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THINKING INTERDEPENDENTLY Take care of each other. Share your energies with the group. No one must feel alone, cut off, for that is when you do not make it. Willi Unsoeld (Renowned mountain climber)

"The firmest friendships have been formed in mutual adversity, as iron is most strongly united by the fiercest flame."

Charles Caleb Colton

"An unshared life is not living. He who shares does not lessen, but greatens, his life."

Rabbi Stephen S. Wise

"We are, each of us angels with only one wing; and we can only fly by embracing one another."

Luciano De Crescenzo, Author

"How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these."

George Washington Carver

"Every person you meet - and everything you do in life is an opportunity to learn something. "

Tom Clancy, Author

"To keep your resolve, surround yourself with those who want you to succeed. The brain cannot do its job of protecting the body without contact with other people."

Robert Ornstein and David Sobel in "The Healing Brain"

"I refuse to accept the view that mankind is so tragically bound to the starless midnight of racism and war that the bright daybreak of peace and brotherhood can never become reality. I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word."

Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

"Success depends above all, upon people. Build relationships, teams, partnerships -- and motivate people to contribute. Cultivate leadership, creativity, excellence. Listen; seek new ideas and advice. "

Ruth Scott

Gardens, scholars say, are the first sign of commitment to a community. When people plant corn they are saying, lets stay here. And by their connection to the land, they are connected to one another.

Anne Raver

Getting along well with other people is still the worlds most needed skill. With itthere is no limit to what person can do. We need people, we need the cooperation of others. There is very little we can do alone

Earl Nightingale

Every function in.. cultural development appears twice: First, on the social level, and later on the individual level; first between people (interpsychological), and then inside (intrapsychological).This applies equally to voluntary attention, to logical memory, and to the formation of concepts. All the higher functions originate as actual relationships between individuals.

Lev Vygotsky

Anytime a change takes place in the future, it starts as a vision in someone's mind. The person draws other people into that vision and when enough people are drawn into share that vision, it explodes into activity.

Nancy Hathaway

Snowflakes are one of nature's most fragile things, but just look what they can do when they stick together.

Vista M. Kelly

It is good to rub and polish our brain against that of others.

Michael De Montaigne

"Good friendships are fragile things and require as much care as any other fragile and precious thing."

Randolph Bourne

"The only service a friend can really render is to keep up your courage by holding up to you a mirror in which you can see a noble image of yourself."

George Bernard Shaw

"In helping others, we shall help ourselves, for what ever good we give out completes the circle and comes back to us."

Hora Edwards

"Happiness in life is not measured by the things we achieve, the places we go, or the route that we take to get there. Happiness in life is measured by the people that we share all of our experiences with."

Chris Needham

"The only true gift is a portion of yourself."

Ralph Waldo Emerson

"It is a good idea to be ambitious, to have goals, to want to be good at what you do, but it is a terrible mistake to let drive and ambition get in the way of treating people with kindness and decency. The point is not that they will then be nice to you. It is that you will feel better about yourself."

Robert Merton Solow

"He that wrestles with us strengthens our nerves and sharpens our skill. Our antagonist in our helper."

Edmund Burke

"The finest gift you can give anyone is encouragement. Yet, almost no one gets the encouragement they need to grow to their full potential. If everyone received the encouragement they need to grow, the genius in most everyone would blossom and the world would produce abundance beyond our wildest dreams."

Sidney Madwed

"An authentic leader acts in ways which serve to elevate those around him."

Sean M. Georges

"How can you have charisma? Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you."

Dan Reiland

"Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it's the only thing that ever has."

Margaret Mead

"Shared values are the glue that holds this organization together"

Shelly Brown

"A community is like a ship; everyone ought to be prepared to take the helm."

Henrik Ibsen

"It may have happened that, at some point in my life, I took some part of me out of the darkness and placed it in the light for the eyes of another.It may be that this other person did not understand, and I ran full of regrets into a painful emotional solitude.Yet, there may have been other moments when someone heard my secret and accepted my confidence in gentle hands.I remember the gentle pressure that told me I was understood.It was a great and liberating experience, and in its wake I felt so much more alive. An immense need had been answered in me to be really listened to, to be taken seriously, and to be understood. It is only through this kind of sharing that we come to know ourselves. Introspection of itself is helpless. We can confide all of our secrets to the docile pages of a personal diary, but we can know ourselves and experience the fullness of life only in the sharing with another person."

John Powell

"Nobody, but nobody / Can make it out here alone."

Maya Angelou

"He who knows others is wise; / He knows himself is enlightened."

Lao-Tzu"

"There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will be to treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity."

Nathaniel Branden

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that this new world is born."

Anais Nin

Community is...a dynamic set of relationships in which a synergistic, self-regulating whole is created out of the combination of individual parts into a cohesive, identifiable, unified form.

Center for the Study of Community, Santa Fe, New Mexico

The Master Mind principle: Two or more people actively engaged in the pursuit of a definite purpose with a positive mental attitude, constitute an unbeatable force.

Napoleon Hill

Isolation is a blind alley....Nothing on the planet grows except by convergence."

Teilhard de Chardin

The ultimate use of power is to empower others.

William Glasser

Communities are places or entities where each member can give something, where they can contribute something that they feel especially able to give, something that they are good at.The gift from each member is valued by the whole community and all gifts are unique and individual. The gift that community gives back to each member is that of a role and a connection.

Ed Margarson

"True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it be lost." Charles Caleb Colton

"Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend."

Albert Camus.

"Friendship is one mind in two bodies."

Mencius

"I'll lean on you and you lean on me and we'll be okay."

Dave Matthews Band

"Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you say. Best friends listen to what you don't say."

Anonymous

"We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere"

Tim McGraw

"Become the world's most thoughtful friend."

H. Jackson Brown, Jr. Author

"We are all healers of each other. Look at David Spiegel's fascinating study of putting people together in a support group and seeking that some people in it live twice as long as other people who are not in a support group. I asked David what went on in those groups and he said that people just cared about each other. Nothing big, no deep psychological stuff--people just cared about each other. The reality is that healing happens between people.

Rachel Naomi Remen

We provide both irritation and inspiration for each otherthe grist for each others pearl making.

Stephen Nachmonovitch

It takes two to know one.

Gregory Bateson

"The miracle is this....The more we share, the more we have"

Leonard Nimoy

Don't talk about your troubles. No one loves a sad face. Oh, Mom, the truth is Cheer isolates, Humor defends, Competence intimidates,

Control separates, And sadness, Sadness opens us each to the other.

Bill Moyers

The greatest single step in organic evolution was the aggregation of different bacteria to make the nucleated cell. Similarly, the greatest step so far in our cultural evolution has been the aggregation of different cultures to make multi-cultures. There are many kinds of multi-culture, ranging from multinational corporations to major cities like New York. But the self-complication of human culture will not stop there, because it is a self-propelled process. Today's multi-cultures are like the creatures of a colony, coexisting as more or less isolated ghettos. Tomorrow's multi-cultures will be more like genuine multi-cellular organism's, in which extelligence is specialized like the different tissues of a complex animal. Our new communication technologies are beginning to knit all of the different multi-cultures into a new entity, a superculture: Humanity.

Ian Stewart and Jack Cohen

As we develop soul in our work we need to recognize our dual identity: We are both individuals and members of a group. Indeed, finding the soul of work involves the balance and integration of apparent opposites, such as head and heart, intellect and intuition, and self and group. This process is not so much based on the 'shoulds but upon what is. It is my belief that as we attend to the soul of work, we will find we feel more complete.

Daryl Paulson

People are not willing to take risks when they feel afraid or threatened. But if you manage people by love--that is, if you show them respect and trust--they start to perform up to their real capabilities.

Jan Carlson, CEO Scandinavian Airlines

Teamwork is the ability to work together toward a common vision. The ability to direct individual accomplishment toward organizational objectives. It is the fuel that allows common people to accomplish uncommon results.

Anonymous

I desire that there be as many different persons in the world as possible; I would have each one be very careful to find out and preserve his own way.

Henry David Thoreau

Achievement is a we thing, not a me thing, always the produce of many heads and hands.

J. Atkinson

Team members need to be able to suspend disbelief, think the unthinkable, and let intuition and premonitions flow freely. Therefore, a necessary skill in team members is tolerance for ambiguity.

Kees van der Heijden

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow; woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up.

Again, if two lie together, they are warm; but how can one be warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him. A threefold cord is not quickly broken.

Ecclesiastes 4: 9-13

A unique relationship develops among team members who enter into dialogue regularly. They develop a deep trust that cannot help but carry over to discussions. They develop a richer understanding of the uniqueness of each persons point of view.

Peter Senge

"A person's friendships are one of the best measures of his worth."

Charles Darwin

"He alone has lost the art to live who cannot win new friends.

S. Weir Mitchell

"Since there is nothing so worth having as friends, never lose a chance to make them."

Francesco Guicciardini

"A man's growth is seen in the successive choir of his friends."

Ralph Waldo Emerson

"Solitude: A good place to visit, but a poor place to stay."

Josh Billing

"A friend knows the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails."

Donna Roberts

Help your brothers boat across, and your own will reach the shore.

Hindu proverb

"The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in service to others."

Mahatma Gandhi

"You can get everything you want in life, if you just help enough other people get what they want.

Zig Ziglar

Now this is the Law of the Jungle--as old and as true as the sky: And the Wolf that shall keep it may prosper; but the Wolf that shall break it must die. As the creeper that girdles the tree-trunk the Law runneth forward and back-- For the strength of the Pack is the Wolf, And the strength of the Wolf is the Pack. Now this is the Law of the Jungle--as old and as true as the sky:

And the player that keeps it shall prosper; But the player that breaks it must die. As the ball and the parts it is made of Are bound and held fast at the seam-- The strength of the team is the player; And the strength of the player the team.

Rudyard Kipling

We need a spirit of community, a sense that we are al in this together. If we have no sense of community, the American dream will wither.

Bill Clinton

"Here's what is exciting about sharing ideas with others: if you share a new idea with ten people, they get to hear it once and you get to hear it ten times. "

Jim Rohn, Speaker and Author

"I not only use all the brains I have, but all I can borrow."

Woodrow Wilson

"We must learn to live together as brothers or perish together as fools."

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Knowledge, or anything else for that matter, really doesnt exist until it is shared. Intelligent, kind hearted people who freely share their knowledge an humanity in the workplace will find the greatest success.

Joel Schettler

When spiders unite, they can tie up a lion.

Ethiopian Proverb

Nobody wins unless everybody wins.

Bruce Springsteen

"Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It's not something you learn in school. But if you haven't learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven't learned anything."

Muhammad Ali

"The man who thinks he can live without others is mistaken; the one who thinks others can't live without him is even more deluded."

Hasidic saying

"No man is wise enough by himself."

Plautus

"If a link is broken, the entire chain breaks."

Yiddish proverb

"Individual commitment to a group effort, that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work."

Vince Lombardi

"Relationships are a prerequisite for producing results beyond ourselves. They expand our imaginations to infinite possibilities that cannot exist in a life of isolation."

Brian Koslow

"We cannot swing up on a rope that is attached only to our own belt."

William Ernest Hocking

"The most needed, wanted, and powerful activity in which you can engage on or off the job is to authentically recognize, acknowledge, and appreciate others."

Brian Koslow

"Difference is the beginning of synergy."

Stephen R. Covey, Author

Source: These quotes originally compiled by Emeritus Professor Art Costa. Also available at www.instituteforhabitsofmind.com