MAY 2020

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Grief Resource CenterGrief Resource Center

For more information, contact Tony Del Percio,

Grief Counselor at 651-489-1349 .

You can no longer see me

but please know that I am there

I am the flowers in the garden

I am the wind beneath your hair -Sherry Rockhill

Grief Resource Center

www.bradshawfuneral.com

1078 Rice Street St. Paul, MN 55117

www.bradshawfuneral.com

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PROVIDING EDUCATION AND SUPPORT AT A TIME OF LOSS

H E A L I N G T H E H E A R T ®

Dealing with the death of your loved one is difficult and painful. Now we are dealing with Coronavirus. With social distancing groups being canceled, restaurants and shopping malls closed and being asked to stay at home, it gives us more time to think about our loved one’s death. For some, we may feel more isolated, alone, on edge, helpless or even more sad.

For those who must delay the funeral because of the virus, it may feel like putting a band-aid on a wound knowing that part of your grief is on hold until the funeral. Therefore, it is very important that you find healthy ways to take care yourself as we deal with this virus and most importantly, the death of your loved one.

The following are helpful hints for you and your family:

Keep in mind that emotions (feelings) come from our thoughts which can come from various triggers. You are in control of your thoughts and that is why it is so important to focus your thoughts into finding ways to be positive. “Nothing in life has no meaning except the meaning I give it” plus “The quality of my life is based on what I say to myself.

We want you to know that during this difficult time, we are here to continue our support as part of our continued aftercare. If you or a family need to talk or have questions feel free to give me a call at 651-489-1349. The Grief Resource Center is here for you.

TonyDirector Grief Resource Center

• Express and communicate your feelings with others.

• Keep a journal. Writing our feelings can be helpful.

• Eat balanced meals.• Read a good book.

• Go outside for a walk or exercise when you can.• Drink plenty of water. Avoid caffeine.• Challenge yourself to stay in the present. • Find some humor each day.• Wake up listing 5 things you are grateful for.• Maintain a positive ATTITUDE.

AFFIRMATIONS• I am in charge of my own life

and fully able to change.• I am talented and capable.• I am capable of meeting any challenge.• I repeat affirmations daily to stay

motivated and achieve my goals.• I am happy, healthy, and calm.• I am grateful each day for...• I am proud of myself because...• I am learning not to blame am letting

go of guilt.• I set goals in every area of my life and

review them daily.• I focus on my strengths and what

I can accomplish.• I succeed by making the most

of my time.• I am taking control of my thoughts

and my life.• I choose the way I respond to outside

events.• I take action that will improve

my self-image.• Every day, in every way, I am

getting closer to my goals.

Mama Never Forgets

Mama never forgets her birds,Though in another tree –She looks down just as oftenAnd just as tenderly

As when her little mortal nestWith cunning care she wove –If either of her sparrows fall,She notices, above. – Emily Dickinson

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No groups until further notice.

PUT IT IN A LETTERAfter the loss of a loved one, it’s often much easier to put your thoughts on paper than it is to express them verbally. This is why many people find it therapeutic to write letters in the weeks or months following a loss.

Consider writing a letter to a friend, relative, the medical personnel or caregiver who cared for your loved one in their final days, the funeral director, or even your deceased loved one. “You will gain more self-awareness by doing this, and you will deepen your understanding of your grief,” writes Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge and Robert C. De Vries, authors of Traveling Through Grief (Baker Books, 2006). They also suggest writing a letter to your deceased loved one on all of the most significant days, such as holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Then, you may choose to go to the cemetery or a special location to read it out loud to your loved one.

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