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RESPONSIBILITYRESPONSIBILITYUnion ElementaryUnion Elementary

Kathy SandersKathy Sanders

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Jeanne & JohnnyJeanne & Johnny

Obedience Responsible

Obedience vs. Responsibility

Obedience: the child is expected to do what he/she is told.

The decision and motivation come from outside the child.

Responsibility: Involves the child’s acceptance of the task and motivation for finishing the job.

Components of Responsibility Understanding a task (Make sure you are clear in what is expected)

Acceptance of the task (need to be clear of if this is a choice)

Ability to motivate(needs to shift from external to internal)

3 Things Parents Can Do to Help 3 Things Parents Can Do to Help their Children become Responsibletheir Children become Responsible

Teach your child the ability to make decisionsTeach your child the ability to make decisions

Teach your child to problem solveTeach your child to problem solve

Let them experience consequencesLet them experience consequences

Responsible Students are Responsible Students are Self-MotivatedSelf-Motivated

Shift from External to Shift from External to InternalInternal motivation motivation Introduce long term goalsIntroduce long term goals Believe in the goalBelieve in the goal Divide task into small stepsDivide task into small steps

““The best predictor of personal and The best predictor of personal and professional success is the parents’ wisdom in professional success is the parents’ wisdom in

guiding the development of those talents.guiding the development of those talents.

Help Your Child Develop Special TalentsHelp Your Child Develop Special Talents Dreams are motivatingDreams are motivating Encourage your child to become self-disciplinedEncourage your child to become self-disciplined Encourage a talent but not forceEncourage a talent but not force Children 10 yrs. and younger need parents to help Children 10 yrs. and younger need parents to help

them practice & study them practice & study Provide appropriate rewardsProvide appropriate rewards

Nurture Your Child’s Desire to LearnNurture Your Child’s Desire to Learn Create a Home with StandardsCreate a Home with Standards

Regular routinesRegular routines Regular ConversationsRegular Conversations Family MeetingsFamily Meetings

Discuss values and solve problemsDiscuss values and solve problems Share successesShare successes

You are the ModelYou are the Model

Be a model learnerBe a model learner Show your Child that Learning Can be FunShow your Child that Learning Can be Fun Stay Involved in Your Child’s SchoolStay Involved in Your Child’s School

Habits of Highly Responsible Students!Habits of Highly Responsible Students!1.1. They set Goals!They set Goals!

2.2. They plan their time!They plan their time!

3.3. They study every day!They study every day!

4.4. They are prepared! (Have tools they need)They are prepared! (Have tools they need)

5.5. They keep their commitments!They keep their commitments!

6.6. They are self-discipline!They are self-discipline!

The Secrets of SuccessThe Secrets of Success 5 Steps to Help Accomplish Nearly Anything5 Steps to Help Accomplish Nearly Anything

1.Make a conscious decision to do something -- 1.Make a conscious decision to do something -- 25%25%

2. Decide when they will be done2. Decide when they will be done --40%--40% 3. Plan3. Plan

--50%--50% 4. Commit & tell Someone4. Commit & tell Someone --65%--65% 5. Set a Goal (short- term)5. Set a Goal (short- term)

--95%--95%

Results of ConferencesResults of Conferences

Identify an area that needs improvement!Identify an area that needs improvement! See HandoutsSee Handouts

21 Days21 Days

Experts say that if we repeat an action every Experts say that if we repeat an action every day for just 21 days, it is likely to become day for just 21 days, it is likely to become automatic!automatic!

I CanI Can is More Important than IQ is More Important than IQ

Visualize SuccessVisualize Success Read About Successful PeopleRead About Successful People Encourage to “do their best”Encourage to “do their best”

THANK You for Coming! THANK You for Coming!