Recognizing Harmful Relationships. What kind of relationships would you call harmful?
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Recognizing Recognizing
Harmful Harmful RelationshipsRelationships
What kind of relationships would you call harmful?
10 People Who Relate in Harmful Ways
1. The people pleaser2. The enabler3. The clinger4. The fixer5. The distancer6. The controller7. The center8. The abuser9. The liar10. The promise breaker
The People Pleaser
0A person who constantly seeks the approval of others0 Will do almost anything to be liked0 Doesn’t mind being walked all over0 Lacks self confidence
0The people pleaser sabotages the chance to have healthful relationships because he or she does not demand respect from others.
The Enabler
0A person who supports the harmful behavior of others0 May deny another’s harmful behaviors0 May make excuses for another
0The enabler sabotages the chance to have healthful relationships when he or she does not expect other people to behave in responsible ways
The Clinger0A person who is needy and dependent
0 Feels empty inside and needs another to feel complete0 No amount of attention keeps the clinger fulfilled0 Friends of the clinger may feel suffocated
0The clinger sabotages the chance to have healthful relationships by not giving other people space
The Fixer
0A person who tries to fix other peoples problems0Quick to give advice0Avoids his/her own problems0Will come up with all sorts of solutions for another
persons problems
0The fixer sabotages the chance to have healthful relationships because healthy people do not want others to solve their problems.
The Distancer
0A person who is emotionally unavailable to others0 May have been hurt in the past0 Keeps people from getting too close0 Avoids sharing feelings0 Avoids getting hurt
0The distancer sabotages the chance to have healthful relationships by not risking emotional involvement.
The Controller
0A person who is possessive, jealous, and domineering0 Seeks power0 May tell another what to do/what to wear0 Does not like to share “objects of his/her affection”0 May monopolize a boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s time
0The controller sabotages the chance to have healthful relationships by not respecting the interests or opinions of others
0http://www.tubechop.com/watch/1013982
The Center
0A person who is self-centered0 “IT’S ALL ABOUT ME”0 Talks your ear off about them0 Only wants to do what he/she wants0 Uninterested in your ideas
0The center sabotages the chance to have healthful relationships by being so focused on being the center of attention that the needs of others are ignored
The Abuser
0A person who is abusive0 May cause others harm
0Physical, emotional or sexual
0 May go from one extreme to another
0An abuser may miss the chance to have healthful relationships by threatening and harming others
0http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RzDr18UYO18
The Liar
0A person who does not tell the truth0 May pretend to be something he/she isn’t0 The liar avoids the truth to manipulate others into the
responses he or she wants
0The liar sabotages the chance to have healthful relationships by lying to others to get the response he or she wants
The Promise Breaker
0A person who is not reliable0 Makes plans then is a no show0 Makes plans and changes them if something better
comes along 0 The promise breaker sabotages the chance to have
healthful relationships by not keeping his or her word
Why do people get into harmful relationships?
0Why do people get into harmful relationships?0Take a few seconds and brainstorm with a partner
0Two people might be involved in a harmful relationship together because:
01) each one of them allows the other to play out a specific profile of harmful behavior
02) other people who expect healthful behavior avoid relationships with them.
How Harmful Relationships effect Health Status
Changing Harmful Relationships
1. Evaluate each of your relationships on a regular basis.2. Recognize when you must end a harmful relationship
rather than work to change it.3. Identify changes in behavior that must occur in any
existing harmful relationship if you are to continue with the relationship.
4. Talk to a parent, guardian, or other trusted adult about the changes you expect in the relationship.
5. Have a frank discussion with the other person in the relationship in which you share your concerns and expectations.
6. Set a future date when you will evaluate the relationship again.
Review
0What defines a relationship as harmful?0What is the difference between a clinger and a people
pleaser?0How do a fixer and a center differ?0How do promise breakers sabotage the chance to
have healthful relationships?0What steps might you take to end or change a harmful
relationship?