Raise your hand If you’re a bully…
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Raise your hand
If you’re a bully…
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CLASS GOALS:
WHO is affected?
WHEN does joking
become bullying?
WHAT are some
effective strategies?
WHO is affected?•The BULLY
•The TARGET•The BYSTANDER(S)
The BULLY is the person who ABUSES POWER over others…
The TARGET is the person who FEELS bullied…
The BYSTANDERS are the people who WITNESS the act…
Out of the three, who has the most power…
BYSTANDERS
Only JOKING…
Or BULLYING?
• INTENTION TO CAUSE DISTRESS
• FREQUENCY OF THE ACT
• IMBALANCE OF POWER
INTENTIONDO YOU FIND PLEASURE IN
TAUNTING AND CAUSING DISTRESS…
DOES THE TARGET EXPERIENCE A
DIFFERENT FEELING THAN YOU?
FREQUENCYHOW OFTEN IS THE
TARGET ATTACKED…
WHEN DOES THE TARGET FEEL IT IS
TOO MUCH?
POWER IMBALANCEDOES THE BULLY
HAVE AN UNFAIR
ADVANTAGE…
DOES THE TARGET HAVE
AN UNFAIR DIS-ADVANTAGE?
Four KINDS of BULLYING:
• PHYSICAL • VERBAL • RELATIONAL
• CYBER
PHYSICALPUSHING
TRIPPING
THROWING
OBJECTSHITTING
STARING
CROWDING
UNWANTED
TOUCHING
SPITTING
BODY LANGUAG
E
L.E.P.LAW ENFORCEMENT PERSPECTIVE
• DID YOU KNOW according to Texas Law
• Assault is defined as:• Causing bodily injury to another
(Class A misdemeanor)• Threatens another with imminent
bodily injury (Class C misdemeanor)
• Physical contact with another if contact is regarded as offensive of provocative (Class C misdemeanor)
VERBALTHREATS
TAUNTING
NAMECALLING
RACIST COMMENT
SDISRESPECTFUL
COMMENTS
SEXISTCOMMENTS
CRUEL JOKES
RELATIONALEXCLUSION
CLIQUES
CYBER HARASSMEN
T
LAUGHING AND
POINTING GOSSIP
RUMORS
HARASSMENT
ROLLING EYES
BLOGGING
CYBEREXCLUSION
THREATS
CYBER HARASSMEN
T
TEXTMESSAGIN
G GOSSIP
RUMORS
MEAN TRUTHFULNESS
INSTANTMESSAGIN
GBLOGGING
L.E.P.LAW ENFORCEMENT PERSPECTIVE
• DID YOU KNOW according to PC 42.07
• Harassment is defined as:• With intent to harass,
annoy, alarm, abuse, torment, or embarrass another a person initiates communication by telephone, in writing or electronic communication
• This includes obscenities, threats, calling and hanging up, falsely reporting that someone else has suffered an injury or death.
BULLY TARGET BYSTANDER
PHYSICAL
VERBAL
RELATIONAL
CYBER
pushing, hitting, intimidating by towering over, facial, gestures, spitting, crowding…
withdrawn, submissive, cut, cowering, bruise, bleeding, retaliate…
walk away, pretend it's not happening, laugh,
join in, encourage, stand next to target,
get help…
laughing, tone of voice, put
downs,threats, taunting, cruel
jokes…
quiet, crying, tone of voices, nervous
laughter, yell back…
applaud, whisper, encourage, say "stop," defend target, listen…
angry, excited, laughing, cruel,
exclusion, rolling eyes, gossip…
embarrassed, insecure,
humiliation, fear, shame, stop going
to school, exclusion…
fearful, insecure, disgusted, excited, ashamed,caught in
the middle, supportive…
rumors, gossip,mean truth, prank calls,
blogging, threats, IM, texts..
surprised, shocked, confused, physical illness, betrayed,
avoidance…
continues the gossip, laughs, ignores, says "stop”, chooses not to
IM...
THINGS TO DO:• Do NOT cheer for the fight…• Do NOT ignore the situation…• DO tell an adult…• DO say something to the bully…• DO challenge the bully’s motives…
BYSTANDER
STRATEGIESSTRATEGIES
THINGS TO SAY:•Come on, this isn’t worth the trouble…
There’s a better way to handle this…•You’re better than this. Be nice…
•Being a bully isn’t cool…•Leave him/her alone…
•Stop. That’s Rude…•That’s not Funny…
THINGS TO DO:• Know your motives…• Use your popularity to build
up weak targets…• Use your strength to help
weak targets…• Use your humor to befriend
weak targets…
BULLY
STRATEGIESSTRATEGIES
THINGS TO THINK ABOUT:•Is my intention to cause
distress?•How often do I tease this
person?•Do I have an unfair
advantage?•Is the person I’m attacking an
unfair target?•How does the target feel?
PREVENTION:• Fake it ‘til you make it…• Make eye contact…• Be friendly…• Take a joke– laugh at
yourself…• Have good posture…• Use a firm voice…
SURVIVOR
STRATEGIESSTRATEGIES
PROTECTION:•Avoid the DANGER ZONES…
•Stay with friends or groups…•Walk away from the fight…
•Don’t give up…•Practice what to say…
•Don’t over react…•Stay calm…
•Don’t show your tears…•Tell a trusted adult…
PREPARATION:• Practice what to say…• “It’s okay. Say whatever you
want – it doesn’t bother me.”• “Who are you again?”• “Whatever. Anything else?”• “You’re repeating yourself.”• “She noticed my ears (pick
feature) are big (pick adjective)… Great eyesight.”
• Help the bully with his observations…
MORE SURVIVOR
STRATEGIESSTRATEGIES REMEMBER:
•ACT confident•Stay calm…
•Don’t show your tears…•Laugh along…
•Change the subject…
BULLY SURVIVORS UNDERSTAND THE FOLLOWING:
• Bullying happens almost everywhere and to almost everyone at some point in their lives…
• Bullies like audiences…• Bystanders usually do not agree with the bully, but they may
not know what to do…• Survivors concentrate on what THEY can do to improve, not
what the bully should do…• Being a bully does not make a person more successful in
life… often it makes them less successful…• Stay with others… there is safety in numbers…• Try out of school activities like club sports, etc…
SURVIVORSURVIVOR SECRETSSECRETS
L.E.P.LAW ENFORCEMENT PERSPECTIVE
• Target did NOT provoke the fight…
• No possible escape routes (you’re cornered)…
• Imminent fear of injury to self or innocent others…
• Only MINIMUM force required to stop bully is allowed…
WHAT IS SELF DEFENSE AND WHEN IS IT ALLOWED?
QUESTION AND
ANSWER