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Positive parentingPresented by: Marie Hirst
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Acknowledgement of Country
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Outline of the session:
• What children need to know and learn
• Teaching skills to help them get along and behave
• What about when they lose control?
• Know thyself
• Getting help
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Before we start…..
• Participation
• Self care
• Confidentiality
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People with no kids don’t know……
• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FPZyLTvF_Zs
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Think about your child or if you have several select a child to focus on:
What are you enjoying about your child right now?
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What are you finding challenging about your child right now?
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Developmental stagesChildren 2-5 years
• Communicating likes and dislikes
• Expressing ideas, wants and needs
• Finding self control and waiting difficult
• Tantrums
Children 5- 12years
• Growing independence
• Pushing boundaries
• Pester power
• Wanting to fit in
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But why don’t they listen and do as I ask?
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The reality
Children are not always able to:
• Understand your reasons
• Sit still, wait, share, or control their feelings
• Stop themselves from doing what their impulses tell them
• Cope with change and new expectations
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How do children develop positive behaviour?
Social and emotional skills are important.
When children have good social and emotional skills they can:
• Recognise and respond appropriately to feelings in self and others
• Manage friendships
• Solve problems and resolve conflict
• Feel positive about themselves
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What are social and emotional skills?
1. Self Awareness
2. Social Awareness
3. Self-management
4. Responsible decision making
5. Relationship skills
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Why are social and emotional skills important?
Children who have good social and emotional skills are more likely to:
• Have better academic outcomes
• Be able to regulate their behaviour
• Cope with life’s ups and downs
• Have better, more satisfying relationships
• Have good mental health and wellbeing
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How do we learn social and emotional skills?
• Skills are taught and learned
• Positive relationships with key adults
• Observation and copying
• Everyday interactions
• Trial and error
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What can parents and carers do?
Create strong foundations:
• Love and acceptance
• Spend time connecting, having fun!
• Create a sense of belonging in your family
• Routine and predictability
• Encouragement to explore and try new things
• Set limits for behaviour
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Helping your child learn to manage emotions
• Tune in
• Notice and name feelings
• Help them organise their feelings
• All feelings are ok
• Try to understand what might be behind behaviours
• Provide coaching and reassurance
• Label your own feelings
• Demonstrate strategies – talk out loud
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What about when they lose control?
• Wait – brain flip
• Connect – time in
• Name it to tame it (Dan Siegal)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZcDLzppD4Jc
• Listen, acknowledge, reflect
• Don’t problem solve too soon!
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You cant teach children to behave better by making them feel worse. When children feel better they behave better.
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What is your parenting super power?
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When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, its our job to share our calm…..not to join their chaos.
L.R. Knost
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Try to stay calm
• Pay attention to your own responses
• Slow your breathing
• Relax your muscles
• Take a short break if possible
• Let it go once its dealt with
• Self care
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Monitor your own thoughts
He’s doing this deliberately
She is so manipulative
What a selfish brat!
I’m going to…..
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Avoid….
• Losing control, yelling, screaming
• Scare or threaten them
• Intimidate
• Deliberately distress them with what you say
• Frighten them by leaving them alone or in time out too long
Parentline 13 22 89
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Give positive feedback
• Be specific
• Explain why their behaviour was helpful
• Praise effort, determination, bravery etc. - not just outcomes
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Using rewards and consequences
Rewards
• Ok to use occasionally for specific behaviours
• Consider using ‘special activities’ rather than material or monetary rewards
Consequences
• Appropriate to the issue
• Not long after the event (same day is useful)
• Enforceable
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Key principles• Children are people too
• High emotions and tantrums are NOT a sign of bad parenting or bad kids
• Outbursts are an opportunity for learning (kids and parents)
• Learning takes time and effort
• Be ‘good enough’
• You’ve got this…..and so do they!
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Where can I get help?
• GP/Paediatrician/ Maternal and Child Health
• Parentline 13 22 89
• Psychology on Parade
104, Douglas Parade, Williamstown
Tel: 9397 0977
email: [email protected]
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Useful resources:Books:
• How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk
(Faber and Mazlish)
• The whole brain child
(Siegel and Payne)
• Raising an emotionally intelligent child
(Gottman)
Websites:
www.raisingchildren.net.au
www.cyh.com
www.zerotothree.org
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