MANAGING SELF

UK ATHIKKALLife Skill Coach &

Certified NLP Trainer

Awakening Self

An Old BoxRecharge Our Cells

MIND BODY

SPIRITEMOTIONS

Stages of Self Awareness

CONSCIOUS

INCOMPETENCE

UNCONSCIOUS

COMPETENCE

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Empowering Self

Internal & External AttributesBlaming Vs Problem SolvingOutcome FrameIdentity Vs BehaviorBeing Flexible – Body & Mind

Emotional States

Basic Emotions: Fear Vs ?Thoughts ->Beliefs -> Expectations ->

AttitudeChanging Attitude from “State of

Wanting” to “State of Accepting” or Having

Positive Mental ExpectancyEnjoying the Game of Life

THE EXPERIENTIAL ARRAY

BELIEFS AND VALUES

OUTCOMES

MENTAL STRATEGIES

EMOTIONS

BEHAVIOUR

FOUR NEEDS OF PEOPLE

Growth and Development

To Learn(MIND)

To leave a Legacy(Spirit)

Meaning and Contribution

(BODY)To Live

Survival

(HEART)To LoveRelationships

OUR FIRST BIRTH-GIFT

THE FREEDOM TO CHOOSE

STIMULUS AND RESPONSE

STIMULUS RESPONSE

FREEDOM TO CHOOSE

OUR SECOND BIRTH-GIFT

NATURAL LAWS AND PRINICIPLES

Principles : - Universal and TimelessFairnessKindnessRespectHonestyIntegrityServiceContribution

OUR THIRD BIRTH-GIFTFOUR HUMAN INTELLIGENCES/CAPACITIES

(IQ)

MENTAL(MIND)

SPIRITUAL(Spirit)

(SQ)

(BODY)PHYSICAL (PQ)

(HEART)SOCIAL/

EMOTIONAL(EQ)

DEVOLOPING THE THREE MAIN COMPONENTS OF PHYSICAL INTELLIGENCE

Wise Nutrition

Consistent Balanced Exercise

Proper Rest, Relaxation and Stress Management and Prevention Thinking

The Relax – in Technique

PQ

DEVOLOPING THE THREE MAIN COMPONENTS OF MENTAL INTELLIGENCE

Continuous, Systematic, Disciplined Study and Education

Cultivation of Self- Awareness (Making Assumptions Explicit)

Learning by Teaching and Doing

IQ

DEVELOPING THE FIVE MAIN COMPONENTS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE THROUGH THE 7 HABITS

EQ

Self-Awareness 1. Be Proactive

Personal Motivation 2. Begin with the End in Mind

Self – Regulation 3. Put First Things First 7. Sharpen the Saw

Empathy 5. Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood

Social skills 4. Think Win-Win5. .Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood6. Synergize

DEVELOPING THE THREE MAIN COMPONENTS

OF SPIRITUAL INTELLIGENCE

SQ

Integrity (Being true to one’s highest values and conscience)

Meaning (A sense of contribution to people and causes)

Voice (Aligning work with one’s unique calling and gifts)

LEADING A POWERFUL LIFE

VISION(MIND)

CONSCIENCE

(Spirit) (BODY)DISCIPLINE

(HEART)PASSION

KEY TO OTHER’S MINDSETS

Towards / Away fromSelf/OtherOptions/ProceduresBig Picture/DetailsProactive/ReactiveSimilarity/Difference

DISCOVER YOUR VOICE-UNOPENED BIRTH-GIFTS

Sensory AcuityRapport Building SkillsTrimtab PrincipleChanging SelfSerenityCourageWisdom

Map & Reality

Sensory Inputs: V A K O GPerceptual FiltersInternal RepresentationInternal StatesPhysiologyNeuro Physiological State

Uniqueness of Every Being

Filters

LanguagesMemoriesDecisions

ValuesBeliefs

AttitudesExperiences

Model-IR

PicturesSoundsFeelingsSmellsTastes

Self-Talk

BehaviorOur WalkOur Talk

PHYSIOLOGY

External Event

VisualAuditory

KinestheticOlfactoryGustatory

DeleteDistortGeneralize

We give meaning to our IRswith words “about” our IRs

STATE

Empowering EmotionsPrivate Powers: Thoughts & FeelingsPublic Powers: Speaking & BehaviorsInvisible Ceiling: Limiting Beliefs

Thoughts: A Form Of Energy

Personality Vs Character Ethics

Attitude of GratitudeHigh Self Esteem/Low Internal

DisturbancesBe Your Own Ghost:

Detached/Objective Self AnalysisInter & Intra Personal

CommunicationThe Monk’s Dialogue

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