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Practice Makes Perfect………..
……but what does perfect make?
A study of perfectionism in gifted children.
Jill Cavan, Gifted Teacher, Cloud Springs Elementary School March 2008
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“The essence of being human is that one does not seek perfection.” George Orwell
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Right!.....................and Wrong!
Perfectionism leaves no room for error
Results are never good enough
Feels impossible and IS impossible for the doer
Understand the difference between the pursuit of excellence and the pursuit of being perfect.
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Does your child pay more attention to mistakes than to correct answers?---does he even hesitate to raise his hand in class unless he KNOWS his answers are correct?
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• Does your child set unrealistic expectations for his or her work?----does she erase over and over to make her letters perfectly? And then the work is late?
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• Does your child get extremely upset when anything in life doesn’t work perfectly?—is even impatient or critical about friends around him?
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Is your child dissatisfied with a grade of A instead of A+?
Does your child focus on unmet goals instead of enjoying current accomplishments?
Does your child procrastinate, leaving a project or studying for a test until the last minute? Or is it late because he “started over” too many times?
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Does your child baulk at writing down an answer that she is not confident is totally correct, even when it doesn’t really matter?
• Is your child into “justice?” There are few gray areas: everything can and must be explained in “black” or “white?”
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If you answered YES to any of these questions, your child may be at risk for becoming an unhealthy perfectionist
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There is a fine line between high standards of excellence and the self-defeat attained through the inability to reach unrealistic expectations of perfectionism.
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Healthy vs. Disabling
When does the pursuit of excellence become perfectionism? How do I, as a parent, know the difference?
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Excellence: doing the
research necessary for a term paper, working hard on it, turning it in on time, and feeling good about it.
Perfectionism: doing three
drafts, staying up two nights in a row, and handing in your paper late because you had to get it right and still feeling bad about it.
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Excellence: studying for a
test ahead of time, taking it with confidence, and feeling good about your score of 96
Perfectionism: studying at the
last minute (after three days of chronic procrastination), taking the test with sweaty palms, and feeling depressed about your 96 because a friend got a 99
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Excellence:Choosing to
work on group projects because you enjoy learning from the varied experiences and approaches of different people
Perfectionism:
Always working alone because no one can do as good a job as you and you’re not about to let anyone else slide by on your A
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Excellence:Reading the
story you wrote for the school paper and noticing that the editor made some changes to the copy that really improved it.
Perfectionism:
Throwing a near tantrum because the editor dared to tamper with your work
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Excellence:
Being willing to try new things, take risks, and learn from your experiences and your mistakes
Perfectionism:
Avoiding new experiences because you’re terrified of making mistakes.
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It is when we stop trying to do everything right that we start to do things well. These two things are not the same—but neither are they mutually exclusive.
“Perfectionism is not about doing one’s best, or about pursuing excellence; it’s about the emotional conviction that perfection is the only route to personal acceptance. It is the emotional conviction that by being perfect, one can finally be acceptable as a person.” Tom Greenspon
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Perfectionism and your StudentUnderachievement in schoolLow self esteemAbdominal painAnxietyObsessive-compulsive disorderPanic AttacksEating disordersAlcoholismDepressionPersonality disorders
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Perfectionism is emotional: it is about wanting perfection, fearing you won’t get it, and most of all, not feeling totally acceptable if you can’t be perfect.
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Perfectionism is social
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Perfectionism doesn’t make people more successful.
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The home environment influences perfectionism.
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Sound familiar?
Sally
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Joe
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Ann
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Okay! I Get It!
………….but where did my student get it??
Extreme praise from parentsModeledExpectations are always raisedRemoval of experiences that risk
being unsuccessful
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Varieties of perfectionism
Some are all-or-nothing peopleSome are only specifically or
partially perfectionistic:Grades and intellectual abilitiesClothes and appearanceAthletic prowess/musical or artistic
abilitiesRoom organization and cleanlinessCombination of the above
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Good, better, bestNever let it rest
‘Til your good is betterAnd your better best.
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Don’t take it personally
Cool down period
Examine the rubric
Techniques to Use with your Gifted Child
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Know when to quit
Discuss expectations
Match expectations to project
Use the “contract” approach for underachievers
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Model the acceptance of mistakes in your own life
Help improve self-evaluation skills
Provide time for creative/risk taking activities with safe opportunities to fail.
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Health is important!
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Study the Lives of Eminent People
Read biographies and autobiographies
Watch television shows such as BiographyEdison—1% inspiration and 99%
perspirationMichelangelo—commitmentJonathan Salk—failure can be
constructive
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Watch for the danger signs!
Delayed startUnwillingness to share workRefusal to turn in work or
accomplish a goalInability to tolerate mistakesImpatience with others’
imperfections
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So….if practice makes perfect…. Encourage your child to:
Strive for excellence,…..accept his limitations …..learn from her mistakes …..allow his best to be your best …..learn from those that have
gone before them
And enjoy the journey!
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And realize…..
“…Nothing important, or meaningful, or beautiful, or interesting, or great ever came out of limitations. The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.
Anna QuindlenCommencement speechMount Holyoke CollegeMay, 1999