OUR LITURGY

WE KEEP IN OUR PRAYERS

Those serving in the Armed Forces: David

Concepcion, Patrick Brasel, Sean Brasel, Chris

Ehlers, Donald Dikijian, Kristopher Rodgers,

Caes Waldron, Aaron Waldron, Andrew Paul,

Nicholas Paul, Sam Saracino, Joseph Mantz,

Jeffrey Hurley, Peter Miceli, Patricia McDonald,

Hunter Mantz, Michael Accardi, Christian Cseh,

Francis Manalo, Thomas Menendez, John

Covone, Theodore Dalley, Megan Navarro, Ken

Siano, Connor West, Josh Coates, Bryan

McCune, Danny Mullan, Shaun Lieb, Luiz

Maurina, Charles Misura

Those who are sick and shut-in: Dakota Schick,

Len, Jr., Justin Carlomusto, Andrew Baltazar,

JPC, AMG, CLS, Robert Scotti, Leslie Fagan,

Christine Clements, Pauline Wittman, Frances

Szala, Roseann Lukasik, Mervyn & Jonathan

Fonseca, Muriel & Kathy Matta, Eva & Tahsin

Uyar, Jeanette Rogers, Dawn Toscano, Elzira

Potenza, Elizabeth Klix, Lauren, Florence

Brennan, John & Patricia Kerod, Linda Seijas,

Ruth & Mitch Wieczorek, Jim & Shirley Prato,

Ana Katrina de Sesto, Gregory Meyer, David

Rose, Kevin & Harriet North, Maureen Ali, Rose

Tirone, Brendan Lynch, Michael, Rosemarie

Testa, Rosa Ponce, Marilyn Kaiser, Kelly Hayes,

Louis Marsico, Kim Stocco, Karen Nobel, Toby

Yapaolo, Antonina P, Helen Fertitta, Denise

Bergeron, Elaine McDonnell, Stan Banas, Mary

Doyle, Irena Grabowiecka, Robert Ahlers, John

Fossa, Anna Lesniak, Velma Segalla, Cecilia

D’Agostin, Marcella Gatti, Joe Rosplock, Brian

Mayer, Gabe Buonauro; Ann Okose Ubah, Anne

Marie, Anthony Castellano, Solomon Brown,

Betty Bonfiglio, George and Helen Huss; Felicia

Hammel, Chad Campbell, John Franey, Jax,

Kristyn Lee Smith, Barbara Hughes, Carolyn &

Laura McMenamy, Rosemary Smith, Natalie

Lucas, Art Wamil, Agnes Gavigan, Maggie

Wright, Joe Prebish, Frances, Mary Anne

Grandinetti, Gary White, Emily Lucas, Joan

Pearson, Clara Mendieta Vitale; Theresa Manney,

Bridget Maloney, Arthur Suriano, Patricia Rose

Also, we pray for the deceased of our parish

family: Elizabeth Wachter, Herbert Scharre,

Kenneth Hallstrum,

WORSHIP SCHEDULE Monday, February 12

9:00a Josephine Greco͏ ͏

Tuesday, February 13

9:00a Adeline Ayars͏

Wednesday, February 14

9:00a Cira Profita

12:00p Ida Vesce

7:30p see Polish Page

Thursday, February 15

9:00a Audrey Bikel͏ ͏

Friday, February 16

9:00a Peter Gilmartin

Saturday, February 17

9:00a Vincent C. Smith & Florence Keating

4:00p Gerard Hunter

Sunday, February 18

8:00a Diana McManus

9:30a Msgr. George Everitt

11:00a Elizabeth DeFrancisco

12:30p see Polish page

5:00p Louis Rossilli

MEMORIALS THIS WEEK Monday, February 12 to Sunday, February 18

Vigil Lamp Blessed Mother Altar

Frank Wittman & Stanley Szala

In Thanksgiving Laura DiLorenzo

Vigil Lamp St. Joseph Altar

Special Intention for the Tammaro Family

Special Intentions of the Earle Family

Vigil Lamp Sacred Heart Altar

Dec'd of Ely-Banas Family

Special Intentions of the Earle Family

Also available: Bread & Wine, Sanctuary Light

for St. Mary and Holy Family

READINGS FOR THE WEEK Mon: Jas 1:1-11/Mk 8:11-13

Tue: Jas 1:12-18/Mk 8:14-21

Ash Wednesday: Jl 2:12-18/2 Cor 5:20—

6:2/Mt 6:1-6, 16-18

Thu: Dt 30:15-20/Lk 9:22-25

Fri: Is 58:1-9a/Mt 9:14-15

Sat: Is 58:9b-14/Lk 5:27-32

First Sunday of Lent: Gn 9:8-15/1 Pt 3:18-

22/Mk 1:12-15

SCHEDULE OF EXTRA COLLECTIONS

Feb 18: Next Sunday: St. Vincent de Paul

Mar 4: Easter Flowers

Please make out checks to St. Mary of the Lake

CONTRIBUTION STATEMENTS

Statements for 2017 donations are now available.

If you would like your statement, please send a

stamped, self-addressed envelope to the rectory.

Please print your name, address and your

envelope number (4 or 5 digits) on the envelope.

PARISH JOURNAL

SHARING OUR TREASURE Stewardship, A Way of Life

Envelopes used last weekend 353

Total contributions: $9,047.00

SCHEDULE OF EVENTS

Sun, Feb 11, Pancake Breakfast, Holy Family

Cafeteria, 9a

Sun, Feb 11, Ultreya

Sun, Feb 11, Divine Mercy Healing Mass, Holy

Family Church, 2p

Wed, Feb 14, Ash Wednesday

Mon, Feb 19, Presidents Day, Offices closed

WEEKLY EVENTS

Tue: Overeaters Anonymous, Guild Hall 12:30p

Tue: Legion of Mary, Guild Hall 3p

Wed: Women’s Bereavement, cemetery, 10:30a

Wed: Choir, Holy Family, 7p

Thu: Men’s Bereavement, cemetery, 3p

2nd

& 4th

Sun: Ultreya, 12p

WORLD MARRIAGE DAY Congratulations to all of our married couples as

we celebrate “World Marriage Day” February 11,

2018. Your commitment to loving each other

every day, demonstrates a unique and steadfast

love that extends beyond you as a couple, to your

families, the community and the world. We are

blessed here at St. Mary’s with many couples

who have a made their wedding day commitment,

a lifetime commitment. We are celebrating some

of them in the display at the Sacred Heart Alter.

Please stop by, say a prayer for all who are

married, and enjoy the wedding pictures.

-The Marriage Ministry

ANNIVERSARY CONGRATULATIONS

February Anniversaries

Name Date Years

Leonard & Marietta Iovelli Feb 1 60

John & Augusta Cuccurullo Feb 4 57

Vincent & Josephine Oliveri Feb 20 58

Our prayers and best wishes go with you as you

continue to live out your vows.

ANNIVERSARY RECOGNITION St. Mary's would like to recognize couples who

are celebrating long term anniversaries in the

milestone years of 20, 25, 30, 40, and any

anniversary over 50 years. If your anniversary is

this month or the next, please call the Parish

Office or email jpeterson@smlparish to have

your anniversary announced in the bulletin. Our

prayers and best wishes go with you as you

continue to live out your vows.

PANCAKE BREAKFAST Today, Sunday, Feb 11, 9 AM-12 PM

Holy Family Cafeteria

Come out and enjoy your breakfast with your

fellow parishioners and make new friends!

LENTEN FISH DINNERS Fridays of Lent:

Feb 16, 23, Mar 9, 16, 23

5:30 – 7:30 PM

Holy Family Cafeteria – Cost $15/pp

Menu Week 1: February 16

Adult Menu

Breaded/ Fried Tilapia over rice pilaf

Broiled salmon with rice pilaf

Fresh baked Ziti in a marinara sauce

All the above served with fresh vegetables

Children’s Menu

Pizza with French fries

All dinners served with a salad, dinner roll with

butter, fresh vegetables, coffee and dessert.

Additional charge for bottled water and soda.

INTERFAITH HOSPITALITY NETWORK:

Our next Host Week begins Sunday, February,

18 and our Guests will stay until Sunday,

February 25. The commitment of time from

each volunteer is but a few hours for just one

day during that week. We are now looking for

volunteers to help with set up on Sunday,

February 18 at 10:45 AM; to share in the cooking

of meals for each night during this week (bring a

salad, dessert, vegetables, bread or main course);

to host from 6 to 8:30 pm; and to sleep from 8:30

pm to 7 am the next morning. New volunteers are

needed during the winter since many of our

regulars fly south for the winter.

Come join us for Clean-up on Sunday, February

25 at 10:45 AM and then we also need some

volunteers to take the laundry.

We are once again in need of some supplies:

laundry detergent HE, dish detergent,

condiments, disposable food containers, juice

boxes, bottled water, kid friendly cereals and

snacks, plastic utensils and gift cards to Shop Rite

or Costco. (We are low in funds so gift cards are

especially useful so we may purchase perishable

items for the week.) If you can help out with any

of these items, please drop them off at the

Rectory during the week of February 12.

From more info, please call Pat Rainer 732-300-

8288, email lanokaharbor@hotmail.com or use

these phone numbers below:

Dinner Preparation: Lisa – 848-448-1131

Hosting: Janet – 732-600-1190

Sleepers: Pat – 732-905-4199

Set up/ Break down: Velda – 732-534-6814

Laundry and Linens: Linda 732-994-5532

Supplies: Patty 732-300-8288

INTERFAITH HOSPITALITY OF OCEAN

COUNTY VOLUNTEER TRAINING Sunday, Feb 25, 1:00-3:30 PM

IHN Day Center

407 Lexington Avenue, Toms River

Learn how you can become an IHNOC volunteer

and how you can help provide hope and support

to homeless families with children in our

community. A light lunch will be provided.

RSVP: oceanihn@gmail.com or 732-736-1550 by

Feb 21st

JESUS Save The Date

Tuesday, May 15th, leave at 7:30 AM lower lot,

Performance 10:30 AM, Lunch 2:00 PM, Back

around 6:30 PM

Experience the greatest rescue story of all time!

JESUS is Sight & Sound’s new action–packed

musical adventure that takes you on a miraculous

journey alongside the Most famous person to ever

walk the Earth, and the everyday people whose

lives he changed forever.

SOCIETY OF ST. VINCENT DE PAUL

For those seeking financial aid: please visit the

food pantry between 9:30 AM and Noon on

Thursday. Be sure to bring all your

documentation.

Food pantry hours: 9:30 AM to 12:30 PM

Monday, Wednesday, Thursday and Saturday.

There are no longer hours on Tuesday.

CATHOLIC WOMEN OF ZION

UPCOMING CWOZ: SAVE THE DATE!

ST. WILLIAM THE ABBOT, HOWELL Saturday, March 10

9 AM to 1 PM Mass at 9 AM

HOLY FAMILY CHAPEL & SCHOOL Saturday, Jun 10

9 AM TO 12 PM MASS AT 8 AM

ST CATHARINE, FARMINGDALE Saturday, May 19

9 AM to 1 PM Mass at 9 AM

CEMETERY & MAUSOLEUMS

MEMORIALIZE A LOVED ONE

On the Memorial Tree at Mary Queen of Peace

Mausoleum, we have available for inscription

Silver and Gold Leaves. Pricing:

Silver leaf - $200 plus 50¢ per letter

Gold leaf - $300 plus 50¢ per letter

Doves - $350 plus 50¢ per letter

Stepping Stones - $500 plus 50¢ per letter

Donations may be made in cash, check, or credit

cards. Your support is much appreciated. Call the

Cemetery office for details: 732-363-8262.

CATHOLIC DAUGHTERS BABY SHOWER

Thank you, and God bless you all for the

outpouring of love and support for the BABY

SHOWER FOR JESUS. We received countless

gifts – onesies, sleep and play out fits, blankets,

(some homemade with matching booties), lotions,

diapers, toys, pj’s, socks, shoes, and wipes,

summer and winter outfits, and $305.00 in cash

donations. Again the Catholic Daughters of the

Americas, Court # 310 are very thankful for your

kind and generous spirit.

LOCAL EVENTS

GIFT AUCTION St. Veronica School will be holding its annual

dinner and gift auction on March 2nd at 7:00

at the South Gate Manor in Freehold. Tickets

are on sale now. Ticket forms and information are

available at www.stveronicaschool.com or by

calling Jennifer Jarecki at 732-299-2477.

AARP TAX AIDE PROGRAM Your federal and state income tax returns will be

prepared and electronically filed at no cost

between February 1 and April 17. All volunteer

preparers are IRS certified. It is open to all,

regardless of age or income, although special

emphasis is given to those over the age of 60 with

low to moderate income. There are a few

complex items that may be out of scope for the

service.

Appointments are available on Mondays at

Jackson Municipal Bldg. (732-928-2313),

Wednesdays at Plumsted Library (609-758-

7888), Thursdays at Jackson Library(732-928-

4400x3808) and Fridays at Lakewood Library

(732-363-7435 x2101). There are also various

other locations throughout Ocean County.

OUR LITURGY: ASHES & LENT

THE DISTRIBUTION OF ASHES

In our ritual for the blessing and distribution of

ashes, the Book of Blessings indicates:

1059 The season of Lent begins with the ancient practice of marking the baptized with ashes as a public and communal sign of penance. The blessing and distribution of ashes on Ash Wednesday normally takes place during the celebration of Mass. However, when circumstances require, the blessing and distribution of ashes may take place apart from Mass, during a celebration of the word of God.

1060 This order may also be used when ashes are brought to the sick. According to the circumstances, the rite may be abbreviated by the minister. Nevertheless, at least one Scripture reading should be included in the service. ...

1062 This rite may be celebrated by a priest or deacon who may be assisted by lay ministers in the distribution of the ashes. ...

These directives make very clear that ashes may

only be distributed within the celebration of

Mass or a Liturgy of the Word (i.e., a prayer

service). Even when ashes are brought to the

sick, some sort of simple prayer and Scripture

reading is expected.

In other words, it is not allowed for one to

arrive at the church or parish office or

rectory and just simply ‘get ashes.’ One must

attend a Mass or prayer service during which

ashes are distributed.

And this restriction makes perfect sense if we

think about what the ashes symbolize: a

commitment to the Lenten disciplines of

holiness, especially a commitment to prayer. It

would be self-contradictory to be signed with a

symbol of commitment to prayer without

actually stopping and taking the time to pray.

In order to accommodate the schedules of our

parishioners on Ash Wednesday, we will

distribute ashes within the following Masses and

Liturgies of the Word:

ASH WEDNESDAY February 14

Ashes distributed at these services:

6:00 AM: Liturgy of the Word at St. Mary’s

(for those on their way to work

or school)

9:00 AM: Mass at St. Mary’s

12:00 PM: Mass at St. Mary’s

5:30 PM: Liturgy of the Word at Holy Family

(for the children in our religious

education program; all parishioners

welcome)

7:30 PM: Mass at St. Mary’s (Polish)

Please Note: We will no longer have an evening

Mass on Ash Wednesday in English. Attendance

in the past years has been very low. For those

working or in school, please consider attending

the 6 AM. There’s very little traffic in Lakewood

at that time!

The Noon service in the past is now a Noon

Mass.

There will be a 7 PM Mass in Spanish at Holy

Family and a 7:30 PM Mass in Polish at St.

Mary’s.

STATIONS OF THE CROSS Every Friday during Lent following the 9 AM

Mass at St. Mary’s, a group of parishioners

gather for the traditional Lenten devotional

prayer.

In Holy Family Chapel before the Fish Fry

every Friday at 5:00 PM. Or you may

privately pray the Stations from 6:00 – 7:00

PM.

On Good Friday, 7 PM at St. Mary’s in

English and Polish

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LENTEN FAQ

(FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS)

What’s the difference between fasting and

abstinence?

Abstinence is really abstinence from meat, i.e., to

abstain or refrain from eating meat. Fasting

means not eating any food at all.

I find it truly difficult to go all day without

eating (i.e., fasting), what should I do?

If fasting on Ash Wednesday and Good Friday

doesn’t allow you to function properly at work or

school or parenting; or, it makes you dizzy or

weak; or, you have a medical condition which

requires you to eat regularly (e.g., diabetes), then

you have several options:

1) Eat just one full meal for the day; or,

2) If you really need to, eat one full meal and

two very light meals; or,

3) Substitute some other act of penance or

charity.

On days of abstinence from meat (Ash

Wednesday and Fridays in Lent), what is

meant by ‘meat’?

The actual flesh and organs of warm blooded

animals or of birds. So, meat would be steak,

hamburger, pork, ham, lamb, salami, sausage,

chicken, and turkey (the color of the meat

doesn’t matter). However, fish and cold blooded

animals (frog, clams, etc…) are not meat. Also

meat by-products (milk, cheese, etc…) or

condiments and sauces with meat fat (some pasta

sauces, e.g.,) are not meat.

Who is required to follow these rules of

fasting and abstinence?

Fasting: 18 to 59 year-olds. Abstinence: 14 year-

olds and older. But keep in mind, that those

younger and older can try to keep these

disciplines if they choose to, and adapt them to

their circumstance.

I forgot that it was a day of abstinence and ate

meat. I also forgot it was a day of fasting and

ate several full meals. Do I have to go to

confession?

No. First of all, you can’t sin accidentally. Sin

comes about from purposely choosing evil.

Secondly, failure to perform one particular act of

the Church’s communal penance isn’t an act of

grave evil. Failure to do penance, to pray, and to

be charitable, over all in one’s life… that is a

seriously grave problem.

Thirdly, these penitential acts of fasting and

abstinence are the least significant of the three

disciplines of Lent. The other two disciplines are

prayer and charity. It is a failure to pray and to

be charitable which is a worthier subject matter

of confession than accidentally eating meat on

Friday.

And finally, if you forget to do one of these

Lenten disciplines, you are free to substitute.

Choose a different day. Choose a different

penance. And you may do this without getting

dispensation from a priest or the bishop.

I’m going to a St. Patrick’s Day party on a

Friday in Lent. Can I eat the traditional

corned beef? Do I need to get a dispensation?

You may eat the corned beef without getting a

dispensation. Simply substitute a different day

for abstinence, or, a different penance or act of

charity. You have the authority to make those

decisions for yourself without seeking

dispensation from any clergy.

I’m doing an additional, personal act of

penance for all of Lent (e.g., giving up a treat

like ice cream). Should I also do this on

Sundays?

You may, if you want, but you don’t have to.

Sundays aren’t counted in the “forty days of

Lent.” The reason for this is that Sundays are

festive days of celebration, and therefore, not

penitential days.

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DUSZPASTERSTWO POLSKIE Duszpasterz: Ks. Marian Kokorzycki

Tel. 732- 363-0139, ext. 421 Cell. 484-368-4636 msze święte w niedzielę – 12:30 pm - w święta

obowiązkowe o godzinie 7:30 pm w kościele Saint Mary.

Polska Szkoła Dokształcająca im. Aleksandra Janta Połczyńskiego w Lakewood NJ

dyrektor: Kasia Pawka Tel. 732-901-9546 Email: dyrekcja@lakewoodpolishschool.com

Website: www.lakewoodpolishschool.com

11 Luty 2018-niedziela – VI niedziela zwykła- rok B/II 14 Luty – Środa Popielcowa – początek Wielkiego Postu

…Tyle już razy w moim życiu przeżywałem Środę Popielcową, tyle już razy rozpoczynałem Wielki

Post … I za każdym razem powracające z coraz większą wyrazistością pytanie; „I co się w moim

życiu zmieniło?” A nawoływanie Chrystusa: „Nawracajcie się i wierzcie w Ewangelię” (Mt 1,15)

pozostaje nadal zadaniem do wykonania. Jak trudno jest coś zmienić w życiu, jak trudno jest

radykalnie uwierzyć w Ewangelię … Dlaczego? Przecież nie brak mi ani środków, ani możliwości.

Przecież nie jestem ateistą, czy nawet kimś religijnie obojętnym. Przecież wewnętrznie jestem

przekonany o słuszności Ewangelii, o Prawdzie Dobrej Nowiny, tylko … tylko jakiś marazm już dawno

wkradł się w moje życie. Marazm i zniechęcenie, ociężałość i brak dynamizmu. Życie codzienne

arogancko wciska się ze swoimi potrzebami i nakazami, ze swoimi ekonomicznymi „prawami” . I tak

trudno nabrać dystansu, tak trudno oderwać się -chociaż na chwilę- od konieczności robienia

pieniędzy, tak trudno zaryzykować i pójść na całość. Tak trudno w końcu zaufać Chrystusowi, w

Którego przecież wierzę! Ale jakoś tak nijako i bez przełożenia na życie. I powracają pełne wyrzutu

słowa Chrystusa: „Biada tobie, bo gdyby w Tyrze i Sydonie działy się cuda, które u was się dokonały,

już dawno w worze i w popiele by się nawróciły.” (Mt 11:21) Każdy Wielki Post, to kolejna okazja do

wyrwania się z marazmu i nijakości, do krytycznego spojrzenia na swoje życie, do podjęcia na nowo

wysiłku zmiany, nawrócenia, do otrząśnięcia się i rozpoczęcia na nowo. Warto co roku podejmować

taki wysiłek, mimo, że nieraz wydaje się nam, że jest on tak nieefektywny, że skutki są tak mało

widoczne. Warto, bo może bez tych corocznych małych wstrząsów byłoby jeszcze gorzej? Bo może

bez tego corocznego posypania głowy popiołem zapomniałbym w ogóle, że prochem jestem i

wpadłbym w pychę nie do uniesienia? A nie ma nic gorszego dla człowieka niż pełne pychy

przekonanie, że się jest doskonałym i że już nic nie należy zmieniać.

Intencje Mszy Świętej:

11 Luty - ś.p. Maria Kapuścińska, intencja syna z rodziną

ś.p. Bolesław Solarz, intencja syna 12:30 pm

14 Luty – Środa Popielcowa - początek Wielkiego Postu

- w intencjach Bogu wiadomych – Saint Mary 7:30 pm

16 Luty – piątek – Droga Krzyżowa – Saint Mary 7:30 pm

16 Luty – piątek – Msza święta

– w intencjach o nawrócenie i wiarę w ewangelię naszej wspólnoty - Sait Mary 8:00 pm

18 Luty - w 10 rocznica śmierci ś.p. Bolesław Sznajkart , intencja żony z dzićmi

ś.p. Andrzej Wawrzonek, intencja żony i córki 12:30 pm