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Relationship Bank Account
Habit 4 Think Win-Win
Your Personal Challenge
Task 1: On the mini post-it note, write the biggest challenge you are facing right now in your teen life. Place it on the giant post-it note on the back wall.
Task 2: Do you ever feel overworked? Brainstorm a list of all the things a teen has to do and challenges they face on a daily or weekly basis.
Relationship Accounts
You have an account for everyone you meet They never close
– Can meet up with someone years later and pickup where you left off
You continually need to make deposits into the most important accounts otherwise by doing nothing, the account can go in the negative
Journal Entry: Relationships
Think of a relationship you have with someone (parents, family member, friend, teacher boy/girlfriend) that you want to make better or wish you could have made better. What happened between you and this person, and what do you think you can do to make the relationship better? 5-7 well developed well developed sentences.
RBA Deposits and Withdrawals
Keep Promises Do small acts of
kindness Be loyal Listen Say I’m sorry Set clear expectations
Break promises Keep to yourself Gossip and break
confidences Don’t listen Be arrogant Set false expectations
Keeping Promises
By keeping promises you build trust with your friends, your parents, your teachers
When you build trust, your life goes so much more smoothly
Doing Small Acts of Kindness
We already know that this is a deposit in our personal bank account
This is also a deposit in our relationship bank account with that person
Don’t wait until people are dead to give them flowers
Be Loyal
Loyal people keep secrets
Loyal people avoid gossip
Loyal people stick up for others
Listen
This is the beginning of Habit 5 Friends/family sometimes just need you to
listen so they can vent. They are not looking for answers to their problems or for you to do anything other than lsiten
Say I’m Sorry
Don’t let your pride or lack of courage stand in the way of saying “I’m sorry” to people you may have offended because it is never as scary as it seems and it will make you feel so good afterward
Set Clear Expectations
Be honest up front and then no one is assuming anything that you didn’t mean.
Habit 4 Think Win-Win
Attitude toward life, a mental frame of mind that says I can win and so can you.
No one is superior and no one is inferior Win – Win is not
– Win-Lose– Lose-Win– Lose-Lose
Win-Lose
Totem Pole-getting to the top Win-Lose is competitive Examples of Win-Lose
– Using other people for your own gain– Trying to get ahead at the expense of another– Spreading rumors– Always insisting you get your own way– Becoming jealous/envious when something good happens
to someone else
Journal Entry: Think of a time you had win-lose, or think of a time you seen someone else have a win-lose mentality (does not include sports). Explain. (3-5) sentences
Lose- Win
These people avoid confrontation so they take the blame to keep the peace
It’s the doormat syndrome Giving into peer pressure Set low expectations and compromise your
standards Journal Entry: Think of a time you or someone
else had a lose-win mentality, or create a scenario of this mentality. (3-5 sentences)
Lose-Lose
The downward spiral Revenge is lose-lose I don’t care what happens to me as long as
_________ doesn’t do well Think of a time you or someone else had a
lose-win mentality, or create a scenario of this mentality. (3-5 sentences)
Win-Win
The All You Can Eat Buffet There is plenty of success to go around Examples of win-win
– Your best friend got accepted at the college you wanted to get into. You didn’t make it. You are happy for your friend
– You want to go out to dinner, your friend wants to see a movie. You get takeout and rent a movie for home
Win the Private Victory First
If you are extremely insecure it is hard to think win-win because you are threatened by others successes. These people get jealous easily
Personal security is the foundation for thinking win-win
Avoid Tumor Twins
Competing and Comparing can keep you from thinking win-win
Competing can be healthy when you compete against yourself or when it challenges you to reach and stretch and become your best
Competing is bad when there is a win at any cost attitude or a fear of failure
Comparing
Comparing yourself can become an addiction You feel superior one moment and then
inferior the next moment Good comparing is comparing yourself
against your potential
Win-Win
It is contagious Sometimes though not everyone thinks win-
win or you won’t be able to find a win-win solution. Then you need to decide not to play or to walk away
Increase how much you think win-win because it will make you feel great!