Relationships and the Bible

Relationships and the BibleRelationships and the Bible

Dr. Jobe MartinDr. Jobe Martin

Biblical Discipleship MinistriesBiblical Discipleship Ministrieswww.biblicaldiscipleship.orgwww.biblicaldiscipleship.org

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BIBLICAL CHRISTIANITYBIBLICAL CHRISTIANITY

One One BookBook to obey. to obey.

One One GodGod to serve. to serve.

One One LifeLife to live. to live.– That ye might walk worthy of the Lord That ye might walk worthy of the Lord

unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every unto all pleasing, being fruitful in every good work, and increasing in the good work, and increasing in the knowledge of God…. knowledge of God….

Colossians 1:10 Colossians 1:10


MANY PROBLEMS IN THE CHRISTIAN LIFE MANY PROBLEMS IN THE CHRISTIAN LIFE RESULT FROM LACK OF:RESULT FROM LACK OF:

1. Discipline 1. Discipline

2. Commitment2. Commitment

3. Obedience3. Obedience

These surface as:These surface as:

Pride and Selfishness (Lust)Pride and Selfishness (Lust)

The Root Cause is:The Root Cause is: Lack of Faith and UnbeliefLack of Faith and Unbelief (Rebellion against our Lord)(Rebellion against our Lord)


WHAT MUST WE DO?WHAT MUST WE DO?

Understand our times and know what Understand our times and know what we must do about it! we must do about it!

1 Chronicles 12:32 1 Chronicles 12:32

Surrender our will to the will of God.Surrender our will to the will of God.

Do our work heartily as unto the Lord.Do our work heartily as unto the Lord.

Seek the approval of God, not men.Seek the approval of God, not men.

Live and speak in the power of the H. S.Live and speak in the power of the H. S.

Live within the framework of Scripture.Live within the framework of Scripture.


ValuesValuesRespect for life Wealth

Truth “Fruit of the Spirit”Happiness Health Loyalty

WorldviewWorldviewA set of beliefs or ideas / a system of thought

Ethics Biology Psychology

PhilosophyTheology

Politics Economics History

Law

Sociology

““For as he thinketh in his heart, For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.”so is he.” Proverbs 23:7Proverbs 23:7

BehaviBehavioror

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WHAT IS A “FOOLISH” YOUTH?WHAT IS A “FOOLISH” YOUTH?

““[He] may be a teenager who has [He] may be a teenager who has attended church for years. He is there attended church for years. He is there because his parents make him come. because his parents make him come. He will daydream during most of the He will daydream during most of the

lesson, and the part that he does hear, lesson, and the part that he does hear, he has already made up his mind to he has already made up his mind to

ignore. He is foolish.”ignore. He is foolish.”Jerry L. Ross, Jerry L. Ross, The Teenage Years of Jesus ChristThe Teenage Years of Jesus Christ, ,

(ISBN 0-87398-898-1) p. 8(ISBN 0-87398-898-1) p. 8


John 12:48John 12:48

48 He that rejecteth me, and 48 He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my words, receiveth not my words,

hath one that judgeth him: hath one that judgeth him: the word that I have spoken, the word that I have spoken, the same shall judge him in the same shall judge him in

the last day.the last day.


THE THREE BIG DECISIONSTHE THREE BIG DECISIONS

Who is my Who is my MasterMaster??

What is my What is my missionmission??

Who is my Who is my matemate??


THE BIG FLIP-FLOP:THE BIG FLIP-FLOP:

MATE-MISSION-MASTERMATE-MISSION-MASTERMost Christian youth are seeking a Most Christian youth are seeking a

mate and attempting to establish their mate and attempting to establish their mission in life and, then, they begin to mission in life and, then, they begin to get things in order with their Master, get things in order with their Master,

the Lord Jesus Christ, often after costly the Lord Jesus Christ, often after costly mistakes!mistakes!

Mistakes happen when God’s intended Mistakes happen when God’s intended order is flip-flopped!order is flip-flopped!


WHO AM I AS A CHRISTIAN?WHO AM I AS A CHRISTIAN?

Member of the family and household of Member of the family and household of God: God: Galatians 6:10; Ephesians 2:19Galatians 6:10; Ephesians 2:19

Complete in Christ: Complete in Christ: Colossians 2:10Colossians 2:10

Possessor of every spiritual blessing: Possessor of every spiritual blessing:

Ephesians 1:3Ephesians 1:3

Born of the Spirit: Born of the Spirit: John 3:6John 3:6

Baptized with the Spirit: Baptized with the Spirit: 1 Cor. 12:131 Cor. 12:13


IndweltIndwelt by the Holy Spirit: by the Holy Spirit: Jn. 7:39; Rom. Jn. 7:39; Rom.

5:5, 8:9; 1 Cor. 3:16, 6:19; Gal. 4:6;5:5, 8:9; 1 Cor. 3:16, 6:19; Gal. 4:6; 1 Jn. 3:241 Jn. 3:24

SealedSealed by the Spirit: by the Spirit: Eph. 4:30; 2 Cor. 1:22Eph. 4:30; 2 Cor. 1:22

Given spiritual Given spiritual giftsgifts: : 1 Cor. 12-14; Rom. 121 Cor. 12-14; Rom. 12

We are We are IN CHRISTIN CHRIST: : Jn. 14:20; Col. 1:27Jn. 14:20; Col. 1:27

A A membermember in Christ’s body: in Christ’s body: 1 Cor. 12:131 Cor. 12:13

A A branchbranch in the Vine: in the Vine: John 15:5John 15:5


•Recipientof Recipientof eternaleternal life: life: John 3:15 and 16, John 3:15 and 16, John 10:28, 1 John 5:11-13 John 10:28, 1 John 5:11-13

SeatedSeated in heavenly places: in heavenly places: Eph. 2:6Eph. 2:6

MinisterMinister of the N.T.: of the N.T.: 2 Cor. 3:6(KJV2 Cor. 3:6(KJV))

AmbassadorAmbassador of Christ: of Christ: 2 Cor. 5:202 Cor. 5:20

A A livingliving letter: letter: 2 Cor. 3:32 Cor. 3:3

AA minister minister (servant) of God: (servant) of God: 2Cor. 6:42Cor. 6:4

God’s God’s inheritanceinheritance: : Eph. 1:18Eph. 1:18

RedeemedRedeemed: : Rom. 3:24; Col. 1:14; 1 Pet. 1:18Rom. 3:24; Col. 1:14; 1 Pet. 1:18


•Christians are God’s “house” on earth: Christians are God’s “house” on earth: 1 Cor. 3:9; 2 Cor. 5:11 Cor. 3:9; 2 Cor. 5:1

An heir of God: An heir of God: Rom. 8:17; 1 Pet. 1:4Rom. 8:17; 1 Pet. 1:4

Joint heir of Christ: Joint heir of Christ: Rom. 8:17; Heb. 9:15Rom. 8:17; Heb. 9:15

Have access to God: Have access to God: Rom. 5:2; Eph 2:18;Rom. 5:2; Eph 2:18; Heb. 4:16, 10:19Heb. 4:16, 10:19

A called and protected people: A called and protected people: Titus 2:14, Titus 2:14, 1 Peter 2:9 1 Peter 2:9

Delivered from the power of sin: Delivered from the power of sin: Rom. 6:2; Rom. 6:2; Phil. 3:3; Col. 2:11 Phil. 3:3; Col. 2:11


• A living stone: A living stone: Eph. 2:21,22; 1 Pet. 2:5Eph. 2:21,22; 1 Pet. 2:5

A sheep in His flock: A sheep in His flock: John 10:27-29John 10:27-29

A part of Christ’s bride: A part of Christ’s bride: Eph. 5:25-27Eph. 5:25-27

A priest in God’s Kingdom: A priest in God’s Kingdom: 1 Pet. 2:91 Pet. 2:9

A new creature: A new creature: 2 Cor. 5:172 Cor. 5:17

A child of light: A child of light: Eph. 5:8; 1 Thess.5:4,5Eph. 5:8; 1 Thess.5:4,5

In the Spirit: In the Spirit: Romans 8:9Romans 8:9

Positionally glorified: Positionally glorified: Romans 8:30Romans 8:30


•Delivered from the kingdom of Satan:Delivered from the kingdom of Satan: Colossians 1:13, 2:15Colossians 1:13, 2:15

Foreknown: Foreknown: Acts: 2:23; Rom. 8:29; 1 Pet. 1:2Acts: 2:23; Rom. 8:29; 1 Pet. 1:2

Elect: Elect: Rom. 8:33; Col. 3:12; Tit. 1:1; 1 Pet. 1:2Rom. 8:33; Col. 3:12; Tit. 1:1; 1 Pet. 1:2

Predestined: Predestined: Rom. 8:29; Eph. 1:5,11Rom. 8:29; Eph. 1:5,11

Chosen: Chosen: Matt. 22:14; 1 Pet. 2:4Matt. 22:14; 1 Pet. 2:4

Called: Called: Matt. 22:14; 1Thess. 5:24Matt. 22:14; 1Thess. 5:24

Reconciled by God: Reconciled by God: 2 Cor. 5:18,19; Col. 1:202 Cor. 5:18,19; Col. 1:20

Reconciled to God: Reconciled to God: Rom. 5:10; 2 Cor.5:20Rom. 5:10; 2 Cor.5:20


•RedeemedRedeemed how I love to proclaim how I love to proclaim it,redeemed by the blood of the lamb! it,redeemed by the blood of the lamb! Rom3:24;Col 1:14Rom3:24;Col 1:14

All condemnation removed: All condemnation removed: Jn5:24;Rom8:1Jn5:24;Rom8:1

Crucified with Christ:Crucified with Christ: Rom. 6:6; Gal. 6:20Rom. 6:6; Gal. 6:20

Dead with Christ: Dead with Christ: Ro 6:8; Col 3:3; 1 Pt 2:24Ro 6:8; Col 3:3; 1 Pt 2:24

Buried with Christ: Buried with Christ: Rom. 6:4; Col. 2:12Rom. 6:4; Col. 2:12

Raised with Christ: Raised with Christ: Rom. 6:4; Col. 3:1Rom. 6:4; Col. 3:1

Regenerated: Regenerated: Jn. 13:10; 1 Cor. 6:1; Tit. 3:5Jn. 13:10; 1 Cor. 6:1; Tit. 3:5

Born Again: Born Again: Jn. 3:7; 1 Pet. 1:23Jn. 3:7; 1 Pet. 1:23


•I am I am forgivenforgiven allall my sins!!! my sins!!! Eph. 1:7, 4:32; Eph. 1:7, 4:32;

Colossians 1:14, 2:13, 3:13 Colossians 1:14, 2:13, 3:13

Child of God: Child of God: Gal 3:26; Jn 1:12; 2Cor 6:18Gal 3:26; Jn 1:12; 2Cor 6:18

A New Creation: A New Creation: 2Cor 5:17; Gal 6:15; Eph 2:102Cor 5:17; Gal 6:15; Eph 2:10

Adopted: Adopted: Rom. 8:15,23; Eph. 1:5Rom. 8:15,23; Eph. 1:5

Acceptable to God: Acceptable to God: Eph. 1:6; 1 Pet. 2:5Eph. 1:6; 1 Pet. 2:5

Made RighteousMade Righteous Ro 3:22; 2Cor 5:21; Phil 3:9Ro 3:22; 2Cor 5:21; Phil 3:9

Perfected Perfected forever:forever: Hebrews 10:14Hebrews 10:14

Justified: Justified: Ro 3:24;5:1,9; 8:30; 1Cor 6:11 Tit 3:7Ro 3:24;5:1,9; 8:30; 1Cor 6:11 Tit 3:7


•We have heavenly citizenship:We have heavenly citizenship: Luke 10:20; Eph. 2:13,19; Phil. 3:20Luke 10:20; Eph. 2:13,19; Phil. 3:20

Within the “much more” care of God: Within the “much more” care of God: Romans 5:9,10Romans 5:9,10

Object of God’s love: Object of God’s love: Eph. 2:4, 5:2Eph. 2:4, 5:2

Object of God’s power: Object of God’s power: Eph. 1:19; Phil. 2:13Eph. 1:19; Phil. 2:13

Object of His faithfulness: Object of His faithfulness: Phil 1:6; Heb 13:5,6Phil 1:6; Heb 13:5,6

Object of God’s peace:Object of God’s peace: John 14:27John 14:27

Object of God’s consolation:Object of God’s consolation: 2Thess 2Thess 2:162:16


•Object of God’s intercession: Object of God’s intercession: Romans 8:34; Hebrews 7:25Romans 8:34; Hebrews 7:25

Object of God’s grace:Object of God’s grace:For salvationFor salvation: : Ephesians 2:8,9Ephesians 2:8,9

For keepingFor keeping: : Rom. 5:2; 1Pet. 1:5Rom. 5:2; 1Pet. 1:5

For instructionFor instruction: : Titus 2:12Titus 2:12

These are 64 I.D. distinctives of who These are 64 I.D. distinctives of who we are as Christians. we are as Christians.

By the wayBy the way, to lose our salvation these , to lose our salvation these would all have to be stripped away.would all have to be stripped away.


THREE WORDS IN THE MIND OF A THREE WORDS IN THE MIND OF A BRIDE:BRIDE:

Aisle, Altar, HymnAisle, Altar, Hymn

I’ll alter him!I’ll alter him!

No you won’t!No you won’t!


A CRUCIAL DAILY PRAYER:A CRUCIAL DAILY PRAYER:

In the relationships of life let us pray as In the relationships of life let us pray as Jesus prayed when He faced the cross:Jesus prayed when He faced the cross:

““Heavenly Father, not my will, Heavenly Father, not my will, but Thy will be done.” but Thy will be done.”

[Luke 22:42 paraphrase][Luke 22:42 paraphrase]

Is it God’s will or my will?Is it God’s will or my will?


WHAT IS INCLUDED IN BIBLICAL WHAT IS INCLUDED IN BIBLICAL PURITY?PURITY?

God’s standard for purity is:God’s standard for purity is:

no adultery, no adultery,

no fornication,no fornication,

no lust,no lust,

no defrauding.no defrauding.

Virginity doesn’t necessarily mean purity.Virginity doesn’t necessarily mean purity.

A virgin man or woman can lust, defraud, etc, A virgin man or woman can lust, defraud, etc,


PROVERBS 31:12PROVERBS 31:12

In speaking of the relationship of In speaking of the relationship of the wife to her husband, Proverbs the wife to her husband, Proverbs

says:says:

““She will do him good and not She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” evil all the days of her life.”

Your “single” days are included in Your “single” days are included in “all the days” of your life!“all the days” of your life!


GENESIS 2:24, 25GENESIS 2:24, 25

““Therefore shall a man leave his father and his Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, shall be one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”

““naked” = transparent, open, honest, laid bare, naked” = transparent, open, honest, laid bare, unselfish….unselfish….

God’s original plan for marriage: husband and God’s original plan for marriage: husband and wife unselfishly loving their Lord and each wife unselfishly loving their Lord and each

other. other. NO SELFISHNESS!!!NO SELFISHNESS!!!


Does the Bible refute Evolution?Does the Bible refute Evolution? Jesus, the Creator Himself, refutes the Jesus, the Creator Himself, refutes the

molecules to man hypothesis by saying:molecules to man hypothesis by saying:““But from the beginning of the creation But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.” God made them male and female.” Mark Mark

10:610:6

Is Jesus speaking of male and female Is Jesus speaking of male and female bacteria?bacteria?

What is the context of Mark 10?What is the context of Mark 10?

The context is The context is divorcedivorce. Do bacteria get . Do bacteria get divorces?divorces?= From the Beginning: = From the Beginning: Male and Male and

female peoplefemale people


God says male and female people on earth God says male and female people on earth from the Beginning.from the Beginning.

People from the Beginning! People from the Beginning!

Evolution says people evolved last and at the very end (recently).

6000 years

People at the end!People at the end!

4.5 billion years

here

WHICH DO YOU BELIEVE?WHICH DO YOU BELIEVE?

PEOPLE AT THE BEGINNING

OR

PEOPLE AT THE END?here


MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT,MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT,BIBLICAL MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT!BIBLICAL MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT!

A CONTRACT:A CONTRACT:1. Based on distrust: no 1. Based on distrust: no knowledge of other’s knowledge of other’s character.character.2. Limited liability: 2. Limited liability: (terms of the contract).(terms of the contract).3. Can be altered (if 3. Can be altered (if conditions change).conditions change).

A COVENANT: A COVENANT: – 1. Mutual Trust: based 1. Mutual Trust: based

on a personal on a personal relationship.relationship.

– 2. Unlimited Respon- 2. Unlimited Respon- sibility: (never ends).sibility: (never ends).

– 3. Unchangeable: It 3. Unchangeable: It can’t be changed can’t be changed even if conditions even if conditions change.change.


EPHESIANS 5:31, 32EPHESIANS 5:31, 32

““For this cause shall a man leave his For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”concerning Christ and the church.”

A biblical marriage is to be an audio-visual A biblical marriage is to be an audio-visual picture to the world of Christ’s relationship picture to the world of Christ’s relationship to His bride, the church. (unbreakable!)to His bride, the church. (unbreakable!)


MARRIAGE PICTURES MARRIAGE PICTURES SALVATION AND ETERNAL LIFESALVATION AND ETERNAL LIFE

GENESIS 2:23:GENESIS 2:23:

Adam said about Eve: “This is now bone of my Adam said about Eve: “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh.”bones, and flesh of my flesh.”

Adam and Eve became “one flesh.” Gen. 2:24Adam and Eve became “one flesh.” Gen. 2:24

Eve was as much a part of Adam as were his Eve was as much a part of Adam as were his own bones and flesh.own bones and flesh.

The only way to separate Adam from his bones The only way to separate Adam from his bones and flesh was by deathand flesh was by death

Only death could separate Adam and Eve!Only death could separate Adam and Eve!


GOD’S PLAN FOR MARRIAGE: GOD’S PLAN FOR MARRIAGE: “‘TIL DEATH DO US PART.”“‘TIL DEATH DO US PART.”

God’s “Blood Covenant” and its permanency is God’s “Blood Covenant” and its permanency is pictured in the marriage ceremony:pictured in the marriage ceremony:

Couples end their vows by saying, “‘til death do Couples end their vows by saying, “‘til death do us part.”—The blood covenant was binding until us part.”—The blood covenant was binding until the death of the parties involved.the death of the parties involved.

The husband and wife walk down the aisle The husband and wife walk down the aisle hand in hand symbolizing entrance into a hand in hand symbolizing entrance into a Biblical Blood Covenant.Biblical Blood Covenant.


THE IRREVOCABLE THE IRREVOCABLE BIBLICAL BLOOD COVENANT:BIBLICAL BLOOD COVENANT:

The Blood Covenant was established as the The Blood Covenant was established as the two parties would walk hand in hand between two parties would walk hand in hand between the separated halves of a sacrificed animal.the separated halves of a sacrificed animal.The wedding guests for bride and groom sit on The wedding guests for bride and groom sit on

opposite sides of the church and the new opposite sides of the church and the new couple holds hands and passes down the aisle couple holds hands and passes down the aisle between the separated guests, symbolizing the between the separated guests, symbolizing the covenant walk between the two pieces of the covenant walk between the two pieces of the

sacrificial animal which establishes an sacrificial animal which establishes an irrevocable covenant until death. irrevocable covenant until death.


““COVENANT” COVENANT” HEBREW LANGUAGE DEFINITION:HEBREW LANGUAGE DEFINITION:

““BINDING BY PASSING BINDING BY PASSING BETWEEN TWO PIECES BETWEEN TWO PIECES

OF FLESH.”OF FLESH.”


WHAT ABOUT DATING?WHAT ABOUT DATING?

The biblical picture is: Men initiate, The biblical picture is: Men initiate, Women respond: that means:Women respond: that means:

Men leadMen lead

Men call, Women wait (trust our Lord)Men call, Women wait (trust our Lord)

Men pay the bill.Men pay the bill.

Men propose.Men propose.

Feminism has destroyed God’s created Feminism has destroyed God’s created order---women lead! (Isaiah 3:12)order---women lead! (Isaiah 3:12)


GOD’S CREATION ORDER:GOD’S CREATION ORDER:

God is sovereign and God is sovereign and over allover all..The man (Adam) is in submission to God.The man (Adam) is in submission to God.The woman is in submission to her husband.The woman is in submission to her husband.The animals are in submission to mankind.The animals are in submission to mankind.WHEN SIN ENTERED THE RACE OF ADAM:WHEN SIN ENTERED THE RACE OF ADAM:The woman (Eve) submitted to the animal (SerpThe woman (Eve) submitted to the animal (SerpThe man (Adam) submitted to his wife (Eve).The man (Adam) submitted to his wife (Eve).God is God is under allunder all —creation order flip flopped: —creation order flip flopped: animals are more important than people!!!animals are more important than people!!!


WHAT ABOUT DATING?WHAT ABOUT DATING?

2 Corinthians 6:14-18:2 Corinthians 6:14-18:1414 Be ye not unequally yoked Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? communion hath light with darkness? 1515 And what And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? that believeth with an infidel? 1616 And what agreement And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in in them, and walk in themthem; and I will be their God, and ; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. they shall be my people. 1717 Wherefore come out from Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean touch not the unclean thingthing; and I will receive you, ; and I will receive you, 1818 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.


JOHN 14:15JOHN 14:15

Jesus said: Jesus said:

““If ye love me, If ye love me,

keep my keep my commandments.”commandments.”


Now about Now about DATING?DATING?

““It is good for a man It is good for a man not to touch a not to touch a woman.woman.”” 1 Corinthians 7:1 ( 1 Corinthians 7:1 (KJVKJV))

““It is good for a man It is good for a man not to touch a not to touch a woman.woman.”” 1 Corinthians 7:1 ( 1 Corinthians 7:1 (NASBNASB))

““It is good for a man It is good for a man not to marrynot to marry.”.” 1 Corinthians 7:1 1 Corinthians 7:1 ((NIVNIV))

NIV USES DYNAMIC EQUIVALENTS AND NIV USES DYNAMIC EQUIVALENTS AND NOT LITERAL TRANSLATION.NOT LITERAL TRANSLATION.


Nevertheless, to avoid Nevertheless, to avoid fornicationfornication, let every man , let every man have his own wife and every woman her own have his own wife and every woman her own husband. husband. 1 Corinthians 7:21 Corinthians 7:2

1 Cor. 7:1: “1 Cor. 7:1: “manman” = “Anthropos” = men or ” = “Anthropos” = men or mankind.mankind.

1 Cor. 7:1: “1 Cor. 7:1: “to touchto touch” = “Haptomai” = ” = “Haptomai” = touching that lights a fire or kindles a flame touching that lights a fire or kindles a flame or further relations result.or further relations result.

1 Cor. 7:2: “1 Cor. 7:2: “fornicationfornication” = PORNEIA Most ” = PORNEIA Most commonly used for immorality among commonly used for immorality among singles, incest, beastiality, idolatry, not singles, incest, beastiality, idolatry, not usually meaning adultery of married ones. usually meaning adultery of married ones.


SinglenessSingleness is God’s gift to you to equip is God’s gift to you to equip you for a you for a life of ministrylife of ministry!!!!!!

Joshua Harris in Joshua Harris in I Kissed Dating GoodbyeI Kissed Dating Goodbye 1997, Multnomah Press, writes:1997, Multnomah Press, writes:

Dating leads to Dating leads to intimacyintimacy, but not , but not necessarily commitment.necessarily commitment.

Dating tends to Dating tends to skipskip the “friendship” the “friendship” stage of a relationshipstage of a relationship

Dating often Dating often mistakesmistakes a physical a physical relationship for love relationship for love


•Dating often Dating often isolates a coupleisolates a couple from other from other vital relationships.vital relationships.

Dating, in many cases, Dating, in many cases, distractsdistracts young young adults from their adults from their primary responsibilityprimary responsibility of of preparing for the futurepreparing for the future..

Dating can cause Dating can cause discontentmentdiscontentment with with God’s gift of singlenessGod’s gift of singleness..

Dating creates an Dating creates an artificial environmentartificial environment for evaluating another person’s for evaluating another person’s character.character.


LUKE 6:46LUKE 6:46

Jesus said: “And Jesus said: “And why call ye me, Lord, why call ye me, Lord, Lord, and do not the Lord, and do not the things which I say?”things which I say?”


RESPONSIBLE OR RESPONSIBLE OR IRRESPONSIBLE?IRRESPONSIBLE?

DATING DATING

Little parent involveLittle parent involve

The two alone to- The two alone together much timegether much time

Recreational enter- Recreational enter- tainment for funtainment for fun

Can breed Can breed irresponsibilityirresponsibility

COURTINGCOURTING

Much parent involveMuch parent involve

Open accountability Open accountability with others presntwith others presnt

Ministry with others Ministry with others for funfor fun

Nurtures Nurtures responsibility responsibility


MEN: ARE YOU READY TO PROVIDE FOR MEN: ARE YOU READY TO PROVIDE FOR AND PROTECT A WIFE?AND PROTECT A WIFE?

DATINGDATING

Can be careless Can be careless about situations that about situations that lead to immoralitylead to immorality

A series of broken A series of broken relationships does relationships does not help you to learn not help you to learn loyaltyloyalty

COURTINGCOURTING

Puts guards on you Puts guards on you to prevent slipping to prevent slipping into immoralityinto immorality

Withhold your Withhold your emotional emotional attachments until attachments until you are ready to you are ready to marrymarry


LADIES: ARE YOU READY TO MARRY LADIES: ARE YOU READY TO MARRY AND RAISE A FAMILY?AND RAISE A FAMILY?

DATINGDATING

Trusts in strong Trusts in strong romantic desires to romantic desires to guideguide

Tends toward the Tends toward the physical at the physical at the expense of the expense of the intellectual and intellectual and spiritualspiritual

COURTINGCOURTING

Distrusts emotions Distrusts emotions and trusts Godly and trusts Godly counsel + planningcounsel + planning

Tends toward the in- Tends toward the intellectual and tellectual and spiritual and waits spiritual and waits for the physical until for the physical until marriagemarriage


1 JOHN 1:4-71 JOHN 1:4-7

““And these things write we unto you, that your And these things write we unto you, that your joy may be full. joy may be full. 55 This then is the message This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all. at all. 66 If we say that we have fellowship with If we say that we have fellowship with him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not him, and walk in darkness, we lie, and do not the truth: the truth: 77 But if we walk in the light, as he is in But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.”us from all sin.”


HEBREWS 11:6HEBREWS 11:6

But without faith But without faith it isit is impossible to please impossible to please himhim: for : for he that cometh to God must he that cometh to God must

believe that he is, and believe that he is, and thatthat he is he is a rewarder of them that a rewarder of them that

diligently seek him.diligently seek him.


WHAT DOES GOD WANT?WHAT DOES GOD WANT?

Everyone longs to give themselves Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone, to have a deep completely to someone, to have a deep soul relationship with another, to be soul relationship with another, to be loved thoroughly and exclusively; but loved thoroughly and exclusively; but God to a Christian says:God to a Christian says:

No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and contentand content

With being loved by Me aloneWith being loved by Me alone


•With giving yourself totally and With giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Meunreservedly to Me

With having an intensely personal and With having an intensely personal and unique relationship with Me alone,unique relationship with Me alone,

Discovering that only in Me is your Discovering that only in Me is your satisfaction to be foundsatisfaction to be found

Will you be capable of the perfect Will you be capable of the perfect human relationship that I have planned human relationship that I have planned for you.for you.

You will never be united with anotherYou will never be united with another


•Until you are united with Me,Until you are united with Me,

Exclusive of anyone else or anything else,Exclusive of anyone else or anything else,

Exclusive of any other longings or desiresExclusive of any other longings or desires

I want you to stop planning, stop wishingI want you to stop planning, stop wishing

And allow Me to give you the most thrilling And allow Me to give you the most thrilling plan existingplan existing

One that you cannot imagine.One that you cannot imagine.

I want you to have the best;I want you to have the best;


•I WANT YOU TO HAVE THE BEST!I WANT YOU TO HAVE THE BEST!

Please allow Me to give it to you.Please allow Me to give it to you.

You just keep watching Me, expecting the You just keep watching Me, expecting the greatest things,greatest things,

Keep experiencing the satisfaction that I amKeep experiencing the satisfaction that I am

Keep listening and learning the things that I Keep listening and learning the things that I tell you. tell you.

You just wait; Don’t be anxious, don’t worry, You just wait; Don’t be anxious, don’t worry, don’t look at the things you want - - -don’t look at the things you want - - -


•You just keep looking off and away up to You just keep looking off and away up to Me or you’ll miss what I want to show youMe or you’ll miss what I want to show you

And then, when you’re ready, I will sur- And then, when you’re ready, I will sur- prise you with a love far more prise you with a love far more wonderful than any you dream of.wonderful than any you dream of.

You see, until you are ready and until You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for you is ready,the one I have for you is ready,

(I am working even at this moment to (I am working even at this moment to have you both ready at the same time)have you both ready at the same time)


•Until you are both satisfied exclusively with Until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me and the life I prepared for you,Me and the life I prepared for you,

You won’t be able to experience the love You won’t be able to experience the love that exemplifies your relationship with that exemplifies your relationship with Me, Me,

And this is the perfect love.And this is the perfect love.

And dear one, I want you to have this And dear one, I want you to have this most wonderful love, most wonderful love,

I want you to see in the flesh a picture of I want you to see in the flesh a picture of your relationship with Me, and to enjoy your relationship with Me, and to enjoy materially and concretely- - - -materially and concretely- - - -


•The everlasting union of beauty, perfection The everlasting union of beauty, perfection and love that I offer with Myself.and love that I offer with Myself.

Know that I love you utterly.Know that I love you utterly.

I AM GOD.I AM GOD.

Believe and be satisfied.Believe and be satisfied.– Author unknownAuthor unknown


COLOSSIANS 3:2-3:COLOSSIANS 3:2-3:

“ “Set your affection [mind and heart] on Set your affection [mind and heart] on things above, not on things on the things above, not on things on the

earth. For ye are dead, and your life is earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God.”hid with Christ in God.”

Is there anything that could take a Is there anything that could take a Christian Single’s affection away from a Christian Single’s affection away from a

focused love of our Savior? focused love of our Savior?

KISSINGKISSINGSome thoughts by a 1996 Some thoughts by a 1996

Summit Excellence GraduateSummit Excellence Graduate

““A Student’s Viewpoint”A Student’s Viewpoint”


THE SUMMIT GRAD SAYS:THE SUMMIT GRAD SAYS:““Would you kiss this guy if your Would you kiss this guy if your parentsparents

were watching?were watching?

Does kissing cause your relationship to Does kissing cause your relationship to center in on the Lord Jesus Christ as the center in on the Lord Jesus Christ as the

centercenter in your relationship, or on the in your relationship, or on the physical aspects of your relationship?physical aspects of your relationship?

Do you really think that kissing is a Do you really think that kissing is a necessitynecessity to getting to know your friend? to getting to know your friend?


If you think If you think kissing is a necessitykissing is a necessity, then you , then you are centering in more on the physical partare centering in more on the physical part

of your relationship instead of the spiritual. I of your relationship instead of the spiritual. I believe that if you focus your relationship believe that if you focus your relationship more on spiritual things - i.e. How does God more on spiritual things - i.e. How does God want us to be? - then you will have a much want us to be? - then you will have a much more successful marriage and less chance more successful marriage and less chance of divorce.of divorce.

I also believe that kissing before I also believe that kissing before marriage marriage

shows a shows a lack of self controllack of self control and a weak-and a weak-


ness to give in to peer pressureness to give in to peer pressure. . True love is True love is patient.patient. (1 Corinthians 13) (1 Corinthians 13)

Is kissing really good for anything Is kissing really good for anything when when done before marriage?done before marriage?

Is there really any reason for kissing Is there really any reason for kissing other than to please your own physical other than to please your own physical desires? desires? Why are you kissing people?Why are you kissing people?

I think the best gift you can give your I think the best gift you can give your mate on your wedding day is the mate on your wedding day is the gift of gift of your first kiss!your first kiss!


HISTORICALLY, WHEN THE HISTORICALLY, WHEN THE MINISTER SAID:MINISTER SAID:

““You may now kiss the bride! . . .”You may now kiss the bride! . . .”

This was the couple’s This was the couple’s firstfirst kiss!!!! kiss!!!!

Our culture says you must try the Our culture says you must try the physical things to see if you are physical things to see if you are compatible. Physical compatibility is compatible. Physical compatibility is notnot a problem in marriage. 99.9% of a problem in marriage. 99.9% of all people are wired right!!!all people are wired right!!!


WHY NOT WHY NOT SAVE YOUR KISSESSAVE YOUR KISSES FOR YOUR MARRIAGE?FOR YOUR MARRIAGE?

Physical involvements before marriage lead Physical involvements before marriage lead to to broken relationships and lengthy broken relationships and lengthy recoveryrecovery periods during which concen- periods during which concen- tration is difficult, tration is difficult, tests are flunkedtests are flunked and our and our future is thereby limited.future is thereby limited.

God gives us God gives us singlenesssingleness to equip ourselves to equip ourselves with excellencewith excellence for a life of ministry for our for a life of ministry for our

dear Lord Jesus. dear Lord Jesus. Don’t throw it away!!Don’t throw it away!!


A TEST OF TRUE LOVE:A TEST OF TRUE LOVE:

STOP STOP EVERYTHINGEVERYTHING

PHYSICAL UNTIL PHYSICAL UNTIL MARRIAGE!!!MARRIAGE!!!


1 JOHN 2:15-171 JOHN 2:15-17

1515 Love not the world, neither the things Love not the world, neither the things that arethat are in the world. If any man love the in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. world, the love of the Father is not in him. 1616 For all that For all that isis in the world, in the world, the lust of the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Fatherpride of life, is not of the Father, but is of , but is of the world. the world. 1717 And the world passeth away, And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.will of God abideth for ever.


AND BY THE WAY:AND BY THE WAY:

In 30 years of counseling women the #1 In 30 years of counseling women the #1 complaint my wife gets is: complaint my wife gets is: My husband My husband is not the spiritual leader in our home!is not the spiritual leader in our home!

#2 is: My husband loves his mother #2 is: My husband loves his mother more than he loves me!more than he loves me!

Ladies, stop calling the men. Stop Ladies, stop calling the men. Stop taking the leadership as you court or taking the leadership as you court or date. Stop training men to follow your date. Stop training men to follow your

lead on dates.lead on dates.


1998 SUMMIT GRAD:1998 SUMMIT GRAD:Are you ready to get married?Are you ready to get married?

What are your What are your goalsgoals and and plansplans for the for the future?future?

Will this relationship help us grow Will this relationship help us grow spiritually or take our focus from God?spiritually or take our focus from God?

Will you Will you respectrespect and and upholduphold my my beliefsbeliefs and and moralsmorals??


FEELINGS BEFORE FRIENDSHIP OR FEELINGS BEFORE FRIENDSHIP OR FRIENDSHIP BEFORE FEELINGSFRIENDSHIP BEFORE FEELINGS

Are you willing to talk to Are you willing to talk to my family?my family?

What are your What are your intentionsintentions with this with this relationship?relationship?

Is this a friendship or an Is this a friendship or an exclusive exclusive “special” friendship?“special” friendship?

At At any given momentany given moment in our in our relationship, is relationship, is our dear Savior pleasedour dear Savior pleased with us?with us?


JAMES 4:17JAMES 4:17

““Therefore, to him that Therefore, to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth knoweth to do good, and doeth

it not, to him it is sin.”it not, to him it is sin.”

NUMBERS 32:23bNUMBERS 32:23b““. . . be sure your sin will find . . . be sure your sin will find

you out.”you out.”


KEVIN: 4TH SESSION 1998KEVIN: 4TH SESSION 1998

““Do not ever tell a woman Do not ever tell a woman you you “love her”“love her” until you until you

are ready to say are ready to say “ will you “ will you marry me?”marry me?” in the same in the same

breath!!!!!breath!!!!!


REMEMBER: John 12:48REMEMBER: John 12:48

““He that rejecteth me, and He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my words, hath receiveth not my words, hath

one that judgeth him: the word one that judgeth him: the word that I have spoken, the same that I have spoken, the same

shall judge him in the last day.”shall judge him in the last day.”


KEY RELATIONSHIP SCRIPTURESKEY RELATIONSHIP SCRIPTURES

Philippians 2:1-4Philippians 2:1-4

1 Peter 3:8, 91 Peter 3:8, 9

Colossians 3:12-14Colossians 3:12-14

Ephesians 4:29-32Ephesians 4:29-32

Colossians 1:10Colossians 1:10


SCRIPTURE AND MARRIAGESCRIPTURE AND MARRIAGE

Therefore shall a man Therefore shall a man leaveleave his father and his father and his mother, and shall his mother, and shall cleavecleave unto his wife: unto his wife: and they shall be and they shall be oneone fleshflesh. .

Genesis 2:24Genesis 2:24

For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that He He hatethhateth puttingputting awayaway….(DIVORCE) ….(DIVORCE)

Malachi 2:16Malachi 2:16


SITUATIONS AND REGULATIONSSITUATIONS AND REGULATIONS

Deuteronomy 22:13-21Deuteronomy 22:13-21

SituationSituation: A man marries a woman and : A man marries a woman and discovers she is not a virgin.discovers she is not a virgin.

RegulationRegulation: She was to be stoned to death.: She was to be stoned to death.

Deuteronomy 22:22Deuteronomy 22:22

SituationSituation: A man lies with a married woman.: A man lies with a married woman.

RegulationRegulation: They were both to be executed. : They were both to be executed.



Deuteronomy 22:23, 24Deuteronomy 22:23, 24SituationSituation: A man lies with a betrothed woman in : A man lies with a betrothed woman in the city and she does not cry out for help.the city and she does not cry out for help.RegulationRegulation: They were both to be stoned.: They were both to be stoned.

Deuteronomy 22:25-27Deuteronomy 22:25-27SituationSituation: A man forces and lies with a : A man forces and lies with a betrothed woman in a country field, she cries out betrothed woman in a country field, she cries out but no one hears to help.but no one hears to help.RegulationRegulation: The man is executed, but no : The man is executed, but no penalty for the woman.penalty for the woman.



Deuteronomy 22:28, 29Deuteronomy 22:28, 29

SituationSituation: A man lays hold and lies with a : A man lays hold and lies with a virgin who is not betrothed.virgin who is not betrothed.

RegulationRegulation: He must marry her and can : He must marry her and can never divorce her.never divorce her.


Deuteronomy 24:1-4Deuteronomy 24:1-4

Situation: Situation: A man takes a wife and finds some A man takes a wife and finds some “uncleanness” in her (This must be something “uncleanness” in her (This must be something different from Deut. 22). KJV says: “Let him different from Deut. 22). KJV says: “Let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house. And when hand, and send her out of his house. And when she is departed out of his house, she may go she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife.”and be another man’s wife.”

Regulation: Regulation: If she marries another man and he If she marries another man and he dies or he divorces her, her first husband is not dies or he divorces her, her first husband is not permitted to take her back and remarry her.permitted to take her back and remarry her.



SITUATION: Notice a difference in the KJB vs SITUATION: Notice a difference in the KJB vs NASB. KJB seems to give permission for NASB. KJB seems to give permission for divorce and remarriage. (“Let him” write bill of divorce and remarriage. (“Let him” write bill of divorce, and “she may” remarry)divorce, and “she may” remarry)NASB: “He writes her a certificate of divorce NASB: “He writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it into her hand, and sends her out and puts it into her hand, and sends her out from his house, and she leaves his house and from his house, and she leaves his house and goes and becomes another man’s wife,...”goes and becomes another man’s wife,...”NASB reports situation as something that NASB reports situation as something that happened, happened, but no “let him” or “she may”.but no “let him” or “she may”.


KJB AND NASB USE SAME HEBREW KJB AND NASB USE SAME HEBREW TEXT, BUT THE TEXT IS AMBIGUOUS.TEXT, BUT THE TEXT IS AMBIGUOUS.

The Jewish people have argued about the The Jewish people have argued about the meaning of this text down through the meaning of this text down through the centuries, but the author, Jesus, clarified it centuries, but the author, Jesus, clarified it when he was here on earth!when he was here on earth!

Matthew 19:8Matthew 19:8

Jesus said, “Moses because of the hardness of Jesus said, “Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away (your hearts suffered you to put away (divorcedivorce) ) your wives: but from the beginning it was not your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.” so.” Jesus says: NO DIVORCING WIVES!Jesus says: NO DIVORCING WIVES!


MATTHEW 5:17-18MATTHEW 5:17-18

Think not that I am come to destroy the Think not that I am come to destroy the law, or the prophets: I am not come to law, or the prophets: I am not come to destroy, but to fulfill. For verily I say unto destroy, but to fulfill. For verily I say unto you, Till heaven and earth pass, one jot or you, Till heaven and earth pass, one jot or one tittle shall in no wise pass from the one tittle shall in no wise pass from the law, till all be fulfilled.law, till all be fulfilled.


MATTHEW AND THE MATTHEW AND THE EXCEPTIONEXCEPTION CLAUSECLAUSE

Matthew was written to the Jewish mind. Matthew was written to the Jewish mind.

The Jewish people had a custom unique to The Jewish people had a custom unique to them in the Middle East: them in the Middle East: BETROTHALBETROTHAL

Betrothal was a one year engagement. Betrothal was a one year engagement.

Joseph and Mary were Betrothed Joseph and Mary were Betrothed (Espoused), were not married and had not (Espoused), were not married and had not consummated their marriage when Joseph consummated their marriage when Joseph learned Mary was pregnant.learned Mary was pregnant.


DURING BETROTHAL DIVORCE DURING BETROTHAL DIVORCE IS PERMITTEDIS PERMITTED

Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When as his mother Mary was wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came espoused to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child of the together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. Then Joseph her Holy Ghost. Then Joseph her husbandhusband,… ,… not willing to make her a public example not willing to make her a public example was minded to was minded to put her away put her away (divorce)(divorce) privily. privily.

Matthew 1:18-19Matthew 1:18-19


BUT WHAT ABOUT THE EXCEPTION BUT WHAT ABOUT THE EXCEPTION CLAUSE IN MATTHEW?CLAUSE IN MATTHEW?

Matthew 5:31, 32: “It hath been said, Matthew 5:31, 32: “It hath been said, whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, her a writing of divorcement: But I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of for the cause of fornicationfornication, causeth her to , causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.”her that is divorced committeth adultery.”

““FornicationFornication” is Porneia (Greek term).” is Porneia (Greek term).


ISN’T FORNICATION THE SAME AS ISN’T FORNICATION THE SAME AS ADULTERY?ADULTERY?

Matthew gives us his commentary on the word Matthew gives us his commentary on the word “fornication” (porneia) in Matthew 15:19.“fornication” (porneia) in Matthew 15:19.

““For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications,…”murders, adulteries, fornications,…”

He uses “porneia” three times (Matt.5:32, 15:19 He uses “porneia” three times (Matt.5:32, 15:19 and 19:9). Twice as reason for divorce and and 19:9). Twice as reason for divorce and once side by side with adultery. Adultery once side by side with adultery. Adultery happens to married people, fornication to happens to married people, fornication to betrothed (stronger than our “engagement.”)betrothed (stronger than our “engagement.”)


MATTHEW 19:1-12; (5:31-32)MATTHEW 19:1-12; (5:31-32)

The Matthew 18 topic isThe Matthew 18 topic is ForgivenessForgiveness

Jesus said:Jesus said: “Whosoever shall put away “Whosoever shall put away his wife, his wife, except it be for fornicationexcept it be for fornication, , and shall marry another, committeth and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. His is put away doth commit adultery. His disciples say unto Him, If the case of disciples say unto Him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.” good to marry.” Matthew 19:9,10Matthew 19:9,10


FORNICATION OR ADULTERYFORNICATION OR ADULTERY

PorneiaPorneia is the Greek word for is the Greek word for fornicationfornication..

Porneia is most commonly used for Porneia is most commonly used for immorality among immorality among unmarried singlesunmarried singles..

MoichaoMoichao is the Greek word for is the Greek word for adulteryadultery..

Moichao is most commonly used to refer Moichao is most commonly used to refer to immorality between to immorality between married peoplemarried people. .

The Exception Clause uses “The Exception Clause uses “PorneiaPorneia.”.”


MATTHEW IS WRITTEN TO THE MATTHEW IS WRITTEN TO THE JEWISH PEOPLEJEWISH PEOPLE

Matthew Matthew alonealone has the Exception has the Exception Clause.Clause.The Jewish people practiced BetrothalThe Jewish people practiced BetrothalLuke and Mark are written to Luke and Mark are written to GentilesGentiles..Gentiles did not practice Betrothal!Gentiles did not practice Betrothal!Mark 10 does not mention “Mark 10 does not mention “EXCEPTIONEXCEPTION””

Luke 16 does not mention “Luke 16 does not mention “EXCEPTIONEXCEPTION””

DIVORCE IS NEVER AN DIVORCE IS NEVER AN OPTION!!!OPTION!!!


GOD’S BEST IS GOD’S BEST IS NONO DIVORCE, DIVORCE, NONO REMARRIAGE!!! REMARRIAGE!!!

If a man divorces his wife and marries If a man divorces his wife and marries another woman he commits adultery. another woman he commits adultery. Mark Mark 10:1110:11

If a woman divorces her husband and If a woman divorces her husband and marries another man she commits marries another man she commits adultery. adultery. Mark 10:12Mark 10:12

What do these verses mean?What do these verses mean?


A FURTHER COMMENT ON THE MATTHEW A FURTHER COMMENT ON THE MATTHEW ““EXCEPTIONEXCEPTION”” CLAUSE: CLAUSE:

A married person who commits A married person who commits adultery was to be adultery was to be stoned.stoned.

Deuteronomy 22:22 Deuteronomy 22:22

Stoned, dead, people do not get Stoned, dead, people do not get divorced or remarried!!!!!!!!!!!divorced or remarried!!!!!!!!!!!

Matthew 19:9, with the use of Matthew 19:9, with the use of “porneia”“porneia” must surely be talking about the must surely be talking about the

betrothal period andbetrothal period and notnot marriage.marriage.


The disciples understood Jesus to say, The disciples understood Jesus to say, “Divorce is not an option.”“Divorce is not an option.”

That is why the disciples say in Matt. 19:10: That is why the disciples say in Matt. 19:10: ““If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is

not good to marry.”not good to marry.”In other words the disciples, in the midst of a In other words the disciples, in the midst of a Jewish culture that permitted divorce at the Jewish culture that permitted divorce at the whim of the husband, realized that in God’s whim of the husband, realized that in God’s eyes marriage is ‘til death’. Marry a loser and eyes marriage is ‘til death’. Marry a loser and there are no biblical grounds for divorce. So there are no biblical grounds for divorce. So maybe we better stay single!maybe we better stay single!


IS IS REMARRIAGEREMARRIAGE EVER AN OPTION EVER AN OPTION FOR A CHRISTIAN?FOR A CHRISTIAN?

““For the woman which hath a husband is For the woman which hath a husband is bound by law to her husband bound by law to her husband so long as he so long as he livethliveth; but if the husband be dead, she is ; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth she be married to if, while her husband liveth she be married to another man, she shall be called an another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her adulteress: but if her husband be deadhusband be dead, she , she is free from the law; so that is free from the law; so that she is no she is no adulteressadulteress, though she be married to another , though she be married to another man.” man.” Romans 7:2,3Romans 7:2,3


IS IS REMARRIAGEREMARRIAGE EVER AN OPTION EVER AN OPTION FOR A CHRISTIAN?FOR A CHRISTIAN?

In regards to younger women whose In regards to younger women whose husbands have died:husbands have died:

““I will therefore that the younger women I will therefore that the younger women marrymarry, bear children, guide the house, give , bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. For some are already turned reproachfully. For some are already turned aside after Satan.” aside after Satan.” 1 Timothy 5:14,151 Timothy 5:14,15


God has called us to be God has called us to be peacemakerspeacemakers

Yet if the unbelieving depart, let him Yet if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is depart. A brother or a sister is not under not under bondagebondage in such cases: but God hath in such cases: but God hath called us to called us to peacepeace. . 1 Corinthians 7:151 Corinthians 7:15

The real issue here is that the Christian The real issue here is that the Christian

should be a should be a peacemakerpeacemaker in the in the marriage so that the unbeliever will not marriage so that the unbeliever will not want to leave but to stay and come to want to leave but to stay and come to

faith!!!faith!!!


1 CORINTHIANS 7:151 CORINTHIANS 7:15

“…“…not under bondage.” Literal translation: not under bondage.” Literal translation: “has not been enslaved.”“has not been enslaved.”

If the unbeliever insists on leaving, the If the unbeliever insists on leaving, the believer is not enslaved—you can let them believer is not enslaved—you can let them go, but you are not free to divorce or go, but you are not free to divorce or remarry.remarry.


MARRIAGEMARRIAGEGenesis 1: God (Elohim) creates the Genesis 1: God (Elohim) creates the universe and climaxes that with the universe and climaxes that with the creation of man.creation of man.

Genesis 2: The Lord God ( Yahweh Genesis 2: The Lord God ( Yahweh Elohim). Yahweh is the covenantal Elohim). Yahweh is the covenantal name of God. In Genesis 2 the name of God. In Genesis 2 the covenant keeping God takes man into covenant keeping God takes man into his covenant keeping relationship: his covenant keeping relationship: marriage.marriage.


GENSIS 2:24-25GENSIS 2:24-2524)“Therefore shall a man leave his father 24)“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25) And wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25) And they were both naked, the man and his they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”wife, and were not ashamed.”

Vs. 24=masculine=men leave momma!!!Vs. 24=masculine=men leave momma!!!

Vs. 25=“naked”=open, unguarded, laid Vs. 25=“naked”=open, unguarded, laid bare, fully transparent=no selfishness!!!bare, fully transparent=no selfishness!!!


THE SPIRITUAL TEST!THE SPIRITUAL TEST!A FAITH THAT CAN’T BE TESTED A FAITH THAT CAN’T BE TESTED

CAN’T BE TRUSTED!CAN’T BE TRUSTED!

““And the Lord God commanded the man And the Lord God commanded the man saying, Of every tree of the garden thou saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat.” mayest freely eat.”

Genesis 2:16Genesis 2:16

Millions of perfectly legitimate options of Millions of perfectly legitimate options of things to do, but Adam and Eve begin to things to do, but Adam and Eve begin to zero in on the zero in on the forbidden fruit.forbidden fruit.


THE SPIRITUAL TEST!THE SPIRITUAL TEST!““But of the tree of the knowledge of good But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.” surely die.” Genesis 2:17Genesis 2:17

Adam had the choice--to Adam had the choice--to serve Godserve God or to or to serve selfserve self =satisfying the lust of the eyes, =satisfying the lust of the eyes, the lust of the flesh and the pride of life.the lust of the flesh and the pride of life.

Adam needed help to face this spiritual test.Adam needed help to face this spiritual test.


GENESIS 2:18GENESIS 2:18

““And the Lord God said, It is not good that the And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make a help meet man should be alone; I will make a help meet for him.”for him.”

The serpent spoke to the woman, she ate and The serpent spoke to the woman, she ate and the creative order was flip-flopped.the creative order was flip-flopped.

ORDER ORDER = God, in submission is man;then in = God, in submission is man;then in submission= woman; in submission=animalssubmission= woman; in submission=animals

DISORDER DISORDER = animal, woman, man, God= animal, woman, man, God


DISORDERDISORDERThe serpent deceives the woman and she The serpent deceives the woman and she has submitted to the animal. Then Adam, has submitted to the animal. Then Adam, the man, submits to the woman, his wife.the man, submits to the woman, his wife.

Instead of man submitting to God and the Instead of man submitting to God and the woman submitting to her husband and woman submitting to her husband and the animal submitting to people the order the animal submitting to people the order is flip-flopped. The woman submits to the is flip-flopped. The woman submits to the animal, Adam to Eve, God is out!! animal, Adam to Eve, God is out!!


HOW DID THIS DOWNWARD SPIRAL HOW DID THIS DOWNWARD SPIRAL GET GOING?GET GOING?

The serpent said, “Yea, hath God said, Ye The serpent said, “Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden?” shall not eat of every tree of the garden?”

Genesis Genesis 3:1b3:1b

In other words you can’t really trust the In other words you can’t really trust the Word of God even tho He said regarding Word of God even tho He said regarding the tree of the knowledge of good and evil the tree of the knowledge of good and evil “Thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that “Thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.” thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.” Genesis 2:17bGenesis 2:17b



““And the serpent said unto the woman, And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely dieYe shall not surely die (reincarnation). For (reincarnation). For God doth know that in the day God doth know that in the day ye eatye eat (lust (lust of the flesh) thereof, then your of the flesh) thereof, then your eyeseyes (lust (lust of the eyes) shall be opened, and ye shall of the eyes) shall be opened, and ye shall be be as godsas gods (pride of life), knowing good (pride of life), knowing good and evil” and evil” Genesis 3:4-5Genesis 3:4-5

Satan is the father of lies!Satan is the father of lies! John 8:44John 8:44



““And when the woman saw that the tree And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food was good for food (lust of flesh),(lust of flesh), and and that it was pleasant to the eyes that it was pleasant to the eyes (lust of (lust of eyes),eyes), and a tree to be desired to make and a tree to be desired to make one wise one wise (pride of life),(pride of life), she took of the she took of the fruit thereof and did eat, and gave also fruit thereof and did eat, and gave also unto her husband unto her husband with herwith her; and he did ; and he did eat. eat. Genesis 3:6Genesis 3:6

Adam is with Eve, but Adam is with Eve, but totally passivetotally passive!!!!!!!!


CONSEQUENCESCONSEQUENCESAnd unto Adam he said, Because thou And unto Adam he said, Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt I commanded thee, saying, Thou shalt not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy not eat of it: cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life; thorns and thistles the days of thy life; thorns and thistles shall it bring forth to thee….” shall it bring forth to thee….”

Genesis 3:17-18Genesis 3:17-18


CONSEQUENCESCONSEQUENCES““Unto the woman he said, I will greatly Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow (pain,NAS) and thy multiply thy sorrow (pain,NAS) and thy conception; in sorrow (pain,NAS) thou conception; in sorrow (pain,NAS) thou shalt bring forth children; and thy shalt bring forth children; and thy desiredesire shall be to thy husband, and he shall shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”rule over thee.” Genesis 3:16Genesis 3:16

Genesis 4:7Genesis 4:7=“=“desiredesire”=to overrule, ”=to overrule, overpower or overthrow=wife’s desire overpower or overthrow=wife’s desire for husband is to overthrow, etc.!for husband is to overthrow, etc.!


SOLUTION TO CONSEQUENCES OF SOLUTION TO CONSEQUENCES OF THE FALLTHE FALL

““Husbands, love your wives, even as Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;…” himself for it;…” Ephesians 5:25Ephesians 5:25

““Husbands, love your wives, and be not Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.” bitter against them.” Colossians 3:19Colossians 3:19

Husbands, give honor unto your wife…. Husbands, give honor unto your wife…. 1Peter 1Peter 3:73:7


SOLUTION TO CONSEQUENCES OF SOLUTION TO CONSEQUENCES OF THE FALLTHE FALL

““Wives, submit yourselves unto your own Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord….Therefore, husbands, as unto the Lord….Therefore, as the church is subject to Christ, so let as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in the wives be to their own husbands in everything.” everything.” Ephesians 5:22,24Ephesians 5:22,24

““Wives, submit yourselves unto your own Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as is fit in the Lord.” husbands, as is fit in the Lord.”

Colossians 3:18Colossians 3:18


Family ProjectsFamily Projects

Compose a definition of success for you Compose a definition of success for you and/or your family made up entirely of and/or your family made up entirely of Scripture. “Success for me/us is….”Scripture. “Success for me/us is….”

Compose a doctrinal statement of Compose a doctrinal statement of Scriptures that you and your family will not Scriptures that you and your family will not compromise.compromise.

Start memorizing a chapter of the Bible.Start memorizing a chapter of the Bible.

Think of ways to minister to other people.Think of ways to minister to other people.

Purpose to know and share the Gospel.Purpose to know and share the Gospel.


OTHER RESOURCES:OTHER RESOURCES:

Of Knights and Fair Maidens, Of Knights and Fair Maidens, Jeff and Jeff and Danielle MeyersDanielle Meyers

Best Friends for Life, Best Friends for Life, Michael and Judy Michael and Judy PhillipsPhillips

Her Hand in Marriage, Her Hand in Marriage, Douglas WilsonDouglas Wilson

Passion and Purity, Passion and Purity, Elizabeth ElliotElizabeth Elliot

His Chosen Bride, Jennifer LampeHis Chosen Bride, Jennifer Lampe

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