Positive Parenting and Promoting Learning in the Home

 

John Sharry

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© John Sharry 2009

Parenting - An important note

THERE IS NO ONE RIGHT WAY TO BRING UP CHILDREN What matters is finding a way that works for you, your children and your family

BE CAREFUL ABOUT PARENTING EXPERTS Trust your own intuition and test ideas in your own experience

© John Sharry 2009

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Video based parenting courses developed by the Parents Plus Charity in the Mater Hospital

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Current Parents Plus Programmes

Parents Plus Early Years Programme ( 1- 6 year olds)John Sharry, Grainne Hampson, Mary Fanning

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Parents Plus Adolescents Programme (11 – 16 years olds)John Sharry, Carol Fitzpatrick

The importance of parents supportnng learning

The problem of learning in the home

Positive Parenting and Promoting Learning in the Home

 

© John Sharry 2009

POSITIVE DISCIPLINEBeing firm, Able to set rulesTeach child to behave

POSITIVE PARENTINGBeing loving, Caring Encouraging

Parenting – Getting the Balance Right

© John Sharry 2009

POSITIVE DISCIPLINEHomework routine/rules Consequences/ rewards

POSITIVE PARENTINGFun learningFollow child’s lead and motivation

Learning/ Homework – Getting the Balance Right

Principle

‘Tuning into your Child’s Unique Motivations, Strengths and Talents’

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Verbal Language

Maths Logic

Athletic , Physical

Musical Rhythm

Design/ Motor

ExperientialNatural

A holistic view of Intelligence

Reading Writing

SocialInterpersonal

Principle

‘Supporing your child in their areas of weakness and demotivation’

REFLECTION

Thinking of each of your children individually,

• What are their talent, motivations s and area of strength?

• What are their areas of weakness and demotivation?

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Principle

‘Establishing a Routine in the Home’

Principle

‘Encouraging your child in their homework

Principle

‘Encouraging your child in their homework – Three Steps ’

1) Helping your child plan and get started

2) Being there to support and encourage

3) Reviewing how your child has got on

Further talks and information

Positive Parenting Book – 8 Euro

Parenting articles and features

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Parents Plus Programmes

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Q&A: healthsupplement@irishtimes.com

Principle

‘Switch from Criticism to Encouragement’

Criticism Cycle

Parent notices what child is doing wrong

Parent/ childRelationship can suffer

Negative perception

Child can feel defensive or undermined

Parent in critical role

Parent corrects or criticises

Positive Encouragment cycle

Parent notices what child is doing right

Parent/ childRelationship improves

Positive perception

Child enjoys praise

Parent feels good

Parent specifically

praises

Five types of Encouragements

1) Acknowleging Feelings

2) Focusing on what is right, what is done well

3) Stating a positive goal or intention

4) Listening to your child’s positive intention

5) Expressing positive belief

Becoming an encouraging parentCritical Parent1) Why are you so angry?

Encouraging Parent• I know you are upset at having to

leave

3)That is the wrong place to put it

2) Why are you always late starting your homework?

4) Why are you so aggressive with your brother5) Why didn’t you pick the blue block?

• Oh you got your books out, that is a start• Put it here?/Let me show you

• I know you can get on with your brother

• Oh you picked the green block, you like green