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WELCOME PARENTS!
Lov ing Solut ions
for Tough K ids
AKA Parent Project Jr.
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Specifically designed for
parents raising difficult
children - ages 5 - 10
Created to .
Reduce family conflict Help children develop greater selfdiscipline
Improve the enjoyment of parenting and
family life Help our children grow up safe, strong
& capable
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Lov ing Solut ions-
Course Overview Week 1 topics:
Importance of Love and Affection
Parenting Modelfor the strong-willed child Understandingour children
Influencing & Motivatingdifficult children
Using Time Outscorrectly and effectively
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Week 2 topics:
Sharing our Expectations, Standards &
Valueswith our children
Identifying Critical Rulesfor our kids
Involvingour children in the process
Using Set Time Outs
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Week 3 topics:
Respondingto our childrens choices
Encouragingpositive choices Redirectingnegative choices
Dealing w/ Emotional Outbursts
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Week 4 topics:
Active Supervision
Creating Structurefor our children Improving School Performance
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Week 5 topics:
Concrete Solutionsfor tough kids
Highly impulsive/ special needs children Out-of-ControlBehaviors
Developing Personal Action Plansfor
behavior plans
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Week 6 topics:
Recognizing and Supporting Success
The dynamics of change Problem solving
Building a Strong Sense of Family
Finding Supportfor our selves
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Week 7 topics:
Diagnosis & treatment of ADD/ADHD
Working w/ your insurance & doctors Tips for helping ADD/ADHD kids
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Unit 1 ObjectivesParents will be able to:
List character traits of a strong-willed child
Recognize successful ways to demonstrate love & affection
Discuss influence vs. control
Describe effective parenting strategies to increase
cooperation & other positive behaviors
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Before We Begin Unit 1:
1. What is your partners name?2. What are the names & ages of your
partners children?
3. What parental concerns or issues isyour partner facing right now?
4. What does your partner hope to learnfrom this class?
After getting your partners permission,
introduce your new friendto the large group
using the above information
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Strong Willed vs.
Complaint ChildrenArgumentative
Frustrating
Persistent
Traditional
parenting generally
ineffective
Cooperative
Pleasant
Eager to please
Traditional
parenting usually
effective
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Activity 1.1: Personality1. Calm
2. Easy Going
3. Willing to listen4. Understanding
5. Compliant
6. Emotional
7. Strong-willed
8. Argumentative9. Stubborn
10. Challenging
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What Works?The keys to parenting tough kids:
Love & Affection
Positive Strokes
Positive Consequences
Time Outs
Teaching New Tools
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Love & AffectionOur MOST effective parenting tool & thekey to:
Improved Communication
Effective Discipline
Positive Self-Esteem
Changing destructive & difficultbehaviors
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Working in GroupsGroup Facilitator
Group Recorder
Group Time KeeperGroup Cheerleaders/
Nurturers
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Group Activity 1.2: RolesGroup Facilitator:Group Recorder:
Group Time Keeper:
Group Cheerleaders/Nurturers:
Each member now takes a minute to
explain their assigned job description
to their group
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Group Activity 1.3
Showing Love1. Saying, I Love You
2. Cooking for your children
3. Spending time w/ your children
4. ?5. ?
6. ?
7. ?
8. ?
9. ?
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Group Activity 1.4
MostEffective3 parental expressions of love that a child
could notmistake as anything other
than - Mom & Dad love me.1. ?
2. ?
3. ?
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Group Activity 1.5:
Children1. Children
2. Children
3. Children4. Children
5. Children respond
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Paren t con tro l
THINGS
NOT Children!
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We dont control
our kids!But, we do have tremendous
influenceon them.
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Influencing & Motivating
ChildrenDaily Love & Affection
Positive Strokes
Positive ConsequencesTime Outs
Teaching Tools
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Positive Strokes: Catching
kids doing right!Acknowledge and
reinforce your
childs positiveactions w/ a
compliment - it
shows you noticed
and approve.
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Group Activity 1.7
Doing Right!1. Taking out the trash with or without being asked2. Helping a younger brother or sister
3. ?
4. ?
5. ?
6. ?
7. ?8. ?
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Positive ConsequencesKids get to do what they like
to do, AFTER they have
followed a parents request.
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Group Activity 1.8
Fun Follows Work!1. Sure! You may use the phone, just as soon
as you finish drying the dishes.
2. Sure! You may go to your friends house,just as soon as your room is clean.
3. Sure! You may______________, just assoon as ____________________.
4. Sure! You may______________, just assoon as ____________________.
5. Sure! You may______________, just assoon as ____________________.
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Time Out
Involves the loss of access to fun things and socialinteraction w/ others.
Becomes an empty, boring and undesirableexperience
May follow a negative behavior; also may be used toencourage a positive behavior
Lasts only a very short time - shortTime Outs help
maintain a childs hope & motivation.
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Group Activity 1.9
Negative Choices1. Hitting2. Breaking a toy on purpose
3. ?4. ?
5. ?
6. ?
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Teach ing Too ls
Taking time to teach kids a better way
Everyday Life Example:Your supervisor shows you how
to safely use a new machine
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Group Activity 1.10
Teaching Tools1. Hitting2. Purposefully breaking a toy
3. ?
4. ?
5. ?
6. ?
7. ?8. ?
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Designing Effective
Time OutsAppropriate? Does the behavior deserve aTime Out? - willful or just a mistake.
Brief? Will it last just a short time? -consequences must fit the way kids think.
Consistent? Am I willing to follow througheverytime and for the entiretime period?
Design? Whats the whole picture? -what happens, where and how?
Educate? Did we take the time to plan &teach a better way?
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Group Activity 1.11
Childs List1. ?2. ?
3. ?4. ?
5. ?
6. ?
7. ?
8. ?
9. ?10.?
11.?
12.?
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THIS is Our Childs List
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T.E.A.S.P.O.T.
Take everythingaway,
for a shortperiod of time.
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Choosing the Spot?
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Using Self-L im it ing Time Outs
to encourage (AKA motivate)our children to do important yet
unfun activities
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Group Activity 1.12
Unfun Tasks1. Child needs to complete homework2. Child needs to pick up toys
3. ?4. ?
5. ?
6. ?
7. ?
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Self-Limiting Time Outs
Used to encouragepositive behaviors
No use of a timer
Time OutArea is a
boring place
Length of Time Outis determined by thechild
Child does not leaveTime Out Areaexcept to dorequested task
Child leaves whenready to do therequested task
Child takes as
much timeas heneeds
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Group Activity 1.13: ABCs
Appropriate?
Brief?
Consistent?
Design? (what, when, where & how)
Educate? (plan & teach a better way)
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Review Activity 1.141. If parents have a strong-willed child, traditional
parenting techniques may not _________.
2. Parents must tell their children how much they areloved every _______.
3. Although parents cannot control their children, parentscan control the _______ their children enjoy.
4. Parents should give their child Positive ______whenthey catch their child doing something right.
5. _______ term Time Outs are more effective than long-term Time Outs because they fit the way children think.
6. When children refuse to do a requested task, parentsshould use a ______ ________ Time Out.
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Most Powerful Idea I
Learned in Unit 1: ? ?
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Home PracticeTell your child how much they are loved every
day this week.Catch your child doing something right, and give
him/her a Positive Stroke.
If you find it necessary to use a Self-Limiting
Time Out, follow the guidelines in this unit.Remember the ABCs of Time Outs:
Appropriate, Brief, Consistent, Design, andEducate a better way.
Make sure you bring back your
success stories to share with your
support group next week.
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Next Week
Ideals , Ru les and Too ls
Learn how to communicate your expectations,
standards, and values to your children
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Words of WisdomI wish I would have held you closer, hugged
and kissed you more when you were little.
Parent Author Unknown
PARENTS, nows the time!