LOVE LANGUAGES MYSTERY GAME FOR TEENS

Recently your child completed a quiz to help determine their ‘love language.’ The purpose of the quiz was to solve the mystery of what makes your child feel valued and respected. This quiz will help the faculty and staff at EHS better understand your child. In addition, students will better understand their own feelings while getting along with their peers. This is just another aspect of improving the climate here at EHS along with our ‘Fill the Bucket’ theme. A positive school climate is imperative in helping students achieve academic success. Below is a list of the Five Love Languages and what can be done at home to help your child feel valued according their results from the quiz.

LIVING OUT THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES AT HOME

LOVE

LANGUAGE

ACTIONS COMMUNICAITON AVOID

WORDS OF

AFFIRMATION ______#

*Spoken words *Written cards and letters *Words of affection, endearment, praise, encouragement, giving positive guidance *Send an unexpected note, text or card

*Encouraging words *Compliments affirming spirit *Say: “Good Job!” “You did it!” “Terrific!” *Affirm, appreciate, empathize *Listen actively

*Emotionally harsh words *Undue criticism *Cutting words *Harsh tone of voice *Failing to recognize or appreciating effort

QUALITY TIME

______#

*Running errands *Taking trips *Do things together *Going on walks *Sitting/talking at home *Undivided attention *Maintain eye contact *Listen for feelings

*Quiet places with no interruptions *Undivided attention *One-to-one conversations *Make eye contact *Eat together *Uninterrupted and focused conversations

*Too much time with friends or groups *Isolation *Gaps of time between meetings *multitask as you half listen to what is said *Distractions when spending time together

RECEIVING GIFTS

______#

*Giving gifts *Giving time *Remembering special occasions *Giving small tokens *They also like to give gifts *Souvenirs from trips

*Private giving of gifts *Pleasant facial expressions *Enjoys: birthday presents, surprise treats, having their favorite food made for them

*Materialism *Forgetting special events or occasions *Unenthusiastic gift receiving

ACTS OF SERVICE

______#

*Assisting with house chores *Ongoing acts of helpfulness *Exchanging of chores *Work together on a project *Surprise them by doing their chore for them. *Cooking their favorite meal

*Say: “What can I do for you?” “I will stop and get…” “Today, I did … for you!” *Making a checklist *Use action phrases like “I’ll help…” *They want to know you’re with them

*Forgetting promises *Over commitment of tasks *Ignoring *Lacking follow-through on tasks big and small *making the request of others a higher priority

PHYSICAL TOUCH

______#

*Hugs *Pats on the back *Touches *Sitting close *Enjoys physical activities * High five *Knuckle bump

*Pleasant facial expressions *Mostly non-verbal

*Corporal punishment *Threats

***Taken from Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages for Children, and Dr. Dobson’s Focus on the Family.