REDESIGNING YOUR LIFE The Structure of Time Orientations and Restructuring Your Places Altering Your...

REDESIGNING YOUR LIFE

The Structure of Time Orientationsand Restructuring Your Places

Altering Your Affiliations, Relationships, and Rolesand Recreating Your Inner Self

copyright, Ed Young, PhD 11-1-1999 1


I. Domains are place and time related. People go to work, play, families, and support/control institutions at regular, specified times in regular, specified places. Domains involve types of activities and call for specific behaviors, each with their characteristic rules and expectations.

II. Time and place of domains conspire together to elicit or trigger habit patterns.III. Points of origin [families] establish early patterns of ‘life pace’ and behavioral repertoires.IV. Point of origin patterns do not always correspond to the expectations and demands of life’s

other domains. When a person’s customary way of structuring time and customary pace of life are out of sync with a domain, the person tends to react with emotion. For example, a required faster pace can induce anxiety and a slower pace can induce boredom and the person could also get angry or sleepy. A boring activity makes time seem to drag.

V. Over an extended period of time, the person either adjusts to the differences, causes trouble, develops symptoms of physical or emotional illness, transfers, resigns, or is fired. Typically, neither the person themselves, nor persons in charge are aware of the source of the difficulty, each blaming the other as in some sense the cause of the problem. In some cases the misfit-ting person blames themselves and feels guilt or despair.

VI. The productive way to address the issue is to recognize the mismatch and its sources in the work structure and themselves and work out plan to consciously adjust to the demands of the domain’s characteristics or to matriculate a switch to a route and plan more compatible to the person’s patterns. With minimal room for choices, service/control institutions are typically less accommodating. With respect to recreation and social organizations, choices are available and up to the person. The problem is that the person’s patterns are fixed and unconscious so that, even here, making changes is extremely difficult.

Structured Time and The Pace of Places: Restlessness, Anxiety, Anger, Depression and Adrenaline

Vs. Boredom, Despair and Serotonin


Exploring Your Relations to Time, Your Comfortable Pace, and Feelings Accompanying Time Issues

I. Being unaware that one’s life pace is a factor in adjustments to life, it is necessary to step back and study how one’s pace differs from others, when a pace is comfortable or uncomfortable, when there is a mismatch between one’s habitual life pace and the normative pace of a domain and activity. Like so many other aspects of one’s life that are shaped by one’s early life history, this too is an ‘accident of history’ that you continue to play out the rest of your life. But, also, like those other aspects, you are not incapable of altering you ‘life pace’. Like other habits, even though you become aware of them, they are stubborn and require great resolve and persistence to be changed.

II. Outside of structured domains and situations, you are free to follow your traditional pace. You can engage in a high degree or little or no time and pace structuring. There is nothing to compel you to change this pattern.

III.All you have to do is enter a relationship in which you are doing a large number of activities together and you can immediately sense the difficulty with the “sync” between the two of you. Making schedules, showing up at appointed times, coordinating time-dependent tasks, estimating lengths of time things should take, attempting to negotiate and allocate future time that involves the other, meeting deadlines that have consequences for the other, and numerous other aspects of time management can become huge points of conflict for both or for one and insignificant for the other. Initially, the issue typically appears to both parties to a matter of disagreement over ‘how it should be done’. Later in the relationship it comes to be seen as defect in the other. Feelings over this issue can become extremely intense. It is seldom perceived and understood as a compelling ‘life pace’ that had been shaped by early history, unconscious, and yet intransigent.

IV.Once you become aware of your ‘life pace’ and how it was shaped and aware of the magnitude of the challenge to change, it is possible to make pace alterations in relationships and adjust to a domain’s requirements. Success requires persistence over a very long period of ‘time’.


Assessing and Restructuring Your Relation to Time


Circumstances of Life and Parameters of Situations and Their Role in Inducing Moods and Emotions and in

Maintaining Personality and Behavior Patterns

1. When a person has a conscious or unconscious commitment to living a certain type of life in certain circumstances or conditions and this is made impossible or radically changes for better or worse.

2. When a person needs to maintain certain characteristics in their various relationships and these radically change.

3. When a person needs a certain place in life, or status level, and suddenly it is radically dropped or elevated. 4. When a person needs to maintain a certain self concept or image and situations or circumstances arise that

threaten it and there is no way out.5. When a certain style of life is expected of a person, especially in view of the person’s background, and

events make it impossible or drive one into a radically different style.6. When one is unexpectedly faced with events, situations, or circumstances similar to ones that were

traumatic in the past.7. When one is accustomed to a certain familiar type of support system and it is suddenly withdrawn.8. When one is suddenly thrust out of familiar surroundings into radically different, unfamiliar surroundings.9. When one faces the type of moral dilemma that means to keep some important values requires violating

others of equal importance.10. When something or someone one had innocently and deeply trusted to be a certain way is suddenly

revealed to be quite the contrary.11. When one has goals that are vitally important and time and circumstances seem to be making it impossible.12. When the outcome of the activity one is engaged in turns out to be far better or far worse than one had

anticipated.13. When the role or activity one is thrust into is one for which one is completely inappropriate or unprepared..


Exploring Your Life Circumstances and Related Moods and Redesigning Your Response Strategy


The Struggle to Overcome FateWhen Life’s Dreams, Goals, Plans, Choices, and Patterns

Are Not Working and Not Turning Out As Expected and You Can’t Seem to Break Out

I. Redesigning the Topology of Your Life: Your Domains, Routes, Paths, and Patterns for Self Enhancement

II. Change in Places Within Domains and RoutesIII. Change in Paths and Patterns

1. Informal and Formal Roles2. Relationships3. Communication Patterns4. Inner Processes

1. Detecting and Changing Internal Patterns of Perception, Levels of Assessment, States of Incorporation, Envisioning, Decision Making, Adventuring, Mirroring, Revising, Storing.

2. Detecting and Changing Personal Criteria for Fulfillment in All Critical Areas of Your Life.

IV. Experimenting With Tentative Alternatives With Respect to Places and Paths and Patterns Within Places.

V. Practicing and Revising Changed Choices and PatternsVI. Accomplishing this goal of redesigning the topology of your life

requires extraordinary dedication, courage, and persistence.


Approaching the Question of Making Changes in the Topography of Your Life


I. A Worksheet for Re-routing the Topographical Features of Your Life


II. A Worksheet for Proposing Alternative Strategies for Coping With Uncomfortable Situations


Examining the Characteristics of Your Communication StyleMapping Communication Interaction by Places and People With Whom You Interact

Examining Your Communication Style Characteristics: 1. Who initiates the communication? Under what circumstances? Who controls the participants?2. Who controls the rhythm of the communication, whether there is reciprocity of listening and talking or

imbalance with one talking and one listening? Is there a battle for the ‘floor’? Are there signals that indicate turn taking?

3. Who selects the topic? Is there an explicit purpose for initiating the communication? Does the communication seem more related to a topic or the relationship?

4. Are different perspectives allowed or offered? Is one party in control of the perspective?5. What is the level of the communication and who controls the level? Is it serious or casual? Do the

parties seem in sync concerning the level?6. Does the communication involve emotions? Are the emotions expressed by body language or voice

characteristics? Who injects the emotion? Does the other party follow suit emotionally? Does the emotionality accelerate or decelerate? Is considerateness and politeness reciprocated? Is negativity reciprocated?

7. What is the degree of transparency and empathy? Is there reciprocity or imbalance with respect to transparency and empathy and, if imbalance, in which direction?

8. Does the communication involve covert or implicit messages or innuendo? If so, from whom? What is your hypothesis about why there are is parallel, covert communication? Does the covert communication include body language? When did the implicit communication begin? Does one party or the other seem to be expecting the other to just know or properly infer the implicit message?

9. Does the communication involve paradoxical or contradictory messages: e.g. saying ‘yes’ and acting or inflecting ’no’? Which party is engaging in paradoxical communicating? What is your hypothesis about why this is taking place?

10. Is one party, or both, requesting or demanding a response or change in the other or each other?11. Is each communication incident unique or are they repetitive? Are the participants enacting stereotyped

roles, as though repetitively restaging a play or scenario?


Exploring Your Generalized Communication Pattern


Communication Patterns and Skills in Specific Domains, Settings, Situations, and Types of Relationships

• Check the items below that are the most difficult for you and the rank their importance for your current self

enhancement. Select the top priority item and begin working on what your pattern is, what the alternatives are, where

and with whom the problem is most in evidence. Plan a different way of communicating and then imagine being in the

setting and confronting the situation. Rehearse the alternative you are going to attempt. Record what happened when

you met that actual situation and the degree of success in using your new communication.

• Patterned Communication Skills in Normally Occurring Situations within Domain-Specific Settings

• ___ Casual conversation/joking. ___ Threat/danger/crises. ___ Teaching/learning.

• ___ Affiliation/acquainting/ending ___ Accidents. ___ Problem solving.

• ___ Influence/manipulation. ___ Barriers. ___ Planning.

• ___ Command/prohibition. ___ Competition/winning/losing ___ Decision making.

• ___ Conflict/aggression. ___ Cooperation/giving-receiving credit___ Investigating/interrogating.

• ___ Entertainment. ___ Working/executing tasks. ___

Evaluation/criticism/praise.

• ___ Recreation/games. ___ Helping/asking for help ___ Reprimand/litigation.

• ___ Sex/romance/love. ___ Instruction. ___Discipline/reward/punishment

• ___ Crying/hysteria.. ___ Opposition/defiance/rebellion ___ Withdrawing/running

away.

• ___ Bargain/negotiate/mediation ___ Arguing/bickering/accusing/apologizing___

Counseling/listening.

• Other Situations : ___ _______________________________ ___

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• ___ _______________________ ___ ______________________________ ___

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Selecting Situational Communication Patterns to be Altered

A Person

B Person

Situation_____________

Characterizing the communication interaction.

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Characterizing and Altering a Situational Communication Pattern

A Person

B Person


1. Record from memory the prior communication pattern in this type of situation.

2. Re-write your proposed changed communication pattern for this type of situation on next page.


COPY AND PRINT THIS PAGE FROM THE

HYPERLINK IN THE TITLE AT TOP, MAKING

AS MANY COPIES AS THERE ARE

SITUATIONS YOU WANT TO CHANGE


Altering a Situational Communication Pattern

A Person

B Person


Re-writing the communication interaction.

COPY AND PRINT THIS PAGE FROM THE

HYPERLINK IN THE TITLE AT TOP, MAKING

AS MANY COPIES AS THERE ARE

SITUATIONS YOU WANT TO CHANGE


1. Dealing With Inner Processes in Therapy2. Relating Inner Processes to External Structures in Therapy

3. Client’s Homework Outside of Therapy

I. Inside the one hour of therapy, the therapist can facilitate the client’s efforts to understand and

work through unhealthy, ineffective, unsatisfying inner processes:

1. To understand and work through the negative effects of implicit parents and others, repressions,

suppressions, inhibitions and self defeating habit patterns, fears, impulses, compulsions, pseudo-

incorporated and pseudo-dis-incorporated feelings, values, beliefs, preferences, mis-perceptions and

mis-assessments, inaccurate knowledge, ineffective perspective taking, inaccurate envisioning

processes, dysfunctional adventuring processes, inappropriate mirroring processes, defective

judgment and decision making processes, disruptive emotional reactions, inaccurate and ineffective

understanding and use of time and timing, ineffective and

2. To understand and work through the negative effects of unhealthy relationships and self defeating

relationship styles and strategies, proclivities to choose and remain in self defeating formal and

informal roles and enact self defeating scenarios imported from past harmful relationships and roles,

3. To assist the client in structuring outside-of-therapy-homework and in assessing the results of

attempting the alternative patterns set as goals for homework.

II. The client assumes responsibility for their homework. They select alternatives and plan and

execute the alternatives. They evaluate the results and revise and practice new alternatives.


Effects of Inconsistencies Between Structural Constraints and Inner, Personal Criteria for Fulfillment

I. There is an inevitable dialectical tension between one’s inner self, values, preferences, dreams, goals, choices, and plans and the demands of the external constraints of the routes and paths one is predetermined to follow as a result of one’s condition of birth.

II. Every aspect of the environments call for specific behaviors. The person draws upon their repertoire of behaviors to try to match the expectations, requirements, and constraints.

III. Fate presents dilemmas and people almost always forced to make choices, with or without awareness, that end up with unwanted outcomes.

IV. When the expectations, requirements, and constraints of one’s environments do not match one’s values and preferences and one’s personal criteria for fulfillment are out of sync, the person may adapt, but not without inner suffering.

V. When there is this inconsistency between one’s inner, personal criteria for fulfillment and the imposed expectations and requirements, a widening gap between the person’s public and private self may begin to develop.

VI. Feeling trapped in life circumstances that involve ‘having to be, do, have or believe’, having to act, having to pretend and develop a public persona or façade in ways that are inconsistent with the one’s true inner self leads to tension, a sense of loss of integrity and authenticity, loss of self respect, suppressed alienation from one’s environment, suppressed hatred for the required behaviors, a feeling that life in the related domains makes life not worth living and leaves the person with a constant sense of struggle and effort, and finally a cynicism that may lead to a break down of character.


Addressing the Inner Intentional Processes in Therapyand Relating Them to the Client’s External World

I. Learning to see your new places and people without projecting your past onto them. Letting the new and different speak for itself, letting it crash through your blinders and colored lenses and be blinded by the radiance of their newness and uniqueness. Differentiating the old from the new and seeing the aspects of the new on its own terms.

II. Connecting current ineffective patterns to their roots in past experiences with family, modeling of, and training by family, including traumas, and then redesigning new patterns. Allowing repressed memories from these roots to surface and be explored so as to break these connections.

III. Removing, layer by layer all that you had to pseudo-incorporate and pseudo-dis-incorporate in the past and coming to accept your own way of seeing, feeling, and believing about things. Reaching out to incorporate the new and different ways of seeing, feeling, believing, and doing, and letting yourself experience new ways of being. Casting out and avoiding the things and people in the world that were actually harmful and destructive to you. Realizing you do not have to be exploited, trodden over, abused, held back, made to deny the truth, or be shut out and that you can break out of the well worn ruts from the past.

IV. Allowing yourself to be free and open about yourself regardless of what others think or say, letting the chips fall where they may. You can be yourself and expand in any way or direction open that you choose. Allowing yourself to know what you truly like, what feels good to you and what feels bad to, opening to new experiences and sensations of pleasure and delight and admitting when things are really unpleasant and uninteresting to you, regardless of what others say you should feel and like or not like.


Addressing the Inner Intentional Processes in Therapyand Relating Them to the Client’s External World [CONT.]

I. Allowing yourself to keep others’ trash out of your boundaries and to experiment with crossing over borders into formerly taboo territory to see what it is like if you wish. Allowing yourself to use your own judgment and make yourself decisions, rise and fall by your own will and muscle.

II. Disavowing others’ urging toward risks or caution, allow yourself to avoid imposed or unnecessary risks that hold no advantage to you and to challenge yourself to take new risks where they are worth it to you,

III. Learning to learn from your own experiences and self correct your own mistakes. Allowing yourself to stop if you start and it is not right for or to grit your teeth and persist in spite of others encouraging regression to ease, comfort, and safety.

IV. Listening to your own inner voice and learning your own lessons from life, storing them for your own wisdom in the future.

V. Seeing yourself as a power, not a pawn, and able to speak up and make changes in the world and your immediate world where it does not transgress or usurp the will of others.

VI. Allowing yourself to see the world, not as a place where you have to submit and conform and gain others approval or avoid their rejection, but as a plaice full of possibility and potential for you. See the world as your world and yourself as an equal among equals not having to have to be, do, have, or believe and as free as everyone to be, do, have, and believe in your own way.

VII. Discover all the ways you have learned to short-change yourself from life and then learn to redefine yourself and your world. It is your life and no one else’s. You are free to be.


Assessing Your Awareness of Particular Inner Intentional Processes: How They Were Shaped, Which You Have Altered, and Which Need to Be Altered


2nd Generation

3rd Generation

4th Generation

Generational Parenting Cycles:3rd generation same as 4th, could be better, gonna be worse. 2nd generation same as third, could

be better, gonna be worse. 1st generation same as 2nd, could be better but sure is worse!

You know, when I was a child my parents treated me badly. That had a lot to do with shaping my personality.

That’s why I have the problems I have today.

Well, what about me? You are having a lot to do with shaping my personality and you are the reason I have the problems I am having!

Well, that’s different. You make your own decisions. We don’t make you

have the problems you have. You have to accept responsibility for your own

behavior.

Oh yeah, sure. I’m sure that’s just what your parents said to you. And, I bet that

made you mad too, cause they were coping out on what they were doing to you.

Denying their mistakes in handling you. You just can’t own up to your ineptitude as

parents just as they couldn’t with you. Why don’t you come off it and accept the

fact that you’re just as much to blame, just as much at a loss of what to do as a parent

as your parents were!


Patterns in Peer Culture and Their Effects on TeensRepeat Themselves, Too!

And, With Similar Repetition, There Comes Parental Disavowal of These Effects and Parental Emphasis on the Teens Accepting Responsibility

2nd Generation

3rd Generation

4th Generation

1st Generation

You know, when I was a child my peers treated me badly. They teased me and excluded me and called me names. That had a lot to do with shaping

my personality. That’s why I have the problems I have today.

Well, what about me? My peers treat me like that and they are

causing me to get in trouble? So why do you say its all my fault?

Well, that’s different. You make your own decisions. They don’t make you have the problems you have. You have to accept

responsibility for your own behavior.

Yea, sure. Whatever!

1st Peer Group:

2nd Peer Group

3rd Peer Group

4thPeer Group


Parental Denial of Having Made Mistakes Under Pressure From Peers Leaves Their Teen No Choice but to Accept Blame and Blame Themselves. But, Admitting Their Having Had Difficulty

in Peer Relations and Acknowledging the Difficulties of Their Teen in Dealing With Peers and Exploring Ways to Deal With Such Situations in the Future Helps.

2nd Generation

3rd Generation

4th Generation

1st Generation

Well, it is your fault. You should have know better. You shouldn’t be hanging around with kids like that anyway. When I was a kid I never let anybody influence me like that. I stayed away from the bad kids and would not let them get me in trouble.

My peers got me to go along with them and we got in trouble and

they let me take the blame for it. That isn’t fair. And now you’re treating me like it’s all my fault.

With an attitude like that, you’re bound to get in trouble again and then we’re gonna really punish you!

Yea, sure. You were perfect and expect me to be and I’m a failure. I’m weak and no good. I can

never be as good as you or as good as you want me to be. At least my peers know how I feel.

1st

Peer Group Pressure:

2nd Peer Group

Pressure

3rd Peer Group

Pressure4th

Peer Group Pressure

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Role of the Past in Understanding and Overcoming Current Peer Related Problems

Teen Peer

Group Pressure

Adult Peer

Group Pressure

I remember that was a terrible situation. Got me in lots of trouble with the school and my parents went ballistic. I never got over it and even today I get really stressed when m adult peers pressure me to to do something I know is going to lead to trouble and don’t want to do. Still, I give in and feel awful and even worse about myself. I just never learned to handle it..

Adult Peer

Group Pressure

This is awful!Ok, I can handle it now.

OK, remembering that situation, how you felt about yourself, and about your parents, and recalling your natural naiveté as a young teen, do you still blame yourself? Understanding the dynamics of the relations with your parents and how that affected your vulnerability and susceptibility to your peers, together with your lack of social experience, do you understand why you made that decision? Now, looking back as an adult, knowing what you know now, how might you handle that situation differently? Now, coming forward to today, imagine being in one of these situations, with the appropriate skills and knowing you won’t be blamed or don’t have to blame yourself, can you let yourself calmly step back, consider what you really want, especially in the light of the consequences, and then says to your peers what you really want to say? How does it feel to have the security to do that? What do you feel the consequences will be between your peers now?


The Process of Getting Free From Self Defeating Patterns.

Past relived.

Feeling catharsis; understanding dynamics; understanding social skills; understanding feelings;

imagining new social skills; knowing that one does not have to feel that way; and with new skills can handle it;

the past no longer determines the old self destructive pattern.

Practicing new social skills and new ways of feeling in live situations;


Fitting Your External World to Your Internal Criteria for FulfillmentThe Role of Changing the Places of Your Life in Altering Your Personality and Behavior:

Family and Home, Work, Social and Recreational, Support and Control Agencies


The Role of Changing Formal and Informal Roles and Relationships

in Altering Behavior Patterns and Inner Processes


Conscious Use of Situations to Facilitate Self Enhancement

1. How can you identify the places you need to change?2. Where can you choose to go today?3. How can you identify self defeating formal and informal roles?4. How can you assume new, healthier, more satisfying formal

roles?5. How can you identify unhealthy, unsatisfying relationships?6. What relationships do you need to change so as to avoid

compelling, self defeating informal roles?7. How can you negotiate changes in unsatisfying, unhealthy

relationships, and change self defeating situational communication patterns that repeatedly occur in these relationships?

8. How can you identify self defeating inner processes?9. How can you change inner processes from being unhealthy and

self defeating to being self enhancing?10. How can you use observations of real life people and models in

movies to teach you new ways of relating and handling situations.


Conceptualizing Levels of External and Internal Structures and Processes As a Method for Re-designing Your Life


Redesigning Your World and Learning to Be Proactive


Success in Therapy: Overcoming the Odds1. When you, as the Client, are in Structured Settings with Strict Constraints vs.

2. When you, as the Client, are in Unstructured Settings with a Lack of Constraints

1.You, the client, in structured settings.1. The force of constraints militates against change.

1. Routine and repetitive situations and situational interactions prevent change.2. Formal and informal roles and expectations prevent change3. Stereotyped perceptions by others and assigned identities elicit habitual stereotyped behavior.4. Long-standing informal relationships that enact parts in unconscious scenarios pressure the client to continue

enacting their own part in these scenarios.5. Networks of patterned communication exert a pull for conforming.

2. Given the above dynamics and the fact that you, the client, are captive to being confronted with continuous feedback from coworkers in higher, equal, and lower rank urging you to conform to their own needs and expectations, the client’s interaction patterns, as well as inner processes, tend to be maintained in conformity to the demands of these networks of patterned communications.

2.You, the client, in unstructured settings.1. Lack of formal structure and the extreme fluidity of absence of constraints presents the client with infinite

options and the freedom to enter or depart settings and situations and begin or end relationships at will.1. In the absence of continuous and enduring dictated or pressured scripts for behavior and communication, the client

is faced with the opportunity to select and deselect companions based on whether or not the other has an inner scenario they need to enact that matches the scenario(s) of the client. Those that match are selected and maintained.

2. Matching scenarios are the most comfortable. The client feels discomfort when companions’ scenarios are a mismatch and withdraws from these relationships.

3. Deliberately entering interaction where the degree of match is unknown or that is suspected to require development of a new repertoire creates anxiety and tends to be avoided.

4. In the absence of structure, the client’s suppressed or repressed needs, fears, etc., tend to surface and the client has a strong tendency to seek places where such needs can be met and fears avoided. Clients tend to project on ambiguous places and persons the auras of their inner fears and desires and selectively include consistent and exclude inconsistent features..

2. Given the above dynamics and the fact that the client is not likely to receive or hear feedback encouraging them to change, the client has little opportunity or incentive to try, develop, revise, and practice new repertoires.


The Trajectory of Self Enhancement Progress Over Time

• Trigger Situations In Types and Stages of Relationships• The Role of Informal and Formal Roles in Maintaining

Personality and Behavior Patterns

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Homework Exercises

1. 27 Exploring How Structures and Settings Affect Your Relationships2. 28 How You Handle Stages and Paths

of Intimate and Familial Relationships3. 29 Identifying the Pattern in Your Intimate Relationship4. 32 Trigger Situations In Types and Stages of Relationships5. 24 Exploring Your Relations to Time, Your Comfortable Pace, and Feelings Accompanying

Time Issues6. 34 Exploring Life Circumstances and Types of Situations That Trigger Uncomfortable

Emotions and Moods in Your Life7. 36 Approaching the Question of Making Changes in the Topography of Your Life8. 37 I. A Work Sheet for Re-routing the Topographical Features of Your Life9. 38 II. A Worksheet for Proposing Alternative Strategies for Coping With Uncomfortable

Situations10. 40 Exploring Your Generalized Communication Pattern11. 48 Assessing Your Awareness of Particular Inner Intentional Processes: How They Were

Shaped, Which You Have Altered, and Which Need to Be Altered12. 54 Fitting Your External World to Your Internal Criteria for Fulfillment

The Role of Changing the Places of Your Life in Altering Your Personality and Behavior:Family and Home, Work, Social and Recreational, Support and Control Agencies

13. 55 The Role of Informal and Formal Roles in Maintaining Personality and Behavior Patterns14. 57 Redesigning Your World and Learning to Be Proactive15. 59 The Trajectory of Self Enhancement Progress Over Time


Homework Exercises [Cont.]

1. 27 Exploring How Structures and Settings Affect Your Relationships

2. 28 How You Handle Stages and Paths of Intimate and Familial Relationships

3. 29 Identifying the Pattern in Your Intimate Relationship

4. 32 Trigger Situations In Types and Stages of Relationships

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