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LAURA

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my note to you

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Hi! My name is Laura. I am humbled that

you have allowed me into this space with

you. Thank you so much for taking the time

to get to know me. I want you to know that I

have tremendous love and respect for your

journey. It takes great courage and strength

to make such an important decision. Your

thoughtfulness and dedication show the

immense love you have for your child. No

matter what you decide, your choice will be

the right choice!

Honestly, my life did not work out the way

I thought it would. No matter how a child

finds me, I am excited to be a mom because

it has been the desire of my heart since I was

young. There has been no better time in my

life for me to enter this journey and I’m so

very ready to take on being a mommy with

a heart that is wide open and prepared to

love a child fully and unconditionally. This is

not the most traditional way to motherhood

but if you choose adoption, we can support

each other and do this together.

Thank you again for getting to know me. I

am thinking about you and praying for you

every day. I won’t pretend that I know all

the emotions you are feeling and I will not

underestimate how uncomfortable this is

for you. I know that this is a big life decision

and I am here for you as you navigate this

journey. I want to learn all about you and

your dreams for your child if that is your

desire. I am here to support you no matter

what happens.

hello S O N I C E T O “ M E E T ” Y O U

L O V E ,

laura

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I grew up in a small town outside of Philadelphia, Pennsylvania with my mom, dad and younger

brother, Tim. I am an incredibly social person and also have lots of hobbies that I enjoy filling my

time with! I LOVE to read, which has been one of my favorite activities since being a little girl. I

already have a large children’s book collection started and cannot wait to read to my child everyday.

Listening to all kinds of music is also one of my favorite activities, and I’m known for breaking out into

song, even at work, where my coworkers will usually all join me! Creating and making things brings

me a lot of joy, and some of the ways I express myself artistically are sewing, scrapbooking, painting,

and building things. I usually give away my creations, but recently I have been sewing baby items like

bibs, burp cloths, and blankets, and have been painting nursery decorations.

When I’m spending time with friends, it’s usually going on shopping trips, taking walks, having movie

nights and game nights, having dinners out, going bowling, and playing mini golf. Although I am

single and do not have children yet, I have an amazing network of family and friends who

support me in my decision to adopt and raise a child. With an open heart, a strong spirit, and

unwavering commitment, I am ready and eager to share all of the ups and downs and little moments

along the way as I welcome a child into my life.

about me

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“With an open heart, a strong spirit, and unwavering commitment, I am ready and eager to share all of the ups and downs and little moments along the way as I welcome a child into my life.”

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why i am adoptingAs a child, my heart’s desire was to be a mom. Not finding the right person to marry

and struggling with fertility issues for five years have been a couple curves on my road

to becoming a mother. After a lot of prayer, I’m confident this is the way I was meant to

begin my family. Once I became determined in my choice to adopt, everything began

fitting into place. When I shared my desire to adopt with my friends and family, they met

my news with tons of prayer and encouragement. I have an incredible village of family and friends to walk through this journey with me and support me and my child.

I am excited to raise my child, and give them a loving home to grow up in. I want to be

there for them in the good times and the hard times, support their imagination, show

them that they can be anything they set their heart to, and love them unconditionally. I

am fully prepared to provide for my child emotionally, financially, physically and in every

other way to care for them.

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“I am excited to raise my child, and give

them a loving home to grow up in.”

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meet laura

I have helped care for children all my life. In my teenage years I was the favorite

neighborhood babysitter, and as a young adult I worked as a nanny for years and learned a

lot about different parenting styles which helped me explore how I want to parent my own

child. A lot of the children I have watched are still a major part of my life, and I am thrilled

seeing how excited they are for me to have a child!

I am even around babies in my job, which is a Unit Coordinator in the mother/baby unit of

our local hospital. My job is flexible, family friendly, has stability, amazing benefits and gives

me financial security.

My mom and best friend Tabatha are the closest people to me. My mom has been so

helpful and knowledgeable in helping me prepare to become a mom and prepare our

lives for the blessing of a child. Tabatha is more like a sister to me than a friend. Her

daughter calls me “Aunt Lawa,” and is excited to meet my baby. Tabatha is the first person

I share exciting news with and I’m thrilled that her and my mom can walk this journey of

motherhood with me.

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why I want to be a parentI dream about helping my child learn and grow into a healthy and happy adult. I dream about family vacations, new holiday traditions, seeing them off to kindergarten and then off to college. I am excited to be the person they turn to as they navigate their way through childhood

and adolescence. There are many cultural experiences I want to show them and experience with

them, including museums, plays, concerts, and musicals! I look forward to providing a spiritual

foundation for my child so that they can grow in their own faith.

MY FRIENDS WOULD DESCRIBE ME AS: Thoughtful, patient, fun-loving, outgoing, optimistic, full of hope, inspiring.

FAVORITE BOOK: Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban.

IDEAL VACATION: The British Isles: Ireland, Scotland, Wales and England.

FAVORITE MEMORY: My dad, brother, and I watching our beloved Phillies win the 2008 World Series together with our families and friends.

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5 values I want to teach my child

HONESTY That even if it is not easy, honesty is the best policy

JUSTICE To be sorry and to make amends when they have wronged others

DETERMINATION To encourage them to try things that don’t come easy to

them and praise them when they try

CONSIDERATION That kind words or actions can make another person smile

and feel better and that when we are nice to others, they will be nice to us

LOVE To say “I Love You” and give many hugs and kisses -- that we can show

love through gestures and kind acts

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I live in the suburbs of Pennsylvania in a cute, cozy, and bright rancher. My home has three

bedrooms, two bathrooms, a large family room to play in and a full basement. There is a large

backyard with big trees and lots of space for running and playing games. The deck off of the

house is also a perfect spot for family picnics. I have started the nursery which is right next to

my room. So far it is filled with grey, peach, and mint colors with tons of light, a bassinet, and

other newborn necessities.

My home is the meeting place for my family and friends, and I already have lots of kid’s stuff

for little visitors, including a kiddie pool in the backyard. I enjoy entertaining at my home and

making meals for family and friends, and hosting movie nights and game nights.

The neighborhood is surrounded by parks, playgrounds, shopping centers, libraries, pools,

museums, zoos, trains, historical towns and sites, national parks, trails, family run farm

markets, orchards, theatres, beaches, community events, and rivers. It is such a varied and diverse area. We have the best of both worlds -- there is lots of wildlife nearby, but we

can also take a day trip to New York City!

my home

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“My home is the meeting place for my family and friends”

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I am extremely close to my family. Two of the most difficult events in my life have been the

passing of my brother, Tim, in 2009 after a long illness, and losing my dad suddenly in 2016.

Because of these losses, I have learned to treasure people in my life and live life to the fullest.

My mom is one of the closest people to me, and we miss my dad and brother terribly. We

share a home, and she can’t wait to be a grandmother. I love that she will be a daily part of

my child’s life.

I have a large extended family with 14 aunts and uncles, 18 cousins, and 23 second cousins

(who call me Aunt Laura!). We are a fun, dynamic, loving, supportive bunch. I grew up

spending time with my cousins going to the lake, having picnics at my uncle’s house and

going to parties for our birthdays. My favorite family childhood memory is helping my

grandmother make our traditional “Italian Holiday Soup” which we serve at all family dinners.

Most of my extended family lives close by and their prayers and support on this journey to

motherhood are so special to me.

My family and friends are my village! They are some of the most supportive and amazing people I have ever known. I can think of no greater support to help me as a mother. They

are so excited and can’t wait to welcome my future child.

my family

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“They are so excited and can’t wait to welcome my future child.”

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my village

MY BEST FRIEND, TABATHA H

“Laura will make a great Mama because she is caring

and loving. She is great with kids and my daughter

loves her Aunt Laura. She has such a big heart. We

are proud to be a help to Laura and support her as she

undertakes the joys of motherhood.”

MY MOM, SANDY W

“My daughter, Laura, is a very compassionate and

loving person. She is kind and gentle with children and

is patient while explaining things on their level. She is

creative and makes homemade toys or games that will

challenge a child to learn new skills. She is going to be a wonderful mother, and I am excited to be a help to her!”

MY AUNT, CARRIE W

“Laura will be the kind of mom that everyone wishes they had. She prides herself on family and togetherness.

She would show her child that there are a lot of things

to explore outside of the home, such as vacations and

trips that will be learning experiences. She is a very

true and honest person. If discipline would be needed

it would be done with compassion and love. She always

has a bright smile and enjoys laughing. Happy times

will always be presented to her child. “

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MY AUNT, KATHY W

“Laura is a giving person who is loved by the children she was a nanny for, as well as the children in her family. She continues to attend their concerts, school

activities, birthday parties and Christmas celebrations.

Laura has taken them to local fairs and to the beach.

They look forward to spending time with her and in

return, has earned the well-deserved title of Aunt Laura.”

MY COUSIN, KERRI M

“Laura will make a great mom because she will do

anything for her family. Not only is she loving and selfless but she is the backbone to keeping all of our family traditions alive. I’ll never forget when I got

married and she gave me the greatest gift of our family

recipes handed down from generation to generation.

Or the year she started a family white elephant gift

exchange which resulted in the family laughing until we

cried. I can’t wait to see Laura share these amazing family

moments with her child and create new traditions.”

MY FRIEND, LUJEAN B

“I have known Laura for over 25 years. She was our first

and number one caretaker for our children when we

needed to do something without them. Because of her

caring and great personality, she has remained a part of

our lives and we consider her a member of our family.

She is a vivacious, loving, and generous person who attracts and engages with children easily. She is

attentive to the needs of others and is unselfish in every

way. We are all looking forward to her adopting a child.

She will be a wonderful mother in many ways.”

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MY FRIENDS, STEVE B AND JOANNE B

“My husband Steve has known Laura his entire life as

his babysitter and now our dear friend, someone we

consider part of our family. Throughout our entire

relationship, we have known her to be hard working,

responsible, resourceful, compassionate, and devoted

to her loved ones. She has shown strength through

the trials of life and a wonderful sense of humor (two

qualities which are sure to be an asset in parenting)!

Since she began the adoption process, we have seen the great amount of love, thoughtfulness, and care she has put into getting ready for a little one.”

MY FRIEND, GRACE W

“My first memory of Laura is her peeking her head

around a chair to find me giggling in the corner during

a game of hide-and-seek. Whenever my parents would

go out while I was growing up, Laura would come over

and watch me and my two siblings. We were never disappointed to hear that she would be watching us for the night, knowing all the fun that would be had. When I was in high school, she always came to

my concerts and was so supportive of me every step

of the way. Now that I’m in my third year of college and

helping her get ready for adoption, I think back on all

these memories and I have no doubt that she would

make a great mom.”

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“My child will be

loved by so many!”

MOM AND I AT DISNEYLAND IN CALIFORNIA

MOM AND I SEEING HELLO DOLLY AT

THE ACADEMY OF MUSIC IN PHILLY

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before you goI hope my profile gives you a sense of who I am and the life of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

I would provide a child. I am so thankful for a large ‘village’ to be there too! I hope

you were able to learn more about me, but I wanted to let you know again how much

I respect you and that I am here supporting and praying for you as you continue this

journey. If you do choose to place your child, I pray that you choose the family that you

feel most connected to. It must feel weird to have to read through these profiles but

know that it is your right to make whatever decision you need to!

I want to share with you the things that I am committing to do:

• They will know who you are, where they came from and all about your

courage and deep love for them.

• I will always be there to wipe their tears, kiss their boo boos, listen and hug tightly.

• I will teach them to love with their whole hearts, to be honest, and will

encourage them to try new things.

• I will allow them the space to creatively explore the world and encourage

their imaginations to grow.

• They will always know they are loved unconditionally by a powerful village

of family and friends.

• They will be around a group of wonderful male influences who are good

role models and will support them as they grow.

• They will live in a home where they always feel safe and accepted.

• They will grow up knowing I have their back and will support them in

achieving their dreams.

• We will have fun – dance around the living room with loud music, have

family game nights, be silly and laugh lots!

• They will be provided with a strong, biblical foundation on which to build

their own faith and foster a relationship with God.

• I will encourage your child to have a servant’s heart and find joy in helping

others in need.

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K I N D R E D + C O. | W W W.K I N D R E D A N D.C O

When things are hard or something upsets me, I find comfort in laughter. Friends, The Office and The Big Bang Theory are my go to happy shows. Not long after my brother passed away, my friends Tabby, Lauren and Jenny came

over to hang out with me. They knew that laughter and just being there for me would help and it did. That day we laughed and then cried from laughing so hard at Rachel and Joey and Monica and Chandler and Phoebe and Ross.

“We were on a break”, “Joey doesn’t share food” and “How you doin’” were our favorite quotes from that day but I still belly laugh when I remember Phoebe changing her name to Princess Consuela Bananahammock!! Laughter can

be the best medicine when times are tough. I pray this helps to support and comfort you. I hope we get a chance to meet because I would love to go on

this journey with you and have the opportunity to be an encouragement to you. It would be amazing. You are Amazing!

WITH LOVE,

Laura