Quick Overview on Communication
description
Transcript of Quick Overview on Communication
![Page 1: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/1.jpg)
Quick Overview on Communication
Miss Markowski
![Page 2: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/2.jpg)
What do you know about it?1. From where do you receive messages from the
world?2. Can you tell how a conversation is going without
hearing the words? How?
3. Have you ever received a text or email and interpreted it the wrong way? Why?
4. When do you choose to Text vs Email vs have a Face to Face conversation? What are the benefits /drawbacks of each method?
![Page 3: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/3.jpg)
• All the ways that you send and receive messages• Non-verbal (over 90%) gestures, eye contact,
body language, tone of voice• Verbal (8%) Words used, texts, letters
• 3 Basic skills needed for effective communication
1.Listening
2.Speaking
3.Body Language
Communication is:
![Page 4: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/4.jpg)
Tips for Listening: Listening is the MOST powerful way of
showing that you care. Make appropriate eye-contact Give a verbal response, ask questions to continue
the conversation Don’t interrupt or make it all about YOU! Avoid the 5 communication “Filters”
(see poster in class)
![Page 5: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/5.jpg)
Quick Listening Game
![Page 6: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/6.jpg)
90% of communication is non-verbal!
Therefore, all of these things matter:
Eye contactBody Posture / where you are lookingLocation of your arms and handsFiddling with other objects Distance you are standing from someone (cultural)Use of touch (pat on the arm, touching hand v. upper thigh)
Tips for Body Language:
![Page 7: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/7.jpg)
3 Main Communication Styles:• Passive: • Inability or unwillingness to express thoughts and feelings• Does not stand up for self very much• May try to defend their beliefs but then “cave in”• Will try to AVOID conflict at almost all costs• Aggressive:• Often tries to get their way by force, intimidation, being mean “bullying”• Does not really consider feelings or rights of others (my way or the highway)• In a fight, they attack the person not the problem (name-calling, yelling)• Assertive: THE “Goal” we all can try to achieve• Clearly expresses thoughts and feelings without hurting others• Defends thoughts and/or beliefs respectfully and directly• Respects rights and feelings of others• In an argument, they focus on the problem not the person (I’m upset you did that”)
![Page 8: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/8.jpg)
• Passive –Aggressive Personality Disorder –• Unwillingness or inability to directly disagree or express unhappiness
and spends energy instead trying to get revenge or sabotage situation
VERBALLY agreeing (passive) with someone but one’s BEHAVIOR shows disagreement (aggressive)
• Examples: • doing things “accidentally on purpose” • secretly making up lies/situations to get one’s way
• “Sorry I can’t hang out with you tonight, my mom said I have to stay home” but in reality you never even asked your mom
![Page 9: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/9.jpg)
Using “I Statements” Being assertive means speaking honestly,
clearly, and non-blameful way:
I feel ___________ when ____________ because ____________. I want/like _____________.
Let’s practice these (see handout)
![Page 10: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/10.jpg)
Best way to say NO! and still keep your friends!
Think about a time when you said “Yes” but really wanted to say “No”? Why did you do this? There are many reasons…briefly
discuss them….
Best Way to SAY NO: Reject the behavior/issue/problem
NOT the person Which communication style is this? Think about how you can use this in ANY situation:
drugs, sex, your boss, parents, friends, etc
![Page 11: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/11.jpg)
Saying “No” Practice Scenarios Jenn and Deb are best friends. Deb’s older sister gave
Deb some of her AD/HD drugs to help her stay up late at night to get homework done. Deb now wants to use them with Jenn so they can stay up and party longer on the weekends. Jenn thinks this is a really bad idea.
Now, write 4 different responses from Jenn: 1. Passive 2. Aggressive 3. Assertive 4. Passive-Aggressive
![Page 12: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/12.jpg)
6 Other Ways of Saying No! (some are temporary or leave you vulnerable for people to ask you again and again)
• Say no thanks: • No, no thanks, I’m
good, etc.
• Delay: • not now, maybe
later/tomorrow/next year
• Broken Record:
• No, no, nope, no way, no how
• Plan B: offer an alternative
• “Why don’t we ….”
• Avoid: • completely change
the subject without saying no
• Leave the scene: • say no and leave
right after
![Page 13: Quick Overview on Communication](https://reader036.fdocuments.in/reader036/viewer/2022081513/56816466550346895dd64e45/html5/thumbnails/13.jpg)
4 Toxic Ways to Communicate(in any relationship, we will go over this in
more detail next class)1. Escalation (yell/laugh/kitchen sink)2. Invalidation (put downs/name calling)3. Avoiding and Withdrawing (ignoring/grudges)4. Negative Interpretation (always/never)