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BUILDING RESILIENT CHILDREN:
EMPOWERING YOUR STUDENT
Lori Counsell, M.Ed., NCCKate Lepley, M.Ed.
New Town Elementary School Counseling Team
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What is Resiliency?
Children possess the inner strength to deal competently with the challenges and demands they encounter each day
Independence Coping Skills Problem Solving
Skills Hopefulness
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Why Build Resilience?
STUDENTS WHO ARE RESILIENT:
Deal with stress and pressure
Cope with every day challenges
Bounce back from disappointments
Deal effectively with adversity and trauma
Develop clear and realistic goal
Relate comfortably to others
Treat self and others with respect
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Looking Forward
RESILIENT ADULT: NON-RESILIENT ADULT:
Copes effectively with stress and pressure
Can learn from mistakes and failures
Takes ownership of behavior and circumstances
Accountable and responsible
Victims of environment, experience
Can’t move past mistakes and failures
Blames others for mistakes and circumstances
More likely to commit crimes; have mental health concerns
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So How Do We Build Resiliency?
Teaching Empathy By Practicing Empathy
Teaching Responsibility Teaching Decision-Making and
Problem Solving Skills Offering Encouragement and
Positive Feedback Helping Children Deal with Mistakes
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Building Empathy By Practicing Empathy
HOW TO TEACH IT:EXAMPLE:
Listen closely to what children have to say
Validate how they are feeling/what they say
Avoid preaching, lecturing, blaming, and judging
“I know you are having trouble with your math homework. Many kids do. Maybe together we can figure out what will help.” instead of “Try harder.” “
Think: Would we want anyone to speak with us the way we are speaking
with our children? How would our children describe us at this moment? How would we
hope they described us?
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Teaching Responsibility
HOW TO TEACH IT: EXAMPLE:
Provide children with the opportunity to contribute at home, school, or community
Help children learn to accept responsibility for their choices, both good and bad.
Allow students to do chores and find ways to help on their own: watering plants, donating to fundraisers/food drives/etc., tutoring others, etc.
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Teaching Decision-Making and Problem-Solving Skills
HOW TO DO IT: EXAMPLE:
Help children articulate problem areas
Help children brainstorm solutions to problems without giving them the answer
Allow the child to pick their own solution and try it
Afterwards, assess the results of their solution
When a child has a friendship problem, discuss ways to solve the problem. Make a list of possible solutions and allow the student to select one they think will work best. After they have tried it, revisit the solution to see how it worked. Reflect on whether or not that would be a good choice again.
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Offering Encouragement and Positive Feedback
HOW TO DO IT: EXAMPLE:
Convey realistic appreciation to children and help them feel special and important to us
Praise positive decisions and responsible actions often
Be specific in your praise– I really like the way you cleaned your room without being asked. That shows responsibility!
Spend special time alone with your children
Write a positive note of love or appreciation
Hug your child often
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Helping ChildrenDeal With Mistakes
HOW TO DO IT: EXAMPLE:
Relieve fear and anxiety often felt about making mistakes
Lead by example- point out a mistake when you make one and show how you can learn from your mistake.
Say, “I’m glad you tried that even though it didn’t work out!”
Read about famous people that made mistakes that led them to be more successful.
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Thank You!
Any questions?