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Raising Authentically Successful Children: Resilience in Action
Ken Ginsburg MD, MS Ed
The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia
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What should childhood look like?
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And . . . who is childhood for???
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How do we define success?
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Do we have to make a choice between success and
happiness?
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Resilience
• The Ability To Overcome Adversity
• The Capacity to Bounce Back
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Resilience is a Mindset
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Resilience is Uneven
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Resilience
is
NOT
Invulnerability
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Resilience
is
NOT
a character trait.
It is affected by supports and circumstances!!!
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The Bottom Line
• Young People will be more resilient if the
important adults in their lives believe in
them unconditionally and hold them to
high expectations
• Young People live up or down to the
expectations we set for them
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The 7 C’s of Resilience
Confidence
Competence
Connection
Character
Contribution
Coping
Control
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The importance of
Connection can not be overstated. . .
• Family
• School
• Community
• . . . and sometimes, the health clinician
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Connection 101:
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Why does it feel like our connection is challenged
during adolescence?
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Listening
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Connection 101 (cont’d):
Perfectionism Prevention
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What is perfectionism?
And . . . why isn’t it a good thing?
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Self Loathing
Fear of the B+
Fear of the “D” Word
No Out-of-the-Box Thought
The death of creativity
Resents Constructive Feedback
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The Lies You Don’t Want to Buy Into
The SAT’s will pave the way . . .
You have to be good at everything . . .
Just put it off . . .
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“Just try your best”
Victims of a toxic society What do we praise . . . or notice? Desire to spare us Fear of becoming the target of
anger
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Learning to Build a High Achiever
• Letting young people make their own mistakes
• Praising the process of trying, rather than just the results
• And not over-praising . . .this is not self esteem!
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Not all perfectionists are perfect
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Competence
and
Confidence
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Finding Competence . . . . . . Building Confidence
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• Talking in a way young people understand
• Recognizing the cognitive development of adolescence
• No more lectures!!!!!!
Learning Not to Undermine Competence
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Building Competence
Social Skills
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ControlControl
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The World Happens to The World Happens to MeMe
oror
I control my DestinyI control my Destiny
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How Much Control?How Much Control?
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Effective Monitoring
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Routine Interaction
Parent repeats
command
Punishment that is worse than the crime
no
no
Cycle repeats 1 to 3 times
no
yes
Naggingrelationship
Hostilerelationship
Diminishedparental
supervision
Parent makescommand
Parentthreatens
Parent atcrisis point
Parentgives up
Critical point
Cycle repeats 3 to 7 times
no
Adapted from Barkley RA. Hyperactive Children: A Handbook for Diagnosis and Treatment. New York, NY: Guilford Press; 1981.
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Contract
1. I want a curfew of 10 pm on weeknights and 11:30 on weekends
We need to know where you are, whom you’re with, and what you’ll be doing
We need to know where you are going, who you will be with, when you will be homeYou need to finish all of your homework before you go outYou need to get enough sleepYou need to be able to wake up in time for schoolYou need to keep up your gradesYou must always follow the check in ruleWe have to agree on a code word
2.I want to be able to drive the car when mom doesn’t need it
You can’t drive any friends for 6 monthsYou must Always wear a seat beltYou will never use a cell phone or text while drivingWe need to sign a Students Against Destructive Decisions Contract for life
Mom _X_____ Dad _X_____ Bill_X_____
Contract
1.I want a curfew of 10 pm on weeknights and 11:30 on weekends
2.I want to be able to drive the car when mom doesn’t need it
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Resilience
• Is about learning to cope, in a positive way with life’s inevitable stressors
• We might do our greatest good by raising youth with a wide repertoire of positive coping strategies
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You Feel Awful!!!
Positive Coping
Strategies
Stress Discomfort
Negative Coping
Strategies
Relief
You Feel Awful!!!DiscomfortYou Feel Awful!!!Discomfort
Relief
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You Feel Awful!!!
Positive Coping
Strategies
Stress Discomfort
Negative Coping
Strategies
Relief
You Feel Awful!!!DiscomfortYou Feel Awful!!!Discomfort
Relief
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Coping
Engagement vs. Disengagement
Emotion Focused vs. Problem Focused
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A Stress Management Plan for Teens
(It Might Just Work for you)
Shhhhh . . . It is a Great Way to Build a College Resume
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Stress Management : Tackling The Problem
1) Making the problem manageable
2) Active Avoidance
3) Let Some things go
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Serenity Prayer
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the
difference
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Stress Management : Taking Care of My Body
4)Exercise
o Fear
o Anger
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Stress Management : Taking Care of My Body
5)Relaxation
6)Nutrition
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Stress Management : Taking Care of My Body
7) Sleep
o Stimulation
o Cool Down
Exercise
Shower
o Release emotion
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Stress Management : Managing Emotions
8) Instant Vacations
9) Releasing Emotions
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The Worst thing is not to be
stressed . . . it is to be NUMB
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Stress Management Plan : Making the World Better
10) Contributing to the world
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When Resilience Reaches Its Limits
• Physical symptoms
• Fatigue
• Disinterest
• Dropping grades
• Sad mood
• Irritability/anger
• Substance use
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When Your Tolerance Reaches Its Limits
Falling Back In Love
Catching Your Kid Being Good
Holding to the Highest Expectation
Honoring Your Spouse/Partner
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The Greatest Gift You Can Give Your Child
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