On Course Chapter 2 Cashdollar revision

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Strategies for Creating Success in College and in

Life

On Course

Chapter 2ACCEPTING PERSONAL

RESPONSIBILITY


ACCEPTING PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY

• Do you accept personal responsibility for creating the life you want?

• Are you a successful student?Have you adopted a creator mindset by believing that

your choices create the outcomes and experiences of your life?

Have you mastered creator language, accepting personal responsibility for the results?

Do you make wise decisions, consciously designing the future you want?


CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTIONSADOPTING A CREATOR MINDSET

• What is self-responsibility?

• Why is it the key to creating the life you want?


THE VICTIM MINDSET• A Victim Mindset causes people to believe that what

happens to them is out of their control, that their outcomes and experiences are determined by such things as luck and other people.

• Read the following statements and decide if they represent someone with a Victim Mindset.

I could never go to college. I don’t even know the first thing about getting started.

I wish the college wasn’t so far from my house. I can’t go to school until I get a car.

I have never filled out a college application, but I can go to the school and ask for help.

Yes

Yes

No


THE CREATOR MINDSET

• A Creator Mindset causes people to believe they control their own destiny by the wisdom of their choices (even though this belief is not always true).

• Read the following statements and decide if they represent someone with a Creator Mindset.

I have never been good in math, so I know I wouldn’t be able to pass the college entrance exam.

My best friend's party is this weekend. I think I will do my homework on Friday instead of on Sunday.

I used all my money paying rent and can’t afford to buy my textbooks. I may have to drop out of college.

No

Yes

No


RESPONSIBILITY AND CHOICEQUOTATION

• “When you make the shift to being the predominate creative force in your life, you move from reacting and responding to the external circumstances of your life to creating directly the life you truly want.” ~Robert L. Fritz

Write about a time when you either did or did not act as if you are the “predominate creative force in your own life.”

How did this choice affect your life?


CRITICAL THINKING: FOCUS QUESTIONMASTERING CREATOR LANGUAGE

• How can you create greater success by changing your vocabulary?


SELF TALK: INNER GUIDE

• The Inner Guide seeks to make the best of any situation and knows that judgments do not improve difficult situations.

Give an example of when you faced a difficult situation and your Inner Guide helped you to make a wise choice.

What was the outcome or experience of your choice?


THE LANGUAGE OF RESPONSIBILITY

• Look over the qualities of Victim and Creator language in the chart below. What are some benefits of using Creator language?

Victim Language Creator Language

Focuses on weaknesses Focuses on how to improve

Makes excuses Seeks solutions

Complains Turns complaints into requests

Compares oneself unfavorably to others

Seeks help from those more skilled

Blames Accepts responsibility

Sees problems as permanent Treats problems as temporary

Repeats ineffective behaviors Does something new

Tries Does

Predicts defeat and give up Thinks positively and looks for a better choice


THE LANGUAGE OF RESPONSIBILITY

Change the following Victim language to Creator language

•Our classroom is so cold, I can’t even concentrate.I don’t want to be distracted by being cold, so I’ll bring an extra sweater to wear during class.

•My roommate bothers me every night and I can’t study. I know my roommate is going to want to talk when I get home, so I’ll study in the library before I leave campus.

•The gym is always so crowded that I can’t work out.The gym has been really crowded the last few times I went, so I am going to go at a different time and see if there are fewer people there then.

•No matter how hard I study, I’m just no good in chemistry. I find chemistry to be challenging, so I’ll go to the chem lab and find out if there’s a tutor who will help me.


THE WISE CHOICE PROCESS

• The Wise Choice Process is a 6 step decision making model that empowers you take full responsibility for creating the life you want.

Step 1: What is my present situation?

Step 2: How would I like my situation to be?

Step 3: What are my possible choices?

Step 4: What is the likely outcome of each possible choice?

Step 5: Which choice(s) will I commit to doing?

Step 6: When and how will I evaluate my plan?


PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY AT WORK

• If you took responsibility for choosing your ideal career, how could you get more information about possible career choices?

• Which of the following would be your first choice for getting information to help you decide on a career? Why?Seek part-time employment doing an entry-level

position in a particular career field.

Talk to others presently in a career field.

Research careers online.

Take a career interest inventory.


THE CURSE OF STINKIN’ THINKIN’

A + B = C (Activating event + Beliefs = Consequences)

Activating Event

Belief Consequence

Which “internal

voice” does this sound

like?

Instructor didn’t show

up for a meeting.

“Instructor thinks I am dumb. I’ll never finish college. I’m a

failure.”

Got depressed and wasted the

evening.

Which “internal

voice” does this sound

like?

Instructor didn’t show

up for a meeting.

“Instructor wont help me.

Instructor doesn’t care.”

Got angry and spent the night complaining to

friends.


STINKIN’ THINKIN’ & STEREOTYPE THREAT

• Using A+B=C when faced with Stereotype Threat

Activating Event

Belief Consequence

Female student taking a

math test.

Women are not good in math. What do you

think the consequence would be in

this scenario?

Female student gets anxious,

distracted and forgets

everything she studied.


DISPUTING IRRATIONAL BELIEFS

• Become familiar with your inner voice Dispute irrational beliefs dealing with the stereotype

threat that “women are bad in math.”

Offer evidence that your

judgments are wrong

Offer a positive explanation of the problem

Question the importance of the problem

Offer a plan to improve the

situation

I did pretty well in high school math and many women have great jobs using math skills

everyday.

When I excel in math, I’ll have

fewer women to compete against

for jobs.

I don’t have to be the smartest woman in the

class, I just have to continue to

learn more everyday.

What would be a good plan to improve the situation?

I’ll study every night, do all

homework, ask questions in class, go to tutoring, and see the instructor

during office hours.


QUICK REVIEW

• The Wise Choice Process has six steps. List as many of them as you can.

What is my present situation?

How would I like my

situation to be?

What are my

possible choices?

What is the likely outcome

of each possible choice?

Which choice will I commit

to doing?

When and how

will I evaluate my plan?


QUICK REVIEW

• Identify each of the following as Inner Critic, Inner Defender or Inner Guide statements

I am failing English because the teacher doesn’t know how to explain things clearly.

My car has a flat tire. I’ll ask John if he can give me a ride to school tomorrow while the tire is being fixed.

I’m too clumsy and slow to be on the soccer team at school; they would laugh at me if I showed up to practice.

I know I won’t get the job I interviewed for; I have never been good at answering questions on the spot.

My math book is horrible, so there’s no way anyone can pass that course.

I know I have a habit of procrastinating, so I’m going straight home today and pay all my bills so I don’t incur late charges.

I know I stutter a lot when I get nervous, so I am going to practice my speech at least one hour every day.

My friend said he would buy my textbooks for class, but he didn’t. Now I’m going to fail and it’s all his fault.

Inner Defender

InnerGuide

InnerCritic

Inner Critic

Inner Defender

Inner Guide

Inner Guide

InnerDefender


QUICK REVIEW

• Identify each of the following as a Victim Mindset or as a Creator Mindset. I’ll never pass math. It’s just too hard.

My study group is a waste of time.

I have a meeting with my teacher to discuss how to improve my grades in English.

My coworkers like to gossip a lot; I need to stay to myself so I can get my work done.

My roommates yell a lot when the football game is on so I can never concentrate on my studies.

Victim

Victim

Victim

Creator

Creator


• People respond differently to certain situations. Identify each part of the “A + B = C formula”

QUICK REVIEW

Activating Event

Consequence

Belief

My instructor didn’t show up for a scheduled meeting.

I’m not sure what went wrong. Sometimes things just don’t turn out the way they were planned.

I need to reschedule with my instructor. Then, I am going to use this time to study for my history class and get ahead in my biology class.

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