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The winning floats from lastSaturday’s Riverboat Days 2010Parade were as follows:
• Commercial — 1, Truxedo;2, Kaiser Heating & Cooling; 3,Cedar County VeterinaryServices
• Vehicle/Animal — 1, KidzLogik Child Care Center; 2,Papa Ray’s Karaoke Show; 3,Fish N’ Stuff
• Non-Profit — 1, AveraSacred Heart Hospital; 2,Yankton Children’s Theatre; 3,Blossom & Friends; 4, CalvaryKids Preschool; 5, YanktonChamber of Commerce
• People’s Choice — VishayDale
Also, the 2010 RiverboatDays raffle winners were as fol-lows: $1,200 cash — MillieBranaugh; $700 Cash — Tom
Haukap; $400 Cash — BarbRezac; Truxedo Low ProfileCover — Duane Cap; JoleneSteffen Print — Isabella Horning;$250 Slumberland Gift Card —Diena Plendl; $250 YanktonBucks — Dick Wright; $100 Hy-Vee Card — Todd Woods; $100Hy-Vee Card — Jeff Hunhoff;$100 Hy-Vee Card — DennisWagner; $100 Hy-Vee Card —Donna Carlson; $100 Hy-VeeCard — Deb Koertje; $100 Wal-Mart Card — Angela Mann; $100Wal-Mart Card — Steve Stuen;$100 Wal-Mart Card — TracyMach; $100 Wal-Mart Card —Paula Keehr; $100 Wal-Mart Card— Al Mullinex; Murdo’s AtenResort Gift Certificate — NancyWilbert; 4 Fryin’ Pan Free MealDeal — Veronica Weberg; $50Gerstner Oil Gift Card — DWDuhacek
BY VAL FARMER
A woman commented on herhusband's mentality. He was toogrim, negative and uptight. Heseemed to be always engaged inbattle mode — find out what iswrong and eliminate it. He reactsto life as if it is an endless seriesof chores to be crossed off a listwith a heavy sigh. His enthusi-asm, his joy in living, his smiles,and his sense of humor havebeen lost among his sense ofduty and obligation to his work.
She would love for him toloosen up — to laugh and to playonce in awhile.
He has learned the work ethicwell — too well. From childhoodthe message has been drummedin that rewards, prestige and suc-cess in life come through hardwork. It's true. If work has beenchosen well, has meaning andsignificance, and draws out ourstrengths and talents, then deepsatisfaction and positive emo-tions are the result.
The work ethic and negativeemotions. However, when thework is seen as a battle againstvicious dragons that are comingto get you, positive feelings arereplaced by negative emotions ofanger, fear, and sadness. The bat-tle is more frightening when youhave to face the dragon alone.The problem with many men isthat they believe it is manly tofight and slay the dragon all bythemselves.
Negative emotions are appro-priate for situations where criti-cal thinking is called for. Usuallythese are win/lose situationswhen all the chips are on thetable. This isn't work of play, cre-ativity and excitement. This isthe work of survival.
Fear and anxiety are our con-trolling emotions when we are indeadly competition, or when it isto eat or be eaten. Sadness andanger take over when the strug-gle is to avoid loss, or to repeltrespass. A skeptical and analyti-cal mind helps us to react defen-sively, and look out for numberone when a lot rides on the deci-sion.
The negative emotions get usready to fight, flee, hunker downor give up. The analytical frameof mind helps us narrow ourfocus on the problem at hand.That is all we see or should see.
Going from win/lose towin/win. This is where the posi-tive emotions fit in. Life isn'talways about battling dragons.Life has many situations whereeveryone benefits: courting andmarriage, raising children, teach-ing and learning, constructingand creating, worshiping, reflect-ing, and playing together.
Good feelings such as joy,good cheer, contentment andhappiness help us see opportuni-ties for action. It is a differentmind set. We are open to newideas and new experiences. It isduring these times of securitythat we build up our emotionalreserves, gain new skills and addresources. Instead of dragons, wesee growth.
Positive feelings are a key toreaching out, exploring, cooper-ating, and gaining confidence.They are a spur to creativity.Happy people are more gener-ous, like others better, are lessself-focused, and tolerant. By liv-
ing a balancedlifestyle withleisure, play,social life, spiri-tual and mentalgrowth, theydevelop skillsthat are usefulduring times oftrauma and cri-sis.
Having posi-tive emotionsand expressing
them are at the heart of all rela-tionships. The time to build rela-tionships is during good timeswhen the mood and outlook arepositive. Happy people are amagnet in relationships and endup with rich and fulfilling sociallives. During those times whenthe dragon comes, they will havea companion and confidant attheir side.
When it comes to making cru-cial decisions, when confrontedwith threatening information,happy people are able absorbnegative information and shifttactics to an analytic fight orflight mode. They cope better.
What seems to be missingfrom many farmers, professionalsor executives lives is the leisureethic. Life is a journey not a des-tination. We are meant to behappy. Life is to be enjoyed.
Play is child's work. It is asafe, miniature world where chil-dren experiment, rehearse, prac-tice skills and resolve conflict.Play affords the space to shiftconcentration, exchange rolesand step outside oneself. It istime set aside to observe, to pre-tend, to enjoy or to create.
As playful adults, we lookwide-eyed at life with curiosity.In each day, we can see newness,complexity and contradiction. Afascination with life as it happensbalances out the graver concernsof striving and achieving. Theworld gets bigger through play.In the adult world of duty andresponsibility, the capacity toplay creates an island of safety, apassport to the world of thepresent and an experimental labto try new things.
Play gives perspective. Aplayful attitude can help us meetlife's challenges. If life itself isviewed as a win/win game, it hasno consequences so severe as todefeat us, no failure that is not astepping stone in disguise, noexperience from which we can-not learn.
Through play in parenting,needs are met. Through play inmarriage, love is expressed.Through play in friendship,bonds are strengthened. Throughplay in living, growth is fostered.
Family time, play time, vaca-tion time and special times alladd to the memories and special-ness of life.
Work hard, play hard. Wellchosen work is play. Play outsideof work makes the work evenbetter. Play makes the family bet-ter.
Val Farmer is a clinical psy-chologist specializing in familybusiness consultation and media-tion with farm families. He lives inWildwood, Missouri and can becontacted through his Web site.
This column is sponsored by Lewis &Clark Behavioral Health.
BY MARY PISTULKA, RNAvera Sacred Heart Hospice Clinical Coordinator
As an integral part of Avera Sacred HeartHospital’s Home Care Program, it’s importantto recognize the powerful work of hospicecare.
I’ve found that most people have heard ofhospice care and most have an idea what hos-pice care is all about, but very few peoplerealize the broad scope of services that hos-pice care actually provides. To give terminal-ly-ill patients and their families dignity in theirlast months of life, free of pain and knowingthat they are among the people and thingsthey love is the ultimate goal of hospice serv-ices.
Hospice care involves a team-orientedapproach to expert medical care, pain man-agement and emotional and spiritual supportexpressly tailored to the patient’s needs andwishes. The focus is on caring, not curingand, in most cases, care is provided in thepatient’s home or a home-like setting.
During the initial visit with the patient andfamily/caregiver, concerns are explored and aplan is devised. Care is provided by a team ofspecially trained nurses, home health aides,social workers, the patient’s personal physi-cian, clergy or other counselors, trained vol-unteers and speech, physical and occupation-al therapists, if needed. Most importantly,however, the team consists of the patient andthe family/caregiver.
Some people find hospice care a difficultsubject to discuss, because it involves peoplewho are terminally ill. It’s not uncommon forthose people to view hospice care as a sign ofgiving up the fight. While the emphasis is on
caring and not curing, people need to knowthat the main goals of hospice care are for thepatient to feel comfortable, be able to bearound family and friends, experience theminimum amount of pain and feel the utmostin dignity and respect.
Although the majority of patients usinghospice care are the elderly, terminally-illpatients of any age often utilize the program.Hospice care is often just as critical to thefamily of the patient as it is to the patient,providing support and counseling. AveraSacred Heart Hospital Hospice Program hasserves more than 100 patients a year in south-east South Dakota and northeast Nebraska.
Following are some facts about hospicethat many people are not aware of and maykeep people from getting this compassionatecare when they need it most.
TEN IMPORTANT FACTS ABOUT HOSPICECARE YOU MAY NOT KNOW:
1. Hospice is not a place but is a kind ofhigh-quality care that brings the patient andfamily medical, emotional and spiritual careand support focusing on comfort and quality oflife.
2. Medicare beneficiaries pay little or noth-ing for hospice, and most insurance plans,HMOs and managed-care plans include hospicecoverage.
3. Hospice serves anyone facing a life-limit-ing illness, regardless of age or illness.
4. Research has shown that the majority ofAmericans do not want to die in a hospital;hospice treats pain and manages symptomswhile allowing most patients to be at home.
5. Hospice also serves people living in nurs-ing homes and assisted living facilities.
6. Hospice patients and families can
receive care for six months or longer, and thegreatest benefits are gained by being in hos-pice care for more than just a few days.
7. Less than one percent of Medicare bene-ficiaries live in an area where hospice is notavailable.
8. A person may keep his or her referringphysician involved while they receive hospicecare.
9. Hospice serves people of all back-grounds and traditions; the core values ofhospice — allowing the patient to be withfamily, including spiritual and emotional sup-port, treating pain — cut across all cultures.
10. Hospice offers grief and bereavementservices to family members and the communi-ty.
The hospice program also utilizes volun-teers who are specially trained in hospicecare. The Avera Sacred Heart HospitalHospice Program is always looking for com-passionate people to make an impact onpatients and families. Even a small commit-ment makes a big difference for hospicepatients and their families. Volunteer dutiesmay include: spending time with hospicepatients, running errands for families or pro-viding a break for caregivers. Volunteers mustonly participate in a 12-hour DVD trainingwhich can be completed at home. Volunteerhours are flexible.
For more information on hospice care orbecoming a hospice volunteer, contact AveraSacred Heart’s Hospice Clinical Coordinator,Mary Pistulka, RN, at 668-8309.
This weekly column is produced by the publicrelations office at Avera Sacred Heart Hospital topromote healthy lifestyles and provide usefulmedical information to our community.
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VAL FARMER
Which Is Better A WorkEthic Or A Leisure Ethic?
www.yankton.net PAGE 5Yankton Daily Press & Dakotan ■ LIFE ■ Wednesday,August 25, 2010
The family of Merlin
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to thank everyone
for their kind expression of
sympathy, prayers, visits,
calls, cards, flowers, food
and memorials given in Merlin’s
memory. A special thanks to Chaplain Rick, Fr.
Mark and Fr. Dan. Thanks to the pallbearers,
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Benedict Church for providing the luncheon. Our
appreciation to Avera Sister James Care Center,
Riverfront, and Opsahl-Kostel Funeral Home for
their kindness, and caring consideration to our
family. Merlin was very special and will be
missed by everyone.
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are just as likely to trigger popu-lation explosions.
“The truth is that, with theexception of economic pests,most insects are not well studiedand entomologists don’t knowfor sure what conditions triggerinsect outbreaks,” she said.
Three main types of cricketswill be found in this pest inva-sion: The field cricket, which isblack; the camel cricket, which istan, with a humped back; andthe house cricket, which is alight yellowish brown.
According to Jeffrey Hahn,associate professor of etymolo-gy, and Mark Ascerno, professorof etymology, there are ways toprevent the insects from enter-ing your home, which they listedon the University of MinnesotaExtension Web site.
First, they suggest caulking orrepairing any cracks on the out-side of the house that might beused as an entryway by thecrickets.
Hahn and Ascerno also rec-ommend cutting tall weeds andgrass near the foundation of thehouse.
“This provides crickets anunfavorable environment, givingthem less chance to enter build-ings,” they said.
Debris should also beremoved from the yard andaround outside of the house.
“This reduces the number ofharborage areas available tocrickets, giving them less oppor-tunity to enter buildings,” Hahnand Ascerno wrote.
As for exterminating the out-side crickets themselves,Bergman said to just leave themalone.
“You can spray your housedown with a barrier — one ofthose things that keeps allinsects out of your house — butthere’s absolutely no reason totreat your yards for crickets,”she said.
There are a number of thingsyou can do to eliminate thecrickets from inside your home,as well.
“The best thing to use is aglue trap for mice and rats,”Bergman said. “Put one of thosein the corner with just a little bitof cornmeal on it. It will attractthe crickets like nothing flat, andthen they’ll get stuck on those
sticky boards. Then you can justthrow them out.”
Hahn and Ascerno recommenddrying out damp areas of yourhome with a fan or dehumidifier,as the crickets prefer a moist envi-ronment.
They also suggest cleaning upboxes, papers and other objectsand clutter, which “minimizespotential hiding places.”
Insecticides usually are noteffective or practical, but if a largenumber of crickets can be found ina single room, an insecticide mayhelp control them, Hahn andAscerno said.
“If insecticidal control is neces-sary, use a product labeled forindoor use, such as chlorpyrifos(Dursban), permethrin or propox-ur (Baygon),” they said. “Theseinsecticides are purchased inaerosol or liquid ready-to-use con-tainers. Apply these productsalong baseboards and other edges,in cracks and crevices and otherareas where crickets are found.”
Crickets don’t have the best ofreputations in the United States,but that isn’t the case everywhere,Bergman said.
“In some countries, like China,crickets are considered a goodluck item,” she said. “They havelittle cricket cages and you can goto the pet store and buy yourself acricket and listen to it sing itself tosleep. Americans just think they’reannoying.”
But apart from the nuisancefactor of their chirping, cricketsdon’t really deserve their bad rep-utation, she said.
“They spread no disease. Theydon’t chew on grass. They chewon each other, and they chew ondead animals,” Bergman said.“People say, ‘My yard is turningbrown, and I see lots of crickets.’They’re completely unrelated.They can feed on plant materialand weakened insects, but it’svery rare for them to feed on theplants themselves.”
So why do they have that repu-tation?
“The two things peak at thesame time,” Bergman said. “Theyards are going down because ofthe weather that we’ve been hav-ing, and the natural fall and thecrickets. So you see the two thingsand your brain thinks there mustbe a relation.”
For more information aboutcrickets and how to get rid ofthem, visit the University ofMinnesota Extension athttp://www.extension.umn.edu/dis-tribution/horticulture/DG1012.html, or the University of Nebraska-Lincoln athttp://lancaster.unl.edu/pest/resources/cricket.shtml.
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The Shawna and Tony FiechukFire Benefit Account has beenestablished at First National BankSouth Dakota in Yankton.
The couple’s home at 1401Whiting Street in Yankton wasdamaged in a fire Aug. 13.
Donations can be sent to FirstNational Bank South Dakota,Shawna and Tony Fiechuk FireBenefit Account, 332 Broadway,Yankton, SD 57078.
Riverview Reformed Church,located at 1700 Burleigh Street inYankton, is also collecting donat-ed items for the family. Amongthe items needed are kitchenappliances, furniture, towels andchildren’s clothing.
For more information, theFiechuk family can be reachedat (605) 760-4007, or (605) 660-8917.
Benefit Account SetUp For Fire Victims