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PBS Makes a PBS Makes a Difference: One Difference: One Family’s StoryFamily’s Story
Sandy Roethler • PBS Forum • October 2008
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Professional and Personal Professional and Personal Role in PBSRole in PBS
I was:• Executive Director serving parents of
children with emotional impairments
• Co-Principal Investigator of federal children’s mental health grant
• Member of PBS advisory teams
• Mother of a child in a PBS School
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Scott’s Path, My Path Scott’s Path, My Path
• Permission
• Whose story?
• Shifting perspective
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Who was My Child?Who was My Child?• Smart, funny, creative, affectionate,
warm• Hated himself/depressed/talked
about dying• Was “Top of the Triangle”• Special education for emotional
impairment• I knew he wasn’t that kid
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Who was I?Who was I?• An Accomplice
• A Task Master
• Non-empathetic
• Cognitive dissonance
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My Mission:My Mission:Improving SchoolsImproving Schools
• I took my job to improve schools• My first PBS training – epiphany • Work thoughts –how can my
workplace/our community support PBS?
• Personal thoughts – How can this benefit my child?
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Old School vs PBS SchoolOld School vs PBS School• Changed schools in 6th grade• School refusal/home school• Attended intensive PBS training &
met principal• Allows us to compare• Benefits for Scott and for the family
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SUCCESS! for ScottSUCCESS! for Scott
•Better behavior
•Better grades
•Improved reading skills
•He saw his “true self”
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SUCCESS! for ParentsSUCCESS! for ParentsNo more:• Negativity from others• Guilt, avoiding or explaining• Calls home or work lossMore time:• Praising and seeing strengths• Bragging and being proud!
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Relationship TransformationRelationship Transformation
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Behavior Benefits – Behavior Benefits – to Him & Meto Him & Me
Non-PBS School:• Calls every week,
multiple calls in a day– I’m at Work– Negative spills over
to home– Double punishment– Frustration/embarrassment
PBS School:• 6 calls all year –
and 3 were calls to brag– Warm fuzzies with
school – No work
interruptions– Made me feel proud
of my child
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Behavior BenefitsBehavior BenefitsNon-PBS School:• Sent home
early/suspensions• Stormed out of
classroom
• Slept 2 hours/day
• Fought over/ refused to do homework
PBS School:• Problems solved in
school• Removed himself
briefly, was flexible
• Fully engaged
• Reminded Dad about homework
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But What About His Grades?But What About His Grades?
Non-PBS School:• Reading at below
grade level (less than 5th)
• 3 F’s and a C
• Couldn’t remember times table – far behind
PBS School:• Reading above
grade level (7.8)
• Made A Honor Roll
• Only ½ year behind in math
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What’s the Difference?What’s the Difference?
It’s Not about Us:• We’re the Same Parents
– Communicating with school in the same way
– Parenting the same way– School was difficult before– If it were about us, we would have seen
results at the old school
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Non-BelieversNon-Believers
•Some people do not want to believe:–“You don’t have the same kinds of kids we do”
(right, the ones at Scott’s school had more barriers)
–“You are different from other parents we have at our school”
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What’s the Difference?What’s the Difference?• He had great teachers at his old school• He has the same IEP• Nothing else in child’s environment
changed (no deaths, didn’t move, still married…)
• We even STOPPED getting mental health support after changing schools
… The only difference is PBS
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What Worked?What Worked?• He ran his meeting/owned the plan• The team treated him like an equal
partner• They negotiated a system for behavior
support• Principal connected him with a social
network from the start• School included the family• School called to brag about him
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What Else Worked?What Else Worked?• He could leave class when he needed to
and talk about what was going on• He was praised for handling his anger
well• He had a mentor• He knew the adults were trying to
understand and help, not “get him in trouble”
• Other kids’ behavior was better (universal)
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What about Next Year?What about Next Year?Positive effects carried into 7th & 8th
grade – Few Supports– Excellent grades– Loved school– Lots of friends– Happy, regular kid– New principal didn’t recognize old kid– “Bottom of the Triangle”
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SummarySummary• PBS can show great outcomes – at
school, at home & in the community• Outcomes can last multiple years
• I retired in July b/c my mission is being achieved … thanks to YOU!