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DISCLAIMER:

– All the event, examples and issues shared are imaginary OR based on the book. Significance with any individual or event is not intentional

– If it is helpful silently implement it and enjoy

OBJECTIVE

• To share some of the differences between Man and Women so that relationship with each other can be more effective.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

• John Gray (born December 28, 1951) is an American relationship counselor, lecturer and author

• In 1992 he published the book Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus• He has written 17 books on relationships and personal growth

WHAT MOTIVATED TO WRITE THE BOOK? • Pregnancy• Pills• Nobody cares for the pain• Heated communication• I need your company

FLOW OF THE PRESENTATION• Mr. Fix-It and the Home-Improvement Committee• Men Go to Their Caves and Women Talk • How to Motivate the Opposite Sex • Speaking Different Languages • Men Are Like Rubber Bands • Women Are Like Waves • Discovering Our Different Emotional Needs • How to Avoid Arguments

MEN ARE FROM MARS WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS • Past• REMEMBERING OUR DIFFERENCES

MR. FIX-IT AND THE HOME-IMPROVEMENT COMMITTEE • Complaint:

– men don't listen and– offering solution

• Man:– Confused when she doesn't appreciate this gesture of love.

• IDIOT:– She wants empathy and not solutions

MR. FIX-IT AND THE HOME-IMPROVEMENT COMMITTEE • Complaint:

– Women are always trying to change them – When a woman loves a man..

• She feels responsible to assist him in growing and tries to help him improve the way he does things

• Woman:– Why he gets angry????

• IDIOT:– He thinks, he is getting controlled

MR. FIX-IT AND THE HOME-IMPROVEMENT COMMITTEE • Root cause:

– WE ON MARS :• Martians value power, competency, efficiency, and achievement • more interested in "objects" and "things" rather than people and feelings • Achieving goals is very important (Competence) • No advice / Expert advice

MR. FIX-IT AND THE HOME-IMPROVEMENT COMMITTEE • Root cause:

– LIFE ON VENUS :• They value love, communication, beauty, and relationships • They experience fulfilment through sharing and relating • A sign of great love is to offer help and assistance to another Venusian

without being asked

LEARNING

• GIVE UP GIVING ADVICE • LEARNING TO LISTEN

MEN GO TO THEIR CAVES AND WOMEN TALK • Stress:

– Men: Feels better by solving problem– Women: Feels better by talking about problems

MEN GO TO THEIR CAVES AND WOMEN TALK • COPING WITH STRESS ON MARS :

– Never talks about what is bothering him • Feels better by solving problem by own (Private cave)• Occupy mind with other stuff• Shares only if he needs expert advice

MEN GO TO THEIR CAVES AND WOMEN TALK • COPING WITH STRESS ON VENUS:

– seeks out someone she trusts and then talks in great detail about the problems of her day • Sharing considered as a love and trust not Burden • Feels good about herself when someone listen 100%

LEARNING

• When men will be in stress :They will love to be alone• When Women will ne in stress: They will love to share in detail to someone

who listen

HOW TO MOTIVATE THE OPPOSITE SEX • WHEN A MAN LOVES A WOMAN:

– Win/lose philosophy : All the games – Winning is important– Want to be hero/ appreciation

HOW TO MOTIVATE THE OPPOSITE SEX • WHEN A WOMAN LOVES A MAN:

– feel supported by someone who cares. – Want to make him perfect/ better– Want to be No. 1

LEARNING

• Appreciation / Learn to give• Hero Vs. No. 1

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