Positive Leadership Chapter 2Positive Leadership Chapter 2 Leadership begins with self. 2 Purpose...
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Positive Leadership Chapter 2
Leadership begins with self
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Purpose and Outcomes
Purpose: To increase your understanding of authenticity, its role in
effective leadership, and its ability to amplify social force.
Intended outcome: This chapter prompts reflection on your
authentic self and inspires you to choose actions that increase your
capacity for being authentic.
Authenticity
“We can keep ourselves so busy, fill our lives with so many diversions, stuff our heads
with so much knowledge, involve ourselves with so many people and cover so much
ground that we never have time to probe the fearful and wonderful world within. By
middle life most of us are accomplished fugitives from ourselves.”
~John W. Gardner
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Self Assessment Please rate yourself for each of the following items on the 1-7scale (1=no, 7=yes).
1. I fulfill various roles in my life by being essentially the same person in each role.
2. I am comfortable resisting pressure to conform.
3. I am aware of the gaps between how others see me and how I see myself.
4. Other people feel comfortable being themselves with me.
5. I reliably assess situations and relationships that allow and/or inhibit me to be my true self.
6. I consistently look at myself for opportunities to improve and create action steps.
7. My current life situation (i.e. career, relationships, etc.) accurately reflects my true self.
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Who can share a speak up or sell out moment?
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In teams of 3…
Must be at least one male and one female
No one from your carpool or ropes team at the retreat
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How do you assess someone else’s level of
authenticity?
How does your assessment shape how you
engage with that person?
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The Essence of Positive Leadership: positive actions evoke positive reactions
To understand authenticity, let’s talk about what is not authenticity:
• What makes you say someone is not being authentic?
• What impact does it have on you when you believe someone is
not being authentic?
• What reasons might someone have for not being authentic?
Authenticity
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Authenticity
• Authenticity: When someone says what’s
true for them in a way that allows others
to say what’s true for them as well
• Sincerity: When what someone says
matches what they really think.
• When might this not be such a good
thing?
• Pretense: When what we say does not
match what we truly think or feel.
• Why might someone be in pretense?
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4 Ways Authenticity Increases Social Force
1. People have a visceral response to authenticity
2. Credibility rises to the degree one is viewed as authentic
3. Authentic people foster authenticity in others
4. Authenticity increases your level of engagement
Authenticity
Want to see an example of this?
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• Most things I read define authenticity as “Being who you truly are.”
• Is that a helpful definition? Why or why not?
• I find it to not be very helpful. In fact, it sounds rather circular.
• Instead, let’s think of authenticity as made up of 4 elements
• Self Knowledge
• Self Acceptance
• Self Development
• Self Assertion
Authenticity
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Principle 1: Self-knowledge
What is self-knowledge?
How is it acquired?
Is it difficult to have self-knowledge? Why or why not?
What inhibits self-knowledge?
What increases self-knowledge?
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Principle 2: Self-Acceptance
How would you define self-acceptance?
What’s the relationship between self-knowledge and
self-acceptance?
What makes self-acceptance difficult?
What increases self-acceptance?
Can self acceptance be a negative thing?
Authenticity
“Self-knowledge! All my study of happiness, and
habits, brings me continually to the challenge of self-
knowledge. It sounds so easy— after all, I hang out
with myself all day long— but it’s tremendously
challenging. Every day, I remind myself to be
Gretchen, to accept myself and also expect more
from myself.” Gretchen Rubin, author of The
Happiness Project
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Principle 3: Self-Development
What does self-development mean?
Is it easy or difficult? Why?
Who helps you with self-development?
When you see an area to develop, do you
automatically jump on it?
What is the impact of leaders that do not develop
themselves?
What development have you noticed in yourself in
the last year?
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Principle 4: Self-Assertion
What is self-assertion?
What does this have to do with
leadership?
When do you assert yourself and when
do you hold yourself back?
How do the previous 3 principles (self
knowledge, acceptance and
development) relate to self-assertion?
What happens when people assert
themselves without the previous 3?
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Passive Assertive Aggressive
What does it mean to be passive?
What does it mean to be aggressive?
What is assertiveness?
How do each relate to social force?
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Authenticity Inhibitors
1. Other people’s truths
2. Desire to please others
3. Self doubt
4. False ideas about yourself
5. Absence of introspection
6. Life’s little trappings
Authenticity
Question: Are there any others you would add?
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Self development: the Richard Boyatzis Model
In a book called Primal Leadership, the authors, Daniel Goleman, Richard
Boyatzis, and Annie Mackee describe a process for Self-Directed Learning
that leads to five discoveries:
Discovery 1: My ideal self—Who do I want to be?
Discovery 2: My real self—Who am I? My strengths: Where my idea and real
self overlap. My gaps: Where my idea and real self differ
Discovery 3: My learning agenda: Building on my strengths while reducing
gaps
Discovery 4: Experimenting with new behavior, thoughts and feelings.
Practicing the new behavior building new neural pathways through to mastery.
Discovery 5: Developing trusting relationships that help, support and
encourage each step in the process.
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Introduction: Positive Leadership
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Authenticity2
Purpose3
Advocacy4
Resilience 5
Community Building6
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Reason
Gratitude
9 Conclusion
Developing your capacities increases your social force: become a technician
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The Positive Leadership Model
introduction