Relationships 10 Feb 2014
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10 February 2014 waterfrontonline.co.uk 31 relationships WITH HOLLY MILLER Blind Date When Josh met Phoebe Josh King, 20, a third year English Literarture student, and Phoebe Wright, 21, a fourth year American Studies student, meet in JC’s. Phoebe on Josh What were your first impressions? He wasn’t my type but seemed friendly. How did you feel about taking part in a blind date before and after? I only found out about the date the night before so didn’t have enough time to worry about it. I felt fine, it was fun. Any striking conversation points? He was very helpful and offered some film advice for my dissertation which was great! But we also chatted about films and food challenges! Any awkward moments or silences? A few, but I’m so chatty that I think I made it hard for any awkward silence to last long. Any potentional for a kiss? It was a breakfast date so was a bit early in the morning for that! Out of ten, what would be your compatibility score with the other person? We didn’t have that much in common and there wasn’t any chemistry so for compatibility I’d give us 4/10. Generally, how do you think the date went? I think it went well. Although I wouldn’t call it a successful date, it was nice talking to Josh and a blind date was definitely a novel way to spend my Saturday morning! If you were to be married and have babies with the other, what would you want your baby to inherit? His extensive knowledge of films and actors! Would you like to meet again? I think not, he was a nice guy but we are just not similar at all, so I think another meeting might be awkward. Are you likely to become facebook freinds? Well he hasn’t added me yet. Josh on Phoebe What were your first impressions? First impressions were that she was a nice, good looking girl. How did you feel about taking part in a blind date before and after? Before the blind date I thought it would be a bit of laugh and afterwards it was a time. Any striking conversation points? It was good general conversation, we talked about her course and dissertation. Any awkward moments or silences? No, not really. Any potential for a kiss? No. Out of ten, what is your compatibility score with the other person? 7/10 Generally, how do you think the date went? I thought it went well. If you were to be married and have babies with the other, what would you want your baby to inherit? Her looks, and her outdoors nature. Would you like to meet again? Yeah, I wouldn’t mind. Are you likely to become facebook friends I have no idea. If you are interested in having a blind date, email your name, age, course and level to [email protected] Sugar-coated arrangements H OW far would you go to pay off your student loans? ‘Sugar Daddies’ are often joked about - but would you actually consider meeting someone specifically to swap various kinds of favours for a helping hand with your student debt? Swansea University has come 20th in a list released by SeekingArrangement. com, detailing the number of students who have signed up looking for a 'Sugar Daddy' arrangement. Brandon Wade, CEO of SeekingArrangement.com, said: "Sugar Daddies provide real solutions to the problem of student debts." The state of the economy is of course a major factor. One second year student, said: “I don’t think I would do it, but I can see why a lot of people would in our current economic situation.” As someone coming from London, with my heart set on returning there, I am well aware that I'll probably be closer to 30 than 20 by the time I can afford to move out. This makes the idea of someone paying off my debts in return for my simply fantastic company (sleeping with them is NOT a requirement!) extremely appealing. Can it ever really work though? One Swansea University student, who wishes to remain anonymous, said: "I met a guy online, and I didn't really set out to have a 'sugar daddy', but I can understand why other girls would. "For me, it was about supplementing my rubbish income so I could have a nicer lifestyle. I would get new clothes, cash when I needed it, bills paid... It was a nice little perk to a friendship. "However, it did go a bit sour later on - he wanted more than I was willing to give him, which I'd made clear from the start. I can understand why girls go looking for it. It’s easy, your confidence is boosted because you've got someone who likes you enough to give you their money, and your lifestyle gets so much better - if the guy is rich enough, it's being part of the Great Gatsby in amongst the pot noodles and essays. "I would just warn anyone considering this to be careful. It’s easy to get caught up in it and get used to it. If it falls apart then it can be a blow. There's also the conscience bit - after a while, I felt bad that I was essentially using him and cut off all contact." Third year M eng Computer Science student, Tim Connolly, said of the arrangement: "I think it's sexist. There are no sugar mummies on the website, and I would love one!" He raises a good point - this is obviously a lucrative market, but SeekingArrangement. com can only benefit those interested in relationships with older men. For those who choose to use the site, it might be exactly what they're looking for - but for many people, even the promise of money and presents isn't enough to enter into a relationship like this. It’s important to remember though that there are other ways to seek financial aid during your time at univeristy. Becky Grimes, the students’ union’s welfare officer, said: “Both the SU and the university advise students against going with unregulated forms of support like this website and pay day lenders. If you are a student who is struggling to keep up with financial commitments please visit the Students’ Union Advice Centre or visit the University’s Money Advice and Support Office situated on the bottom floor of Kier Hardie. “Money Advice run drop in sessions for free and impartial advice Monday and Friday between 9.30 am - 12.30 pm, and on Tuesday and Thursday between 1 pm - 4 pm (no appointment needed) and can also assist in ways such as providing non-repayable grants. “The SU Advice Centre is situated on the bottom floor of Fulton House, and is open 10-4 Monday-Friday for free and confidential advice.” •What do you think? Email waterfrontrelationships@ swansea-union.co.uk With students across the country signing up for a ‘Sugar Daddy’ arrangement, Holly Miller looks into the pros and cons of being a ‘Sugar Baby’ Photo by Jaysin Trevino on Flickr film 25 careers 26 fInternational 33 societies 35 culture 27 Relationships 31 fashion 14-15 travel 29 music 23 food 19 front row 17 features 12-13
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10 February 2014waterfrontonline.co.uk 31
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Blind Date when Josh met PhoebeJosh King, 20, a third year English Literarture student, and Phoebe wright, 21, a fourth year American Studies student, meet in JC’s.
Phoebe on Josh
What were your first impressions?he wasn’t my type but seemed friendly.How did you feel about taking part in a blind date before and after?i only found out about the date the night before so didn’t have enough time to worry about it. i felt fine, it was fun.Any striking conversation points?he was very helpful and offered some film advice for my dissertation which was great! But we also chatted about films and food challenges!Any awkward moments or silences?A few, but i’m so chatty that i think i made it hard for any awkward silence to last long.Any potentional for a kiss?it was a breakfast date so was a bit early in the morning for that!Out of ten, what would be your compatibility score with the other person?we didn’t have that much in common and there wasn’t any chemistry so for compatibility i’d give us 4/10.Generally, how do you think the date went?i think it went well. Although i wouldn’t call it a successful date, it was nice talking to Josh and a blind date was definitely a novel way to spend my Saturday morning!If you were to be married and have babies with the other, what would you want your baby to inherit?his extensive knowledge of films and actors! Would you like to meet again?i think not, he was a nice guy but we are just not similar at all, so i think another meeting might be awkward.Are you likely to become facebook freinds?well he hasn’t added me yet.
Josh on Phoebe
What were your first impressions?First impressions were that she was a nice, good looking girl.How did you feel about taking part in a blind date before and after?Before the blind date i thought it would be a bit of laugh and afterwards it was a time.Any striking conversation points?it was good general conversation, we
talked about her course and dissertation.Any awkward moments or silences?No, not really.Any potential for a kiss?No.Out of ten, what is your compatibility score with the other person?7/10Generally, how do you think the date went?i thought it went well.If you were to be married and have babies with the other, what would you want your baby to inherit?her looks, and her outdoors nature.Would you like to meet again?Yeah, i wouldn’t mind.Are you likely to become facebook friendsi have no idea.
If you are interested in having a blind date, email your name, age, course and level to [email protected]
Sugar-coated arrangements
hOw far would you go to pay off your student loans? ‘Sugar Daddies’ are often joked about - but would
you actually consider meeting someone specifically to swap various kinds of favours for a helping hand with your student debt?
Swansea University has come 20th in a list released by SeekingArrangement.com, detailing the number of students who have signed up looking for a 'Sugar Daddy' arrangement. Brandon wade, CEO of SeekingArrangement.com, said: "Sugar Daddies provide real solutions to the problem of student debts."
the state of the economy is of course a major factor. One second year student, said: “i don’t think i would do it, but i can see why a lot of people would in our current economic situation.”
As someone coming from London, with my heart set on returning there, i am well aware that i'll probably be closer to 30 than 20 by the time i can afford to move out.
this makes the idea of someone paying off my debts in return for my simply fantastic company (sleeping with them is NOt a requirement!) extremely appealing.
Can it ever really work though? One Swansea University student, who wishes to remain anonymous, said: "i met a guy online, and i didn't really set out to have a 'sugar daddy', but i can understand why other girls would.
"For me, it was about supplementing my rubbish income so i could have a nicer lifestyle. i would get new clothes, cash when i needed it, bills paid... it was a nice little perk to a friendship.
"however, it did go a bit sour later on - he wanted more than i was willing to give him, which i'd made clear from the start. i can understand why girls go looking for it. it’s easy, your confidence is boosted because you've got someone who likes you enough to give you their money, and your lifestyle gets so much better - if the guy is rich enough, it's being part of the Great Gatsby in amongst the pot noodles and essays.
"i would just warn anyone considering this to be careful. it’s easy to get caught up in it and get used to it. if it falls apart then it can be a blow. there's also the conscience bit - after a while, i felt bad that i was essentially using him and cut off all contact."
third year M eng Computer Science student, tim Connolly, said of the arrangement: "i think it's sexist. there are no sugar mummies on the website, and i would love one!"
he raises a good point - this is obviously a lucrative market, but SeekingArrangement.com can only benefit those interested in relationships with older men. For those who choose to use the site, it might be exactly what they're looking for - but for many people, even the promise of money and presents isn't enough to enter into a relationship like this.
it’s important to remember though that there are other ways to seek financial aid
during your time at univeristy.
Becky Grimes, the students’ union’s welfare officer, said: “Both the SU and the university advise students against going with unregulated forms of support like this website and pay day lenders. if you are a student who is struggling to keep up with financial
commitments please visit the Students’ Union Advice Centre or visit the University’s Money Advice and Support Office situated on the bottom floor of Kier hardie.
“Money Advice run drop in sessions for free and impartial advice Monday and Friday between 9.30 am - 12.30 pm, and on tuesday and thursday between 1 pm - 4 pm (no appointment needed) and can also assist in ways such as providing non-repayable grants.
“the SU Advice Centre is situated on the bottom floor of Fulton house, and is open 10-4 Monday-Friday for free and confidential advice.” •What do you think? Email [email protected]
with students across the country signing up for a ‘Sugar Daddy’ arrangement, Holly Miller looks into the pros and cons of being a ‘Sugar Baby’
Photo by Jaysin Trevino on Flickr
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