Nonviolent Communication Deck — Words for Feelings ...
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AfraidApprehensiveDreadForebodingFrightenedMistrustfulPanickyPetrifiedScaredSuspiciousTerrifiedWaryWorried
AnnoyedAggravatedDismayedDisgruntledDispleasedExasperatedFrustratedImpatient
IrritatedIrked
AngryEnragedFuriousIncensedIndignantIrateLividOutragedResentful
AversionAnimosityAppalledContemptDisgustedDislikeHateHorrifiedHostileRepulsed
ConfusedAmbivalentBaffledBewilderedDazedHesitantLostMystifiedPerplexedPuzzledTorn
DisconnectedAlienatedAloofApatheticBoredColdDetachedDistantDistractedIndifferent
NumbRemovedUninterestedWithdrawn
DisquietAgitatedAlarmed[Concerned]DiscombobulatedDisconcertedDisturbed[Indecisive]PerturbedRattledRestlessShockedStartledSurprisedTroubledTurbulentTurmoil
UncomfortableUneasyUnnervedUnsettledUpset
EmbarrassedAshamedChagrined[Disappointed]FlusteredGuiltyMortifiedSelf-Conscious
FatigueBeatBurnt OutDepletedExhaustedLethargicListlessSleepy
TiredWearyWorn Out
PainAgony[Alienated]AnguishedBereavedDevastatedGriefHeartbrokenHurtLonelyMiserableRegretfulRemorseful
SadDepressedDejectedDespairDespondent
DiscouragedDisheartenedForlornGloomyHeavy HeartedHopelessMelancholyUnhappyWretched
TenseAnxious[Cautious][Conflicted]CrankyDistressedDistraughtEdgyFidgetyFrazzledIrritableJittery
NervousOverwhelmedRestlessStressed Out
VulnerableFragileGuardedHelpless[In a Stew]InsecureLeeryReservedSensitiveShaky
YearningEnviousJealousLongingNostalgicPiningWistful
AffectionateCompassionateFriendlyLovingOpen HeartedSympatheticTender[Touched]Warm
EngagedAbsorbedAlertCurious
EngrossedEnchantedEntrancedFascinatedInterestedIntriguedInvolvedSpellboundStimulated
HopefulExpectantEncouragedOptimistic
Confident[Clever]EmpoweredOpenProudSageSecure
ExcitedAmazedAnimatedArdentArousedAstonished
DazzledEagerEnergeticEnthusiasticGiddyInvigoratedLively PassionateSurprisedVibrant
GratefulAppreciativeMoved
ThankfulTouched
InspiredAmazedAwedWonder
JoyfulAmusedDelightedGladHappyJubilant
PleasedTickled
ExhilaratedBlissfulEcstaticElatedEnthralledExuberantRadiantRapturousThrilled
PeacefulCalmClear HeadedComfortableCenteredContentEquanimousFulfilledMellowQuietRelaxedRelievedSatisfied
SereneStillTranquilTrusting
RefreshedEnlivenedRejuvenatedRenewedRestedRestoredRevived
Nonviolent Communication Deck — Words for FeelingsFeelings we may have when our needs are not satisfied
Feelings we may have when our needs are satisfied
ConnectionAcceptance[Acknowledgement]AffectionAppreciationBelonging[Consideration]CooperationCommunicationClosenessCommunityCompanionshipCompassionConsiderationConsistencyEmpathy[Honoring Agreements]
InclusionIntimacy[Kindness]LoveMutualityNurture[Recognition]RespectSelf-RespectSecurity[Shared Reality][Sharing]StabilitySupport[Tenderness] [To Explore & Honor My Values]To Know & Be Known
To See & Be Seen [To be Seen for My True Intentions][Transparency]TrustWarmth
Physical Well-BeingFood, Water, Air, ShelterPhysical Movement Exercise[Pleasure]Rest & SleepSexual ExpressionSafety[Solitude]Touch
HonestyAuthenticityIntegrityPresence
Play[Fun]JoyHumor[Laughter]
PeaceBeautyCommunionEaseEqualityHarmonyInspirationOrder
AutonomyChoice[Fairness & Justice]FreedomIndependence[Interdependence][Power with]SpaceSpontaneity
Meaning[Accomplishment]AwarenessCelebrationChallengeClarityCompetenceConsciousness
To ContributeCreativityDiscoveryEfficacyEffectiveness[Expression][Grieving]HopeLearning & GrowthMourning [Loss]ParticipationPurposeSelf-ExpressionSensory StimulationTo MatterUnderstanding[Visions & Dreams]
Nonviolent Communication Deck — Needs Inventory A starting place to find support & facilitate greater understanding
Empathy Buddy GuidelinesEmpathy, in NVC, is first and foremost about holding presence for another person. This exercise is designed to recharge our “empathy batteries.”1. Review potential Empathy Blockers, and agree that during this time each person will
hold the intention of not responding from one of these blockers. (Blockers are things like advising, educating, one-upping, consoling, sympathizing, story-telling, shutting down, interrogating, correcting, reassuring, denial of feelings, minimizing, diagnosing, and analyzing.)
2. Each person will have _____ minutes of uninterrupted time to talk or just be. The Listener’s task is to be present for the whole unbroken person who is inside their Buddy, the Speaker.
3. The Speaker lay down Feelings Cards that match their current inner experience as they share about what’s feeling alive in them.
4. In response, the Listener lays down Needs Cards they are guessing might be connected to the Feelings Cards in front of them: “Are you feeling ____ because of the need for ______?” (Guesses are intuitive offerings, not hypotheses.)
5. When a variety of Needs Cards are laid down, the Speaker selects the Needs Cards that most resonate for them in that moment.
6. The process ends with Listener asking, “What request do you have for yourself? What request do you have for me?”
7. The Speaker and Listener switch roles and repeat the process.
Empathy Buddy Guidelines have been adapted from a process developed by the Maine NVC Network: www.mainenvcnetwork.org.
The words and phrases for needs and feelings on this sheet and the enclosed deck are from the Center for Nonviolent Communication, © 2005:[email protected]+1 505.244.4041
Words in [brackets] are additions from the Maine NVC Network.
Artwork: DontEatThePaste.com
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Feelings & NeedsCARDS