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All praise is due to Allah and may His choicest salutation continue to

descendupon ourMaster andLeaderMuhammad

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Andupon manWe ordainedkindnesstowardsparents (29:8)

And your Sustainer has ordained that you worship none but Him

andthatyoudo good (Ihsaan)to your parents. Shouldone or both of

them reach old age in your care, never say "Uff to them or scold

them, but [always] speak to them with reverent speech. And spread

over them humbly the wings of your tenderness and say: "O my

Sustainer! Bestow Your grace upon them as they cherished and

rearedmewhenIwasachild!"(17:23/24)

ur parents bring us into this world and nurture us with their

boundless love and care. They rear us with affection andpatience. Their commitment is endless, unselfish and enduring.

Their love is infinite,limitless andpure. They forgettheirown needs and

comfortsin theirpreoccupationwith ourlives. They willingly endure and

sacrifice in their labour of love. A love that grows deeper with each

passing day. We will neverbe able toquantifytheirservicesor repaythem

for their enduring love. We remain permanently indebted and obligated

toour parents.Allah says:

This verse enjoins that after Allah's right, the greatest of all the human

rights is the right of parents. The fact that duty to parents is mentioned

side byside with duty to Allah demonstrates that thehighesthumanrank

within our social strata is that of the parents. The verse instructs us to

treat our p arents w ith . top arents m eans:

Gotheextramile!

Only the privileged have the

honourofservingtheirparents

If they trample

over yourememberJannahlies undertheirfeet!

The verse first sets out the general rule of towards parents andthen goes on tospeakabouttreatment ofparentsduring theirold age. Old

age is generally an age of weakness and sickness a period of growing

dependencea second childhooda stage where there is a reversal of

roleswhere parents no longer occupy the the driving seat in the

vehicle of life andinstead passively sitin the'passenger'seat. This loss of

control and loss of independence increases their sensitivity and

decreases their agility.

It is against this background that the verse instructs children to think of

their own childhood when dealing with their parents. You as children

were also once helpless, ignorant, dependent and ever demanding. The

verse setsout thefive moral principleswhen dealing withparents.

Do not use any word or makeany sound or

display any conduct that may undermine their privileged position as

parents

Do notraiseyourvoice, become angryor annoyed

withthem.

Address them with honour and make them feel

lovedandspecial

Like a bird that

out stretches its wings out to protect, shade, and comfort its young

evenatthecostofitsownsafetyandcomfort.

O Allah show mercy to them as they had reared

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AbdullahIbn Umar says that Rasulullah said, The pleasureof Allahis

inthepleasureoftheparents.(Bazzar)

The Prophet was asked: Which deed is the dearest to Allah? He

replied: Performing prayer on its time. It was asked: What is next? He

said: "Kindness to parents. It wasasked: What is next? He said: "Jihad in

thecauseofAllah.(Bukhari&Muslim)

Kindness to parents in this hadith is given greater priority over Jihaad in

the cause of Allah, which indicates the indicates the magnitude of our

obligation toparents.A mancameto theProphet askinghispermission

to go for Jihad. Thereupon, the Prophet asked him: Are your parents

alive?" He answered:Yes. He said:Thengo andserve them,for this isalso

Jihad.

Anas reports thatRasulullah said: Hewho wishesto havea longlife

and a lot of wealthshould be good to his parents and he should join the

familyties. ( Ahmad)

Rifa'ah bin Iyas said: I saw a man weeping at the funeral of his mother. I

exclaimed: Do you weep?He said: Why not? A gate of Paradise has been

closed before me. The Prophet said: "I entered Paradise and heard

someone recitingQuran. I asked:Whatis this?It was said:Thisis Harithah

bin Al-Nu'man. The Prophet said: This is the result of kindness, since

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Goingbeyondthecallofduty:

Fulfilling your duty with beauty:

Not to become irritated or annoyed with them:

Donot say 'Uff' tothem:

Donot scold them:

Reverent speech:

Spread over themhumblythe wingsof tenderness:

Make duafor them:

Pleasureof Allah

GreaterthanJihad

Increasein Wealth

Doorof Paradise

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A mother can take the place of all others,

but no one else can take her place.

It is endless and unselfish and enduring come what may

For nothing can destroy it or take that love away . . .

It believes beyond believing when the world around condemns,

And it glows with all the beauty of the rarest, brightest gems . . .

A many splendoured miracle man cannot understand;

And another wondrous evidence of God's tender guiding hand.

A Mother's love is something that no one can explain;

It is made of deep devotion and of sacrifice and pain.

It is patient and forgiving when all others are forsaking,

And it never fails or falters even though the heart is breaking . . .

It is far beyond defining, it defies all explanation;

And it still remains a secret like the mysteries of creation . . .

May Allah shower His special mercy on our parents and

grant us the ability to serve them with love and respect.

A Mothers Love

Our Parents...Our Destinyur Parents...Our Destiny