Intimate Relationships and Aspects of Love. What is the difference between LOVE and INFATUATION?
LOVE vs. Infatuation
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LOVE vs.
Infatuation
Our thoughts
Love Is……Write it down on your
heart.
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e Mature love for others
– Love for humankind, very unselfish love. Love for children
– Unselfish love with ability to love without expecting anything in return.
Love for the opposite sex– Begins with interest in the other sex and continues throughout life.
Love for someone the same sex, older– Role model and exemplified what you wanted to become.
Love for same sex friend– Close friend of the same age and sex.
First love outside the family– You had fun with this person and loved him for the times shared.
Love of other relatives– Love of a relative which brought a special sense of security.
Love for secondary caregiver– This person met your needs and cared for you. Usually your father.
Love for primary caregiver– Your primary caregiver (usually mother).
Self-love– Until you love yourself, you cannot truly love another.
We know for sure that…. Love is vital to the well-being of a
person– Elderly in rest homes or without spouse
Love is based on and best expressed through trust, honesty, and respect.
There are many types of love that we receive daily.– Before you can love anyone else, you
must first love yourself = Self Love9 types of love
SELF-LOVERespect and concern for selfAn egotistic, narcissistic kind of
love.
Unconditional love It asks for nothing in return. Showing love towards someone
regardless of his or her actions or beliefs.
COMPANIONSHIP LOVE.
Typically found in good friendships
PLATONIC LOVE Based upon Non-sexual feelings with
the opposite sex and not physical attraction.
Spiritual and intellectual relationship between a man and a woman.
MANIC LOVEA crazy, possessive, jealous kind of love.
ROMANTIC LOVEAlso known as “puppy
love”, and is an exaggerated form of love.
ALTRUISTIC LOVESelfless love or concern for the
spouse.
Infatuation vs. Love
Happens quickly
Short-lived Physical
thrills Jealousy Rush to
marry
Grows slowly
Long lasting Trust More
realistic More
thoughtful
Love is a feeling you feel when you feel you are feeling a feeling you’ve never felt
before.
Tunnel Of Love ExperienceGet into groups of 4 and complete the steps on the envelope
Love is …….. * Grows slowly, beginning with friendship * Lasts over a long period of time * Involves the entire character and personality of the partner * The relationship grows and matures as time passes * Little jealousy—accepting of one another's feelings * Work harder at assigned tasks * Less emotional and moody—more happy and kind * Opinions of other people are not as important * Fun times and friendship are more important than a physical relationship * Share common interests * Enjoy being together without need of expensive entertainment * Trust and have confidence in self and in the relationship * Trust the partner * There is no rush to make decisions—the future is planned with confidence * More vital, more energy * See life realistically
Infatuation is ………. Is common during teen years * Grows rapidly—love at first sight * Does not last long * Occurs shortly after breaking up with someone—known as “on the rebound” * Is centered on a few admired traits in the other person * Is often based on physical traits or feelings * Does not see or acknowledge the other person's weaknesses * The relationship stays the same for a long time—does not go anywhere * Selfish and possessive of the other person—jealous * Disagreements are common -- fighting * Daydream—cannot concentrate on necessary tasks * May lose your appetite * Is easily influenced by the person they are infatuated with * Creates a selfish relationship—"How can he/she help me get what I want?" * Other people's opinions matter too much * May be based on physical enjoyment–a couple who finds themselves bored
without physical stimulation * Feelings of insecurity * Lack of trust in partner * Feels a real need to marry * Causes lack of ambition and to disregard problems
He’s teaching her arithmeticHe said is was his mission,
He kissed her once, he kissed her twice and said, “Now that’s addition.”
And as he added smack by smack is silent satisfaction, she sweetly gave the kisses back and said, “Now that’s subtraction.”
Then he kissed her, she kissed him without an explanation, then both together smiled
an said, “That’s multiplication.”Then Dad appeared upon the scene and
made a quick decision, He kicked that kid three blocks away and said, “That’s long-
division!”
Sex/physical
Physical looks
Money and status
INFATUATION LOVE
Money and status
Sex /physical
Physical looks
WEBDear ABBY
WHAT ELSE?
What Love Isn’tDear Abby, after 13 years of being with an abusive husband, I finally
figured out what a jerk he really is. I sat down one day and wrote down all the things he has put me through and titled it, “Love isn’t”….
• Raising you hand with intent to scare or harm your spouse.• Making yourself absent when your spouse is sick• Standing them up for important celebrations• Screaming or yelling at them• Calling them names: stupid, liar, #!@%• Being nice only when you want affection• Not letting them express their opinions• Thinking of yourself first• Criticizing them in front of other people• Threatening them • Being physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive