RELATIONSHIPS

Objective:•Discuss what constitutes helpful and harmful relationships in your life. •Determine what actions need to occur for a healthy relationship.•Apply skills learned this lesson to successfully complete the ‘dinner party’ activity with classmates.•

FAMILY Group of people who are related to you

by blood, adoption or marriageFamilies relationships influence you and your

behavior. Parents and adults who raise you have the greatest influence.

TYPES OF FAMILIES Dysfunctional Family

Family that lacks skills to be successful and function in healthy ways

IdealFamily that has all the skills to be successful

and function in healthy ways

TV/MOVIE/FAMOUS FAMILIES Family Continuum Where would these families be on the

continuum????

ACT Action

Choose actions that promote healthy family relationships

CommitmentMake a promise to be a loving family

member Time

Spend time with your family

RELATIONSHIPS Healthful

Promote self respect, productivity, and health

Free of violence and/or drug use and abuse

HarmfulHarms self respect, interferes with

productivity and health Includes violence and or drug abuse

HARMFUL RELATIONSHIP PROFILES

People PleaserSeeks approvalDoes anything to be likedActs like a “doormat”

The EnablerSupports harmful behavior of othersMakes excuses for behavior of othersTakes over other peoples responsibilities

HARMFUL RELATIONSHIP PROFILES The Clinger

Needy and dependentChases and clingsSuffocates others

The FixerFixes other peoples problemsQuick to give adviceTakes over other peoples responsibilities

HARMFUL RELATIONSHIP PROFILES The Distancer

Emotionally unavailableAvoids sharing feelingsKeeps people at an arms length away

The ControllerPossessive, jealous, and domineeringDoes not respect the will of othersDemands one way

The CenterSelf centeredTalks but does not listen Ignores the needs of others

HARMFUL RELATIONSHIP PROFILES The Abuser

AbusivePuts down othersThreatens and harms others

The LiarDoes not tell the truthBuilds relationships on liesManipulates others into responses they

want The Promise Breaker

UnreliableMakes plans and cancels themAgrees to change behavior and does not

do so

Dr. Phil - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FImsu6qEq6A

Mean Girls - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nFP68RpX1Fg&feature=related

What did you see in this clip?

Are there harmful relationship profiles in these clips? What are they?

Did this ever happen to you before?

“THE DINNER PARTY” On the back of your note sheet:

Write down FIVE people that you would like to have dinner with.

Must be able to explain why you choose these five people.

The people – Can not be a relative or friend Can be alive or deceased

“THE DINNER PARTY” Within your group –

Decide on five people to invite to your dinner.

Your final 5 should be easy to defend in front of the rest of the class

On the paper provided – Create a seating chart for dinner

Includes the five people your group invited and every group member.

Create a dinner menuo Include appetizer, main course,

and dessert.

THE THREE C’S

Commitment Communication

Compromise (Cooperation)