Plugged-In Parents Newsletter (February 2014)

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A publication of IBC Student Ministry.

www.ibclrstudents.org 2014

NEW THINGS

COMINGGUESS WHAT??? NEW THINGS ARE COMING! WE RECENTLYLAUNCHED OUR NEW STUDENT WEBSITE TO BETTER TELL THE STORYOF IBCLR STUDENT MINISTRY AND TO BETTER KEEP YOU INFORMEDAND ENGAGED. CHECK IT OUT HERE. WE WILL ALSO BE LAUNCHINGOVER THE COMING MONTHS A NEW RESOURCE TO CONTINUEEQUIPPING YOU TO BE THE PRIMARY DISCIPLER OF YOUR CHILDREN.THIS RESOURCE IS CALLED HOME 22:6. KEEP YOUR EYES AND EARSOPEN AS WE PREPARE TO ROLL IT OUT CHURCHWIDE OVER THECOMING MONTHS.

February Issue

THIS MONTH

" MS SUPER BOWL PARTY (2/2)

" GIRLS MINISTRY (2/16)

" SE ASIA 201 TRAINING (2/16)

" WILD GAME DINNER (2/27)

COMING SOON

" SE ASIA 301 TRAINING (3/16)

" DODGEBALL @ WM (3/12)

" SE ASIA GO TRIP (3/21-30)

" SPRING BREAK (3/24-28)

VOLUNTEERSPOTLIGHT

RUDY VAN HEMERT

ENGAGEA NEW BATTLE CRY FOREQUALITY

EQUIP7 CRIPPLING BEHAVIORSTHAT KEEP CHILDRENFROM GROWING INTOLEADERS

A MONTHLY PUBLICATION TO HELP PARENTS BETTER PLUG IN TO THE

SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT OF THEIR STUDENT

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STUDENT MINISTRY STAFF

Matt Hubbard

ead Student Pastor

Melissa Sponer

Girls Ministry Associate

Ross Spigner

Middle School Pastor

Amanda Bea

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Man, what a great start to 2014. Its been awesome to see the excitement from our students and families. As many of youknow, DNOW is the biggest in-house event in the life of our student ministry. Below are some of the stats from this years DNOW Over 175 students registered for DNOW. Over 40 college students and young adults served as Bible Study leaders. Over 20 host homes hosted a group of students for the weekend of DNOW. Dozens of other adult volunteers helped make this weekend possible. Nearly 5000lbs of canned goods were gathered for the IBC Food Pantry. Dozens of parents not already involved in the weekend joined us for a time of celebration and commissioning on Sunday.

Many were not from our church family or any church family. Students responded to the Gospel.

Im sure you all will join me in praising the LORD for what He did during DNOW. However, would you consider looking at DNOW, andour student ministry, from a little different perspective. Would you join me in praising our LORD for what He BEGAN at DNOW andvarious other elements of our student ministry?You see, its easy to look at numbers and often claim premature victory or feel discouraged. Numbers dont necessarily equate succesor lack thereof, especially with ministry to children and adolescents. The spiritual life is a long and arduous journey. Rather thanevaluating and celebrating DNOW as a success based on numbers, would you jo in me in praying for the new journeys that studentsbegan during DNOW. It is likely that many of these journeys may not display significant fruit until well into adulthood, but suchauthentic fruit will impact generations to come.


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VOLUNTEER SPOTLIGHT

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COMING SOON

March 9 Seattle GO Trip Info Meeting @ 5pm

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Truth Flowing from One Generation to the NextThrough Strong Heart Connections

PARENTS PAGE

January 1-3, 2012

A God of Second ChancesRichard Ross, Ph.D.

1. Heart Surprise (Today a parent goes first): Say:Of all the places Ive been, my favorite place tovisit has been . . . One place Ive never been that Id like to visit someday is . . .

2. Read Scripture: Invite a family member to pray. Ask family members to read John 21:15-17. Discussthe Truth and Untruths in light of this passage.

Truth

God loves us and gives us second chances to live for Him.Untruths

God doesnt care about me. God doesnt give second chances to anyone. There is no way to get right with God when I mess up.

3. Explore Scripture: Read aloud John 21:15-17. Explain that Jesus was appearing to some of thedisciples after His resurrection. Remind family members that Peter had denied Jesus three times beforeHis crucifixion. Say:Jesus knew Peter had denied Him, but He also knew Peters potential. He gavePeter a second chance to affirm his love and heal their relationship. Emphasize that Jesus also knowsall about our failureseven if weve been disloyal to Him multiple times. Say: Jesus expects those wholove Him to love His followers. He used His questions to check Peters heart and intentions. Pointout that Jesus did not ignore Peters denials, but restored him so he could minister to others. Say: Jesusknows our sins, but He is willing to give us second chances.

4. Think It Through:A teenager will lead this step.

5. Nail It Down: Say: Peter went out of his way to distinguish himself and his devotion to Jesus.He hesitated to let Jesus wash his feet in John 13 and drew his sword to defend Jesus in John 18.He stepped out of a boat and walked on water to meet Jesus in Matthew 14. But Peter also had atendency to boast about his love for Jesus. Share that Jesus knew Peters heart and wanted him torethink his words and commitments. Say:Jesus gives us second chances when we fail. He forgivesus when we ask Him, then He looks into our hearts and says, Feed my sheep. Encourage familymembers to use the new year as a time to start fresh with a second chance from God.

6. Pray: A teenager will lead this prayer.

7. Blessing: Say: May God bless you every time you ask for forgiveness and move closer to Him.

Parent Tip: As a parent you may need a second chance from your children, as well as from the Lord.As you look forward to the new year, examine your life to see if there are some areas where you needto humble yourself and ask your children for forgiveness. If so, dont hesitate to follow through withwhatever God reveals to you.


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ENGAGE

A NEW BATTLE CRY FOR

EQUALITY

I want to know more about the Christ,she said. Tam is a 23 year-old Vietnamese

young professional, living in one of themost populated urban centers in theworld.A city of 10 million where a churchhas not been started in more than adecade. Tam, and millions just like her inher country, have no knowledge of Jesusbecause they have no access to theGospel. However, all of that changed forher on November 9 when Ellen Harrisonand Elizabeth Jones met her on the street,befriended her, bought her some icedco"ee, and shared the story of our Savior.

Tams story represents millions across our

globe without access to the Gospel. Thereason they are unreached is not becausethey are unresponsive, but because theyhave never heard. We speak of the secondcoming, remarks Oswald Smith, whilehalf the world is still waiting to hear aboutthe first one.

A recent survey found that our city has 678houses of worship. Just this week, Barnaresearch named Little Rock as the 8thmostBible-minded city in the U.S. Compared topopulation, that is roughly 1 church forevery 250 people. By contrast, Kristen

Vaughan (IBCs first fully-sponsoredinternational worker) serves in a city inSouth Asia with roughly 1 church for every250,000 people. The issue is not one ofimportance or value, but one of access.Thus my question to us as parents of teen

students: how will we encourage our kids

to give all people equal access to the

Gospel? In a culture that screams equalityinto the ears of our students through everymedia outlet possible, is it time we, asparents, consider a similar battle cry?

Right here at home, our students can join

the Immanuel family in playing a part in oneof three new church starts in four yearstargeting areas of Little Rock that remainneglected and underserved whilemeeting food and clothing needs forroughly 4,500 families each year. GOTeams, in large part fueled by our students,will connect with hundreds of families inToronto, NYC, and Seattle this year.Globally, our GO Teams will serve morethan 10,000 people on 5 continents each

team only made better, leaner, and moreagile with the infusion of student energy.The result is the planting of new

communities of Jesus followers who willnow take responsibility for sharing withothers. GO Teams are designed to becatalytic while keeping the worship of theone, true, living God and the multiplying ofdisciples as the key objectives.

The battle cry for equality is both a localand global cry. How so? We deny peopleaccess to the Gospel when werefuse to

sharewith those who do have access; andwhen werefuse to goto those who dont.Encourage your student to do both; and tobe willing to take the risks that we were notand make the sacrifices that we have not.Just ask Isaac: the litmus test of ourobedience comes often through ourwillingness to trust Him with our kids. Butin that, we are secure: because He is really

the only one who can truly be trusted withthe consequences.

By Mark Aderholt

EQUIP

(NOTE:IBC Student Ministry does notnecessarily endorse the content andviewpoints expressed in these articles.They areposted here for purposes of keeping youinformed as to what is happening in the worldof youth culture.)

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While I spend my professional time now asa career success coach, writer, andleadership trainer, I was a marriage andfamily therapist in my past, and worked forseveral years with couples, families, andchildren. Through that experience, Iwitnessed a very wide array of bothfunctional and dysfunctional parentingbehaviors. As a parent myself, Ive learnedthat all the wisdom and love in the worlddoesnt necessarily protect you fromparenting in ways that hold your childrenback from thriving, gaining independenceand becoming the leaders they have thepotential to be.

I was intrigued, then, to catch up withleadership expertDr. Tim Elmoreand learnmore about how we as parents are failing

our children today coddling andcrippling them and keeping them frombecoming leaders they are destined to beTim is a best-selling author of more than 2books, including Generation iY: Our LastChance to Save Their Future, ArtificialMaturity: Helping Kids Meet the Challengof Becoming Authentic Adults, and theHabitudes series. He is Founder andPresident of Growing Leaders,anorganization dedicated to mentoringtodays young people to become theleaders of tomorrow.

Tim had this to share about the 7 damagiparenting behaviors that keep children frobecoming leaders of their own lives andof the worlds enterprises:

1. We dont let our children experience

risk.

We live in a world that warns us of dange

at every turn. The safety firstpreoccupation enforces our fear of losingour kids, so we do everything we can toprotect them. Its our job after all, but wehave insulated them from healthy risk-taking behavior and its had an adversee"ect. Psychologists in Europe havediscovered that if a child doesnt playoutside and is never allowed to experienca skinned knee, they frequently havephobias as adults. Kids need to fall a fewtimes to learn its normal; teens likely neeto break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend tappreciate the emotional maturity that

lasting relationships require. If parentsremove risk from childrens lives, we willlikely experience high arrogance and lowself-esteem in our growing leaders.

2. We rescue too quickly

Todays generation of young people hasnot developed some of the life skills kidsdid 30 years ago because adults swoop iand take care of problems for them. Whewe rescue too quickly and over-indulge ochildren with assistance, we remove theneed for them to navigate hardships and

solve problems on their own. Its parentinfor the short-term and it sorely misses thepoint of leadershipto equip our youngpeople to do it without help. Sooner orlater, kids get used to someone rescuingthem: If I fail or fall short, an adult willsmooth things over and remove anyconsequences for my misconduct. Whenin reality, this isnt even remotely close tohow the world works, and therefore itdisables our kids from becomingcompetent adults.




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3. We rave too easily

The self-esteem movement has beenaround since Baby Boomers were kids, butit took root in our school systems in the1980s. Attend a little league baseball gameand youll see that everyone is a winner.

This everyone gets a trophy mentalitymight make our kids feel special, butresearch is now indicating this method hasunintended consequences. Kids eventuallyobserve that Mom and Dad are the onlyones who think theyre awesome when noone else is saying it. They begin to doubtthe objectivity of their parents; it feels goodin the moment, but its not connected toreality. When we rave too easily anddisregard poor behavior, children eventuallylearn to cheat, exaggerate and lie and toavoid di$cult reality. They have not beenconditioned to face it.

4. We let guilt get in the way of leading

well

Your child does not have to love you everyminute. Your kids will get over thedisappointment, but they wont get overthe e"ects of being spoiled. So tell themno or not now, and let them fight forwhat they really value andneed. Asparents, we tend to give them what theywant when rewarding our children,especially with multiple kids. When onedoes well in something, we feel its unfair to

praise and reward that one and not theother. This is unrealistic and misses anopportunity to enforce the point to our kidsthat success is dependent upon our ownactions and good deeds. Be careful not toteach them a good grade is rewarded by atrip to the mall. If your relationship is basedon material rewards, kids will experienceneither intrinsic motivation norunconditional love.

5. We dont share our past mistakes

Healthy teens are going to want to spread

their wings and theyll need to try things ontheir own. We as adults must let them, butthat doesnt mean we cant help themnavigate these waters. Share with them therelevant mistakes you made when youwere their age in a way that helps themlearn to make good choices. (Avoidnegative lessons learned having to dowith smoking, alcohol, illegal drugs, etc.)

Also, kids must prepare to encounter slip-ups and face the consequences of theirdecisions. Share how you felt when you

faced a similar experience, what drove youractions, and the resulting lessons learned.Because were not the only influence onour kids, we must be the best influence.

6. We mistake intelligence, giftedness

and influence for maturity

Intelligenceis often used as a

measurement of a childs maturity, and as aresult parents assume an intelligent child isready for the world. Thats not the case.Some professional athletes and Hollywoodstarlets, for example, possessunimaginable talent, but still get caught in apublic scandal. Just because giftedness ispresent in one aspect of a childs life, dontassume it pervades all areas. There is nomagic age of responsibility or a provenguide as to when a child should be givenspecific freedoms, but a good rule ofthumb is to observe other children thesame age as yours. If you notice that they

are doing more themselves than your childdoes, you may be delaying your childsindependence.

7. We dont practice what we preachAsparents, it is our responsibility to model thelife we want our children to live. To helpthem lead a life of character and becomedependable and accountable for theirwords and actions. As the leaders of ourhomes, we can start by only speakinghonest words white lies will surface andslowly erode character. Watch yourself inthe little ethical choices that others might

notice, because your kids will notice too. Ifyou dont cut corners, for example, theywill know its not acceptable for them toeither. Show your kids what it means togive selflessly and joyfully by volunteeringfor a service project or with a communitygroup. Leave people and places betterthan you found them, and your kids willtake note and do the same.

Why do parents engage in these

behaviors (what are they afraid of if they

dont)? Do these behaviors come from

fear or from poor understanding of what

strong parenting (with good boundaries)is?

Tim shares:%

I think both fear and lack of understandingplay a role here, but it leads with the factthat each generation of parents is usuallycompensating for something the previousgeneration did. The primary adults in kidslives today have focused on nowratherthan later. Its about their happiness todaynot their readiness tomorrow. I suspect its

a reaction. Many parents today had Momand Dads who were all about getting readfor tomorrow: saving money, not spendinit, and getting ready for retirement. Inresponse, many of us bought into themessage: embrace the moment. Youdeserve it. Enjoy today. And we did. Formany, it resulted in credit card debt and tinability to delay gratification. This may bethe crux of our challenge. The truth is,parents who are able to focus on tomorronot just today, produce better results.

How can parents move away from thes

negative behaviors (without having to

hire a family therapist to help)?

Tim says: Its important for parents tobecome exceedingly self-aware of theirwords and actions when interacting withtheir children, or with others when theirchildren are nearby. Care enough to trainthem, not merely treat them to a good life

Coach them, more than coddle.

Heres a start:

1. Talk over the issues you wish youwouldve known about adulthood.

2. Allow them to attempt things thatstretch them and even let them fail.

3. Discuss future consequences if theyfail to master certain disciplines.

4. Aid them in matching their strengths real-world problems.

5. Furnish projects that require patienceso they learn to delay gratification.

6. Teach them that life is about choicesand trade-o"s; they cant doeverything.

7. Initiate (or simulate) adult tasks likepaying bills or making business deals

8. Introduce them to potential mentorsfrom your network.

9. Help them envision a fulfilling future,and then discuss the steps to getthere.

10. Celebrate progress they make towardautonomy and responsibility.

How are you parenting your children?

Are you sacrificing their long-termgrowth for short-term comfort?

By Kathy Caprino www.forbes.com

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