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What Does the Bible Say About Narcissistic Behavior?PEOPLE WILL BE LOVERS OF TE!SELVES

Narcissism is addressed in the Bible in Paul’s second pastoral epistle to Timothy ! Timothy ":#-$% inthe fall of &.'.($. Paul seems to be concerned about the character and behavior of leaders within thechurch) so he warns Timothy to beware of those who act out of a *self love attitude+. ,e says) *But

know this) that in the last days perilous times will come. or men will be lovers of themselves) lovers

of money) boasters) proud) blasphemers) disobedient to parents) unthankful) unholy) unlovin)unforivin) slanderers) without self-control) brutal) despisers of ood) traitors) headstron) hauhty)

lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of od) havin a form of odliness but denyin its power. &nd

from such people turn away.+ ,ere Paul names many of the attributes associated in psycholoy% to-day with the narcissistic personality we are all becomin so familiar with.

The 0cience of Psycholoy and Narcissism as a scholarly study is relatively youn) barely more than a

century old in fact. ,owever) the term *Narcissism+ is not confined to psycholoy alone) it is also seen

throuh the lens of other disciplines) such as socioloy i.e. Narcissistic 1ulture%2 Political 0cience i.e.1iti3enship and 4oral Narcissism%2 1riminoloy i.e The Narcissist and Threatened 5otism%2

Theoloical &nthropoloy i.e. Theism and Narcissism%2 Theoloy i.e ,edonism and Narcissism%.

6n Psycholoy) the term *Narcissism+ was first introduced by &lfred Binet 0e7oloist% in #88$)

however) its usae today has rown more from the notions of reud’s work in #9#. 4ankind has been interested in all aspects of mental processes and behaviour over many millennium) as far back as

two thousand years ao the &ncient reeks e7plored the meanin of the mind throuh the myth of

Narcissus.

"o#trasti#$ the Bible %ith Psycholo$y&

;et us take a few moments to contrast and compare what 0t.Paul says to Timothy two thousand yearsao with today’s psycholoical understandin of what narcissism is:-

St' Paul says& *or men will be lovers of themselves+

Psycholo$y says& The narcissist form of self love is not a healthy one) as they are really full of self-

hatred and self-loathin) which they must disown. hen 6 speak

of *Narcissistic supply+ 6 am referrin to whatever feeds the appetites of the narcissistic defenses)

whether that currency is Primary or 0econdary 0upply.

St' Paul says& *;overs of money+

Psycholo$y says& The narcissist needs money to maintain the false imae and keep them on the

pedestal they put their selves on. 4oney is the enabler that allows them to surround themselves with

symbols of wealth2 the flashy car) the bi house) the clothes etc. >ealth to the narcissist portrays both psycholoical and financial power) puttin them on a pedestal of *reatness+ where they can be

worshiped by everybody) includin themselves. They are addicted to adoration and attention) money

buys that for them. Because the narcissist rew up feelin deprived of love) they are always seekin

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love substitutes) and money represents that love that they constantly seek. 4oney) and their attitudes to

it) affects all of the narcissist’s relationships. or e7ample) it is a useful commodity for ca=olin and

seducin people as a source of future narcissistic supply.

The narcissist use their open display of money in order to et social approval) this often adds to theirsense of entitlement. That sense of entitlement often leads them to feel that they are also entitled to

other people’s money) they will use any means for e7tractin what money they can from others. Their

randiose fantasy leads them to believe that they have more money then they really have) and this oftenlends them to spend recklessly. 4oney is also useful when their frail eo takes a blow) when thishappens they are likely to o on co)*ulsive sho**i#$ s*rees to co)(ort and calm themselves.

?verstretched and in dept) they are always lookin for ways of makin more money) so they will hound

people) or even commit (i#a#cial cri)es in order to et it.

St' Paul says& *Boasters+

Psycholo$y says& Boastin is a key trait of narcissism. The narcissist boasts about everythin)

e7aeratin their achievements) success) wealth) education) occupation) con@uests) power etc)

anythin in fact that helps them to build a randiose imae. The narcissist suffers from =ealousy and

envy) anythin another person has they want) so they set out to et it. They use their randiose imae as

part of their art of seduction in order to attract others to them for their e7ploitation. ,owever) once theye7tract what they want from this person they loose respect for them) they are then soon discarded in a

terrible fashion) often ruinin their reputation in the process. The truth is that narcissists have little orno self-esteem or self-worth of their own no such eo functions%) in fact their boastin implicitly

implies a serious lack of self-worth. Boastin has many advantaes for the narcissist2 to start with) it

acts as a defense mechanism aainst feelin inferior. 6n order to mask their underlyin feelins ofinferiority) not =ust to the world) but to their own self) the narcissist has to maintain their imae of

superiority) and boastin helps them do that. >hen you are in their favour) then you will have to be

prepared to endure a pretty much one sided relationship) where they are the constant topic ofconversation) with their *6+) *me+) *my+ and *mine+. 6f you do manae to talk about yourself) you will

soon see them become bored and impatient with the conversation) and somehow the conversation

switches back to them) and once aain they are in the limeliht.

St' Paul says& *Proud+

Psycholo$y says& The narcissists inflated *ri+e co#vi#ces the) that they are su*erior to everybo+y else. 6n such a place of pridefulness) the narcissist is overly sensitive to any form of actual or perceived

criticism that could threaten their self-imae and cause them shame. They will react harshly and

hauhtily to anybody who dares to threaten their false self and maical thinkin2 therefore threats will

not be tolerated for an instant. &s the #arcissist is al%ays ri$ht i# their o%# )i#+, they will =ude anybody in opposition to them immediately as bein inferior to them) and therefore deservin of

their rae and retribution for darin to attack or humiliation them.

Paul says& Blasphemers

Psycholo$y says& Narcissists cannot handle bein upstaed in any way2 you must not be seen to be

more powerful) more successful) more beautiful) more intellient) in fact *more+ anythin. To do so

renders you to becomin the narcissists arch enemy) an instant rival to be spoken of in an irreverent or

impious manner. Narcissists are masters at usin character assassination as a subtle railin tactic toundermine anybody who poses as a threat to their fraile self. Preoccupied with livin in their fantasy

of power and brilliance) their fraile eo is easily offended) and can often find offense where none is


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intended. >hether the threat is real or imained) the aressive) attackin and abusive narcissist will

retaliate by settin out to e7pose and destroy any person who poses as a threat) and he will do it in any

way possible2 defame the person with lies and ossip without conscience) then happily by pro7y) where

they use others to become unwittin character assassins for them. 4any narcissists operate throuh a*od 1omple7+ that is so arroant that they consider themselves as livin ods) and more than that)

they are a od that does not submit to any mere mortal.

St' Paul says& 'isobedient to parents.

Psycholo$y says& 6n the conte7t of the Bible) the parent represents *authority+. The narcissist does not bow to any authority2 they see life in terms of self-entitlement in the pursuit of servin their own needs.

or that reason) their inner drive is not driven by community values) actually they sneer at them. They

do not respect an authority which endeavors to constrain them and make them accountable for their

actions2 on the contrary) they prefer to live by their own fle7ible laws and rules of enaement wherethey are the *authority+. They dedicate their wakin time to the constant pursuit of ac@uirin their own

personal authority) and this can be achieved by any means available to them: throuh their immediate

family) the workplace) friends) colloues) peers etc. 6ndeed any type of relationship that uaranteestheir flow of Narcissistic 0upply will suffice) and in the procurement of their much needed supply) the

narcissist will ladly misuse their authority in order to reach their oal. urthermore) the narcissist sees

theirself as a uru) and therefore is inclined to encourae a personality cult followin from all theirrelationships. Then like all cult leaders) they demand total obedience and control over their dominion.

St' Paul says&


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St' Paul says& 2#lovi#$

Psycholo$y says& 5o Psycholoy uses the term *Narcissism+ to describe someone who is self-

centered) and in love with their own imae as in the myth of Narcissus%. Narcissists) by and lare)

row up feelin unloved and abandoned. >ithout e7periencin the mirrorin of love from another) theylack the ability to love others) or even themselves. reud spoke of *primary narcissism+ as a necessary

stae of infant development. ,e theori3ed that before a child could love others) it must first learn to

love itself. & child devoid of love e7periences intolerable painful feelins. 6n order to survive) they cut-off from these painful feelins and develop an ideali3ed false-self mask that camouflaes theirsuppressed inner feelins of bein defective and unlovable. 0uspicious and fearful of their own

disowned feelins) they then become suspicious of any displays of affection toward them. They

interpret these displays of feelins by others as a sin of weakness. This weakness in others then becomes a tool for the narcissist to e7ploit and manipulate for self ain. >hile cut off from their true

feelins) they fail to develop true empathy for others. &s a result) any so called love relationship the

narcissist develops lacks true warmth of affection for the other person2 rather it is a relationship that istotally focused on the narcissist’s self ain and self worship.

St' Paul says& 2#(or$ivi#$Psycholo$y says& 'ue to their maical thinkin) the narcissist alse 0elf utterly believes that they are

uni@ue) omnipotent all powerful%) omniscient all knowin%) in short) perfect in every way. Becausethey strive for perfection) they cannot face their own shortcomins without it trierin personal

shame) and shame causes them to e7perience narcissistic in=ury a threat to self-esteem and self-worth%.

Their response to narcissistic in=ury is to invariably fly into a narcissistic rae Aohut%) their rae is adirect reaction to a perceived sliht) insult) criticism) or disareement. 0o anybody who dares to

humiliate or re=ect them in any way whether it be real or imained% will not be foriven) and the

narcissist will develop an obsessive need for revene aainst that person. ou may think that you areofferin them constructive criticism in a manner that may be helpful to them) but this will not be

decoded as bein helpful to the narcissist) but rather as a threatenin act aainst them. >hen they feel

threatened they feel like a caed animal) and this is sure to illicit an emotional volatile response from

them. 6n their effort to build their damaed eo and escape from their intolerable narcissistic in=ury) thenarcissist takes fliht into an escape plan that involves powerful destructiveness. or such a

transression their escape plan involves punishin you) brinin you down and devaluin you without

any mercyCC.metaphorically *killin you off+) as it were.

St'Paul says& Sla#+erersPsycholo$y says& Narcissists build an inner shrine to themselves where they self-arandi3e to ane7traordinary deree so that they can feel intrinsically superior to all others. ?f course) their hihly

inflated view of themselves is an illusory false-self a patholoical eo% that becomes the basis for all

future misinterpretations of their reality. Their feelins of bein superior in everyway to everybody)

becomes the source of much pain and envy for them when ever they feel outshined by anybody.

Patholoical envy and =ealousy is an interal part of narcissism envy is a desire for what another

person has) while =ealousy is the fear that what somethin can be taken away%. Narcissists are envious

of anythin in others that they lack in themselves i.e. beauty) possessions) knowlede) personal

@ualities) power) skills) achievements) @ualifications) relationships) money etc. Their envy consumes


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them) and the list of their covetousness *6 want) 6 want+% is endless. 5nvy is a normal human feelin

which can rane from mild to severe) from healthy to unhealthy) from positive to neative. or

e7ample) *healthy envy+ has positive @ualities. ,ealthy envy acts as a valuable uide for your heart)

leadin you in the direction of what your soul re@uires) so in effect) the thin you desire acts as a mirror for personal rowth. or e7ample) if you envy the knowlede of your tutor in collee) perhaps there is a

part of your soul that yearns to become a teacher) or to be in a position where you can impart

knowlede. ,ealthy envy is empowerin because it brins you nearer to your life’s oal. >hereas)unhealthy envy is disempowerin because it keeps you bound to a fantasy) makin you blind to your

own true nature. Because the narcissist acts out of a alse 0elf) they suffer from a twisted heart) leavin

them at the mercy of their *unhealthy envy+) and envy that can trier their feelins of vulnerability)shame and self-loathin at any moment. &ny of these feelin can result in narcissistic in=ury) to which

the narcissist invariably react to with rae. 6n order to rid themselves of such emotional turmoil and

recover their e@uilibrium) the narcissist pro=ects those intolerable feelins outward onto the person oftheir envy. ?nce you become the ob=ect of the narcissists envy you are in serious trouble. 6n order to

improve their own self imae they are likely to do a character assassination on you. This is not innocent

ossip) rather it is an intentional and premeditated smear campaine of *pro=ection and smearin+ that

is aimed at malinin you in order to tarnish your reputation and make them feel better aboutthemselves. Be warned) they are cold) ruthless) and self-servin) and by the way) they take no prisoners.

St' Paul says& >ithout self-control

Psycholo$y says& >hen we speak of the narcissist in relation to *control+) we find we are dealin with

a parado7 that is somewhat ironic. 6n truth) most people would consider narcissists to be *controlfreaks+) when the fact is they are constantly under the threat of loosin self-control. 'ue to some

circumstance in their childhood) the narcissist would have e7perienced a loss of control that would

have a devastatin effect to their sense of self. >ith a poor sense of self they are left feelin very unsafein all areas of life. The conse@uences of feelin so out of control) is that they as adults seek to dominate

each and every interaction they have) whether it be with an individual or within a roup) whether it be

in the home) the workplace) or in social settins. This need to control makes them feel powerful.,owever) their power is not *power with+) but rather *power over+) and this becomes their sprinboardto verbal and emotional abuse in all their relationships. or the narcissist) power and control o hand in

hand. 0tranely enouh) they see themselves as masters of power and control) however nothin is

further from the truth. 6n reality the narcissist uses acts of control as a ma=or defense aainst &;; thatappears hostile in their eyes. 1ontrol is =ust one of their obsessive multi-addictions in an orani3ed

enery-system that they use to insulate their fraile eo from narcissistic in=ury) to counterbalance their

mental peculiarity in their interpersonal connection with others) and to shield them from their constantfeelins of inade@uacy and worthlessness.

&t first lance the narcissist appears to the unsuspectin onlooker as bein full of self-control2 they

come across as charismatic) educated) confidant) charmin) and sociable. ,owever whenever the

narcissist shows an interest in someone) it is not as innocent as it first appears. Because of theirobsessive need for attention) the narcissist is on the constant lookout for the narcissistic supply that

they crave. They are really ood at makin themselves appear attractive to others) they are willin to

invest a reat deal of enery in the beinnin of any relationship so that the person feels safe and secure

with them. >hat the unsuspectin victim does not reali3e is that they are bein enticed to becomin asource of supply that the narcissist can control and manipulate. >hen this is achieved) the narcissist

feels empowered and in control of everythin within their sphere of influence i.e. the where) the when)

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St' Paul says& 'espisers of ood

Psycholo$y says& 4ost of mankind is motivated by self-interest) however most can e7ercise impulse

control due to their personal core values. Narcissists on the other hand appear to be disconnected from

their personal feelins) therefore lackin a personal value system. This lackin of a value system leadsalso to a lack of interity) empathy and a social conscience. ?peratin from a primary impulse drive of

self interest) they rationali3e that morally wron actions are =ustifiable where self lorification is the

end oal. Bankrupt of moral obliation) their randiose sense of entitlement is free to conclude that theworld owes them everythin) and that rules that apply to everybody else do not apply to them. They arelovers of ood) but only when that ood applies to them) because they are really true lovers of self.

They resent “do gooders” as they trigger their shame.

Of course they will deny this, even to themselves, as they boast that they are

moral, and lovers of the common good. Their evil behaviour is a direct result of

their “lack of the good”, and they will have no moral conscious about lying

about their so called compassionate, righteous and generous nature, all of

which is a deceptive camouflage.

St' Paul says& Traitors

Psycholo$y says& & traitor is one who betrays another’s trust. 0o in what way does a narcissist betray

trustD Narcissists are not interested in authentic relationships, that is why they betray

people constantly. ,owever) they do need people to boost their fraile eo) that is why they arealways on the look out for their narcissistic supply. ?nce a narcissist identifies a person as their

potential supply) they will be stalked as prey by their predator. O#ce the hu#t co))e#ces, the#every tric1 at se+uctio# %ill be e#$a$e+ u#til the *erso# is truly hoo1e+. O#ce a victi) ishoo1e+ they are see# as (air $a)e (or total e-*loitatio#' Phase o#e is calle+ the i#itial

.I+eali3atio# Sta$e/, the #arcissist *uts o# their .best (ace/ i# or+er to )oul+ their victi) i#to a

sy)biotic relatio#shi* %ith the) as their #arcissistic su**ly' 6f their potential prey is part of a

roup) they will taret them in such a way until they manae to separate them from all protectivefriends. For a %hile the #arcissist %ill sho%er the) %ith atte#tio# i# their bi+ to $lea# all

1#o%le+$e about the), their value syste), their vul#erability, their i#terests, their #ee+s a#+

%a#ts' They %ill the# (ei$# those sa)e co))o# i#terests i# such a %ay that the u#sus*ecti#$

victi) believes that they have (ou#+ their soul4)ate, so)eo#e %ho u#+ersta#+s the) (ully' The

victi) )ista1es %hat is ha**e#i#$ i# the relatio#shi* as (rie#+shi* ) rather than bein a victim who

is bein used to provide the narcissist with somethin that they lack. >hen the narcissist has what theywant) they will move into The 'evaluation 0tae: Al)ost over#i$ht the #arcissist beco)es

+ecisively col+ a#+ u#cari#$' The victim’s falls from race is a hard one) they cannot seem to do

anythin riht anymore2 the #arcissists lovi#$ %or+s tur# to criticis), everythi#$ the victi) triese#+s i# a #e$ative e((ect, a#+ they (i#+ the)selves +evalue+ at every tur#' Totally co#(use+, the

victi) has #o i+ea %hat is ha**e#i#$, a#+ they beco)e i#creasi#$ly stresse+, u#ha**y a#+

+e*resse+ %ith the situatio#' The #arcissist .$asli$hti#$ behaviour/ has reache+ its *ea1, a#+

they +es*ise %ho their su**ly *erso# has beco)e 5%ea1 a#+ %orthlessly i#(erior6' ,avin been

devoured) the victim’s utility is e7hausted) and the ame enters into The 'iscardin Phase: ?nce this


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happens) the narcissist ardor for the ame has dampened) in their eyes they have already won the

contest) and the fun is over and they o in for the kill without any remorse. By this time) the narcissist

is totally indifferent to any needs or wishes that the victim may have) in effect they no loner e7ist in

their mind. Not so for the victim) they are left confused and raw with emotion) and are eaer to findsolutions in order to *fi7+ the dyin relationship. 6t is this behaviour of settin out to find a victim to

use) abuse) then annihilate that makes the narcissist such a traitor

St'Paul says& ea+stro#$

Psycholo$y says& & person who is headstron is one that is determined to have their own way) andoften this is achieved throuh willfulness and obstinacy. ,eadstron types are not easily restrained2

they are unovernable) obstinate and stubborn. Narcissists are driven by this type of impulsiveness)

even thouh they do their best to hide behind a facade that helps them to look like they have a self thatis controlled and micro manaed. Truth is that their headstron nature is neither controlled nor well

manaed. The narcissist lives in their heads) and their headstron attribute can be detected in their

manetic eyes) which can be seductive one minute when they want to et their way%) or a rain

monster the ne7t when they feel thwarted in reachin their oal%. &ll narcissists have an inordinate

fascination with themselves) and they e7pect this also of their narcissistic supply. 0o any act ofopposition aainst them) whether it is real or imained) is likely to make them become violent)

obstinate) unovernable) untractable) stubborn) unruly) and veneful.

St'Paul says& hauhty

Psycholo$y says& To be hauhty means to act %ith blata#t arro$a#ce or +is+ai#(ul *ri+e.The narcissist displays all of these characteristics in that they consider themselves to be better) more

superior than those around them. The hauhty narcissist basically has an overall attitude that causes

them to SO!N others) to see them as inferior) by so doin they set themselves above everybodyelse. This puts them at the centre of the ithout humility of heart the narcissist has no proper perspective

beyond himself. Their hauhtiness ives way to randiosity) an overwhelmin need for admiration and

entitlement) I!PAIRED ABILIT7 TO AVE E!PAT7 towards others)

and a "#$ O% O&&'T&(NT to others.


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Proverb 31:12, “She will do him good and not evil all

the days of her life.”

There is a sore evil under the sun that I have sun. Solomonoften used that phrase in the Old Testament. Well, I have alsoseen a sore evil. I have seen this again and again and it is evil tothe core.

Some women get married and then don't do their duties as amother and a wife. While the husband is at work paying the bills, the wife gets

into mischief whether it be gossiping on the phone, flirting with other men,

being la!y, not cleaning the house, hiding the mail, criticizing her husband,spending money they don't have, et cetera".

That wife is a dead weight in her husband's life. She drags him down.When he had a !eal for #od and wanted to do right, she $uenched his fire for

#od by complaining that he went somewhere with out her, or she nags thathe bought something instead of letting her buy something, or she whines about their apartment or is unhappy with the small si!e of her home. Shemakes his life more difficult. Instead of being a %iblical HELP MEET #enesis&()", she is a nuisance and a burden to him.

*ear+after+year the husband tries to do the right thing, while his wife doesn't

care. While he's trying to carry the heavy load of being a father and ahusband, she's placing bricks on top of the load, making it more difficult forhim. While he's at work, she's watching T. While he's getting dirty on the -ob,her house stays dirty because she won't clean it. While he's eating out of a

vending machine because she never cares to make him a nice lunch, she eatswell at home with money that he earned to support her". While he's workinggraveyard shift to support the family, she's at home sleeping normal hours.While he's having a hard time at work with unsaved heathens, she waits untilhe gets home to continue giving him a hard time.

Time+after+time she abandons ship and leaves him, but he never once

leaves her. Time+after+time she drag people into their marriage, who ought tomind their own business but he never drags anybody into the marriage. Time+

after+time she embarrasses him in public, slandershim on the phone, spreads gossip about him, sows

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discord between him and his friends, screams and yells at him infront of the neighbors yet he tolerates her because he knows that it's all apart of the sinful nature.

Then after decades of living in a one-way marriage of give+and+take, thehusband messes up. /aybe it's a horrible sin, or a foolish and unwise decision.

0nd then the wife files for divorce and demonizes the husband,blaming him for everything as if it was his fault all along. She seeks outsupport from feminists, a greedy lawyer, apostate ministers, and anybody whowill agree with her sinful decision to divorce her husband. %oy, he messed up,

he is evil, evil, evil.

I can't think of anything more wicked. I'm not -ustifying a husband who sinsor messes up I am addressing the hypocritical women who waits until thetiming is right and then, after years of being a burden and causing much grief

for her husband, she throws in the towel and walks away as if she's aninnocent victim of a terrible husband. That's makesyou a liar and a $uitter. 1esus said only a hard heart brings divorce /atthew(2)". This wicked generation seeks e3cuses to -ustify every sin imaginable,

from nuking innocent islanders to abortion, drunkenness, sensual dancing,homose3uality and divorce.

#od sees the truth and knows.1st Samuel 2!, "#alk no more so e$ceedingproudly% let not arrogancy come out of your mouth for the &() is a *odof knowledge, and by him actions are weighed+ I love that Scripture. The%ible says, 4Shut up5 #od knows what's really going on. *ou can't fool #od5 #odwill -udge all mankind.6 #od knows our true intentions in every matter,whether we are sincere or if there is a selfish reason. roverb 2.12, "If thousayest, /ehold, we knew it not% doth not he that pondereth the heart

consider it0 and he that keepeth thy soul, doth not he know it0 and shallnot he render to every man according to his works0

If you've already put a knife in your husband's back, this article is not for you.7o doubt you've already condemned me for speaking the truth of #od's Word. Iwrote this article to most of you ladies who are still married. 8lease don'tdivorce. Whether you feel that you have been a good wife or a bad wife,please don't abandon your loved one. It's more than honoring your marriage


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vows to your spouse and #od on your wedding day.

It's loving 1esus 9hrist enough to remain loyal to your spouse. :id you hearwhat I said; It's a matter of whether or not your love 1esus 9hrist more thanyourself. &nd Timothy


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condemned them in their sins and faults. *ou're so perfect aren'tyou; If I've rung your bell, good, I hope the shoe fits well. I'm say, don'tabandon your spouse5 :on't $uit5

#he 4riminal (acket f )ivorce=isten to me, there are @F7:ED:S of e3cuses to -ustify divorcing your spouseif you're looking for them. 0ccording to law, a divorce should not take placeunless there is -ustifiable cause. The courts are so crooked these days thatthey've come up with a scam called 4Irreconcilable differences.6 When youfile for divorce ladies, the first thing your lawyer is going to do is ask you forall the dirt on your husband. If he as much as called you a name, your lawyeris going to have the -udge summons your husband to court as a criminal. *ourhusband is going to be served a summons to divorce court by a F.S. /arshall.

=awyers go for the -ugular vein in any court case.What the crooked -udge and greedy lawyers really want is a no fault. Theyknow that in many cases that a husband doesn't want a divorce and refuses tosing the divorce agreement. So what they do is threaten him that if he doesn'tagree to 4Irreconcilable :ifferences,6 then they go after him under criminallaw. Dither way the wife is going to get her divorce. =awyers threaten to takeaway a father's children if he refuses to sign, saying that the -udge is a lesbianand will take the wife's side. =awyers are liars and will say anything to scare,force or coerce you to do what the -udge wants done. *our lawyer has no

loyalty to you, only to the court.F.S. courts are feminist influenced, biased against fathers and husbands, andare evil to the core. ?or any wife to drag her husband into a heathen court oflaw is the epitome of evil. ?or a so+called 9hristian wife to drag her husbandinto court is to destroy her life's ministry, for #od created the woman to be a@D=8 /DDT to her husband. #od created man to do his work. #od created thewoman for the man. If you destroy what's left of your marriage you haveflushed your ministry down the toilet. If you remarry, you are living 0WO=absent without leave".

5hy *od 6ates )ivorce

0lthough #od will forgive you for the sin of divorce if you seek it, theconse$uences of your evil will irreversibly hurt the family for a lifetime. Thedamage cannot be undone. The lives destroyed cannot be rebuilt. The hatredand bitterness caused by a divorce often lasts for decades and until the grave.7o wonder #od hates divorce so much it is a sin that perpetuates for a


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lifetime.

I know what really makes #od angry are the marriage+meddlers who are $uickto destroy other couple's marriages and familiesGeither because they've ruinedtheir own and misery loves company, or because they're self righteousnesshypocrites -udging things that they don't fully understand, or they're -ust plain

evil. They think they're helping a wife and doing a good thing but in realitythey are destroying a husband and forcing the children to pay for the sin ofdivorce.

The serpent came along in the #arden of Dden and deceived Dve into eatingthe forbidden fruit, and in so doing she ruined the lives of 0dam and herchildren. The same is true with the forbidden fruit of divorce. It will ruin thelives of your family, while the serpents merrily go their way without a care inlife. What do they care if they destroy *OFE marriage; What do they lose ifthey ruin *OFE marriage; What does it cost them; 7othing5

:on't be a fool. :on't make the lawyers richer. :on't give the 7ew World Ordermore ammunition of another broken family. 7early every woman who divorcesher husband has a list of his faults that she uses in an attempt to -ustify herevil decision to break her marriage vows. 0nd since there's a bunch of idiotslike her who've also $uit their marriages, fools are never in need of more foolsfor companionship. It's called feminism.

The %ible says concerning a godly woman in roverb !112, "She will do himgood and not evil all the days of her life+ If you don't like my preaching,

then get mad at *od because 6e said it. 0 godly woman will do herhusband good, and not evil, all the days of her life. :ivorce is an evil of evils.

In fact, ne$t to murdering your spouse it's the worse thingyou can ever do to hurt them. In many cases divorce is much worse thandeath, and preferred by the victim of a divorce. #here is no heart'spain in this world any worse than being abandoned by thewife or husband of one's youth.

I could -ust as easily have applied this truth to women, but there is a big

difference. Women find a lot more emotional support, shelters and sympathyin a failing marriage than men do. ?or that reason, and because women filefor divorce at more than twice the rate of men, I reach out primarily towomen. /y heart's intention is pure before #od. I hope to prevent somedivorces. 8lease don't do it. :on't murder your marriage because it's less thanperfect.

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might as well take a gun and pull the trigger on your spouse when you file fordivorce. If divorce is a light or trifle matter to you, it is only because you haveno loyalty nor fear of #od before your eyes. /ost people don't Eomans hat is the housetop in this proverbD ,ouses then had flat and useful roofs) which could be used for

solitude) but which e7posed a person to all types of weather. The sun could bake you) the wind torment)

the rain soak) and the cold chill you. But huddled in a corner of such a housetop is a better livin choice

than bein down below with an aruin woman) no matter how spacious and comfortable the livin@uarters miht beJ

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>hat is a brawlin womanD 6t is not a woman who bo7es professionally) starts fistfihts with

neihbors) or attacks her husband with teeth) clubs) or knivesJ 6t is a nain wife who cannot allow a

matter to rest) cannot stop ivin her opinions) cannot submit to her husband’s decisions) cannot stop@uestionin everythin he does) cannot stop correctin irrelevant details when he speaks) and otherwise

hounds him mercilessly.

>hen writin other proverbs about her) 0olomon used anry Pr !#:#9%) contentious Pr #9:#"2 !#:#92

!$:#H%) and continual droppin Pr #9:#"2 !$:#H% to describe her. This evil wife ets upset easily) arues

and contests anythin her husband says or does) and constantly nas. 0he talks a lot) talks loud) isopinionated) @uestions everythin) corrects her husband and children) worries about details) arues

@uickly) ets defensive easily) remembers past offences) seldom apoloi3es) or self-rihteously turns

away when bested.

ou have heard and seen this woman. ou are surely related to one. ,opefully) she is a third cousin)

rather than a wife) mother) sister) aunt) or randmother. ,er stench cannot be hid Pr !$:#H-#(%. No

amount of beauty can cover her odor Pr ##:!!%. The family knows she is odious and her husband is avictim of one of life’s reatest curses Pr "F:!#-!"%. od put her in your family to teach your sons what

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4arried manJ >hat can you doD 6f you married foolishly and are tormented by this contentious

brawler) pack your bas and head upstairs. ?r pray for an early death) for you) or her. ?r leave this

proverb in a conspicuous place. ?r take her to a church where such thins are tauht) and pray she hasan ounce of conscience left to convict her about her spirit. 6f you married a entle) tender) and virtuous

woman) take her out toniht.

4arried womanJ 57amine yourself in the mirror of this proverb. 'o not walk away Las #:!#-!H%. our

opinion about yourself is deceptive and wron. 5very odious woman thinks she is racious I which is

why she is odiousJ >hat do others think about youD 'o you have many friendsD &re youn suitorsseekin your dauhters) because they hope to et a woman like youD ;et truth and reality drive you to

repentance or renewed effortJ

5very readerJ ive od the lory for such lovin advice and marvelous wisdom. 5very word of od is

pure) and this inspired knowlede can save youn men from marital rief. The Bible is as relevant

today as ever) reardless of what skeptics and enemies of truth say. The important issue is whether

youn men will heed the warnin) youn women avoid the conduct) and married women be od andtheir husbands for foriveness.

1an the proverb be applied spirituallyD ;et every believer in Lesus 1hrist make sure he is a entle)tender) and virtuous bride for the ;ord of lory) without contendin) @uestionin) or whinin aainst

,im) ,is word) or ,is ministers. ,e married you for ,is pleasure) so do all you can every day to be a

cheerful) dotin) lovin spouse for the Ain.

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H ,er feet lo down to death2

,er steps take hold on hell.

( ;est thou shouldest m ponder the path of life)

,er nways oare moveable) that pthou canst not know them.

$ @,ear me now therefore) ? ye children)

&nd depart not from the words of my mouth.

8 Kemove thy way far from her)

&nd come not nih the door of her house:

9 ;est thou ive thine honour unto others)

&nd thy years unto the r cruel:

#F ;est straners be filled with Mthy wealth2

&nd thy slabours be in the house of a straner2

## &nd thou tmourn at the last)>hen thy flesh and thy body are consumed)

#! &nd say) ,ow have 6 uhated instruction)

&nd my heart 7despised reproof2

#" &nd have not obeyed the voice of my teachers)

Nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed meJ

# 6 was yalmost in all evil

6n the midst of the conreation and assembly.

#H 'rink 3waters out of thine own cistern)

&nd runnin waters out of thine own well.

#( ;et thy afountains be dispersed abroad)

And rivers of waters bin the streets.

#$ ;et them be only thine own)

&nd not straners’ with thee.

#8 ;et thy 3fountain be blessed:

&nd cre=oice with dthe wife of thy youth.

#9 Let her be as the lovin ehind and pleasant f roe2

;et her breasts Mhsatisfy thee at all times2

&nd M be thou ravished always with her love.

!F &nd why wilt thou) my son) be ravished with a istrane woman)

&nd embrace the bosom of a istranerD

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!# or =the ways of man are before k the eyes of the ;?K')

&nd he l pondereth all his moins.

!! n,is own ini@uities shall otake the wicked himself)

&nd he shall be holden with the cords of his Msins.

!" p,e shall die without instruction2

&nd in the reatness of his folly he shall @o astray.

#( wTo deliver thee from the 7strane woman)

w Even from ythe straner which 3flattereth with her words2

#$ >hich forsaketh athe uide of her youth)

&nd foretteth the covenant of her od.

#8 or bher house inclineth unto death)

&nd her c paths unto dthe dead.

#9 None that o unto her return aain) Neither take they hold of the paths of life.

#9 o It is better to dwell Min the wilderness)

Than with a contentious and an anry woman.

9 t It is better to dwell in a ucorner of the housetop)

tThan with Ma brawlin woman in Ma wide house.

! To keep thee from the evil woman)

rom @the flattery of the tonue of a r strane woman.

!H s;ust not after her beauty in thine heart2

Neither let her take thee with ther eyelids.

!( or u by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to 7a piece of bread:

&nd Mthe adulteress will yhunt for 3the precious life.

!$ 1an a man atake bfire in chis bosom)

&nd his clothes not be burnedD

!8 1an one do upon hot coals)

&nd his feet not be d burnedD

!9 0o he that oeth in to his neihbour’s wife2

>hosoever toucheth her shall not be ddinnocent.

"F Men do not despise a thief) if he steal

eTo satisfy his eesoul when he is hunry2

"# But if he f be found) f he shall restore sevenfold2

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,e shall ive all the substance of his house.

"! But whoso committeth adultery with a woman hlacketh Munderstandin:

,e that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.

"" & wound and dishonour shall he et2

&nd his reproach shall not be wiped away.

" or i =ealousy is the rae of a man:

Therefore he will not spare k in the day of veneance.

"H M,e will not reard any ransom2

Neither will he rest content) thouh thou ivest many ifts.

( or hat the window of my house

h6 looked throuh my casement)

$ &nd beheld amon the isimple ones)6 discerned amon Mthe youths)

& youn man k void of understandin)

8 Passin throuh the lstreet near mher corner2

&nd he went the way to her house)

9 6n the ntwiliht) Min the evenin)

6n the o black and dark niht:

#F &nd) behold) oothere met him a woman

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s,er feet abide not in her house:

#! Now is she without) now in the streets)

&nd sslieth in wait at mevery corner.%

#" 0o she cauht him) and kissed him)

And Mwith an impudent face said unto him)

# M I have t peace offerins with me2

This day have 6 u payed my vows.

#H Therefore came 6 forth to meet thee)

7'iliently to seek thy face) and 6 have found thee.

#( 6 have decked my bed with ycoverins of tapestry)

>ith carved works) with 3fine linen of 5ypt.

#$ 6 have a perfumed my bed

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>ith bmyrrh) baloes) and ccinnamon.

#8 1ome) let us take our fill of love until the mornin:

;et us solace ourselves with loves.

#9 or the doodman is not at home)

,e is one a lon =ourney:

!F ,e hath taken a e ba of money Mwith him)

And will come home at the day appointed.

!# >ith her much f fair speech she caused him to yield)

>ith the flatterin of her lips she forced him.

!! ,e oeth after her Mstraihtway)

&s an o7 oeth to the slauhter)

?r as a fool to the correction of the stocks2

!" Till a dart strike throuh his liver2h&s a bird hasteth to the snare)

&nd knoweth not that it is for his life.

! ik ,earken unto me now therefore) ? ye children)

&nd k attend to the words of my mouth.

!H ;et not thine heart ldecline to her ways)

o not astray in her paths.

!( or she hath cast down many wounded:ea) mmany stron men have been slain by her.

!$ n,er house is the way to hell)

oin down to othe chambers of death.

#" 7& foolish woman is yclamorous:

She is simple) and 3knoweth nothin.

# or she sitteth at the door of her house)

?n a seat in athe hih places of the city)

#H To call passeners

>ho bo riht on their ways:

#( c>hoso is simple) let him turn in hither:

&nd as for chim that wanteth understandin) she saith to him)

#$ d0tolen waters are sweet)

&nd bread Meaten in secret is pleasant.

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#8 But he knoweth not ethat f the dead are there2

And that her uests are in the depths of hell.

#F r >ho can find sa virtuous womanD

or ther price is far above urubies.

## The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her)

0o that he shall have no need of spoil.

#! 0he will do him ood and not evil

&ll the days of her life.

#" 0he 7seeketh wool) and fla7)

&nd worketh willinly with her hands.

# 0he is like the merchants’ ships2

0he brineth her food from afar.

#H y0he riseth also while it is yet niht)&nd 3iveth meat to her household)

&nd aa portion to her maidens.

#( b0he considereth a field) and M buyeth it:

>ith the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

#$ c0he irdeth her loins with @strenth)

&nd strentheneth her arms.

#8 M0he perceiveth that her merchandise is ood:

,er dcandle oeth not out by niht.

#9 0he layeth her hands to the spindle)

&nd her hands hold the edistaff.

!F M0he f stretcheth out her hand to the poor2

ea) she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

!# 0he is not afraid of the snow for her household:

or all her household are clothed with hscarlet.

!! 0he maketh herself icoverins of tapestry2

,er clothin is k silk and l purple.

!" m,er husband is known nin the ates)

n>hen he sitteth amon the elders of the land.

! 0he maketh ofine linen) and selleth it 2

&nd delivereth irdles unto the pmerchant.

!H @0trenth and honour are her clothin2

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&nd r she shall re=oice in time to come.

!( 0he openeth her mouth with wisdom2

&nd in her tonue is the law of kindness.

!$ 0he looketh well to the ways of her household)

&nd eateth not the bread of idleness.

!8 ,er children arise up) and call her blessed2

,er husband also) and he praiseth her.

!9 4any dauhters have done tvirtuously)

But thou e7cellest them all.

"F uavour is deceitful) and beauty is vain:

But a woman that feareth the ;?K') she shall be praised.

"# ive her of the fruit of her hands2

&nd let her own works praise her in the ates.#8 &nd the ;?K' od said) It is not ood that the man should be alone2 m6 will make him an help

Mmeet for him.

" But 6 would have you know) that ethe head of every man is 1hrist2 and f the head of the woman is the

man2 and the head of 1hrist is od.

#H 7& continual droppin in a very rainy day

&nd a contentious woman are alike.

#( >hosoever hideth her hideth the wind)

&nd the ointment of his riht hand) which y bewrayeth itself .

!! As f a =ewel of old in a swine’s snout)

So is a fair woman which Mis without ff discretion.

1ould your marriae be betterD 6s &merica deep in debtD 4arriae was not conceived by cavemen

hunched around a fire eatin a rabbit they killed with a boomeran. od desined it and arraned thefirst one between &dam and 5ve. Ain 0olomon was married #FFF times. By od inspirin the Ain)

Proverbs has some ideas to help your marriaeJ

Proverbs !#:#9 Bein sinle for life is okayJ 6t beats marryin an odious womanJ 'o not marry the first

one that will say) Oes)O because it is too easy for her to cover her faults while datin. 6f you cheat here)you need a hideout in the woodsJ

Proverbs #!: 1hoosin a spouse is crucial. The difference between a virtuous and odious wife is

enormous. ?ne will be a crown to you before others2 the other will kill you on the inside) and others

will know the marital pain you endure.

Proverbs "#:"F 4arry a reat wife and your marriae will be reatJ There is one fool-proof mark of a

reat wife) which women should ac@uire and men re@uire. Beauty or favors do not cut it. >ithout this

trait she will disappoint and cause rief.

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Proverbs 9:#" & (oolish %o)a# is not hard to spot. 0he makes a lot of noise and knows little. 0he

re=ects the rules set by her father or husband. 0he will flirt and lie to cover her wicked intentions. 0he

hunts innocent men in their normal course of business) and wise ones will stay far away) knowin the

conse@uences.

Proverbs !$:#H & co#te#tious %o)a# is the nain) overbearin creature that humanity dreads. 0he

complains) corrects) critici3es) reminds) and suests until you o cra3y or withdraw for your own

sanity. & husband with such a wife is cursed. ,e is better off livin alone in the wilderness than in afine house with her.

Proverbs (:!( The %horish %o)a# is a rave threat to every man that wants to be wise and rihteous.

0he will reduce him to a piece of bread and seek to destroy his life. 0olomon knew by e7perience) and

he considered her worse than death. ?nly a few ever recover from her wiles) and then only by ods

race. et far away from her nowJ

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WAT ISLA! SA7S ABO2T AND TE PAINF2L "ONSE=2EN"ES OF FAVO2RITIS!

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&l-NuQmRn b. BashSr once addressed the people from the pulpit and told them about what took place

between the Prophet and his father) sayin:

4y father ave him a ift. Then my mother) Q&mrah bint KawRhah) said: *6 will not be satisfied until

&llah’s 4essener peace be upon it% is a witness to it.+

0o my father went to &llah’s 4essener and said: *6 ave a ift to my son from Q&mrah bint KawRhah)and she told me to have you be a witness to it) ? 4essener of &llah.+

The Prophet peace be upon him% asked: *'id you ive your other children somethin similarD+ ,ereplied that he had not. 0o the Prophet peace be upon him% said: *ear &llah) and deal =ustly between

your children.+ Sahîh al-Bukhrî !H8$% and Sahîh Muslim #(!"%U

This shows us how important it is to avoid favoritism when dealin with our children.

*4y mum loves ?mar more than me. 6 see her kissin him all the time) and she does not even look at

me. 4y pa is the same. ,e always takes my brother ?mar to the shop with him but he rarely ever takes

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my father only speaks to him and tells him not to do it aain.+

The Pare#ts are 2#a%are

6n most cases) parents who show preferential treatment to some of their children do so unconsciously.

They do not reali3e what they are doin.

?mar Ahayri is a father of four. ,e says: *6 love &hmad a lot) because he is always smilin. 6t is his

behavior that makes me love him and prefer him so much.+

,e adds: *6 do not feel that 6 am short-chanin my other children at all. >hat 6 do is without thinkin.

6 do not mean to distinuish between my children.+

&mal is the mother of two irls. 0he says: *6 love both of my irls so much) but 6 feel that 6 love 6lham

more that Nariman. 6lham always listens. 0he always does what 6 ask her to do. Nariman ives me

trouble sometimes.+

>e can see from these e7amples that parents often shift the responsibility for their favoritism onto their

children. They like to attribute their own discriminatory conduct to how their children behave.

The E-*erts "autio#

0ocioloists and Psycholoists warn us about how ha3ardous a parent’s favoritism is to the children.'iscriminatin aainst a child can affects that child’s performance at school and result in substantially

lowers rades. 6t can cause psycholoical problems which sometimes reach the level of full scale

mental illness. 6t can also lead to reclusive behavior) introversion) and aressiveness.

6brahim &mir) a psychiatric consultant) says: *There is no doubt about what discriminatin between

children leads to. 6t fosters hostility between those children) causes them to even hate each other. >e

even find on occasion that the child who is disfavored harbors hopes that his or her siblin ets sick oris stricken with some traedy.

&mir calls parents to develop an awareness of how they need to raise their children) so they can do so properly. ,e adds: *6t may be e7pected that one child is more beloved to his or her parents than the

others. This is only natural. ,owever) it is imperative that the children are never shown anythin to

indicate this. ?therwise) the conse@uences will be very bad.+

&mir asserts that it is essential to behave e@ually with children in all thins) even somethin as simple

as kissin. ,e says: *6f the father kisses one of his children) then he has to kiss them all. ?ther very

important matters are clothin) food) and ifts. 5ven what we say and who we speak too matters. &mother or father should not only speak to one child all the time and inore the others. Lustice must be in

everythin) even in how often we look at or speak to each of our children.+

?ne of the suestions that psycholoists put forth to prevent our discriminatin between our children

is that we should always pay careful attention to all of our children and monitor their feelins and their

behaviors) and especially their responses to what oes on in the home.


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Do Physical A**eara#ces Really !atter? http://[email protected]/en/#"99"

6 would like to ask a @uestion that is a common problem amon many of us. ,ow does &llah look at physical beautyD ,ow is it discussed in ,adith and VuranD 4any people favor some of their children

over others =ust because of li$ht s1i# color or eye color. ,ow does the Vuran view thisD

Praise be to &llaah.Physical beauty is not considered to be a measure of virtue amon people in 6slam2 rather the standard

on which distinctions are made is ta@wa piety) fear of &llaah%. &llaah says interpretation of the

meanin%:

*? mankindJ >e have created you from a male and a female) and made you into nations and tribes) thatyou may know one another. Werily) the most honourable of you with &llaah is that believer% who has

&t-Ta@wa i.e. he is one of the 4utta@oon the pious%U. Werily) &llaah is &ll-Anowin) &ll-&ware+

al-,u=uraat 9:#"U,ence sharee’ah divine law% came to correct our outlook which is usually based on outward

appearances. There are many ahaadeeth Prophetic narrations%on this topic) includin the followin:

6t was narrated in al-0aheeh that &bu ,urayrah said: *The 4essener of &llaah peace and blessins of

&llaah be upon him% said: X&llaah does not look at your appearance or your wealth) but ,e looks atyour hearts and your deeds.’+ Narrated by 4uslim) al-Birr wa’l-0ilah) (H#%.

6t was narrated that &bu 'harr said: *6 e7chaned words with another man) whose mother was a non-

&rab. 6 insulted his mother) and he mentioned that to the Prophet peace and blessins of &llaah beupon him%. ,e said to me) X'id you trade insults with so and soD’ 6 said) Xes.’ ,e said) X'id you insult

his motherD’ 6 said) Xes.’ ,e said) Xou are a man in whom is =aahiliyyah inorance%C’+ Narrated by

al-Bukhaari) al-&dab) HH9F2 4uslim) al-5emaan) "#F%. &ccordin to another report: *C6 said to him)X? son of a black woman’)+ and the Prophet peace and blessins of &llaah be upon him% said) *6n you

there is =aahiliyyah+ I i.e.) one of the characteristics of =aahiliyyah.

6t was narrated that 0ahl ibn 0a’d al-0aa’idi said: *& man passed by the 4essener of &llaah peaceand blessins of &llaah be upon him% and he asked a man who was sittin with him) X>hat do you

think of this manD’ ,e said) X,e is one of the nobility. By &llaah) if he proposes marriae he deservesto et married and if he intercedes) his intercession deserves to be accepted.’ The 4essener of &llaahpeace and blessins of &llaah be upon him% said nothin. Then another man passed by) and the

4essener of &llaah peace and blessins of &llaah be upon him% asked) X>hat do you think of this

manD’ ,e said) X? 4essener of &llaah) he is one of the poor 4uslims. 6f he proposes marriae he does

not deserve to et married) if he intercedes his intercession does not deserve to be accepted and if hespeaks he does not deserve to be heard.’ The 4essener of &llaah peace and blessins of &llaah be

upon him% said: XThis one the second man% is better than an earthful of men like% that one the first

man%.’+ Narrated by al-Bukhaari) al-Ki@aa@) H9((%.6t was narrated from &bu ,urayrah that the Prophet peace and blessins of &llaah be upon him% said:

*People should stop boastin about their forefathers who have died) for they are no more than the fuel

of ,ell) or they will be more insinificant before &llaah than the dun beetle which rolls up dun withits nose. &llaah has taken away your =aahili arroance and pride in your ancestors2 rather man is either

a believer who fears &llaah or an immoral person who is doomed. &ll of them are the sons of &dam

and &dam was created from dust.+ Narrated by al-Tirmidhi) al-4anaa@ib) "89F2 classed as hasan by

al-&lbaani in 0aheeh 0unan al-Tirmidhi) no. "#FF%.&ll these ahaadeeth indicate that which we have mentioned above) which is that one’s appearance and

colour should not be the basis of one’s feelin proud) distinuished) superior or of hih status) and that

the 4uslim should et close to those who are pious and rihteous.6t was narrated that X&mr ibn al-X&as said: *6 heard the Prophet peace and blessins of &llaah be upon

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him% sayin out loud) not @uietly: XCKather my friends are &llaah and the rihteous believersC’+

Narrated by al-Bukhaari) al-&dab) HH"#2 4uslim) al-5emaan) "#(%.

>ith reard to dealin with one’s children) it is obliatory to treat them fairly and not to prefer some of

them over others) even if one of them honours his father more than another. 0o how about if thedistinction is based on the colour of the child’s skin or the colour of his eyesD This is a serious matter

and it is a rave wrondoin. Parents have to fear &llaah when dealin with their children and treat

them fairly. 6t says in the hadeeth whose authenticity is areed upon) which was narrated from al- Nu’maan ibn Basheer that the Prophet peace and blessins of &llaah be upon him% said: *ear &llaah

and treat your children fairly.+ Narrated by al-Bukhaari) !"982 4uslim) "FHH%. This kind of

favouritism enerates envy and hatred between the children. >e ask &llaah to keep us safe and sound.&nd &llaah knows best. 4ay &llaah bless our Prophet 4uhammad.

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Exercising Justice With Regard To One's ChildrenThe parent should not oppress or wrong any of his children. He should not show

one of his children due favour more so than the other, by giving him more thanhis other children or praising him more than any of the others. Indeed this type of oppression and favouritism can be a reason for the children swaying from the

correct path and developing personal problems later on in life. The Prophet said,"Fear Allah and be ust with regard to your children." Indeed, being ust can

positively affect the children!s tarbiyah, ust as being unust can have negative

affects upon their tarbiyah. f these negative effects is that the child may feelthat if he cannot find ustice with his own parents, then who can he find ustice

with# And he may carry this problem and this feeling in his heart all of his life.

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!o)>s Favoritis) Sti#$s, Eve# (or A+ultsLeanna Bryner Lune !8) !F#F F:#Fam 5T

5ven after kids move out) 4oms favoritism still matters. >hen 4om repeatedly sinles out one adult

child more than another) whether for praise or a slap on the wrist) shes unwittinly contributin to heroffsprins depression) research announced last week suests.

OPerceived favoritism from ones mother still matters to a childs psycholoical well-bein) even if they

have been livin for years outside the parental home and have started families of their own)O said study

researcher Aarl Pillemer) a 1ornell ith older parents) favored children may be e7pected to provide more care and assistance for the parent) leadin to stress.O

&s for which children become 4oms favorites) Pillemer are still fiurin this out. OParents tend to

prefer oldest or younest as opposed to middle% children) and they ravitate toward those children who

are more similar to them in personal characteristics and values)O Pillemer said.

!o)>s (avorites

The results are based on interviews conducted between &uust !FF# and Lanuary !FF" with !$H

Boston-area mothers in their (Fs and $Fs) who had at least two livin adult children. Kesearchers also

surveyed the ($# offsprin) whose averae ae was ". Pillemer and colleaue L. Lill 0uitor of Purdue

ith which child do you have the

most disareements or arumentsD

The ma=ority of moms differentiated: $F percent of mothers named a child they felt closest to2 $9

percent named a child as the most likely careiver2 and $" percent named a child she had the most

aruments and disareements with.

The adult children were more likely to believe their mom had a favorite child than was actually thecase. Lust #H percent of children said there was no favoritism) but "F percent of moms reported the

same.

Perception of favoritism had more impact on well-bein than actual favoritism. 'epression scores were

hiher for adult children who believed their mom was closest to a particular child in the family. &dultchildren who reported their mothers had reater conflict with a particular siblin also reported hiher

depression.

The scientists didnt find a link between depression and a moms actual differentiation amon her

children reardin conflict or emotional closeness.

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