiff
assisted with T.’s care in the first weeks after K.’s birth. K. was also exclusively breastfed
and it is the defendant’s case that she is still breastfeeding him, a fact admitted by
plaintiff in his summons. This is also the time during which T.’s schoolteacher testifies
that she saw the plaintiff transporting T. to and from school for a short period. On
Christmas Day in 2015 the parties’ relationship finally shattered and in the following
months the plaintiff was frequently absent from the matrimonial home. It is evident from
both parties’ evidence that during the period that the plaintiff remained in the matrimonial
home there was discord and strife between them. The plaintiff instituted divorce
proceedings during May 2016 and left the matrimonial home in June 2016. During this
period of strife and conflict there was no court order regulating the contact between the
plaintiff and the minor children. Although both parties offer different reasons, it is
apparent that this was an exceptionally turbulent period. Even during the time before the
plaintiff moved out of the matrimonial home, his contact with the minor children was
irregular and unstructured. After he moved out the plaintiff often arrived without
announcement at the matrimonial home to enforce contact with the children, and
sometimes removed one or both of the children overnight from the matrimonial home
without making prior arrangements with the defendant. This is also the period during
which the plaintiff had to be rushed to hospital for an adverse reaction caused by drinking
cough medicine while consuming alcohol which, together with other pills she found, gave
rise to the defendant’s fear that the plaintiff is abusing prohibited substances.9 The
defendant’s conduct alternated between requesting the plaintiff to keep his agreed
contact arrangements so as not to disappoint T., requesting the plaintiff to agree to
9 Except for admitting that there was an instance that both parties used illegal substances, the plaintiff denied that he engaged in substance abuse or need therapy in this regard. The defendant persisted in her view that this was a concern to her. This is not a factor that I considered in coming to my conclusion since there was no conclusive evidence in this regard before me.
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structured telephonic contact, and endeavouring to restrict the plaintiff‘s contact at times
when she opined that he was not entitled to it.10 The acrimony during this period was
immense and the bulk of the mutual accusations of abuse originated from this period.11
[17] The fourth phase of the parties’ relationship: The fourth phase of the parties’
relationship can be described as the structured phase. As court orders were obtained to
structure the mid-divorce care and contact regime, the frequency of contact was
regulated. Although the court orders provided more structure it did not alleviate all the
tension. The handing over of the children remained stressful and often resulted in conflict
situations and sometimes a literal tug-of-war over (and with) the minor child, K.. During
this phase the parties excessively video-recorded their engagements with each other.
The evidence indicates that go-pros (video-recording devices) and cell-phones were
readily available and frequently used. The defendant testified that the plaintiff excessively
started to video record each interaction between himself and the children since the
inception of the litigation, to the extent that the minor children would become frustrated
with the recording device being in their faces. It was her case, and was argued in closing,
that the plaintiff suddenly wanted to create proof that he was an involved parent.
Examples that the defendant gave was that when she was feeding the young child
plaintiff would take the spoon from the hand and feed the child (while recording it),
similarly when she bathed the children the plaintiff would shove her aside, take the
washing cloth and video tape his actions. The plaintiff did not address this perspective on
his conduct when the defendant was cross-examined. His evidence-in-chief was however
that he was obliged to start video recording all his interactions with the defendant to
protect himself against allegations that he acted aggressively towards her, when he
collected the children. Several video recordings were presented as evidence. The videos
10 Her evidence indicates that she, inter alia, considered the children too young to be sleeping away from her and she objected to the disruption of pre-planned schedules. 11 Although there are mutual accusations of physical abuse the evidence lead during the trial indicates only one instance where the defendant grabbed the back of the plaintiff’s shirt in an attempt to prevent him from taking the minor child T. to school. This is the only evidence led of an incident in which the plaintiff felt that the defendant physically abused him. The defendant however testified of numerous occasions where she has been bumped, kicked on the shin, and elbowed. From the evidence it is probable that some of these instances of manhandling occurred because the defendant tried to prevent the plaintiff from removing a child from the matrimonial home at whim without prior arrangement. The defendant however also testified of another instance where she was abused where a family member intervened and it was not stated to her during cross-examination that the allegations of continued abuse or manhandling were fabrications on her part.
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do not take the matter any further save to emphasise the extent of the extreme acrimony
between the parties and the detrimental effect thereof on the children.12
[18] It is evident that the parties were, and are, not able to sort out their differences in a
civilised manner. Their relationship is extremely acrimonious and there is evidence that
this relationship is still deteriorating. The nature and extent of the litigation reflect a sorry
state of affairs, particularly for the two children involved, and both the expert witnesses
testified that the children are extremely negatively affected by the acrimony and strife.
[19] After hearing and observing the parties, I am left with no doubt that since the
breakdown of the relationship both parties, to a lesser or greater extent, at times,
behaved in an extremely immature and inappropriate manner. Both wanted things to
happen “their way”.
[20] However, both the plaintiff and the defendant love their children and neither can
reconcile themselves with the idea of not being actively involved in their children’s lives.
[21] Both parties are convinced that the other party wants to minimise their involvement
in the children’s lives to the extent of cutting them out completely. During the trial
allegations of alienation were made by both the plaintiff and the defendant. Both parties
fear that they will not be allowed to play a continued role in the children’s lives.13
[22] I am not convinced that any of the parties can be found to be an unfit parent. None of
the evidence presented in this trial supports such a finding. I record this finding because,
although counsel for the plaintiff stated in the heads of argument submitted on plaintiff’s
behalf that the ‘court is respectfully cautioned that the test to be applied in relation to the
relocation of the children is NOT: Is there any reason to remove the children from the
care of Cathrin (the defendant)’, it is evident from the allegations made in the summons
12 The recorder of the video would have been in the position to manipulate his or her own conduct because he or she was aware of the fact that an incident was being recorded. 13 I noted both parties’ fear that the other party would through their contacts be able to prevent the other party to enter Germany or South Africa in future, although neither party placed conclusive evidence of the prospects of this actually happening before me.
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that the defendant’s ability and suitability as caregiver were regarded to be contentious
aspects. The plaintiff’s approach necessitated the leading of evidence by Dr. David Benn,
a psychiatrist, on defendant’s behalf.
[23] The post-divorce contact and care regime needs to be considered against the
backdrop of all the evidence led in the case. The perspective provided by the expert
witnesses’ shared opinion, as contained in the joint minute and supplemented by oral
evidence, is that:
Both children view the plaintiff and the defendant as being an integral part of their
lives – they recognize that both connect with them, love them, and provide for
them. This emotional bond developed between the parents and children as a
result of a shared daily life;
It could not be determined whether the children are more attached to the plaintiff
than to the defendant;
Both parties have the capacity to provide for the children’s needs;
The children need both parents to provide for their emotional, intellectual and
physical needs;
The children should not be separated from each other;
Both the plaintiff and the defendant are equally contributing to the upholding of the
dysfunctional dynamics;
T. (the eldest child) is emotionally distressed, and he struggles to adapt to new
circumstances;
The children will experience tremendous loss and possibly, unconscious guilt,
being separated from either parent.
Burden of proof
[24] This court sits as the upper guardian of all minors within its jurisdiction. The
discretion that is to be exercised when decisions pertaining to the best interests of
children are to be made is unique, and not to be circumscribed in the narrow or strict
sense of the word as it is explained in Bezuidenhout v Bezuidenhout 2005 (2) 187 (SCA)
para 17. Satchwell J stated in LW v DB 2015 JDR 2617 (GJ) para 5 that the discretion to
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decide whether or not a child can accompany a parent who leaves the jurisdiction of the
court, requires no onus in the conventional sense. This approach is in line with the
principle set out by the Supreme Court of Appeal in Jackson v Jackson 2002 (2) SA 303
(SCA) para 5 that where the interests of minor children are involved, the litigation
amounts to a judicial investigation of what is in their best interests. The court is not bound
by the contentions of the parties. That slavish adherence to technical procedural
requirements might result in a court not being able to decide an issue in the best interests
of a child, has been recognised in the unreported judgment of Matojane J in DJB v MDP
case number 30377/2008 decided in 2010 in the North Gauteng High Court, Pretoria,
para 12. Here, the court held that the most important consideration in the case is the
physical, psychological and emotional well-being of the minor child under the
circumstances, and that technical procedural objections might shift the focus and
undermine efforts to determine the best interests of the child.14
[25] This investigation involves an application of law to the facts. This in turn, requires a
holistic, case-specific analyses. The court must, in the words of Murphy J in Cunningham
v Pretorius,15 acquire ‘an overall impression and brings a fair mind to the facts set up by
the parties. The relevant facts, opinions and circumstances must be assessed in a
balanced fashion and the Court must render a finding of mixed fact and opinion, in the
final analysis a structured value judgment, about what it considers will be in the best
interests of the minor child.’
[26] It is a pity that the parties in this matter were not guided to solve their disputes in a
way other than through adversarial litigation. Since the issue of the summons in May
2016, the conflict between the parties, and the acrimony and animosity have only been
fuelled by the legal process. Plaintiff’s counsel indicated that there were 9 interlocutory
applications since the inception of the action. That is not taking into account the criminal
charges brought by and against both parties. The minor children were subjected to at
least 6 different assessments by 6 different professionals. (In fairness it must be stated
that the 6th professional was the Family Councillor and it was scheduled on my request).
If it is then considered that evidence has been put before the court that the plaintiff’s
14 See also inter alia Shawin v Laufer 1968 (4) SA 657 (A) at 662 G- 663C; B v S 1995 (3) SA 571 (A); T v M 1997 (1) SA 54 (A). 15 (31187/08) [2008] ZAGPGC 258 (21 August 2008) para [9].
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account for legal fees and disbursements exceeds R 6 million (and I have no doubt that
the defendant’s legal account has also reached astronomic proportions), the question
arises as to whom are the beneficiaries of this litigation. It is definitely not the children.
[27] Murphy J stated in Cunningham v Pretorius, supra, that when disputes affecting
children are adjudicated, motion proceedings should normally be regarded as the
preferred route. He then stated at p6 of the judgment ‘Furthermore, the points of
contention that inevitably arise in applications of this kind tend in the main to concern the
inferences which might legitimately be drawn from undisputed facts or are merely
disagreements about the construction or interpretation to be placed upon undisputed
facts.’ After listening to 9 witnesses over 14 days I fully agree with the learned judge.
[28] Both parties were present in court throughout the trial lasting 14 days. A benefit
flowing from listening to oral evidence, was that I was able to observe the parties. I am
not making any adverse credibility finding pertaining to any of the witnesses, but I need to
comment on the impression that the defendant, as a witness, left with me. I deem this
necessary in light of the allegations that the defendant is emotionally unstable and not
considering the best interests of the minor children. I would not have been able to form
an opinion about her without having the benefit of observing her as a witness, and that
would have been detrimental not only herself, but also the minor children.
[29] I did not perceive the defendant to be any more anxious as a witness, than I
perceived the plaintiff to be. The defendant was definitely emotionally invested in the
case, but the only time that her emotions got the better of her was when she testified
about the effect of the acrimony between the parties on specifically their eldest son, T..
The defendant’s demeanour, particularly under cross-examination, impressed me. She
was subjected to extensive and vigorous cross-examination. What is described by Ms.
De Wet in her heads of argument as a “smug” reaction when the defendant stated ‘I
actually couldn’t wait to give an answer to that’ before engaging in answering a question
put to her, was perceived by me as relief, having regard to the history of the matter to
relate her version on the specific occurrence in question. Ms. De Wet further argues that
the defendant was evasive and that she rambled on. I am mindful that if a witness does
not answer a question to the satisfaction of counsel who put such question this does not
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necessarily warrants the inference that the witness is being evasive. During cross-
examination the defendant was on numerous occasions confronted with open-ended
questions which invited a detailed explanation. Having regard to her evidence as a whole
I do not agree with the submission as put forward by plaintiff’s counsel.
The best interests of the child
[30] The issues of care and contact and relocation after divorce rarely fail to provoke
conflicting emotions and are never easily resolved. Analogous to what was stated by
Rumpff JA in Shawzin v Laufer 1968 (4) SA 657 (A) 662 G-I, it must be stated that the
duty of a court, sitting as upper-guardian of minor children, when it has to resolve a
dispute concerning contact, whether in a primary residence or shared residence
paradigm, is dealing with a somewhat singular subject in which there is substantially one
norm to be applied, namely the best interests of the child. In 1968 Rumpff JA
substantiated his view by referring, inter alia, to the fact that an order as to custody and
access may be varied at any time by the court for good cause, and the unique procedural
regulation of disputes of this nature. Today the Constitution entrenches the child’s best
interests as of paramount importance in every matter concerning the child.16 This
constitutional principle is repeated in section 9 of the Children’s Act.
[31] Section 28(2) of the Constitution has been held to create an ‘expansive guarantee’
and constitute, not only a guiding principle, but also a right.17 It also provides the
standard against which every decision that impacts on a child must be measured.
[32] In section 7 of the Children’s Act, the legislature provides a list of factors that courts
must take into consideration when determining what is in the best interests of the child.
[33] This constitutional and legislative standard needs to be determined on a case by
case basis taking into account the specific context and facts of the dispute before the
Court.18
16 Section 28(2) of the Constitution, 1996. 17 S v M (Centre for Child Law as Amicus Curiae) 2008 (3) SA 232 (CC) para [22].
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[34] In an effort to provide substance to the concept ‘best interests of the child’, the
question can be asked, why do we, as a society, propose to safeguard the best interests
of our children? The preamble of the Children’s Act guides towards an answer. The best
interests of the child is to be pursued, not only because children constitute a vulnerable
group who are entitled to special care and assistance, but because the ‘protection of
children’s rights leads to a corresponding improvement in the lives of other sections of
the community because it is neither desirable nor possible to protect children’s rights in
isolation from their families and communities’ and because children must be afforded the
necessary protection and assistance to enable them to assume their responsibilities
within the community. Children must thus be protected and assisted to facilitate the ‘full
and harmonious development’ of their personalities and to grow up in a family
environment and in an atmosphere of ‘happiness, love and understanding’. The
constitutional right of a child that his or best interests are of paramount importance in
every matter concerning the child, will thus be applied in the context of the specific matter
at hand. The determination of the best interests of a pregnant minor who is considering
the termination of the pregnancy will be substantially different from determining the best
interests of a child whose parents are getting divorced when the issues to be determined
revolve around care and contact and relocation. In divorce situations and when
determining issues of care and contact, courts need to decide what would in the long run
most likely facilitate the child’s development into a well-balanced individual and
responsible adult who will be able to take responsibility for herself or himself and
contribute positively to the community.
[35] Sachs J provided invaluable guidance when he explained in S v M:19
A more difficult problem is to establish an appropriate operational thrust for the
paramountcy principle. The word 'paramount' is emphatic. Coupled with the
far-reaching phrase 'in every matter concerning the child', and taken literally, it
would cover virtually all laws and all forms of public action, since very few
measures would not have a direct or indirect impact on children, and thereby
18 Minister of Welfare and Population Development v Fitzpatrick and Others 2000 (3) SA 422 (CC) at para [18]; Jackson v Jackson 2002 (2) SA 303 (SCA) 318H. 19 Note 17, supra, para [25].
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concern them. Similarly, a vast range of private actions will have some
consequences for children. This cannot mean that the direct or indirect impact
of a measure or action on children must in all cases oust or override all other
considerations. If the paramountcy principle is spread too thin it risks being
transformed from an effective instrument of child protection into an empty
rhetorical phrase of weak application, thereby defeating rather than promoting
the objective of s 28(2). The problem, then, is how to apply the paramountcy
principle in a meaningful way without unduly obliterating other valuable and
constitutionally protected interests.
[36] In S v M, above, the question revolved around the proper approach that was to be
followed where a convicted person, who was also the primary caregiver of minor children,
had to be sentenced. The question essentially was whether section 28(2) would preclude
the incarceration of the primary caregiver of minor children because such incarceration
would impact negatively on the minor children. The Constitutional Court held at
paragraph [35]:
Thus, it is not the sentencing of the primary caregiver in and of itself that
threatens to violate the interests of the children. It is the imposition of the
sentence without paying appropriate attention to the need to have special
regard for the children's interests that threatens to do so.
[37] When this principle is adapted to apply in divorce proceedings where family units are
fractured and divided due to the mere nature of the proceedings, it would thus be
incorrect to hold that because it is in the best interests of a child to maintain the integrity
of family care that the parents are precluded from obtaining a divorce. Divorce by its very
nature raptures the unified familial relationship wherein a child finds himself. This is why
the legislative principle is set that a divorce may only be granted when a court is satisfied
that the arrangements made or contemplated for the welfare of any minor child are
satisfactory or the best that can be achieved in the circumstances.20 It would likewise be
incorrect to categorically hold that because it is generally in the best interests of a child to
form a physical bond with, and experience the love, affection and care of both parents,
20 S 6(1) of the Divorce Act, 70 of 1979; R and Another v M 2016 (3) SA 417 (GJ) paras [16], [18], [28].
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that a parent who intends to relocate with the children to a different town, or country, is
precluded from relocating. Analogous to S v M it can be stated that it is the granting or
dismissing of a request to relocate without paying appropriate attention to the need to
have special regard to all the affected children’s interests in the circumstances of the
case, that threatens to violate the interests of each affected child.21
Section 7 of the Children’s Act
[38] Since each child’s best interests are of paramount importance when the issue of
prime residence in the context of possible simultaneous relocation is decided, it is
necessary to consider all the factors set out in section 7 of The Children’s Act.
[39] Section 7 of the Children’s Act stipulates - Best interests of child standard.—(1)
Whenever a provision of this Act requires the best interests of the child standard to be
applied, the following factors must be taken into consideration where relevant, namely—
(a) the nature of the personal relationship between—
(i) the child and the parents, or any specific parent; and
(ii) the child and any other care-giver or person relevant in those
circumstances;
(b) the attitude of the parents, or any specific parent, towards—
(i) the child; and
(ii) the exercise of parental responsibilities and rights in respect of the
child;
(c) the capacity of the parents, or any specific parent, or of any other care-giver
or person, to provide for the needs of the child, including emotional and
intellectual needs;
(d) the likely effect on the child of any change in the child’s circumstances,
including the likely effect on the child of any separation from—
(i) both or either of the parents; or
21 See also Jooste v Botha 2000 (2) SA 199 (T) 210C-E.
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(ii) any brother or sister or other child, or any other care-giver or person, with
whom the child has been living;
(e) the practical difficulty and expense of a child having contact with the parents,
or any specific parent, and whether that difficulty or expense will
substantially affect the child’s right to maintain personal relations and direct
contact with the parents, or any specific parent, on a regular basis;
(f) the need for the child—
(i) to remain in the care of his or her parent, family and extended family;
and
(ii) to maintain a connection with his or her family, extended family,
culture or tradition;
(g) the child’s—
(i) age, maturity and stage of development;
(ii) gender;
(iii) background; and
(iv) any other relevant characteristics of the child;
(h) the child’s physical and emotional security and his or her intellectual,
emotional, social and cultural development;
(i) any disability that a child may have;
(j) any chronic illness from which a child may suffer;
(k) the need for a child to be brought up within a stable family environment and,
where this is not possible, in an environment resembling as closely as
possible a caring family environment;
(l) the need to protect the child from any physical or psychological harm that
may be caused by—
(i) subjecting the child to maltreatment, abuse, neglect, exploitation or
degradation or exposing the child to violence or exploitation or other harmful
behaviour; or
(ii) exposing the child to maltreatment, abuse, degradation, ill-treatment,
violence or harmful behaviour towards another person;
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(m) any family violence involving the child or a family member of the child; and
(n) which action or decision would avoid or minimise further legal or
administrative proceedings in relation to the child.
[40] The post-divorce contact and care regime needs to be determined with the best
interests of the children at heart within the context that, due to the facts of this case,
the children are going to be deprived of the presence of one of their parents
irrespective of the order that I make. As stated above, I am not in a position to
assume prima facie that the defendant will be able to obtain permission to remain in
the country after the expiry of her current visa. As is indicated below, even if it could
be accepted that the defendant would as a fact be able to obtain permission to
remain in the country, I do not accept that the defendant’s decision to relocate is
unreasonable or mala fide. Although this is not the only factor that I take into
consideration in coming to a decision, the reasonableness and bona fides of the
defendant are factors that are taken into consideration when relocation disputes are
adjudicated.
Relocation
[41] It is undisputable that relocation ‘involves the continuing fragmentation of the original
family unit with the associated distress of parents and children separated from each other
and from familiar environments’22
[42] Boyd23 and Boshier24 correctly stated that ‘[r]elocation disputes are the most difficult
to adjudicate as they usually involve two competent and committed parents, one with
sound reasons for wishing to relocate, the other with equally valid reasons for resisting
the application’. However, in this regard the words of King J in McCall v McCall25 are very
apt:
22 LW v DM, supra, para [17]. 23 Boyd MT The determinant’s of the child’s best interests in relocation disputes, 2015, Mini-thesis submitted in partial fulfilment of the requirements for the degree LLM in Children’s Rights, University of the Western Cape, 31. 24 Boshier P ‘Have the Judges been missing the point and allowing relocation too readily?’ (2010) 1.2 Journal of Family Law and Practice, 10. 25 1994 (3) SA 201 (CPD).
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In view of the unremitting enmity between the parties, it is as well to remind
them that the Court is determining what is in the best interests of their child.
The Court is not adjudicating a dispute between antagonists with conflicting
interests in order to resolve their discordance. The Court’s concern is for the
child.
This does not however mean that the parents’ interests are to be completely disregarded.
The best interests of the children might be paramount, but they are not the sole factors to
be considered.26
[43] When relocation disputes are adjudicated within the child’s best interests’ paradigm
and the standard set in section 7 of the Children’s Act, guidance is provided by principles
extracted from other decisions. As Satchwell J stated in LW v DB, supra para [17] – ‘It is
not difficult to extract guidance from earlier decisions. It is trite that all cases must be
decided on their own facts. This renders the principles developed eminently flexible and
capable of adaptation to varying circumstances.’
[44] In deciding this case within the stated constitutional matrix, I rely on the guidance
provided by case law while considering all the factors set out in section 7 of the
Children’s Act. The fact that a specific factor listed in section 7 is not specifically
addressed below, does not mean that it has not been considered. I focus the reason for
the order that I make on the importance of these factors in light of the facts of this case
as supported by the evidence.
Trauma
[45] Given the acrimony between the parties, common sense dictates (and is supported
by the expert evidence) that the children have already been severely traumatised. There
is no guarantee that, even if the parties remain in close proximity, the acrimony will
subside. On the probabilities the acrimony between the parties will not subside
irrespective of the order granted by this court. Fortunately children are resilient. T. and K.
are still young and can benefit from therapeutic input. A divorce in itself is traumatic. The
court cannot protect the children from all possible future trauma, however, the court can
26 LW v DB, supra, paras [63]-[83].
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minimise the risk by identifying the least detrimental alternative. In the circumstances of
this case the children will have to cope with not being with the defendant, or with not
being with the plaintiff, and I need to determine which would be the least detrimental and
therefore in the best interests of the children in the circumstances.27
Defendant’s motive to relocate
[46] It has been stated in numerous cases that the motive of the primary caregiver to
relocate is an important factor to be taken into account in determining the best interests
of the child in proceedings of this nature. It is similarly important to consider the motive
for relocation where the issues of primary residence of minor children and relocation are
intertwined. Although a bona fide and reasonable motive in itself is not enough to
substantiate relocation, it is an important factor.28
[46.1] The evidence does not indicate that the defendant’s desire to relocate, even
if assessed independently from the factual reality that she is not currently permitted to
remain in the country post 3 February 2018, is mala fide and unreasonable, or motivated
to spite or frustrate the plaintiff’s right of access to, and contact with his children.
[46.2] The factual reality is that the defendant decided to come to South Africa for
the sole purpose of building a life with the plaintiff. Her life in South Africa was completely
intertwined with his – she was wholly dependent on him for her financial wellbeing due to
the fact that her visa prohibits her from working. In South Africa the defendant was
introduced to a life of wealth and excess. She knew nobody else in the country and she
was received (and according to plaintiff’s evidence embraced) by his close-knit extended
family. The defendant was afforded the opportunity to keep in contact with her family in
Germany by being provided with the opportunity to visit them frequently.
[46.3] After the breakdown of the parties’ marriage, the defendant’s relationship
with her in-laws slowly started to deteriorate to the extent that both parties’ evidence
undeniably show that the defendant and the plaintiff’s family are clearly in two hostile
camps. She testified that the acrimony between her and the plaintiff’s mother is even
27 Potgieter v Potgieter [2007] JOL 19597 (SCA). 28 GCH v GNB (35322/2012) [2012] ZAGPHC 218 para [26]; F v F, supra, para [13]; Jackson v Jackson 2002 (2) SA 303 (SCA) 318F; B v M 2006 (9) BCLR 1034 (W) para [41]; Godbeer v Godbeer 2000 (3) SA 976 WLD 981I-982C – ‘The applicant must now fend for herself in the world and must perforce have the freedom to make such choices as she considers best for her and her family.’
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greater that the acrimony between her and the plaintiff, and the plaintiff did not attempt to
refute this.
[46.4] Although the defendant was enabled to visit her family in Germany on a
regular basis before the marriage broke down, she was only able to visit them once since
K., the parties’ youngest child’s birth. Although it is not totally clear how it came about,
evidence was lead that the parties agreed that the minor children’s passports should be
held by an independent attorney and that the defendant would not be allowed to travel to
Germany to visit her family with the children. This, despite the fact that she visited her
family in Germany with the children after K.’s birth and returned to South Africa during a
period when the marriage was already unstable.
[46.5] Although the plaintiff was well aware of the fact that the defendant was
prohibited from working in South-Africa, he did not attempt to ensure that she is
financially cared for to the same extent that he cared for her when the marriage was
happy, and even to an extent that accorded with his own living standard post leaving the
matrimonial home. The plaintiff provided the court with evidence that his own financial
circumstances changed and that he therefore could not keep up the living standard that
the parties enjoyed when the defendant decided to come to South Africa. Although this
claim is supported by the evidence he tendered, the evidence also indicated that he, at
times, received financial support from his mother. The plaintiff also, at least at one
occasion, bought an expensive gift for a girlfriend and then claims that he does not have
sufficient funds to pay more maintenance. The plaintiff urged the defendant to move to
more affordable accommodation where rental would not exceed R12 000 per month
while he lived in a luxurious home provided for by his father. The defendant’s undisputed
evidence is that the plaintiff cancelled the DSTV account, and that she needed to ask the
plaintiff for money for personal expenses like paying a hairdresser, and had to borrow
money to repair the washing machine.
[46.6] In the circumstances as set out above, I do not find the defendant’s desire to
relocate to her country of origin where she can earn an income while working for her
father, and being supported by her own family to be unreasonable or mala fide. Indeed, it
is fully justified.
[46.7] The plaintiff’s evidence pertaining to his life in Germany is testimony to the
fact that it is not easy to live in a foreign environment. He testified that he found it difficult
to live in a country where his mother tongue (English) is not spoken, although he could
communicate in German. When explaining his decision to return to South Africa, he
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refers to factors like ‘my roots, my life, my culture, my capability, my qualifications’ and
the fact that he would not be able to obtain employment in Germany. His evidence in this
regard, ironically, supports a finding that the defendant’s decision to relocate is
reasonable and bona fide.
Living conditions in Germany
[47] The next question to decide is whether the defendant would be able to provide a
suitable home for the children if she is allowed to relocate to Germany. She plans to
settle in Buchbach.
[48] It is evident from the facts before me, that the defendant will be reliant on
maintenance paid by the plaintiff to her and to the minor children, whether she stays in
South Africa or whether she relocates. Regardless of where she finds herself and despite
only being 36 years old, the defendant needs to refresh or supplement her qualifications
before she will be able earn a salary on which she will be able to maintain herself and
contribute to the maintenance of the children. The defendant is currently not in a position
to earn any income in South Africa. In Germany she will be able to work part-time for her
father and earn E1300 per month. Once employed she will receive medical benefits for
herself and the children. She will be able to apply for a government grant to assist with
the maintenance of the children once she is in Germany. Except for some
disbursements, schooling is free in Germany.
[49] Although the defendant does not know how her career path will evolve in Germany, it
is evident from the information above that she properly planed, and thought practically
about the proposed relocation.
[50] During his evidence-in-chief plaintiff stated that he does not regard the
circumstances where the defendant wants to settle to be appropriate. He stated that he
visited the area regularly when he was in Germany and that the people there are not
used to seeing black people. His children will have difficulty to blend in and become part
of the community. He also hinted vaguely that defendant’s brothers in law might make
themselves guilty of substance abuse. He informed the court that the defendant told him
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that her father abused her mother. He expressed the fear that there is a rise in right-wing
Nazi activities in Germany. He said that gypsies frequented the area and camp on her
father’s holiday resort where the defendant planned to settle. He knew nothing about the
schools the defendant proposed to send the children to.
[51] After the trial commenced, and during the first adjournment, Dr. Kruger, the expert
witness who testified on behalf of the defendant, visited Buchbach. Because she is not
conversant in German, she was assisted by a Mr. Nedal Zaobi, an English-speaking
German psychologist who assisted her with translations and interpretations. He also
assessed some of the defendant’s extended family members in Dr. Kruger’s presence. I
accepted Mr Zaobi’s own assessment report, which was attached to Dr. Krugers’s
second addendum, into evidence although Mr Zaobi would not testify in court. I attach the
same value to his report that I attach to the other collateral sources used and referred to
by the expert witnesses. Due to the fact that Dr. Kruger provided evidence acquired by
herself when she visited Buchbach, I am of the view that her evidence in this regard was
helpful in providing an objective view pertaining to the environment that the defendant
plans to settle the children if she is allowed to relocate with them.
[52] Interviews were conducted in Buchbach with the defendant’s father, his life partner,
sisters, and their children. Dr. Kruger interacted with the defendant’s extended family
during the visit, she observed the houses, the immediate living environment, the town
and the kindergarten. She met with the headmasters of the primary school and the
Kinderhaus. After hearing her evidence and scrutinising her report, I accept that the
environment that exists in Buchbach is a favourable environment and that it if the
environment alone is considered (without considering that the children will have to adapt
to a new environment, without considering the loss of existing friends and family, without
considering the trauma associated with being separated from the plaintiff), it will not be to
the detriment of the children to settle in Buchbach. This evidence counteracts the
speculative fears of the plaintiff.
[53] Dr Kruger reported that she questioned the defendant’s family members about their
feelings toward the plaintiff. Although they stated that they were angry with him for what
is happening in South-Africa and that the defendant and children cannot visit them, all of
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them indicated that if the defendant relocates with the children they will assist the plaintiff
with accommodation and transport when he visits. I accept that this is uncorroborated
hearsay evidence, but I take into account Dr. Kruger’s field of expertise and I am
convinced that she would have reported if the family members showed only a negative
attitude towards the plaintiff.
[54] It is undeniable that the children will not live in Buchbach in the same luxurious
circumstances that they are used to when they are staying at the plaintiff’s house.
However, I consider that any affluence to which the children are treated to in South Africa
is restricted to their relationship with the plaintiff. Due to the defendant’s financial reliance
on the plaintiff, and the fact that she is not provided with maintenance to allow her to live
according to the living standard that the plaintiff enjoys (the cash component of her
maintenance was reduced to R10 000 in November 2017), linked to the fact that she
cannot work while in South Africa, she is, while in South Africa, not able to provide a
living environment that compares financially with that of the plaintiff. I also consider that it
has been held in Shawin v Laufer, supra, 669A, that to be able to live in affluence is not
necessarily of educative value to children; their education and happiness in their
formative years depend, or should depend on other things in life.
[55] When parties in a bi-national relationship procreate, the children that are born from
this union have an interest in finding their roots in both cultures. To date the children’s
German heritage was underplayed. The plaintiff did not allow the children to attend the
German school. Since the break in their relationship he insisted that the defendant left
the children’s passports with an independent attorney and thus prevented any contact
between the children and their extended family in Germany, despite evidence that a bond
existed with the eldest child and the family in Germany (the youngest being too young to
recall his previous visit). In doing this the plaintiff prevented a healthy bond to develop
between the children and their extended family in Germany and undermined the
children’s right to cultural development. (If the plaintiff was afraid that the defendant
would abscond with the children to Germany it is catered for and countered by South
Africa and Germany being signatories to the Hague Convention, a fact of which his legal
representatives surely would have had knowledge, and the fact that the defendant
returned from a visit when the marriage was already unstable.)
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[56] The children communicate with the defendant and maternal grandmother in German
and the evidence before me is that the children can communicate effectively in German -
T. is fluent in German and K. can converse with ease. I take into consideration that there
might be a period in which the children will have to adapt to the German environment, but
I also take into consideration that children generally have a cunning language ability. No
evidence was placed before me indicating that the German language in itself will be a
barrier that I have to consider, except for the fact that Dr. Strous questioned whether T.
would easily adapt to schooling in Germany. Dr. Kruger, testified that T.’s Global IQ
scores falls in the above average range. His Verbal and Performance Scales are in the
Superior range. She opined that a transition period in kindergarten (Gr. 0) will assist T. to
adapt to the German school environment.
[57] Since T. would be attending the German equivalent of Gr. 0 in kindergarten for a few
months before the school year commence, if relocation is permitted, I am satisfied that
his educational needs will be catered for.
[58] The defendant testified that even if T.’s school career would be delayed for a year,
the sacrifice will be worth the while for the emotional security and stability that the
relocation will bring to him.
[59] The defendant herself will be in a safe environment if she relocates and if the
children are with her in Germany, she will be able to provide the necessary emotional
support to them to assist them with the transition. She will be assisted not only by her
extended family but her own mother whom the children knows and are comfortable with.
In light of the above, it needs to be decided whether it is in the children’s best interests to
accompany the defendant to Germany or to stay in South Africa with the plaintiff.
Considering the defendant’s role
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[60] Plaintiff’s counsel urged the court from the opening address, to the closing, to be
very careful not to be guided by the so-called ‘maternal preference rule’ when a decision
is made as to the primary residence (or contact and care regime) of the minor children.
Since counsel ‘accused’ the defendant’s main expert witness, Dr. Kruger, as well as the
Family Advocate and Family Councillor, all witnesses who testified that it would be in the
best interests of the minor children to relocate with the defendant to Germany, of unduly
applying the maternal preference rule, it is necessary to address this issue.
[61] The essence of the maternal preference rule can hardly be described better than by
quoting a passage from Myers v Leviton 1949 (1) SA 203 (T) 214 where the learned
Judge stated – ‘There is no person whose presence and natural affection can give a child
the sense of security and comfort that a child derives from his own mother - an important
factor in the normal psychological development of a healthy child.’
[62] I am well aware that when the post-divorce contact and care regime that is in the
affected children’s best interests need to be determined in 2018, the appropriate care
and contact regime needs to be founded on the facts and circumstances of the case, and
not on ‘generalisations such as the ‘tender age’ doctrine (maternal preference rule) or the
principle of ‘preserving the status quo’.29 It is however not the promulgation of the
Children’s Act per se that facilitated the development of this line of thought. In Van Der
Linde v Van Der Linde 1996 (3) SA 509 (O) 515B-C it was held that the concept of
mothering is indicative of a function rather than a persona. It includes the sensitive
attachment which flows from the attention devoted from day to day to the child’s need of
love, physical care, nutrition, comfort, peace, security, encouragement and support.30
The court held in V v V 1998 (4) SA 169 (C) 176F-G by Foxcroft J: ‘The old position
where the custody of young children was invariably granted to mothers has changed. As
far as young children are concerned, the pendulum has swung to accommodate the
possibility of a father being a suitable custodian parent to young children. The evidence
in this case amply demonstrates that plaintiff was a highly suitable father …’.
29 Baloyi v Baloyi (6208/2014) [2015] ZAGPPHC 728 (16 October 2015). 30 This view was reiterated in Van Pletzen v Van Pletzen 1998 (4) SA 95 (O) at 101 B-D/E when the court held that mothering is not only a component of a woman’s being, but is also part of a man’s being, and that a father, depending on the circumstances, possesses the capacity and capability to exercise custody over a child as well as a mother
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[63] This line of case law supports the principle that the quality of parenting is not
determined by gender. It is not the gender of a particular parent that entails him or her to
be considered the primary caregiver of a child, but, as is evidenced in the courts’
reasoning and rulings in the cases referred to, the factual circumstances of each case.
[64] This development, however, does not mean that maternity should never and to no
degree ever be considered as a factor. Willis J explained in Ex parte Critchfield and
Another 1999 (3) SA 132 (W) 143A-E that is does not amount to unfair discrimination to
have regard to maternity in a determination pertaining to the custody of young children.
Courts must however not place undue weight upon this factor and maternity can never be
the only consideration of importance in determining custody of young children.
[65] The evidence shows that the defendant is devoted to the children. Despite the
allegations made in the summons that ‘the defendant frequently absented herself from
the home for extended period of times and abandons the minor children in the care of the
domestic staff or third parties’, and that the ‘defendant is not a fit and proper person to be
the primary care-giver of the minor children or to provide their primary place of
residence’, not one iota of evidence has been lead to support these contentions. In fact, a
whatsapp message was discovered by the defendant that was sent by the plaintiff to the
defendant in which he praises her for being ‘the best mommy’. It, however, shows the
lengths to which the plaintiff will go in order to attempt to unjustifiably discredit the
defendant to suit his own purposes. The evidence also shows that the defendant was,
since the children’s births, the continuous presence in their lives.
[66] The plaintiff did endeavour to prove that the defendant’s anxiety is excessive, rubs
off on the children, and should preclude her being afforded the primary residence of the
children since she may also be anxious in other situations in life. None of the experts who
testified in this hearing said that the defendants’ anxiety, even extreme anxiety, causes
her to be an unfit mother. Although Dr Strous, who testified as the plaintiff’s expert
witness, hinted that the defendant may show signs of a paranoid personality disorder,
this finding was refuted by Dr. Benn, a psychiatrist, who testified at the defendant’s
behest. Both Dr. Kruger, and Dr Benn attributed the defendant’s anxiety to the
circumstances within which she currently finds herself – to wit being embroiled in a
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‘custody’ (care and contact) battle for the children and being faced with the possibility of
‘losing’ the children while not having the benefit of being supported by her family and
feeling overwhelmed by having to face not only the plaintiff, but also his extended family
with their influence and wealth.
[67] In addition it is relevant that the defendant is still breastfeeding the youngest child.
Although it was not put to the defendant during cross-examination, plaintiff’s counsel
argued in closing that the court cannot accept that the defendant is indeed still
breastfeeding because the defendant never testified that she was. In light of the fact that
the plaintiff admitted in the summons (par 9.4) that the defendant is still breastfeeding,
there was no need to lead any evidence pertaining to breastfeeding. In addition, the issue
of breastfeeding was canvassed by the plaintiff’s counsel with Dr Strous, Dr. Kruger and
Prof. Jacklin. If the plaintiff wanted to advance the argument that the defendant has since
the issue of the summons weaned the young child, a proper basis for such an argument
had to be laid and it had to be put to the defendant during cross-examination.
[68] I will not engage in an analysis whether it is natural or healthy for a child of three
years and several months to be breastfed. The issue of prolonged breastfeeding is
contentious and different opinions exist in this regard. I asked Dr Strous whether he was
aware of the organisation La Leche League who will probably have different opinions
pertaining to prolonged breastfeeding than the opinion that he held, and he confirmed
that he was aware of them and that they might have a different view. What is important
for this matter, is whether the abrupt weaning of a child who is still (even if only
sporadically) finding comfort at his mother’s breast,31 will adversely affect the young child,
specifically if the weaning is accompanied by the mother relocating to another country
with the child remaining behind.
[69] Helpful evidence was provided by a ‘last minute’ expert called by the plaintiff, Prof.
Lorna Jacklin. Prof. Jacklin deems prolonged breastfeeding to be detrimental to the
ability of a child to develop independence, but conceded that it is impossible to force a
child who does not want to breastfeed, to breastfeed. She stated that it would be
31 Dr. Kruger testified that the young K. demanded to be breastfed when he was returned to the defendant after a visit to the plaintiff.
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traumatic and detrimental to wean a child abruptly in the midst of other trauma. She also
testified that a child would experience separation from either parent as extremely
traumatic.
[70] Allegations were also made that the defendant endeavours to frustrate the minor
children’s contact with the plaintiff and that she tries to alienate them from him. The
evidence that has been provided in this regard refers to events that occurred during the
third phase of the parties’ relationship. The defendant conceded that she made mistakes
during this period. She also testified that she engaged the professional service of a
psychologist Ms. Marie Botma to provide guidance as how she should act in the best
interests of the children in these circumstances. It was evident for me that the defendant
was susceptive to advice as how she should conduct herself to the best interests of the
children.32
[71] The defendant’s reluctance and opposition to allow the plaintiff with the contact that
he claimed, particularly during the third phase of their relationship, should be seen
against the historic background presented by the third phase of the parties’ relationship. I
use the words ‘allow’ and ‘claim’ purposively as it indicates the emotions and attitudes
associated with the parties’ demeanour during that period. The question could be asked
as to whether it is the correct point of departure to consider that one parent has to ‘allow’
the other with contact. It is evident that the plaintiff did not at the time think that he
needed his wife’s permission to take the children whenever he wanted to facilitate
contact with them. The same point was raised during the hearing.
[71.1] Context is very important. Section 18(2)(b) of the Children’s Act read with s
20 entrenches parents’ rights to maintain contact with their children. It is in normal
circumstances, absent instances where there are allegations of child abuse,
unacceptable for one parent to bar the other parent’s access to children – it is likewise
unacceptable to disregard the other parent’s pre-planned schedule with the children and
randomly, without prior arrangement, claim contact. And it is here that the defendant’s
behaviour is contextualised by the historical events. The defendant testified convincingly
that the plaintiff was generally not very involved in the children’s lives during the third
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phase of the parties’ relationship. During this period she was responsible for every aspect
of the children’s day-to-day care. She took offence to the fact that the plaintiff did not
respect her and regarded the disruption of the children’s schedule as detrimental. The
defendant was concerned for their son T.’s emotional welfare because the plaintiff did not
always honour his contact arrangements. This is the reason why the defendant initiated
the first Rule 43 application in an effort to structure the contact regime between the
parties. Although it was argued that this application never came to fruition (it is not quite
clear why but the defendant testified that the plaintiff raised an objection to the
application because it was too long) and was later ‘replaced’ by a Rule 43 application
brought at the behest of the plaintiff, the defendant’s need to structure the contact
between the plaintiff and the children in the children’s best interests is evident.
[71.2] The defendant testified that the plaintiff was an involved parent during the
second phase of their relationship, but that his involvement then decreased as their
relationship deteriorated, to the extent that she often had to ask him to honour his contact
arrangements with T.. This is why she described the plaintiff’s claim to obtain the primary
residence of the children as laughable. She testified that she thought that she would have
to engage in court action to force the plaintiff to be involved in his children’s lives – his
conduct and absence during the third phase of their relationship did not forewarn of a
‘custody’ battle. Even during the second phase of their relationship when the plaintiff was
an involved parent, she was the stay-at-home-breastfeeding parent, and he was as
involved as a parent who is employed and who is the breadwinner, can be. He could not
spend the same time with the children as the defendant who was a stay at home,
breastfeeding parent. Although the plaintiff did support the defendant, he did not share
equally in caring for the children when they were babies, a reality attested to by the fact
that his mother had to move into their home to assist the defendant after T.’s birth. The
defendant’s evidence that she was primarily responsible for the children’s day-tot-day
care that, later, inter alia, included transporting T. to school is corroborated by Chantel
Anderson, the principal at the Montessori school where T. was enrolled. (Anderson’s
evidence is important because it refutes the plaintiff’s evidence that he was ‘as’ involved
as the defendant when transporting the child to school during the third phase of the
parties’ relationship. Anderson also testified that although the plaintiff attended concerts
and prize-giving ceremonies, he did not attend formal parent-teacher meetings, that
aspect was handled by the defendant alone.) Anderson testified convincingly and there is
no reason not to accept her evidence.
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[71.3] Both the plaintiff and the defendant erred in their approach pertaining to the
contact with the minor children. The defendant, as the parent who was responsible for
managing every aspect of the children’s care and who maintained a continuous presence
in their lives, opined that the children were too young to be separated from her for
prolonged periods, particularly because the youngest was still breastfeeding. It is evident
that the defendant did not deny the plaintiff total contact- she wanted to limit his contact
according to what she held to be in the best interests of the children. In this, she did not
accept, or deal with, the reality of divorce. Unfortunately children miss out on the
opportunity never to have to be separated from either parent when parents are not able
to maintain their own relationship, and the children have to develop coping mechanisms
to deal with this traumatic experience long before children from unbroken homes have to
deal with it. Parents must assist their children to develop such coping mechanisms in the
children’s best interests. If parents are not able to create an appropriate contact regime
amicably, the children are made aware of the severity of this loss, and what could have
been experienced as a change of circumstances to which a child can adapt after an initial
transitional period, becomes a prolonged traumatic experience. The plaintiff on the other
hand, motivated by the belief that he has as a strong right to the children as the
defendant, completely disregarded the defendant during the third phase of the parties’
relationship and claimed his rights as he deemed fit. He also disregarded the children’s
right to live in a stable and structured environment.33 This approached elevated the
acrimony between the parties, and was definitely not in the best interests of the children.
[71.4] The blame for the acrimony and the subsequent disruption of the children,
should be apportioned between both parents and this is not in itself enough for a finding
that the defendant did not have the children’s best interests at heart when she
endeavoured to regulate the contact between the plaintiff and the children. It also does
not support a finding that it is probable that the defendant will in future frustrate the
plaintiff’s contact with their sons.
[72] During cross-examination, it was put to the defendant that correspondence between
the plaintiff’s attorneys of record and her legal representatives is indicative of the fact that
she tried to frustrate contact between the plaintiff and the minor children. After
scrutinising this correspondence, together with the letter referred to by defendant’s
33 Dr. Strous stated in his report p63 that ‘special care should be taken to ensure predictable routines’, this emphasises children’s need for structure to attain a sense of stability.
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counsel, and hearing defendant’s evidence, I cannot on the basis of this correspondence,
find that an inference can be drawn that the defendant will in future obstruct the plaintiff’s
contact with their minor sons.
[73] The plaintiff also alleged that the defendant hampered the appointment of a case
manager or a parenting co-ordinator by not responding to this requests as stated in some
of the correspondence. Plaintiff’s counsel argued that this should be defined as
obstructive behaviour and that is indicative of the defendant’s tendency to frustrate
contact and the amicable settlement of disputes. The defendant testified that she and her
respective legal representatives were inundated with correspondence from the plaintiff’s
legal representatives to the level that she was advised by her legal representatives not to
read all the letters because it upset her. She stated that the host of correspondence was
a result of the plaintiff trying to build a case and that the content of the correspondence is
not a true reflection of what was actually occurring. The question arises as to why the
plaintiff only made these requests in letters at this time and refrained from using the
available legal avenues to have a parenting co-ordinator or case manager appointed.
There is no evidence that the plaintiff endeavoured to engage the Family Advocate at this
stage. In addition there is no indication at all in the completed Annexure A to the
summons that the parties were in discord pertaining the contact and care arrangements
with the minor children. If it is considered that the purpose of Annexure A is to alert the
Family Advocate of conflict situations that exist during divorce proceedings that impact on
the wellbeing, contact and care of any affected minor children, the fact that no mention is
made in Annexure A of any disputes is a telling factor that weighs against the case the
plaintiff wishes to pursue.34
[74] According to the most recent mid-divorce contact regime that was implemented
respectively in August 2016 – for the eldest child- and August 2017 – for the youngest
child-, the plaintiff and defendant shared both minor children’s residence in a 40%-60%
34 The evidence is again indicative of the parties’ mutual obstructive approach during the third phase of their relationship and the advent of the fourth. Evidence was lead that the defendant requested the plaintiff early in 2016 to cooperate with the appointment of a parenting co-ordinator. He refused. To accuse the defendant later of obstructive behaviour when she does not react to requests of the same nature, is like the pot calling the kettle black. The defendant explained her hesitance to react and stated that she did not trust the plaintiff because what he said was not reflected in his actions.
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relation. I take cognisance of the principle stated in HG v CG35 where Chetty J noted that
courts have to be mindful in cases of joint ‘custody’ where parents spend a more or less
equal amount of time with the children since relocation could have a more detrimental
impact on the child and his or her relationship with the left-behind parent. I take into
consideration that on the evidence before me, I must accept that K., the youngest child,
has never been separated from the defendant for a period exceeding two consecutive
nights, and that only from August 2017. The evidence indicate that although the plaintiff
took T. on holiday for 10 days, T. was otherwise in the mid-divorce care and contact
regime also not separated from the defendant for a period exceeding two nights at a
time. In LW v DB 2015 JDR 2617 (GJ) the parents were joint ‘custodians’ and, Satchwell
J held that the impact of relocation on the children is a fact that courts have taken into
consideration, but that joint ‘custody’ in itself does not prevent the court to grant
relocation.
[75] The expert evidence before me is that the children are bonded with and attached to
the defendant. I accept that the children will be severely traumatised if their relationship
with the defendant is severed.
[76] The defendant will be able to assist the children in making the transition to a new
environment in the event that they are allowed to relocate, and to cope with the
challenges the change will present. That the defendant understands and accepts that the
children need contact with the plaintiff for their own happiness is evident from the fact
that she attempted to facilitate regulated contact between the plaintiff and the children
during the third phase of the parties’ relationship. In addition defendant’s evidence was
inter alia that she kept the custom of prayers before meals that was implemented by the
plaintiff intact, despite the dissolution of the marriage. She also testified that she told the
two boys of their father’s football career and its highlights and that they were duly
impressed when she recounted that she was present in the stadium when he scored his
first goal for Kaizer Chiefs.
Considering the plaintiff’s role
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[77] By acknowledging the role that the defendant plays in the children’s lives, I am not
discounting the role of the plaintiff, and it is also a factor that I consider.
[78] Although the facts do not support a contention that the plaintiff was at any time the
primary caregiver of the children, I accept that he was an involved and devoted parent
until his relationship with the defendant broke down.
[79] I accept the defendant’s evidence that the plaintiff was less involved in the children’s
lives during the third phase of their relationship,36 but that he became more involved
again at the junction where the third and fourth periods overlap. The expert evidence
before me is that the children are bonded and attached to the plaintiff. I accept that they
will suffer a tremendous loss when their immediate physical relationship with him is
severed.
[80] There is however one concern regarding the plaintiff’s conduct that I need to
consider. Some of the incidents that gave rise to this concern are mentioned – (i) During
the third phase of the parties’ relationship the plaintiff removed the minor children from
the defendant’s home, without prior announcement, on more than one occasion, without
informing the defendant where he was taking them or when he will bring them back; (ii) In
addition, the defendant’s testified that the plaintiff disconnected the DSTV, and ordered it
to remain disconnected even after the defendant endeavoured to arrange to pay the
monthly premiums from her maintenance. He then phoned and asked their son, T.,
whether he was watching his favourite television program, and told him that he (the
plaintiff) is recording the programme and that T. can catch up when he visits him. (I
paraphrase). This was not challenged during cross-examination; (iii) The plaintiff could
not explain how it could be justified that he benefited from his parent’s wealth but then
rely on his income of R60 000 a month when maintenance is to be determined; (iv) The
plaintiff justifies laying criminal charges against the defendant for taking the children to
Durban for a vacation when she obtained a court order to do that but the order
36 The defendant’s evidence is corroborated by Mrs. Anderson. She also kept a calendar and, inter alia noted the frequency of the plaintiff’s contact with the children thereon. This was presented in evidence.
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erroneously only referred to the eldest son and not both children. That he expected her to
take one child and leave the other is incomprehensible.
[80.1] Although it cannot be completely held against the plaintiff if he acted with
malice against the defendant in light of the extreme levels of acrimony between the
parties, the fact that his conduct towards the defendant directly impacted on the children,
is considered by the court. For example - the plaintiff’s motive for cancelling the DSTV
contract might have been to inconvenience the defendant, but due to this the children
were not able to watch their favourite television programmes when they stayed with the
defendant; the plaintiff might think that the defendant does not deserve to live in
accommodation that is comparable to his, but by arguing that she must live in a
residence that he can afford (with a maximum of R12 000 rent per month) while he then
lives in luxury, is to the detriment of the children because they would be forced to share
the defendant’s accommodation which would stand in stark contrast to the plaintiff’s
home.
[80.2] Although the plaintiff loves his children it seems that he did not always
pause to think how his conduct towards the defendant affected the children. It seems as
if he is sometimes motivated by his own interests rather than those of the children. In
addition it is as if the plaintiff sometimes have a microscopic vision and forgets to
consider the whole picture. An example hereof is that the plaintiff faulted the defendant in
the summons for failing to wean the young K. from the breast. He then presents a video
of the child eating at the trial to prove that the child does eat and does not need to be
breastfed. The plaintiff regards only the nutritional aspect of breastfeeding but disregards
the nurturing component thereof.
[81] Evidence was led by the defendant that when the children were received by her on
23 November 2017, that K. was extremely agitated. The conversation between her and
K. was recorded. The sound track of the conversation was discovered and handed up to
me. A transcript and sworn translation thereof was tendered into evidence. The agitated
child repeatedly stated that he does not want to go with his mother to Germany. He also
stated that his mother does not love him and that it is only his father and the father’s
family that loves him. The defendant immediately contacted Dr. Kruger who was on her
way to attend a family gathering. Dr Kruger agreed to see both children on the premise
that T. not be forewarned that she is going to discuss the incident with him. Her evidence
is that K. was extremely aggressive when he saw her and did not want to engage with
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her. When she interviewed T., T. stated that K.’s agitation sprouted from a conversation
with the plaintiff wherefrom he (K.) understood that that his mother is going to take him to
Germany and that he will never see his father again. T. indicated that he (T.) disputed the
version that they will never see the plaintiff again because they would be able to visit
each other. T. repeated this when he was interviewed by Dr. Strous,37 and when he was
interviewed by the Family Councillor, Mrs. Naidoo. The plaintiff himself denied that he
ever told the children that he will not see them again. He said he told T., who brought up
the topic, that ‘you won’t see me as you see me now, but that everything will be ok’. He
could however not provide any reason at all for K.’s distress and stated that when he put
K. in the car the child was calm. Although he did not deny the child’s agitation, or that the
defendant received the child in this agitated state, he could not explain how it came about
that the defendant received such an agitated child. Although I cannot, on the evidence
before me, find that the plaintiff attempted to alienate the children from the defendant, I
do find it very strange that the plaintiff was not able to proffer any possible explanation as
to the cause of K.’s intense agitation, particularly since he (the plaintiff) denied the
conversation as told by T. and denied saying to K. that his mother does not love him, but
only the African family does, as K. stated. The plaintiff testified that it is his mother who
drove the children to the handover point. This might explain why he did not know why K.
was in this emotional situation, although this explanation is contrary to what Dr. Kruger
states T. told her, namely that the plaintiff told K. in the car on their way to school. The
grandmother was not called to clarify the confusion.
[82] In reaction to an allegation made by defendant’s counsel, the plaintiff denied that he
engaged in this trial to be allocated the primary residence of his children on behest of his
mother. It is evident that the plaintiff’s mother plays a very big role in not only his life, but
his relationship with the children. This is indicated, inter alia, by the fact that the plaintiff
at one time referred to the children as ‘our boys’ in a context that referred to him and his
mother; and the fact that when the plaintiff was away with T. during April 2017 his mother
exercised his contact with K.. I do not share the defendant’s view that the plaintiff’s
mother’s investment in the lives of her grandchildren should only be seen in a negative
light. The same goes for the allegation made by the defendant that the plaintiff does not
utilise his contact rights himself, but ‘farms’ the children off to his mother and his
37 The only discrepancy between Dr. Strous and Dr. Kruger’s reports is that Dr. Strous states in his report that he has been told that T. raised the issue of his mother going to Germany, not the plaintiff.
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extended family. The plaintiff testified that his support system consists of his extended
family and that his extended family is an important part of who he is. He also testified that
grandparents play a big role in the black culture. I do not regard the general involvement
of the extended family and the grandparents in the children’s lives as a negative.38 If the
relationship between the defendant and the plaintiff’s family did not evolve to the level of
acrimony as evinced to the court, I doubt whether the defendant would have faulted this
relationship, particularly because she also relies on her own mother for support and
assistance. I therefore find that the paternal grandmother- and extended family’s
involvement is generally seen as beneficial to the minor children.39 However, the high
level of acrimony that do exist between the extended family and the defendant needs to
be diffused in the children’s best interests.
[82.1] It is however in the best interests of the children that the defendant’s
position as parent should not be usurped by the paternal grandmother. It was clearly the
defendant’s case that the paternal grandmother’s involvement in their marriage
contributed to the break-up and that the paternal grandmother’s extended involvement in
the children’s lives contributed to the acrimony. The plaintiff testified that his mother was
like ‘a second mother’ to the boys, he referred to the children as ‘our boys’ when referring
to himself and his mother, and testified ‘this is me and my mother’ acting in the best
interests of the children, when confronted in cross-examination with questions as to why
his mother signed a certain document pertaining to T.’s enrolment in The Ridge (school)
that was supposed to be signed by the defendant. The defendant testified that her input
in the children’s lives were minimalised. Her wishes pertaining to T. and K.’s schooling
were completely ignored. The evidence before me substantiates her view. She testified
that she has ‘her own dreams for the children’, and that she wanted to instil additional
morals and values than the values supported by the plaintiff’s family.
38 See Ekanem Okon Towards defining the ‘right to family’ for the African child (2012) 12 African Human Rights Journal 373-393. 39 The defendant was concerned because of the children’s apparent ‘fear’ for their paternal grandmother. It has been alleged that the grandmother spanked T. at least on one occasion. I accept that spanking is a controversial issue and grandparents should respect parents’ opinions in this regard. The mere fact that the grandmother spanked the child on occasion is however not a factor that I deem negative or akin to child abuse. I will also accept that if a child is not spanked at all by his parents, that he will have a healthy respect for his grandmother if it is known that she spanks unruly children.
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The views of the child40
[83] Since the children who are affected in this matter are very young, I did not think that
it would be beneficial to acquire their direct inputs. Section 10 of the Children’s Act has
been adhered to in that the children’s views were canvassed by the experts, including the
Family Councillor.
[84] It is evident, however, that the parties themselves attributed importance to what the
children said on different occasions. Both the defendant and the plaintiff testified of times
that the children cried when they had to be handed over or returned. I am convinced that
it is the parties’ emotional involvement in their dispute that informed their views. Life
experience taught that young children who are cared for and loved by both parents yearn
to be in both their parents’ presence. The fact that a child cries when he is handed over
from one parent to the other, or is reluctant to cut short or end an enjoyable activity to
return to his other parent, does not indicate that he does not want to be with the other
parent. It means that he does not want to be separated from the parent with whom he is
and finds it difficult to make the transition. Where parents have an amicable relationship
they can provide the necessary support to assist the child with the transition. Where,
however, parties are in an acrimonious relationship they are not able to provide the
necessary emotional support. I am therefore not making any adverse finding against any
of the parents because a particular child was crying when he had to leave one parent, or
was not ecstatic to return to the other. Since I believe it is in the best interests of the
children to retain their bond and attachment with both parents, I intend providing for a
generous contact regime.41 When a child leaves and returns he will need assistance with
the transition.
40 Section 10 of the Children's Act provides: "Every child that is of such an age, maturity and stage of development as to be able to participate in any matter concerning the child has the right to participate in an appropriate way and views expressed by the child must be given due consideration". I am aware that the Court held in B v B [2015] ZAGPPHC 1014 (27 November 2015) at para [27]: ‘It is evident that the child's wishes are not the primary consideration or at all decisive in determining his or her best interests. The court must only give "due consideration" to whatever views the child expresses. It does not require deference to the child's expressed wishes: the duty of the court is to establish what is best for the child, and this may require the court to reach a decision that is different from what the child wants. The child's wishes must however be ascertained and considered. In the current circumstances the children are too young. 41 In cases where one parent relocates, contact between the children and the non-primary caregiver would be restricted, this would/could impact on the bond shared between the child and that parent. In CG v NG 2012 JDR 1795 (GNP) p 21 the court held that contact with the non-primary caregiver could be maintained through electronic methods of communication such as
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[85] It is evident, however, from both Dr. Strous and Dr. Kruger’s evidence that the eldest
child, T. is aware of the possibility of relocation. Due to the incident that took place on 23
November 2017 where the defendant recorded a conversation between herself and an
agitated K., both Dr. Kruger and Dr. Strous had conversations with T. again. It is reported
by both Dr. Strous and Dr. Kruger (in fact this is the only aspect on which their respective
reports on this matter, correspond) that T. reported that his father said that if they went to
Germany they would not see him anymore, but that he (T.) disputed this on the notion
that they could visit each other. Despite Dr. Strous’s conclusion that ‘T. may not realize
that should he relocate to Germany, he will see his father far more frequently than at
present’ (based on the oral evidence this sentence must read far less frequently’) neither
of the experts testified that T. conveyed to either of them the same apprehension or
aversion at the mere thought of relocation as the very young K. did. When the Family
Councillor asked T. how he would feel if he had to move to Germany he first stated that
he does not know because he is always thinking about it, later he noted that it would be
better to stay here because then he could spend three nights with each parent.
The practical difficulty and expense of a child having contact with the parents, or
any specific parent
[86] When a court considers whether a parent should be allowed to relocate with the
children, the court does not denounce the right of the parent who remains behind or the
right of the child to have meaningful and constructive, loving contact with that parent.
This is even more true when, as on the facts before the court, one of the parents will
inevitably lose frequent contact with the child.
[87] One of the factors that the court must then consider, is which parent will most likely
be able to ensure that contact between parent and child are maintained on a regular
basis. In a context where both parents have expressed the fear that the other parent will
endeavour to prevent them from seeing their children at all, the question is likewise which
parent will be able to utilise the legal mechanisms that exist to enforce this contact.
Twitter, Skype and Webcam. (One can also think of Facetime in this regard). See also HS v WS 2012 JDR 1066 (GNP). Short visits that are rendered impractical due to the distance between non-primary caregivers and their children can be substituted with generous block visits during school holidays - Van Rooyen v Van Rooyen 1999 (4) SA 435 (C) at 441-442.
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[88] On the facts of the case before me, the plaintiff is undeniably in the best position to
enforce his rights, irrespective of whether in South Africa or Germany. The defendant has
testified that it is only because she obtained financial assistance from an NGO that she
was financially able to defend the action to the end- in fact, her unchallenged evidence
was that it was due to her financial predicament that she was not able to retain the same
legal representatives throughout. The plaintiff on the other hand, might be bound to some
extent to live within his nett salary of R 60 000, 00 per month, but as this trial evinced, he
has the backing of his family when the children are concerned. The plaintiff has appealed
to the importance that grandchildren have for grandparents, and I therefore believe that
when these concerned grandparents are convinced that their son’s contact rights are
disregarded, that they will (once again) put their wealth to the plaintiff’s disposal. I am
similarly convinced that the plaintiff will be able to acquire and save the necessary funds
to enforce regular contact rights with his sons. He will also be able to provide them with
the necessary electronic devices to enable them to contact him on a regular basis.
The expert witnesses
[89] In a trial of this nature, where expert witnesses have to provide their opinion
pertaining to what might be in the children’s best interests, they often substantiate their
opinion with information conveyed to them by the child. In addition they often rely on
collateral sources to substantiate a particular view. Due to the fact that the experts may
be cross-examined on their opinion and the validity of the foundation from which their
conclusions are drawn, the probative impact of the collateral sources and the information
provided by the secondary sources are minimal. The court is interested in the expert’s
opinion and the strength of the foundation on which the opinion relies determines the
probative value of the opinion itself. It is the expert’s evidence as to what he or she saw,
and experienced that the court can rely on for guidance.
[90] The main expert witnesses were Dr. Martin Strous and Dr. Deidri Kruger. The Family
Councillor, Ms. Vijay Naidoo, and the Family Advocate, Advocate Seema Maikoo, are
experts in own right. Prof. Lorna Jacklin a neurodevelopmental paediatrician, and Dr.
David Benn, a psychiatrist, also testified
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[91] I have considered all the expert witnesses’ written reports and their oral evidence. I
will not engage in a detailed analyses of their evidence and have incorporated the most
relevant aspects of their findings in my judgment thus far. Since none of the experts were
of the opinion that any of the parties are unfit to parent the children I will not dissect their
evidence as it pertains to the personalities of the parties. I take cognisance of the
emphasis that was placed by plaintiff’s counsel on the fact that both Dr. Strous and Dr.
Kruger found the defendant to be anxious while the plaintiff appeared to be more calm
and in control. I view this in light of Dr. Kruger and Dr. Benn’s opinions that the
defendant’s anxiousness is directly related to the situation wherein she finds herself,
which includes being in a foreign country, without the continuous support of her own
family, without being able to earn an income to provide for herself, while being involved in
a high conflict relationship with the plaintiff and his family, the people on whom she is
dependant for her financial needs. Dr. Kruger attributed the plaintiff’s more contained
behaviour directly to the fact that he is in a familiar, supportive environment.
[92] The major difference between the recommendations made by Dr. Strous and Dr.
Kruger is that Dr. Kruger recommends that the children relocate with the mother. Her
recommendation is supported by the Family Advocate and the Family Councillor. Dr.
Strous opined that is in the best interests of the children to stay with the plaintiff in South
Arica.
[93] Plaintiff’s counsel criticised the opinions, and the conduct of Dr. Kruger, Mrs Naidoo
and Adv. Maikoo respectively. She held Dr. Strous in high esteem. In light of the criticism
I briefly deal with the experts as witnesses below.
Dr. Strous
[94] Dr. Martin Strous is a chartered psychologist specialising in psychotherapy. Dr.
Strous’s opinion is that the children should reside with the parents on an equal time
basis, alternating the time the children spent with both parents. This, was in his opinion
the only residency model that would be in the children’s best interests. It is evident that
Dr. Strous discounted the possibility of the defendant relocating when he compiled his
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report.42 In his report he stated that if the defendant was forced to relocate the children
should remain in South Africa. He was very reluctant to address the possibility of the
children having to be accommodated in a primary residence regime.
[95] Despite the effort that Dr. Strous put into compiling his comprehensive report, it does
not provide me with sufficient guidance in a scenario where I must decide what would be
in the children’s best interests where the children is inevitably going to be separated from
a parent. His report is directed at describing the impact that it would have on the children
if they are deprived of the presence of the plaintiff. Not only is no mention made of any
benefits that relocation might have (and during his evidence the witness stated that it is
not his role to provide ammunition in favour of a view not supported by him) but the report
does not address the trauma that the children will experience when they are separated
from the defendant, at all.
[96] I appreciate Dr. Strous’s view that he is an advocate for the best interests of the
child, but his duty as expert witness is to assist the court by providing a balanced opinion
on what would be in the best interests of the child in the circumstances that the court
need to adjudicate.
[97] The fact that Dr. Strous recommends a shared contact regime is indicative of the fact
that he is not of the view that either of the parents is unfit to care for the children.
Dr. Kruger
[98] Dr. Deidri Kruger is an educational psychologist.
[99] I am of the view that the plaintiff’s counsel’s criticism of Dr. Kruger as contained in
counsel’s heads of argument, are unfounded. To argue that Dr. Kruger attempted to rely
on a secular magazine and local newspaper to substantiate her opinion is not supported
42 The only acknowledgment in Dr. Strous report of an affective relocation is the recommendation that ‘If Cathrin chooses not to make such application and relocate instead, I would recommend the next best (but nevertheless undesirable) option in the circumstances, which would be for the children to remain with their father in South Africa.’
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by the facts. During cross-examination Dr. Kruger made reference to the fact that she
found an article in a secular magazine interesting since the content presumably had a
bearing on issues that are canvassed in this trial. She was not provided with the
opportunity to elaborate but it was clear that she read the article when in transit to
Germany. She did not base her professional opinion on the article. In the other instance
she was defending the choice of using a specific test and indicated that it was also
mentioned in the newspaper that this test is used by professionals in similar
circumstances. She stated that she used the test because it was part of her training, not
because she read about it in the newspaper.
[100] Dr. Kruger was criticised for interviewing the children before she interviewed the
plaintiff. She, inter alia, attributed it to a hectic work schedule and being requested to fit in
the parties on short notice. She also said that she was informed by the defendant’s
attorneys that Dr. Strous conducted interviews with the plaintiff and the children without
consulting with the defendant. It was stated by Ms. de Wet that Dr. Strous’s interview
schedule indicates that this was not correct, since Dr. Strous consulted with both the
plaintiff and the defendant before he consulted with the children. It is apparent from Dr.
Strous’s report, however, that he also consulted with the plaintiff and the minor children
at a previous opportunity in 2016. He stated that the defendant at that stage refrained
from being interviewed by him. Although this report apparently did not contain
recommendations, it was still a report that was captured in a joint expert minute together
with Dr. Robyn Fasser. Dr. Kruger’s perception was thus not incorrect. I find nothing
sinister in her behaviour.
[101] In my view Dr. Kruger created a good impression as witness. She evinced a
balanced perspective and considered the positives and negatives of both scenario’s,
namely if the children relocate with the defendant or stay with the plaintiff. She was
clearly up to date with the environment in Buchbach and confident about her own
observations.
[102] I did not find Dr. Kruger to be biased in favour of the defendant. At most, she was
defensive about her recommendations and conclusions. Contrary to what is stated in the
plaintiff’s heads of argument, an analysis of the record indicates that there were
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instances where she readily made concessions.43 She stated unequivocally that she was
throughout the trial open to change her opinion if she found any evidence that her view
was wrong. She was not swayed from her opinion that it will be in the children’s best
interests to relocate with the defendant.
[103] Dr. Kruger is criticised by Ms. De Wet that she is gender-biased and favour the
maternal preference rule. Dr. Kruger’s view, supported by the research that she referred
to, is that from conception parents fulfil different roles in their children’s lives. Although
fathers can indeed fulfil the role of primary caregivers, mothers provide emotional support
in a different way than fathers do - on an emotional level a mother cannot be a father and
a father cannot be a mother. She also testified that as children grow their needs change
and according to her observation in the circumstances of the case, considering the age of
the children, it is in their best interests not to be separated from the defendant since she
fulfils a specific need in their lives. Dr. Kruger based her view on the work of Schore. I
accept that there are contradictory scientific views on this issue as is evinced by Dr.
Strous’s comments contained in his addendum.
[104] Ms. De Wet described Dr. Kruger’s report as a rushed job, she was also criticised
for spending much more time with the defendant than with the plaintiff. Although it is
evident that more time were spent in interviews with the defendant than with the plaintiff it
must be considered that Dr. Kruger explained that she spent a whole night at the
residence of the defendant to observe possible night terrors and sleeping problems. Dr.
Kruger also explained that the defendant’s assessments took twice as long as she was
assessed in English with her mother tongue being German. I found her report
comprehensive and appreciated the guidance that she provide pertaining to the question
of relocation, despite her view that the minor children will in an ideal world benefit if the
parents could stay in close proximity. It is evident that she applied her mind when she
addressed the issue under the headings ‘Reasons for Ms M. not to relocate’, and
‘Reasons why Ms M. should be allowed to relocate with the children’.
43 One of the aspects on which Dr. Kruger was criticised by plaintiff’s counsel, is that she accepted T.’s version when he told her that K. is crying at night when they sleep at the plaintiff’s house. I noted when working through the respective expert witnesses’ reports again that Dr. Strous mentioned in his report on p62 ‘Sometimes when they are at their father, K. asks to sleep at their mother, and sometimes he does not. K. no longer cries as much as he used to when he wanted to return to his mother’.
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[105] Dr. Kruger testified that in her experience, shared residence agreements only
facilitate the best interests of the children where the respective parents have a good
relationship. This, being absent in the present case, favours the relocation of the
defendant.
[106] I found the primary differences between Dr. Strous and Dr. Kruger’s evidence to be
that:
Dr. Strous disagreed with Dr. Kruger’s view that relocation could bring stability or
reduce conflict. He believes only the Defendant would benefit;
Dr. Strous disagreed with Dr. Kruger that in relation to parental conflict ‘distance
could bring some clarity of mind and help the parents with their own recovery’;
Dr. Strous does not share Dr. Kruger’s opinion that in general, although fathers
can fulfil the role of prime caregivers, mothers provide emotional support to young
children in a manner different to what fathers do;
Contrary to Dr. Kruger, Dr. Strous opines that it is in the best interests of the
children to remain with the plaintiff if the defendant relocates.
Family Advocate
[107] I am indebted to the office of the Family Advocate who was available to provide a
report on an urgent basis.
[108] Although plaintiff’s counsel contended that the investigation was concluded under
time duress and that the report was subsequently very superficial, both the Family
Councillor, Mrs Naidoo, and the Family Advocate, Adv. Maikoo testified that they are
used to doing assessments in this time span. It is usually not the assessments, but the
writing up of the reports, that prolong the process.
[109] I am not going to address the criticism that is levelled by plaintiff’s counsel against
the Family Advocate and Family Councillor’s report save for stating that I do not agree
with the submissions by plaintiff’s counsel.
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[110] Both the Family Advocate and the Family Councillor explained their approach and
the process followed, and it is not to be faulted. Since the parties and the minor children
have already been exposed to various mental health professionals, and various reports
have been lodged, the Family Councillor and Family Advocate, who function as a team,
decided to render an opinion, independent of the recommendations made by the various
professionals involved.
[111] They correctly assessed that the issue of relocation is intertwined with the issue of
primary residence and cannot be dealt with exclusively.
[112] After considering the context of the case the Family Advocate recommends that the
minor children must relocate to Germany with their mother. Although emphasis was
placed on the ‘tender age’ of the children and the bond that they have with their mother,
the role that the plaintiff plays in his children’s lives was not negated. It is not the fact that
the defendant is the mother, but the extent of the mother(parent)-child relationship
evinced by the information evaluated by the Family Advocate seen within the context that
is coloured by the high level of acrimony between the parties, that underlies the
recommendation.44
Conclusion pertaining to contact and care
[113] It is impossible for a court to micro-manage the contact arrangements provided for
in a court order. These arrangements are aimed at providing the children with extensive
but reasonable contact with both parents and any interpretation thereof shall be guided
by this principle. After considering all the facts and the evidence of the parties and all the
expert witnesses, particularly the aspects set out above, against the backdrop created by
the relevant constitutional, and other legal principles and the guidance provided in case
law I find that:
44 I am not of the view that the Family Advocate misdirected herself as to the factual correctness of any statement made. Her report must be read as a whole. Adv. Maikoo also testified that she did not engage in any conversation with Ms. Pearce who accompanied the defendant to the interview.
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[113.1] The primary care and residence of the children should be with the
defendant, and that she should be allowed to relocate with them. It is in the children’s
interests that the relocation to Germany takes place as soon as possible in order to
facilitate their adjustment to live and schooling in Germany prior to the start of the formal
school term;
[113.1.1] Although I do not negate the role of the plaintiff in the children’s lives,
particularly as evinced in the fourth phase of the parties relationship, it is the defendant
who has been the continuous and stabilising presence in the children’s lives throughout
the happy times and the acrimony and turmoil. I am of the view that in the circumstances,
and having considered all the facts, it is the least detrimental for the children to be with
the defendant, and therefore in their best interest. I am nor persuaded that the defendant
wanted to frustrate contact between the plaintiff and the children ‘at all costs’, and I am of
the view that the defendant accepts the children’s need, and their right to have the
plaintiff playing a significant role in their lives. The plaintiff is undoubtedly in the best
financial position to enforce his access and contact rights to ensure that contact between
himself and the children are maintained on a regular basis.
[113.2] The plaintiff is entitled to contact, including sleep-over contact with the
minor children subject to their educational, religious, extra-mural, cultural and social
activities. The contact may be exercised in in South Africa, Germany or any other
destination of his choice, subject to paragraph [113.2.5] below;
[113.2.1] The plaintiff is entitled to visit the children in Germany as often as his
personal circumstances allow. During schooldays he is not entitled to sleep-over
contact but he is entitled to contact after school-hours, when the children shall be
returned home at 19h00 or such later time as agreed between the parties when
the children shall be returned home. If the children are involved in extra-mural
activities when the plaintiff visits he shall be entitled to transport them to and from
such activities and attend the same. The plaintiff is entitled to sleep-over contact
with the children over weekends from the Friday after school until the Sunday at
16h00 when he is to return them to the defendant.
[113.2.2] The plaintiff is entitled to contact with the children for 70% of each long
school holiday, unless the parties agree to extend the time, subject to paragraph
[113.2.5] below, the plaintiff shall indicate 2 months in advance if, when and where
he is going to exercise contact;
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[113.2.3] The plaintiff is entitled to contact with the children during 50% of the
shorter school breaks, or 1/2 of the shorter school breaks as agreed to by the
parties, with the exclusion of the Easter and Christmas break – the plaintiff shall
communicate his preference to which periods he wants to exercise the contact
with the children timeously by no later than 1 month preceding this contact, subject
to paragraph [113.2.5] below;
[113.2.4] The plaintiff and defendant shall alternate contact pertaining to the
Easter- and Christmas-break annually, unless otherwise agreed between them,
subject to paragraph [113.2.5] below;
[113.2.5] To afford the children the opportunity to adapt to their new surroundings
the plaintiff shall exercise all contact in 2018 in Buchbach.
[113.2.5.1] The plaintiff’s overnight-contact with T. during the summer holiday of
2018 will be limited to 12 days (i.e. 11 nights).
[113.2.5.2] Prior to 1 August 2018 K. may be separated from the defendant for
periods not exceeding 2 (two) consecutive nights in a 5 (five) night cycle unless
the parties agree otherwise.
[113.2.5.3] From 1 August 2018 K. may be separated from the defendant for
periods not exceeding 5 (five) nights in a 8 (eight) night cycle unless the parties
agree otherwise.
[113.2.5.4] From 1 August 2019 K.’s overnight-contact with the plaintiff is extended
to 8 (eight) nights in a 10 (ten) night cycle unless the parties agree otherwise.
[113.2.5.5] From 1 August 2020 K.’s overnight-contact with the plaintiff is extended
to 10 nights unless the parties agree otherwise.
[13.2.5.6] From 1 August 2021 there will be no restrictions on the plaintiff’s
overnight contact within with K. within the structure of this contact-regime.
[113.2.5.7] When the children are in the care of the plaintiff, the arrangements
pertaining to telephonic and other contact apply mutatis mutandis to the
defendant.
[113.3] The plaintiff is entitled to daily contact with the children via telephone,
Skype or FaceTime or any other appropriate social-media application between
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19h00 -20h00 German time, as circumstances allow,45 or any suitable time as
agreed between the parents.
[113.4] Any costs relating to the plaintiff exercising contact with the minor children
is for his expenses.
[114] The parents are encouraged to each consult with a professional therapist to assist
them to work through their adverse feelings towards each other in an effort to create an
atmosphere where they can engage meaningfully to the best interests of the children.
The defendant should ensure that the children start with therapy to process the trauma
and loss they experienced not only due to the relocation, but due to the divorce and
particularly the acrimony between the parents, as soon as possible.
[115] It is trite that custody arrangements are not set in stone and might be revisited in
the best interests of the children when there is a significant change in circumstances.
Maintenance
[116] The main dispute between the parties, and the bulk of evidence led, revolved
around the contact and care regime intertwined with relocation. Maintenance of not only
the minor children but also the defendant need in addition to be determined.
Spousal maintenance
[117] It is trite that while there is an obligation on parents to maintain their children post-
divorce, the awarding of post-divorce spousal maintenance is discretionary. There is no
automatic right to maintenance on divorce. The reciprocal duty of support that arises
between a husband and wife when a marriage is concluded comes to and end when the
marriage is terminated.46
45 If the children are on a visit or excursion to an area where there is no telephone or internet connection the fact that they will not be able to contact a parent during that excursion will not be regarded as contempt of court. 46 M v M (A112/10) [2011] ZAWCHC 28 (25 February 2011).
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[118] In the summons plaintiff offered to pay rehabilitative maintenance in the amount of
R8000, 00 per month, to the defendant for a year. In the counterclaim defendant claimed
rehabilitative maintenance in the amount of E1000 for a period of five years, which
maintenance shall increase by 10% per annum. In closing argument, defendant’s counsel
requested the court to provide for lifelong maintenance.
[119] In Grasso v Grasso 1987(1) SA 48 (C) 52A-H Berman J said: ‘In setting forth, in s
7(2) of the Divorce Act of 1979. the various factors to which the court is to have regard
when considering the payment of maintenance upon divorce, no particular stress was
laid on any one or more of these factors, and they are not listed in any particular order of
importance or of greater or lesser relevance. The proper approach, it seems to me, is to
consider each case on its own merits in the light of the facts and circumstances peculiar
to it and with regard to those factors set out in this particular section of the Divorce Act -
which list of factors is clearly not exhaustive of what the court is to have regard to in
deciding what maintenance, if any, is to be paid upon divorce by one spouse to the other,
for the court is free to have regard to any other factor which, in its opinion, ought to be
taken into account in coming to a fair and just decision.’
[120] The evidence that has been led shows that the defendant is:
36 years old
Have not been able to participate in the labour market at all since 2009 and
will have a limited earning capacity for the immediate future until she has
gained work experience or supplemented her qualifications;
Was during the existence of the marriage completely financially dependent
on the Plaintiff;
Forfeited her own professional career to build a life with the Plaintiff;
Was introduced by the Plaintiff to a very high living standard;
Sold her only immovable asset, depleted her savings and sold her horses to
pay for legal costs occasioned by the trial and to supplement the
maintenance paid to her;
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Will be employed for the immediate future by her father and will earn E1300
per month;
Is provided with accommodation by her father;
Will have the benefit of a medical aid once she is employed.
[121] No evidence was led by or on behalf of the defendant pertaining to the extent of her
maintenance requirements. It was argued in closing by counsel on her behalf that the
defendant was not able to determine her actual financial need since she must relocate
and have no recent knowledge of the living costs in Buchbach, Germany. It was argued
on behalf of the plaintiff that the defendant did not place sufficient information before the
court and that her claim for maintenance should be dismissed.
[122] Evidence led shows that the plaintiff:
Is employed by Kaizer Chiefs (Pty) Ltd. He currently earns a nett salary of
R60 000,00 per month;
His income is supplement by random contributions from his mother;
He resides in luxurious accommodation provided by his father.
[123] When determining maintenance according to the principles set out in section 7 of
the Divorce Act, No 70 of 1979, the court is not quantifying a claim akin to a delictual
damages claim. Although the defendant’s actual living expenses would indicate the
extent of her actual financial needs and obligations, the fact that she has to date been
completely financial dependant on the plaintiff will not change overnight only because the
parties are now divorced. The need to be maintained is undisputed, even though the
extent of the need is not quantified.
[124] Although the defendant will be employed by her father when she relocates she will
need some time to settle and assist the minor children with the transition. If she remained
in South Africa under a relative’s visa she would not have been able to obtain
employment at all. The plaintiff would, in the circumstances, have been responsible for
the full extent of the defendant’s financial care, inclusive of having to provide for
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accommodation. He is not prejudiced by the court considering the maintenance claim in
these circumstances.
[125] In light of the fact that the joint estate must still be divided, the division of the estate
in itself might change the financial circumstances of the parties and the maintenance
order will in all possibility be revisited.
[126] In light of the circumstances of the case I find that the plaintiff is obliged pay
rehabilitative maintenance to the defendant.
Child maintenance
[127] It is trite that parents are obliged to maintain their minor children.
[128] No maintenance order that a court makes is cast in stone, and it can be amended if
there is any change in the circumstances of the affected children or the parents
themselves.
[129] Due to the fact that the defendant is not able at the moment to provide exact
numbers pertaining to the maintenance needs of the minor children, I consider the
existent maintenance order as the basis for my ruling, since it is trite that the
circumstances and the law require the plaintiff to contribute to his children’s maintenance.
[130] I accordingly find that the plaintiff shall pay maintenance to the defendant in respect
of the children T. M., born […] June 2011 and K. M., born […] August 2014, until they are
self-supporting.
Ancillary aspects and rulings
[131] In her heads of argument plaintiff’s counsel goes to length to indicate why I need to
view the defendant’s evidence with circumspection. In contrast, she argues that the
plaintiff ‘impressed as truthful, earnest, reliable and willing to make concessions where
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reasonably necessary.’ She consequently submits that I must accept the plaintiff’s
evidence and find him to be a truthful and reliable witness, while considering the
defendant’s evidence with caution.
[131.1] I will not engage in a comprehensive discussion addressing each of the
reasons listed by counsel. I am of the view that the record shows that both parties were
so invested in their respective cases that both tended at times to exaggerate certain facts
and underplay others. Both at times, attempted to paint themselves in a favourable light
and to discredit the other. Both interpreted certain events from their own perspectives,
and gave evidence according to their perspectives. Both at times were evasive.
[131.2] However, I need to deal with Ms. de Wet’s argument as captured in
paragraph 42 of the heads of argument. Here she states: ‘Cathrin is prone to making
sweeping statements in absence of any objective evidence by way of example, in cross
examination she, for the first time, alleged that during the time that the children are in
Kaizer’s care he was leaving them with either his mother, his girlfriend, or the gardener
50% of the time.’ (My emphasis). This submission is factually incorrect. The claim was
already made for the first time in paragraph 37 of the defendant’s plea that ‘… the
defendant (clearly and error and should read plaintiff) indeed “farms” the minor children
out to his extended family when he has a rare opportunity of spending time with them,
instead of providing same himself”, and repeated in paragraph 6.2.11 of the defendant’s
counterclaim.
[132] All rulings pertaining to the admissibility or inadmissibility of evidence were done by
considering the relevance of the proposed evidence, whether it would take the matter any
further, whether it would prejudice or be unfair to a specific party if the evidence was
allowed, and whether the proposed evidence would provide me with a specific
perspective that I needed in coming to a decision in this matter.
Costs
[133] Costs generally follow suit, but the court has a wide discretion in this regard.
[134] I take into consideration that the defendant was successful with her counterclaim;
and that the plaintiff finds himself in a substantially better financial position. Despite being
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married in community of property the defendant had to make personal sacrifices to fund
her legal costs, she, inter alia, testified that she had to sell her horses.47 I also take into
consideration that the plaintiff’s summons contained allegations directed at the
defendant’s suitability and ability to act as the minor children’s caregiver. There is no
reason why costs should not follow suit in these circumstances.
ORDER:
IT IS THUS ORDERED THAT:
1. The marriage between the plaintiff and the defendant (“the parties”) is hereby
dissolved;
2. The joint estate of the parties (“the joint estate”) shall be divided:
2.1. The estate to be divided estate shall include any and all pension and/or retirement
annuity funds as contemplated in Section 1 of the Divorce Act 70 of 1979 ("the
Divorce Act”) held by the plaintiff.
2.2. In the event of the parties being unable within a period of three months from date
of divorce, to give effect to an equitable and equal division and distribution of the
joint estate on terms and conditions suitable to them, a liquidator shall be
appointed, in the manner set out below, in order to attend to the division and
distribution of the joint estate ln accordance with the powers contained in "A"
hereto.
2.3. The liquidator shall be selected and appointed by the parties, failing which within
one month of expiry of the period referred to in paragraph [2.2] above, the
liquidator shall be appointed by the President of the time being of the South
African Institute of Chartered Accountants.
3. The defendant is given leave to relocate the minor children outside the Republic of
South Africa to Germany.
3.1. The defendant shall confirm by whatsapp or e-mail or any other form of
communication the address where she and the minor children shall be residing
and her telephone and e-mail contact details by no later than 72 hours from their
arrival in Germany.
47 In his evidence in chief plaintiff testified that the defendant’s horses ‘were like her family.’
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4. Primary care of the minor children and the minor children's primary place of residence
shall vest with the defendant, subject to the plaintiff being entitled to reasonable
contact with the minor children, subject to the minor children's educational, religious,
social, cultural and extramural activities in accordance with paragraph [113] above.
5. The parties shall retain full parental rights and responsibilities in respect of the minor
children as envisaged by section 18(2) of the Children's Act, 38 of 2005, save that the
defendant shall not require the consent of the plaintiff, in respect of the minor children
T.- M., born [...] June 2011 and K. M., born [...] August 2014:
5.1. for the children's departure or removal from the Republic; and
5.2. for any application for a passport or the renewal of any passport.
6. The defendant is to inform the plaintiff timeously, with at least 3 calendar days’ notice,
as to when she and the children will travel to Germany.
7. The plaintiff and his family shall say their farewells 24 hours before the defendant and
the children leave for Germany.
7.1. Neither the plaintiff nor any member of his extended family may accompany the
children to the airport or be seen by the children at the airport. The defendant
shall provide them with the necessary opportunity to say goodbye to the children
in the 24 hours preceding the flight.
7.2. The plaintiff may exercise telephonic contact on the days preceding the children’s
departure.
8. Until the defendant and the children relocate the plaintiff is entitled to exercise the
following contact:
8.1. On weekends sleep-over contact with the minor children on Friday and Saturday
nights, the children can be collected Friday’s at 16h00 and shall be returned to
the defendant by Sunday’s at 16h00;
8.2. Mid-week contact on Wednesdays between 8h00 and 19h00, subject to the
children’s educational, and extra-mural activities. The plaintiff may transport the
children on Wednesdays to and from their activities. This is subject to the
provision in 7, supra;
8.3. Daily telephonic contact between 7h00 -9h00, and 17h00-19h00.
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9. Ms Clark of Clark’s Attorneys, or her nominee, is ordered to release the passports of
the children to the defendant, or her nominee with immediate effect.
10. The plaintiff shall pay maintenance to the defendant in respect of T.- M., born [...]
June 2011 and K. M., born [...] August 2014 until they are self-supporting as follows:
10.1. An amount of E600 (six hundred euros) per child per month, free of bank
or transactional charges, (in order that the full maintenance amount is available in
the defendant’s nominated account) which amount is to be paid on the first day of
each month and is to increase annually at the rate in the Consumer Price Index,
or equivalent index applicable in Germany on the 1st day of February of each
consecutive year. The first payment is to commence on 1 February 2018;
10.2. All the costs associated with the minor children’s schooling including
nursery school, kindergarten, crèche and pre-school fees and associated costs
for the account of parents and not covered by the state authorities in Germany;
10.3. All excess medical expenses not covered by the medical insurance scheme
in respect of the children; including, but not limited to, hospital, dental, surgical,
ophthalmic, optometric (incorporating the cost of prescribed spectacles and
contact lenses), orthodontic, psychiatric, psychological, therapeutic intervention
(including speech therapy, occupational therapy, physiotherapy and
psychotherapy), prescribed orthopaedic and pharmaceutical expenses;
10.4. If the parties agree that the children attend a private school the costs of
schooling in the event that the minor children attend a private school in German;
10.5. All the children’s school related expenses, not covered by the state
authorities in Germany including but not limited to extra mural and sporting
activities, including clothing and equipment in relation thereto, books and
stationery, school uniforms, school functions, tours and excursions, and requisite
computer equipment,
10.6. In the event of the defendant paying any of the amounts referred to above,
for which the plaintiff is responsible, the plaintiff shall reimburse the defendant,
free from any bank or transactional charges, within 7 (seven) calendar days from
receiving the proof of payment or invoice by e-mail or whatsapp or any other form
of communication.
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10.7. The costs of both minor children's tertiary education, in the event that they
demonstrate an aptitude for same, whether at a technical training college,
university, technikon, computer, secretarial, art school or any other like
educational institution, at a location selected by the minor children in consultation
with the plaintiff at the time, as well as all related expenses associated therewith,
including residence and/or accommodation expenses and all general living
expenses whilst the minor/dependent children remain enrolled at any such
educational institution, as well as all other related expenses including but not
limited to stationery, extra mural and sporting equipment, clothing and transport
including the provision of a motor vehicle and petrol.
11. Plaintiff shall pay rehabilitative maintenance in respect of the defendant in an amount
of E1000 (one thousand euros), free from any bank or transactional charges, (in order
that the full maintenance amount is available in the defendant’s nominated account)
per month.
11.1. The rehabilitative maintenance is payable for a period of four years from
1 February 2018, or until the defendant’s death, or remarriage, whichever occurs
first.
11.2. The maintenance amount is to be paid on the first day of each month and
is to increase annually at the rate in the Consumer Price Index, or equivalent
index applicable in Germany on the 1ste day of February for each consecutive
year;
12. Defendant shall inform the plaintiff by e-mail or whatsapp or any other form of
communication as soon as practical of the crèche, playgroup and/or school that the
minor children shall be attending in Germany;
12.1 The defendant shall further provide the plaintiff with the contact details of
the school in order for the plaintiff to contact the relevant school pertaining to
the minor children’s progress and/or school reports.
13. Defendant shall inform the plaintiff by e-mail or whatsapp or any other form of
communication as soon as practical of any extra mural and/or sporting activities that
the minor children shall be attending in Germany;
13.1 The defendant shall further provide the plaintiff with the contact details of the
relevant person, facility and/or institution where the minor children are attending
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such activities in order for the plaintiff to contact them regarding the minor
children’s progress and/or participation.
14. Defendant shall inform the plaintiff by e-mail or whatsapp or any other form of
communication as soon as practical of any medical and/or therapeutic intervention,
assistance and/or treatment that the minor children receive in Germany;
14.1 The defendant shall further provide the plaintiff with the contact details of the
relevant person, facility, practitioner and/or institution where the minor children
are receiving such therapeutic intervention, assistance and/or treatment in order
for the plaintiff to contact them in order to obtain information regarding the minor
children’s progress, treatment and/or prognoses.
15. Plaintiff is to pay defendant’s legal costs on a party and party scale, such costs to
include all costs reserved to date, the costs consequent upon the employment of two
counsel, and the disbursement, expenses, qualifying fees and attendance fees of the
expert witnesses, Dr. Kruger and Dr. Benn.
______________________
E VAN DER SCHYFF
Acting Judge of the High Court
Plaintiff’s Attorneys
Steve Merchak Attorney
1st Floor, 3 Gwen Lane
SANDTON
Adv. A de Wet
Defendant’s Attorneys
Darryl Furman & Associates
Illovo Law Chambers
4 Fricker Road
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ILLOVO
Adv. J Peter (SC)