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MARRIED LIFE
April 15th: Crazy LoveApril 22nd: Broken VesselsApril 29th: The Little Things We DoMay 6th: The Devil Made Me Do ItMay 13th: PrayerMay 20th: Thunder & LightningMay 27th: The Little ThingsJune 3rd: Journey With PurposeJune 10th: Learning to Love
I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS
A. Quirks(“an individual peculiarity of character; mannerism or foible”)
• What are yours? Your Spouses?• How much does it bother you?• What distorted conclusions do
up come to?• WHY?
I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS
B. Taboo TopicsWhat happens when they are not discussed?
• What are yours? Your Spouses?
• Why are they taboo?• How do you discuss
them?
I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS
C. The Pace of Life• Are you a reactor or actor?• Are you intentional?• How well to you find
balance in your life?
I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS
D. Speculation… DestroysThoughts flow downhill like water
• What are the stories you make up in your head about your spouses Behaviors? Intentions? Feelings?
• How much do you expect your spouse to “read your mind”?
I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS
E. Family Viruses
• What are your viruses? • Your Spouses?• What have you not dealt
with in yourself that you learned from parents?
• WHY?
I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS
F. Boundaries• Genesis 2:21 - Family• Luke 10 – Good Samaritan• Galatians 6:22; 6:5 – Boulders vs.
Knapsacks
• How clear are your family boundaries?
• Work boundaries? Ministry boundaries?
• Does your spouse feel respected? Honored? Cherished – by how you protect your time intimacy?
POINT 1: Tend to the little things… they kill a marriage
What are the “little things” for you?• Quirks that Bother You• Poor Boundaries? • Pace of Life? Taboo • Topics that Fester? • Stories You Make Up In Your Head
About Your Spouse?
I. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS
II. TIMING IS EVERYTHING
A. My Timing…How patient are you with your spouse’s growth?
B. Without God’s Timing…2 Peter 3:8(NIV)8 But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day.
C. = Bad timing!
POINT 2: It’s God’s job to work in your spouse’s heart…
sometimes our mouths just get in the way
II. TIMING IS EVERYTHING
III. THE ANSWER
A. EXTRA GRACE NEEDEDGrace… generosity of spirit… The single most disarming quality a marriage could have• How graceful are you in your
marriage?
• How can you grow in grace?
• What can you do to remind yourself of the need for more grace towards your spouse?
POINT 3: We can't process every little thing every time...
Our marriages need more Grace
III. THE ANSWER
PERSONAL QUESTIONS
• God is after my transformation... Why does my spouse’s behavior bug me so?
• What log is in your eye you need to deal with? ... Cause there is one...
• What family “viruses” have you inherited? How have they interfered with your marriage?
• What are your taboo topics? Why? • When you do talk... When is the best time?
When is the worst time?• How graceful are you towards your spouse?