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MANAGING!TRANSITIONS!

Advancing!Youth!Advocates!Andrus!Family!Fund!

Welcome!! Why!are!we!here?!

"  Andrus!Family!Grant!

"  Andrus'believes'“that'one'vital'factor'in'creating'successful'change'is'recognizing'and'addressing'the'emotional'and'psychological'effects'of'the'change'process.”'

!  Control!in!your!life!vs.!life!“just!happens”!

What!will!you!learn?!

! The!difference!between!change!and!transition!! The!different!phases!of!transition!!  Strategies!for!letting!go!and!managing!endings!! How!to!manage!the!chaos!that!change!creates!! How!to!make!a!new!beginning!and!ensure!that!it!lasts!

What!is!the!difference?!

TRANSITION

CHANGE

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Defining!Change!! Change!is!an!event.!It!is!situational!and!external!to!us.!

Change

Something old stops Something new begins

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Examples!! Name!some!examples!

!  Moving!to!a!different!home.!!  Moving!to!a!different!school.!!  Graduating!from!college.!!  Having!a!new!experience.!!  First!day!of!college.!!  Moving!into!a!dorm!house.!

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What!is!Transition?!Transition)is)the)internal,)emotional,)or)

psychological)process)of)coming)to)terms)with)the)effects)of)change)

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TRANSITION!A gradual psychological reorientation that

happens inside us as we try to adapt to change.

Endings New

Beginning

Neutral Zone

Transition


The!difference!! Change!

1. Moving! to! a! different!dorm!

2. Moving! to! a! different!school/college!

3. M o v i n g ! t o ! a n!unfamiliar!city!

! Transition!1. Takes! time! to! feel! at!home!

2. Takes! time! to! make!f r i e n d s ! & ! b e!comfortable! with! the!new!school/college.!!

3. Takes! time! to! feel!“independent.”!


Three!Phases!

Endings!!  Loss!!!!!  Letting!go!!!!! Getting!closure!!  Saying!goodZbye!

New!Beginnings!!  Being!“with!it”!!!!

!  The!new!chapter!!  Renewal!Neutral Zone

! In-between time ! Chaos ! Clean slate


Resistance!!  People!are!said!to!resist!change.!More!often!it!is!the!transition!that!is!resisted.!What!they!are!resisting!is!the:!

!  Loss!of!their!identity!and!their!world!!!  Disorientation!of!the!neutral!zone!

!  Risk!of!failing!in!a!new!beginning!


WHAT!PEOPLE!IN!TRANSITION!NEED!!  To!determine!what’s!over!and!what!isn’t.!!To!

decide!what!it’s!time!to!let!go!of!and!say!goodbye!to!it.!

!  To!get!through!the!neutral!zone!without!rushing!it,!bogging!down!in!it!or!giving!up.!

!  To!capitalize!on!their!time!in!the!neutral!zone!to!open!themselves!up!to!new!possibilities.!

!  To!make!an!effective!new!beginning.!

!  To!review!their!transition!experience!and!decide!how!the!next!one!could!be!handled!more!easily.! People need different things to

get through transitions


MANAGING!ENDINGS!

Managing&Our&Endings&Successfully&


• To!progress!or!move!forward!

• To!create!a!new!identity!

• To!decide!what!is!time!to!let!go!of!and!say!goodbye!to!it.!!

ENDINGS!–!THE!BIG!PICTURE!

!  What!is!ending?!!  What!might!be!lost?!

!  Identity!!  Status!!  Relationships!!  Routines/structures!!  Sense!of!Control/Security!

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Seeking!Support!!  Seek!out!a!trusted!friend,!mentor,!or!support!person!to!acknowledge!and!talk!about!feelings.!

! Circle!of!Support!Activity!


SUPPORT


The Four R’s

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Managing!Endings!!  Eight!strategies!to!help!yourself:!

1.  Decide!what!is!and!isn’t!over!2.  Sort!your!losses!3.  Seek!information!4.  Seek!out!a!trusted!friend!5.  Accept!the!need!to!mourn!6.  Figure!out!what!can!be!replaced!

!or!redefined.!7.  Unpack!old!baggage!8.  Hold!celebrations!to!say!goodbye!!


Tune!into!Transitions!!  Songs!that!speak!specifically!to!Endings:!

!  “Already!Gone”!by!Kelly!Clarkson!'''“I'want'you'to'know'that'it'doesn’t'matter'''Where'we'take'this'road'someone’s'gotta'go''And'I'want'you'to'know'you'couldn’t'have'love'me'better''But'I'want'you'to'move'so'I’m'already'gone”'

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• To!progress!or!move!forward!

• To!create!a!new!identity!

• To!decide!what!is!time!to!let!go!of!and!say!goodbye!to!it.!!

Finding!Meaning!in!the!Neutral!Zone!! What!can!you!do?!

1.  Accept!your!need!for!this!time!2.  Find!a!regular!time!and!place!to!be!

alone!3.  Being!a!log!of!Neutral!Zone!experiences!

(journal)!4.  Reflect!on!your!life!5.  Discover!what!you!really!want!6.  Embark!on!a!passage!journey!to!

cultivate!receptivity!


MANAGING!THE!CHAOS!Rebuild the four things that endings destroy -

C.U.S.P.!

Control

Understanding

Support

Purpose


Control!!  Acknowledge!it!is!a!challenging!time.!!

!  Take!stock!of!strengths!and!abilities!

!  Create!short!term!goals!(step!by!step!plan)!

!  Identify!what!you!still!have!control!over!and!focus!on!it.!

!  Acknowledge!the!small!improvements.!


Understanding!!  Gather!information!

!  Communicate!what!you!do!and!don’t!know!

!  Get!advice!from!those!in!similar!transitions!!  Ambassadors!at!the!IF!Banquet!!  Emancipated!Youth!Panels!

!  If!overwhelmed!with!confusion,!consider!seeing!a!counselor!or!therapist!to!help!coach!you!

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Support!! Reconnect!with!your!support!system!

! Reach!out!to!new!people!

! Connect!to!resources!


Purpose!!  Set!time!aside!to!reflect!

!  Keep!a!journal!!

! Vision!for!the!future.!!  Helps!keep!focus!

! Use!art,!poetry,!and!music!as!a!!!!!means!to!tap!into!your!life’s!purpose!!! Visualize!the!new!beginning!



TEMPORARY!SOLUTIONS!

For Personal Transitions….. !  Routines!&!schedules!!  Rituals/vows!!  Communication!!  Resources!!  Support!systems!!  Develop!goals!or!milestones!

SUPPORTING!NEW!BEGINNINGS!

Supporting&Others&in&&New&Beginnings&


• To!become!the!person!you!want!to!be!

• To!reaffirm!your!power!and!strength!

• To!make!an!emotional!commitment!to!do!things!a!new!way!

Understanding!New!Beginnings!!  Seven!Signs!of!New!Beginnings:!

1.  You!are!emotionally!ready!to!do!things!a!whole!new!way!2.  You!have!a!surge!of!new!energy!and!purpose!3.  You!feel!you!have!“arrived”!and!you!have!a!sense!of!

peace!4.  You!feel!confident!you!are!headed!in!the!right!direction!5.  You!don’t!get!as!upset!as!you!used!to!when!you!think!

about!the!past!6.  You!are!not!as!worried!about!the!future!as!you!used!to!

be.!7.  You!may!have!intermittent!feelings!of!selfZdoubt.!


Ensuring!New!Beginnings!will!last!!  Shift!possibilities!into!objectives!and!make!a!plan!

!  Create!a!detailed!plan!!  Be!open!to!midZcourse!corrections!

!  Get!right!back!on!track!when!derailed!!  Keep!other!changes!from!distracting!you!!  Focus!on!achieving!a!few!quick!successes!!  Be!consistent!!  Symbolize!your!new!identity!!  Identify!how!you!will!be!different!!  Speak!your!new!identity!to!others!

!  Celebrate!your!new!identity!!


QUESTIONS?!!!!

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