spect” presentation is offered

for middle and high school age

young people. If you are inter-

ested in hearing more about

how YOU can make a differ-

ence, contact Lily Moody or

Lisa Triplett at (828) 758-

0 8 8 8 o r e m a i l a t rasa@shelterhomecc.org.

The month of April has been

designated Sexual Assault

Awareness Month (SAAM) in

the United States. The goal of

SAAM is to raise public

awareness about sexual vio-

lence and to educate commu-

nities and individuals on how

to prevent sexual vio-

lence. The Shelter Home

offers a powerful preven-

tion and recognition cur-

riculum titled “Darkness to

Light: Stewards of Chil-

dren” to groups desiring to

have an impact on the pre-

vention of sexual abuse of

children. The “Choose Re-

Mildred Muhammad, the for-

mer wife of convicted DC

sniper John Muhammad,

breaks her silence about the

domestic violence she suf-

fered in their marriage and the

tragic events that occurred

after their divorce, which led up to the October 2002 sniper

killings in DC. Mildred wit-

nessed firsthand John's bizarre

plice, Lee Malvo, would later kill

to carry out John's heinous plot to

get custody of his and Mildred's

children... permanently. What began as a domestic case eventu-

ally victimized millions. It has

taken years for Mildred and her

children to heal from the fear and

psychological trauma they en-

dured.

Mildred shares her personal story

to show how domestic violence

devastates entire families, includ-

ing the children, and hopes that

what she reveals will give new

insight on this national social ill.

http://www.mildredmuhammad.com/

April is

I N S I D E T H I S

I S S U E :

Child Advocate 2

What happens

To Donations

2

Sweet T’s On

Main

3

Wish List

Charlie’s Lunches

3

Flowers in Life’s

Renovation

4

Volunteers in

Action

4

Domestic Violence

Program Corner

5

Peaceful NotesPeaceful Notes M A R C H 2 0 1 2 V O L U M E 5 , I S S U E 1

S H E L T E R H O M E O F C A L D W E L L C O U N T Y , I N C .

P O B O X 4 2 6 • L E N O I R , N C 2 8 6 4 5

Board of

Directors

Nancy Martin Chair

Morris Reaves Vice-Chair Chris Cole

Secretary Margaret Cannon

Treasurer

Kim Britt Tom Deighton

Debra Eller Laura Gentry

Lida Martinat Terri Neiderhammer

Shell Pearce Rose Reighard

Dr. Jane Roberts Nancy Rogers

Sandra Williams

Shelter Home Phone Numbers: Main Number: (828) 758-0888

Crisis Line:

(828) 758-7088 24 hours a day

behavior after he returned from

the Gulf War, but no one--

including her family, friends, and

local police--took her warnings seriously. Even when John kid-

napped their three children for

eighteen months, changed their

identities and lived with them on

the run in Antigua, or when he

threatened to kill Mildred-- her

pleas for help went unanswered

and she was forced to live under-

cover for eight months in a

women's shelter. Everyone knew

John as a charming and intelligent man. No one could fathom that he

posed a serious threat to Mildred,

let alone the 11 innocent victims

he and his 15-year-old accom-

Monday April 16, 2012 from Monday April 16, 2012 from 12:30pm 12:30pm --4:00pm 4:00pm

J. E. Broyhill Civic CenterJ. E. Broyhill Civic Center 1913 Hickory Boulevard Southeast

Hudson, NC 28638-2672

(828) 726-2407

The public is cordially invited to attend this FREE

presentation of her story “Scared Silent”.

P A G E 2

The Shelter Home Board

and staff are grateful to

Z.Smith Reynolds for their

support of this program!

Child Advocate Program Lori Jarvis is the

new Child Advocate

for The Shelter Home

thanks to a grant from

the Z. Smith Reynolds

Foundation. We are

so excited to bring

this program back to

offer child-focused

advocacy to our cli-

ents.

Lori is originally

from Caldwell County

and is a graduate of

South Caldwell High

School. She is a

graduate of UNC

Chapel Hill with a BA

in earl childhood edu-

cation. Lori taught in

the public school sys-

tem, later was a

teacher and director

of a Christian School

in Cleveland, North

Carolina. Lori and her

husband, Mack moved

back to Hudson last

year as Mack accepted

the position of Pastor

with Hudson First Bap-

tist. We look forward to

being able to better serve

the women and children

at the Shelter Home and

in our community, with

this new service. Lori

can be reached at (828)

758-0888 or by email childadvocate@shelterhomecc.org

Of all the gifts to the human

race, what is

sweeter than a

child?

What Happens to What Happens to

Your Donations?Your Donations?

Ever wonder what happens to your donations after Ever wonder what happens to your donations after

you drop them off at The Shelter Home you drop them off at The Shelter Home

Of Caldwell County? Of Caldwell County?

Here is a brief break down. Donations are first processed Here is a brief break down. Donations are first processed

and sorted by type and use. All and sorted by type and use. All clothingclothing items are sorted by size items are sorted by size

and stored in our clothing closet. Our ladies and children then and stored in our clothing closet. Our ladies and children then

“shop” the clothing closet free of charge. Many of our clients “shop” the clothing closet free of charge. Many of our clients

come in with nothing. So all the clothing they will have will come come in with nothing. So all the clothing they will have will come

from this closet supported by your generosity. from this closet supported by your generosity.

Household items such as furniture, dishes, pictures etc. are Household items such as furniture, dishes, pictures etc. are

sorted and stored in one of our buildings until we have a client sorted and stored in one of our buildings until we have a client

move out. When our clients move out, we try to help them furnish move out. When our clients move out, we try to help them furnish

their apartment or home. We try to meet their every need from their apartment or home. We try to meet their every need from

dishes to towels, furniture, washer/dryer to beds sheets This dishes to towels, furniture, washer/dryer to beds sheets This

helps give them a new start to a better life. Starting over with helps give them a new start to a better life. Starting over with

nothing is a real hardship. THANKS to our community, our cli-nothing is a real hardship. THANKS to our community, our cli-

ents have your help in taking that next step toward a safer life for ents have your help in taking that next step toward a safer life for

themselves and their children.themselves and their children. P E A C E F U L N O T E S

Sweet T’s On Main P A G E 3 V O L U M E 5 , I S S U E 1

Shelter Home Wish List

Long before Sweet T’s On Main even opened its door, Its

owner Ms. Terry Coleman was forming a bond with the

women of The Shelter Home. During the remodeling process

Terry hired her first Shelter Home Employee Alexis Lawson.

Alexis was referred to Terry by another business owner. Terry

said Alexis was a very motivated woman, with a strong desire

to work. Since opening its doors 3 1/2 months ago, Terry has

hired 3 more women from The Shelter Home of Caldwell

County. When asked “If she would recommend other

businesses to hire women from The Shelter Home?” Terry

said “Without hesitation, yes I would.”

Terry shared that her reasons for opening Sweet T’s was

because she wanted to stay here in Caldwell County, and in

order to do that she had to make her own way, so she opened

her restaurant. She believes as a community we have to help

each other and for that reason she supports other local busi-

nesses and nonprofits. Thank you, Terry, for having faith in

our clients. We encourage others to follow your lead. If you

have questions contact, Lisa Triplett at 828-758-0888 for infor-

mation.

Household Items

Paper Towels

Toilet Paper

Paper Plates

Bleach

Kleenex

Laundry Baskets

Dryer Sheets

Cleaning products

Trash Bags

Hand Soap

Brooms and Mops

Towels

Coffee

Creamer

Sugar

CANNED FOOD

Diapers Size 3, 4 and 5

Twin vinyl mattress

covers

Vinyl pillow covers

New bed pillows and

twin sheet sets

Personal Items Hair Spray

Hairbrushes

Shaving Cream

Deodorant

New Bras

Bedroom Slippers

Ladies and Children’s

PJs

Miscellaneous Items

Alarm Clocks

Small Kitchen

Appliances

Gift Cards: Gasoline, Wal

-Mart, Grocery Stores

On behalf of our clients, we

accept gently used clothing,

furniture, dishes and appli-

ances. Our greatest wish for

the Wish List is donated

time from volunteers. If

you are interested in becom-

ing a part of the mission and

work that is the Shelter

Home of Caldwell County,

contact

Hope Bumgarner at

(828) 758-0888

Sweet T’s On Main was

Hiring women from The

Shelter Home even before its

doors were opened.

Charlie’s Lunch

Charile's Lunchboxes, along

with Lee Ann Luman, Wini-

fred Thurkill, and Margaret

Ann Luman donated 30

lunchboxes filled with good-

ies to The Shelter Home.

Thank you, Ladies.

Charlie's Lunch is a Christian,

evangelical ministry aimed at

ministering to the world's

neediest children and their

f a m i l i e s . S e e

www.charlieslunch.com/ or

http://www.initialoutfitters.com/

charlies-lunch/

for more information.

P A G E 4

Renovation and Expansion

Flowers in Life’s Garden The other day I over-

heard a conversation

between a client and a

staff member. That staff

member was telling the

client how proud she

was of her for how she

had grown since coming

to the shelter. After

hearing this I was

thinking about flowers

and how our ladies are

like flowers in life's

garden. Our ladies come

in as straggly little

seeds. They , like flow-

ers need to be tended.

We plant them with

care and we shower

them with love. Before

long you start to see

them grow. Then we fer-

tilize them with knowl-

edge and empower them

to grow stronger. Then,

we teach them to pull

the weeds around them

and look for their own

path. Sometimes this is

a difficult process, as it

often is a total life

change. Next thing you

know you have this

strong beautiful flower

that has the strength

to endure the hard-

ships of life . You then

have a woman who can

make it on her own

and continues to

bloom.

-by Hope Bumgarner

facility and double the resident capacity. We will grow from a 21 bed facility to a 40 bed fa-cility. The growth, however, is in more than space. The pro-grams will also grow to help meet the needs of families or individuals who are rebuilding as

they recover from the chaos of domestic vio-lence or sexual abuse and become survivors – not victims.

Your continued sup-port is still needed. If you’d like the opportu-nity to help, use the pledge card below. Thank You!

Plans have been final-ized and the project is soon to be underway.

A renovation and expansion capital pro-ject will renew the ex-isting 4.500 square foot structure, and will add 5,000 square feet of new construction to double the size of the

I would like to help victims of domestic violence and sexual assault find a safe, satisfying, and fulfilling life. I also want to support school and community programs which help

prevent such violence from happening.

I pledge to give:_____ $5,000 _____$2,500 _____ $1,000 _____$500 _____$100 or Other $_______

My pledge is _____ a one time donation _____ Monthly _______Quarterly ______ Annual pledge of support for this Mission.

Pledge CardPledge Card

Name: ___________________________

Address: ___________________________

Phone: ___________________________

E-mail: ___________________________

Proud to be sponsored by the

United Way of Caldwell County

I have enclosed my donation of $______

Shelter Home of Caldwell

County

P.O. Box 426

Pledge is designated for: Shelter Operations____ Capital Project_____ This pledge is in honor of :__________________________________ Mail notification to:________________________________________

________________________________________

The Shelter Home of Caldwell County, Inc. is a designated 501(c)3 private non-profit since 1978

P A G E 3 V O L U M E 5 , I S S U E 1

Last year we had a monthly

average of 26 volunteers

each month putting in a total

of 6,206 hours for the year.

These volunteers assisted in

many ways. We have volun-

teers that come in weekly for

child care so that residents

can attend group meetings.

We have volunteers come in

and sort clothing for the

clothing closet, making it

easier for our clients to find

the clothing they need. Some

of our volunteers (including

the CCC&TI early College

group) spent time painting

the rooms and hallways in-

side the Shelter. We had men

come in to mow and main-

tain our lawns.

Volunteers also come in

to teach crafts and skills to

our women and children.

Right now we have a vol-

unteer coming in and

teaching our clients job

and interview skills such a

resume writing. We also

have volunteers as recep-

tionists, This is one of the

most challenging volunteer

activities, but has huge re-

wards. These volunteers

have to learn how to take

crisis calls among other du-

ties. People from all walks

of life volunteer at The

Shelter Home for many dif-

ferent reasons.

If you would like to volun-

teer contact-Community

Outreach Coordinator,

Hope Bumgarner at

(828) 758-0888.

Liubov Skibo from Greer

Labs is helping with job search

skills including-

How to write a resume

How to do a cover letter

How to dress for an inter-

view

Conducting an interview

and Role Playing where each person is a interviewee

and interviewer.

Olivia Haynes from Parkway

Bank is teaching the basics of opening a checking and savings

account, how to develop a

budget and the importance of a

good credit score.

These “Mini Workshops”

will continue to be offered on a

regular basis. I am so fortunate

and so proud to be a member of such a caring community.

We have heard the phrase

“ It takes a village to raise a

child.” It also takes a commu-

nity with all the great resources

and agencies building bridges

with other agencies to meet the

needs of the single women and

the families that we serve.

By: Lisa Triplett– DV Manager

What a great beginning to

2012. We have implemented a

new program at The Shelter

Home that will bring valuable

information to our clients. We

have reached out to the commu-

nity and have several resources

that are coming to us to deliver

weekly “Work Shops.” Some

of the agencies and the topics

they are assisting in this new

program are listed below.

Family Resource Center –

Separation Anxiety, Discipline,

and Following Your Child’s

Interests.

Domestic Violence Program Corner

“ It takes

a village

to raise a

child.”

Volunteers in Action

Volunteer - Sven Picton,

hangs a shelf in

one of

T-House

Apartments.

CCC&TI

Early

College

Students spent

6 Fridays Volunteering.

Shelter Home Staff

The Shelter Home provides crisis services 24/7 and is able to do this because of the fine staff which is dedicated to

making the Shelter Home a place of healing and hope.

Sharon Poarch, Executive Director ..................................................................................................... director@shelterhomecc.org Jan Nash, Business Manager .............................................................................................................. businessmanager@shelterhomecc.org

Jan Smith, Court Advocate ................................................................................................................. courtadvocate@shelterhomecc.org Lily Moody, Rape & Sexual Assault/Child Advocate ........................................................................ rasa@shelterhomecc.org

Lisa Triplett, Domestic Violence Program Manager ........................................................................... domesticviolence@shelterhomecc.org Hope Bumgarner, Community Outreach Coordinator ............................................................................. volunteercoordinator@shelterhomecc.org

Lori Jarvis, Child Advocate……………………………………………………………………………….nmlori@shelterhomecc.org

Shelter Managers:

Wilma Mikeal ..................................................................................................................................... nmwilma@shelterhomecc.org

Barbara Price ...................................................................................................................................... nmbarbara@shelterhomecc.org Tina Gilbert ........................................................................................................................................ nmtina@shelterhomecc.org

Anita Hicks…………………………………………………………………………………………………nmanita@shelterhomecc.org

E-mail us or Contact us at: 828-758-0888

Fax: 828-758-8949

PO Box 426

Lenoir, NC 28645

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We’re going GREEN- If you would like to help, Please request your newsletter

be sent by email. Send request to volunteercoordinator@shelterhomecc.org or simply

call (828) 758-0888 ask for Hope Bumgarner. Thank you!