Dear Faithful Members of the Good Shepherd Family:

We will gather together for a congregational meeting to discuss our mission of car-ing for each other and the community around us. Our annual stewardship cam-paign will begin with inspi-rational testimony and by celebrating the increase in giving that we experienced over last year which clearly declares that our members do care deeply! Our Fall Harvest festival will be a day of fun and fellowship which will bring church and school families together and enable us to also reach out to the greater community with the message of God’s abundant grace. The next day we will celebrate Refor-mation Sunday, when we will sing Luther’s hymn, “A Mighty Fortress is Our God.” Come to Good Shepherd this October and discover the depth of God’s love for you! Come to Good Shep-herd this October and enter into the joy of caring for others through genuine Christ-centered community. Come to Good Shepherd and let the Good Shepherd take care of you! Tell a friend about this caring place and invite them along! And yes, we’ll make sure to take care of your coffee too! Praise The Lord,

Eric Olaf Olsen,

I remember an experience I had a few years back at a nearby Starbucks. As I made my way to the counter a young woman with a pleasant smile greeted me, took my order, and informed me that the gentleman behind the reg-ister would take care of me. With a smile of my own I said to the young man, “From the time we leave the womb we are all in search of someone or something to take care of us. I am thrilled to learn from your colleague that your divine calling is to take care of me!” The expression on his face was priceless as he stuttered out his reply, “Coffee, coffee- I will take care of your coffee!” We all laughed. While this experience ended in shared laughter, some of that laughter was of the nervous variety. After all… who or what takes care of you? The question is a very per-sonal one to which there are usually many answers de-pending upon the situation. Most of us believe to some extent that we can take care of ourselves, but then we see images of flooding in Upstate NY, in New Jersey, and in Ver-mont in the wake of hurricane Irene. Or we recall our broth-ers and sisters in Japan who are still trying to rebuild after the earthquake, tsunami, and radiological disaster. We think of the millions who are starving in the horn of Africa and the graphic images of chil-dren reduced to skin and bones or worse. We tearfully

remember the young vic-tims of the senseless shoot-ing in Norway. We think of our ill loved ones or our own close calls, our dimin-ishing nest eggs or our own employment insecurity. In this kind of harsh light we reluctantly admit that our self-care plan is limited and that control is illusory. So who or what can take care of us? In baptism God speaks to us and says, “I am the an-swer. I am the One who takes care of you.” Here is where we are claimed as God’s beloved children, marked with the sign of the cross, promised eternal care and protection. Here we receive the Holy Spirit which empowers us to serve and care for others in Jesus’ name. Here our nerv-ous laughter is transformed to joyful shouts of thanks-giving and a resounding amen. We begin this October with the blessing of the ani-mals on Saint Francis’ Day, remembering God’s care for all creatures big and small. All throughout this month we will have the opportu-nity to exercise our care of others by giving generously to help alleviate the starva-tion in Africa. Mid-month we will host Synod Wor-ship Day, displaying to the larger church our care and support of liturgical lead-ers, pastors, and musicians.

G O O D S H E P H E R D L U T H E R A N C H U R C H & S C H O O L

O C T O B E R 2 0 1 1

A M E S S A G E F R O M

O U R P A S T O R

Cast all your Cast all your Cast all your Cast all your

anxiety on Him, anxiety on Him, anxiety on Him, anxiety on Him,

because He cares because He cares because He cares because He cares

for you.for you.for you.for you.

1 Peter 5:7

In baptism God In baptism God In baptism God In baptism God

speaks to us speaks to us speaks to us speaks to us

and says, and says, and says, and says,

“I am the “I am the “I am the “I am the

answer. I am answer. I am answer. I am answer. I am

the One who the One who the One who the One who

takes care of takes care of takes care of takes care of

you.”you.”you.”you.”

Mr. John Schwaninger

When you read this we will have successfully launched our new activity year. We had a successful Rally Day to start a new year of Sunday School. In addition we have started a adult education hour at 8:50 a.m. on Sunday mornings. It will have speakers from civil servants, elected officials, religious leaders, and seasoned educators. I invite all to attend in mind and spirit.

We have closed the books for our fiscal year that ended June 30; the result were good. Our income exceeded our expenses by a sig-nificant amount so that we are able to pay for some of the short fall in past years and necessary expenditures in past years that were not in the budget. Replacement of the boiler in the school last year, past property improvement above and beyond the interest available from the Raubenheimer Fund. and the short fall from the Capital cam-paign of 2003-2008.

Other good news for us to celebrate is that the giving for the year was about 5 % above budgeted. If we continue to grow in our faith, membership, and returning some of the treasure God has given us we will be able to continue to bring our 50+ facility in to good repair, and expand it in order to expand God’s work in the Plain-view area.

Hope you had a great and relaxing summer and are now ready to become active in the work of God’s church here in Plainview.

Love, Peace and Joy.

Did you or someone you know celebrate

an Anniversary? A Birthday? A Promotion? Are you proud of yourself or of someone else?

Let us know what is happening!

Please e-mail any news (good or bad) that you’d like to share with your family in faith by the 15th of each month to:

Church@ourshepherdlives.org

GOOD SHEPHERD LUTHERAN CHURCH & SCHOOL 99 Central Park Road, Plainview, NY 11803

Phone: 516-349-1966 Fax: 516-349-8438 E-mail: church@ourshepherdlives.org Website: www.ourshepherdlives.org

Ministers: The Members of Good Shepherd Reverend Eric O. Olsen, Pastor

Judy R. Hinsch, A.I.M., School Director Teresa Ratkowski, Director of Choir and Organist

Maureen Cooke, Church Secretary/Newsletter Editor Lindsay Kuefner, School Secretary

Ed Indellicati, Accountant/Bookkeeper John E. Menig, Jr., Sexton

Bobby Lang, Sexton

Mr. Wayne Ludewig, Ministry Chairman

Our Property Team is on a constant quest to keep our church, school, and parsonage in the best shape possible. Here are some projects that are in the works:

✛ New windows for the church by the choir and behind the altar are on order and will be installed before the cold sea-son; this will help reduce the heating costs of the church.

✛ New energy-efficient LED lights are being installed in the narthex to help reduce energy consumption. We are also awaiting more donated LED lights for the rest of the church.

✛ As you also may have heard, Pastor Olsen has been a driv-ing force in getting a new air conditioning/heating unit for the church, this will not only make our summer services much more comfortable, but it will also take the chill off of our winter services and will also help to reduce heating costs. This project includes updating tired and worn elec-trical panels in the church boiler room.

Our new landscaper has been doing a wonderful job with the grounds, and we are awaiting his proposal for the new landscape design for the front of the church. This project has taken a little longer than expected, but rest assured, it will be forthcoming. New energy-efficient LED flood lights have been ordered to brighten the front of the church. This will include lighting the longer Good Shepherd sign on the lower front grass, lighting the Good Shepherd School sign by the memorial gar-den, relighting the lower corner sign at the entrance way, relighting the wall of the church with the Good Shepherd and lighting of the crosses in the front of the church. Although we are adding more lights, the use of LED lights will reduce the current consumption we currently have with the mercury vapor lights. We are also planning to replace all of the pe-rimeter lights with energy-efficient LED flood lights. So things will be looking brighter real soon! The front wall of the property has been cleaned and painted thanks to Phil Lorch. We have purchased our own snow blower. This, in com-bination of utilizing our sextons, will help reduce the costs of winter operations. The parsonage is getting some long over-due brick repair as well as some windows that need to be added to the 3rd floor of the residence. A new cellar entrance door is also being installed. The property is a constant work in motion. If you see something on the grounds that needs attention, drop me an email at ex7500@yahoo.com God Bless,

Wayne Ludewig

WEEKLYWEEKLYWEEKLYWEEKLY

GUESTGUESTGUESTGUEST

SPEAKERSSPEAKERSSPEAKERSSPEAKERS

We hope you enjoyed hearing Mr. James E. Picken, Executive Director of the Town of Oyster Bay Housing Authority, speak at our inaugural Adult Education Forum on Sunday, September 25. Upcoming speakers at this 8:50 a.m. program include: October 2 — Reverend William Eschen will discuss the Christian understanding of suffering. October 9 — Reverend William Eschen will discuss Suffering: Moral Masochism vs. Religious Submission. October 16 — Reverends Shinyoung Kim & Akio Iyoda will discuss our Korean Ministry. October 23 — Ms. Jeannie Appleman will discuss LI Can. October 30 — Dr. Jonathan Lindman will discuss our Synod’s Adult Education, Stewardship & Preaching. Please feel free to attend one or all of these meetings, and bring your family & friends. Special thanks to John Hinsch and Kevin Ocker for coordinating this program.

ADULT ADULT ADULT ADULT

EDUCATIONEDUCATIONEDUCATIONEDUCATION

EVERYEVERYEVERYEVERY

SUNDAY @ SUNDAY @ SUNDAY @ SUNDAY @

8:50 a.m8:50 a.m8:50 a.m8:50 a.m

ADULT EDUCATION FORUM

SCENES FROM RALLY DAY 2011SCENES FROM RALLY DAY 2011SCENES FROM RALLY DAY 2011SCENES FROM RALLY DAY 2011

Cathy shared her yoga talents.Cathy shared her yoga talents.Cathy shared her yoga talents.Cathy shared her yoga talents. Wayne brought his humor & bag of tricks.Wayne brought his humor & bag of tricks.Wayne brought his humor & bag of tricks.Wayne brought his humor & bag of tricks. Judy prepares to face paint.Judy prepares to face paint.Judy prepares to face paint.Judy prepares to face paint.

Reverend William Eschen will be officiating at Good Shepherd Lutheran Church’s 10:00 a.m. Sunday services on October 1st and Sunday, October 9th. He will also be leading our Adult Education Forum with a two-part discussion on Suffering: A Pastoral Psychotherapist’s Perspective. Below is a brief description of this lecture: Part 1: What is the Christian understanding of suffering? Does it have value or meaning in Christian life? We will look at two models that Christians use to understand and give meaning to suffer-ing. After a brief presentation the group will be encouraged to engage in dialogue around the issues raised.

Part 2 : Suffering -- moral masochism vs. religious submission. We will discuss the importance of the development of a definition of self and how that task is related to the experience of suffering. As in week one, after a brief presentation, dialogue will be en-couraged. Bill Eschen has been an ordained Lutheran pastor for 27 years and a pastoral psychotherapist for 22 years. He is a native New Yorker and a graduate of Wagner College and Gettysburg Seminary. From 1994 until 2004 he was called by the Metropolitan New York Synod of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America as a pastoral psychotherapist, serving on the Foundation for Re-ligion and Mental Health and at the Psychotherapy and Spirituality Institute. He currently is on staff at Saint Peter's Church in Manhattan as Assistant Pastor for Pastoral Counseling. Pastor Eschen lives in New York with his family and enjoys reading and yoga. He is also an engaged “baseball parent.”

ABOUT REVEREND WILLIAM ESCHEN

OCTOBEROCTOBEROCTOBEROCTOBER

Timothy BetzTimothy BetzTimothy BetzTimothy Betz

Brittany CogginsBrittany CogginsBrittany CogginsBrittany Coggins

Caitlyn Greig Caitlyn Greig Caitlyn Greig Caitlyn Greig ———— Sweet 16 Sweet 16 Sweet 16 Sweet 16

Emily HallEmily HallEmily HallEmily Hall

Lindsay HallLindsay HallLindsay HallLindsay Hall

Andrea Hansen Andrea Hansen Andrea Hansen Andrea Hansen ———— 50 50 50 50

Katie Rae McGowanKatie Rae McGowanKatie Rae McGowanKatie Rae McGowan

William MitzeWilliam MitzeWilliam MitzeWilliam Mitze

Christopher NickelsChristopher NickelsChristopher NickelsChristopher Nickels

Jamie OlanickJamie OlanickJamie OlanickJamie Olanick

Lisa Olsen (September)Lisa Olsen (September)Lisa Olsen (September)Lisa Olsen (September)

Luke OlsenLuke OlsenLuke OlsenLuke Olsen

Aidan Pech Aidan Pech Aidan Pech Aidan Pech ———— 10 10 10 10

Ryan RatkowskiRyan RatkowskiRyan RatkowskiRyan Ratkowski

Teresa RatkowskiTeresa RatkowskiTeresa RatkowskiTeresa Ratkowski

Rodney SchabelRodney SchabelRodney SchabelRodney Schabel

Nick & Lori DeFilippis 21 years on 10/6

Robert & Beverly Strack 26 years on 10/12

Charlie & Helen Kopf 22 years on 10/14

Pastor Eric & Lisa Olsen 16 years on 9/22

In recognition of the Feast Day of St. Francis of Assisi, The Blessing of the Animals, an outdoor worship service, will be held on October 4th. The service recognizes the ideals of St. Francis, one of the most beloved Christian saints. We

will gather at 5:30 p.m. at the school entrance under the awn-ing. Good Shepherd invites all people who love animals, along with all pets and their human friends, to this service, which focuses on God’s gifts of animals, the natu-ral world, and our responsibili-

ties as stewards of God’s creation. If you are interested in attending this service, you need only arrive at Good Shepherd with your pet, on a leash if appropriate. All pets are welcome, but also consider the wisdom of bringing aggressive animals. Large animals are also welcome, but must be led (for example, horses must not be ridden). Or, you may bring a photograph of your animal. Invite your friends and neighbors. This is a fun worship experience for young and old!

Please e-mail all articles for inclusion in the November newsletter

no later than Tuesday, October 18thOctober 18thOctober 18thOctober 18th to

church@ourshepherdlives.orgchurch@ourshepherdlives.orgchurch@ourshepherdlives.orgchurch@ourshepherdlives.org

We raised $21,600 to install the Fujitsu ductless air-conditioning system in the church. The or-der has been placed, and work should start around the beginning of this month. As you

know, this system also provides on-demand heating in the win-tertime. We thank those who contributed for their generos-ity and for caring about the comfort of their family and friends in faith.

OUR SAINTLY “SEW”ERSOUR SAINTLY “SEW”ERSOUR SAINTLY “SEW”ERSOUR SAINTLY “SEW”ERSOUR SAINTLY “SEW”ERSOUR SAINTLY “SEW”ERSOUR SAINTLY “SEW”ERSOUR SAINTLY “SEW”ERS presented

ten quilts at the WELCA Convention to be distributed to local hospitals for babies in need. They also completed the Little Dresses for Africa project on September 21st. Two boxes were mailed to talk show host/project coordi-nator, Nancy Zieman, for shipment to Africa.

Lectio Divina Bible StudyLectio Divina Bible StudyLectio Divina Bible StudyLectio Divina Bible Study Lectio Divina Bible Study Lectio Divina Bible Study Lectio Divina Bible Study Lectio Divina Bible Study meets every Thursday at 10:30 a.m. and 7:30 p.m. Beginning on 10/13 we will be studying Paul's letter to the Romans. Please know that each Lectio Divina Bible Study is open to all and is treated as an individual session. While our hope is that you will become a regular attendee, we under-stand that schedules can sometimes be challeng-ing. Please also know that day and evening study pro-gresses at the same pace so you can come whenever. You are able! See you there!

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F O R O R D A I N E D M I N I S T RF O R O R D A I N E D M I N I S T RF O R O R D A I N E D M I N I S T RF O R O R D A I N E D M I N I S T R YYYY

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O F H E A L I N GO F H E A L I N GO F H E A L I N GO F H E A L I N G

WE PRAY FOR...

Ryan Carey (GSL Student), Howard Wohltjen (Krista Hinsch’s Uncle), Susan Dowd (Maisch family friend), Dorothy Cronin, Martin Boltizar (Louise La-mont’s cousin), Michael Hoops, Ed Tap-pen, Joe Berardino, Eleanor Ulich, Cyn-thia Knotek, Meghan Ortega (Pastor Eric’s niece), Gary Lang (Peggy’s rela-tive), Ed Simmons (Pastor Eric’s friend), Marion Tucker (Nancy’s mother), Sonny Carfora (Ruth Strakele’s sister), Ruth Odwazny, Ryan Faret & his family, Ty-ler LaGois, Genevieve Sounia, Dr. Stanley Bartkow, Joy Parisey (GSL teacher Cindy Cannizzaro’s sister); Susan Boettcher (John McGowan’s sis-ter), Paul Hinsch, John Binsfeld (Benner family friend), Maureen Araujo, Henry Kirschbaum (Lori Tollefsen’s uncle), Jay Boryea (Paul Hinsch’s friend), Ken Dixon (Pastor Eric’s friend), Deb Gebhart (Ruff Family Friend), Sven Faret (Gunhild Schabel’s son), Reverend Patricia Large (Lori Mason’s cousin), Diane Lisa (Cathy Vollono’s friend), Janice Ridings (Rickmeyer family friend), Francis Lee (Helen Kopf’s son), Lynne Carlson (Irma’s daughter-in-law), Mary Ellen Moyse (George’s wife), Don and Francine Unger (Katalina Paterakis’s grandparents), Joyce Tare, Jake (Maisch family friend) and his fam-ily, Ian Spadaro (Dottie’s grandson), James Fields (Vincent and Dorothy Cro-nin’s nephew), Richard Karl (Naomi Pfund’s friend), Mary Gessing (Dorothy and Vincent Cronin’s cousin), Rita Cun-ningham (Cronin family friend), and Diane & Chris Cucci (Naomi Pfund’s stu-dent).

T H O S E S E R V I N GT H O S E S E R V I N GT H O S E S E R V I N GT H O S E S E R V I N G

I N T H E M I L I T A R YI N T H E M I L I T A R YI N T H E M I L I T A R YI N T H E M I L I T A R Y

USMC Lance Corporal Nicholas Ventrelli-O’Connell (Patty Larson’s family friend), David Jacobs (Joyce Tare’s nephew, Alec & Madison’s cousin), CPT. Paul Rickmeyer, Major Phillip Sounia, MSgt. Richard Miranda, Christopher Zito (Mary Knotek’s friend), Sgt. Vincent Mezick, Spe-cialist Sean Hassett (Lori Mason’s cousin).

Roger Griffith

The friends & family of Ed Lennon, Rose Bigam, Richard Werner, and David Zinkham.

T H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V IT H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V IT H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V IT H O S E W H O A R E G R I E V I N GN GN GN G

T H O S E W H O A R ET H O S E W H O A R ET H O S E W H O A R ET H O S E W H O A R E

C E L E B R A T I N GC E L E B R A T I N GC E L E B R A T I N GC E L E B R A T I N G

The Ludewig family celebrated Maximilian James’s baptism on Sunday, September 25th.

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FALL HARVEST FESTIVAL

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 29

NOON – 4:00 P.M. We are planning to have a Fall Harvest Festival on Saturday, October 29th

with a rain date of Sunday, October 30. This festival will feature:

✛ A children’s costume parade

✛ Pumpkin painting

✛ Tattoo & face painting

✛ Scarecrow making

✛ (hopefully) Pony rides

✛ Apple pie baking contest

✛ Farmers’ market (fresh produce)

(John Meyer & Lori DeFilippis are coordinating this)

✛ Bake Sale

We would like each committee and any individual who wishes to donate a

theme basket for a raffle prize. We hope to have at least a dozen or so

baskets to be raffled off at this event.

Please consider making something for the bake sale as well. We would like

every school family & church member to be involved. Karin Fey, who is a

parent leader in the school, is serving as coordinator for this event.

Please let us know if you would like to contribute, please call the church

office at 349-1966 or e-mail church@ourshepherlives.org, indicating your

contribution from your committee or individual(s).

Thank You!

Good Shepherd Lutheran School has a new

fundraising project and a way for you

to help us put our “face” out in the community!

There are two different tote bags to choose from.

Both are Royal Blue with the logos and writing in White.

They measure a roomy 13”x15” by 10” deep.

The options are the “Sheep” Logo or the “Shepherd” Logo,

both with Good Shepherd’s name and address.

Bags may be purchased in the school office

or in the church narthex on Sundays through Judy.

$3 each

or

4 for $10

UPDATE FOR OCTOBER 2011

WITH COUNSELING SITES LOCATED IN: NASSAU SUFFOLK MANHATTAN QUEENS WESTCHESTER

Prepared especially for LCC Association Congregations & Schools

The transition from being the parent of a teenager to being the parent of a young adult seems to happen overnight. For parents, this

important step can involve both joyous and painful feelings. “Letting go” may be difficult for any mother or father, regardless of whether you

have stayed at home, worked part-time or worked full-time while your children were grow-ing up.

The sense of loss when one’s child leaves home is often not understood or shared by oth-

ers, even those who have gone through the same experience. You may hear cliches such as “they’ll be back” or “you can always e-mail

them”. Although these comments are meant to cheer you up, they totally miss the point. The physical presence of your child will be missed.

Just as the small losses you felt while your child was growing up, such as loss of babyhood, the ultimate trust of a toddler, or the many gradua-

tions through school were all indications of a necessary and desirable goal of independence, the loss you now feel is a necessary part of this

transition as well. If your relationship with your adult child is not a good one, guilt and regret may be overwhelming. If so, reach out for pro-

fessional help for yourself and if possible, for the two of you. A common situation is the adult child who

leaves but returns home, sometimes over and over again. Although it can be positive in some ways, it also means that you will eventually

have to say goodbye again and that you don’t have the complete freedom you may have been anticipating. In addition, when an adult child

returns home, your relationship with him or her must change and new boundaries may need to be set.

For couples, readjustment to being alone again once your adult child has moved out can add a lot of pressure on a marriage. You may

feel that you have very little in common with your spouse if you have not maintained a close relationship. It is vitally important to rekindle

friendship with your spouse if need be and to work on strengthening your marriage. Share feelings and memories and laugh together. The

following recommendations may be helpful dur-ing this transition phase:

✛ Acknowledge your loss and allow yourself to feel sad even if those around you do not understand.

✛ Perform a ritual that would better help you

to accept the change, such as repainting

your child’s old room, making a scrapbook or planting a tree.

✛ Think about future plans and any changes you would like to make in your life or ca-

reer. Discuss them with your spouse or friends.

✛ Share your feelings of loss with your spouse or with friends, if single, and make plans to do fun things together; plan

‘dates’, schedule a fun weekend, suggest spontaneous things also.

✛ Fill your free time with meaningful activi-

ties: volunteer, take a course, keep a jour-nal.

✛ Work hard to establish a good rapport with your adult children. Let them know that they are free to fulfill their own dreams and

give them the space they need. ✛ If your adult child returns home, have a

frank discussion about respecting each other, any ‘house rules’ that apply and need for boundaries. Give privacy, but

don’t compromise your own values. You have the right to decide what behaviors are not allowed in your home.

Seek professional help if, after 18 months, you are still markedly unhappy or if you and

your spouse are becoming more distant and not addressing necessary issues.

If you or someone you know is in need of counseling support for this or any other mental health issue, please call the Lu-

theran Counseling Center at 516-741-0994 or 1-800-317-1173 or e-mail us at Cen-ter@lccny.org. LCC has seven counseling

sites over the New York metropolitan and surrounding area.

THE EMPTY NEST SYNDROME: A TIME OF TRANSITION

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October 1 & 2 Sixteenth Sunday After Pentecost

5:30 p.m. no 8:00 a.m. service 10:00 a.m.

Volunteer Needed Marilyn Benner

Volunteer Needed John Hinsch

October 8 & 9 Seventeenth Sunday After Pentecost

5:30 p.m. no 8:00 a.m. service 10:00 a.m.

Volunteer Needed Dell-Ann Benson

Volunteer Needed Miranda Benson

Volunteer Needed Adriana Vollono

October 15 & 16 Eighteenth Sunday After Pentecost

5:30 p.m. 8:00 a.m. 10:00 a.m.

Volunteer Needed Volunteer Needed Terry Miccio

Volunteer Needed Volunteer Needed Richard Benson

Volunteer Needed Volunteer Needed Michaela Pietrofere

October 22 & 23 Nineteenth Sunday After Pentecost

5:30 p.m. 8:00 a.m. 10:00 a.m.

Volunteer Needed Volunteer Needed Anne Rickmeyer

Volunteer Needed Volunteer Needed Marilyn Benner

Volunteer Needed Volunteer Needed Danielle Vollono

October 29 & 30 Reformation Sunday

5:30 p.m. 8:00 a.m. 10:00 a.m.

Volunteer Needed Volunteer Needed Lori Mason

Volunteer Needed Volunteer Needed Danielle Vollono

Volunteer Needed Volunteer Needed Robby Pietrofere

Volunteer Needed Zachary Vollono