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Marriage exists to bring a man and a woman together as husband and wife to be father and

mother to any children their union produces.

2 Marriage is based on the truth that men and women are complementary, the biological fact

that reproduction depends on a man and a woman, and the reality that children need both a

mother and a father.

Psalm 85:10 ESV / 95 helpful votes

Steadfast love and faithfulness meet; righteousness and peace kiss each other.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV / 432 helpful votes

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist

on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices withthe truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Ephesians 5:22-33 ESV / 338 helpful votes

Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wifeeven as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.

Ephesians 5:25-33 ESV / 261 helpful votes

In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife

loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as

Christ does the church, ...

7 TIPS

1. STOP blaming your partner.Seriously, we know thats hard to do especially when youre feeling miserable. And it seems as

though the source of your misery is, well, that annoying person your dating or living with or

married to. Heres the thing: 90% of the upset we feel with our partner comes from our ownPAST. Its true! The frustrations we feel with our partner are the same ones we felt with our

parents when we were kids.

2. Learn what conflict is really trying to tell you.

Most people believe that if youre having problems in your marriage, it means youre with theWRONG person. Nothing is further from the truth! ALL relationships go through a journey that

starts with Romantic Love, and bottoms out in the Power Struggle. Conflict helps you deepen

your relationship into Real Love when you learn to work with it in creative ways.

So remember: Conflict is actually an indicator that its time for your relationship to grow.3. Stop blaming each other! No matter how broken it feels, the best way to help

your relationship feel better is to work together to heal it focusing on therelationship, not on each individual partner.

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4. When responding to your partner in a stressful situation, pause and take abreath and look at the whole situation.

5. If youre having struggles in your relationship, its probably because you: (1)expect your partner to know what you feel, want and need withouthaving totell them, and/or (2) assume that you know what your partner feels, wantsand needs withouthaving to ask. Expecting, assuming, and demanding all

equal death for a relationship. So what should you do instead? Each one ofyou has to learn how to ask for what you need tell each other and thenactually give it to each other.

So remember: you know the old adage about what assuming does! Its timeto start sharing and meeting each others needs instead.

6. Know if you are the silent type or the loud type. Keep the lines of communication open.So remember: to stop this recipe for disaster, each of you has to recognize that

your partner needs the exact opposite of what youre doing. Turtles need theHailstorm to stop hailing and give them some space. And Hailstorms need their

Turtles to stop hiding and communicate.

7. Laughing together every day keeps the divorce lawyer away!Sometimes were so busy working on our relationship that we actually forget to ENJOY our

relationship. And whats the point of doing all that work if were never having any fun

together? The truth is that a couples wisdom about using humor and joy is critical to their

happiness together.

So remember: lighten up, and get your fun groove on!