Launching the Next

Generation… …Rescuing a

Generation in Crisis!

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Launching the Next Generation… …Rescuing a Generation in Crisis!

Presented by: Eric Burd & Dr. Jeff Klick

Sponsored by: Hope Family Fellowship &

Household of Faith Fellowship of Churches

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Conference Overview:Saturday am

9:20 am

Rebuilding Fatherhood

10:50 am

Reforming the Church

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Conference Overview: Saturday pm

2:00 pm

Launching the Next Generation – (Family Discipleship & 14

Outcomes)

3:30 pm

Question & Answer Panel

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Rebuilding

Fatherhood

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Last night we established that there are significant

Challenges in the Church Today.

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First, future generations of the church are in crisis…

…and it is our responsibility,

as Christian householders, to reach our own children for

Christ.

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And that, as disciplers, we must…

…establish a lifestyle of Intimacy with God

in order to reach our children at a heart level

for Christ.

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But, in reality, the Generation in Crisis

is not the root problem…

…rather it is symptomatic of two deeper malfunctions in the

church today…

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1) The Disintegration of the Family.

2) The Improper Functional Role of the Church in relation to the home.

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In this session, we will address a solution for the

disintegration of the Family……which is the Rebuilding of the

Role of Fatherhood in our Christian

homes today …

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In our second session this morning Pastor Klick will address Reforming the Church, steps the local church can take to inform and equip parents to

more effectively fulfill their biblical roles in discipleship.

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Note: Scripture clearly places the weight

of leading the home firmly upon the shoulders of fathers.

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or other loving legal guardians, we intend the term “fathers”

to apply to them as well.

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Text

Malachi 4:5-6

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Mal 4:5

Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before

the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord…

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Mal 4:6

And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I

smite the earth with a curse. - KJV

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Could the CURSE merely be the natural consequence of

parents turning their affections and attention to other things rather than fulfilling their

God-assigned responsibilities towards their children?

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Could the CURSE for the turning of father’s hearts from their

children be the emergence of rebellious generations,

cultural disintegration and the widespread

rejection, even persecution, of those that hold to the

foundational principles of the Christian faith?

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Are typical Christian fathers today alert and in tune with the role

that God has ordained for them to play in the lives of

their wives and children?

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…Question

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Is it alarmist, or is it merely connecting the dots to be concerned that a CURSE may be

ascending upon our land?

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Would you agree that today, we are again in the need for the Lord to turn the hearts of the fathers

toward their children…

…which should result in the hearts of the children being turned to

their fathers?

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In order for the home to be what God intends for it to be …

…to produce the kind of children that carry the work of the church

into the next generation…

… fathers must lead as God has instructed

them to lead.

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God has given headship of the home to the father,

not to the wife……the state

…or the church.

Eph 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head

of the church,

- ESV

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God never intended for the church to do the work of the

family…

…nor pastors / elders the work of the father.

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Church and Home have a complimentarian

dependence upon one another.

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other’s role, but together they

make discipleship whole.

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But discipleship will only effectively occur if we

intentionally and accurately pass the gospel of Jesus Christ on from one generation to the next.

(keys)

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Discipleship in our homes must

be Intentional!

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Deut 6:5-9 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I

command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your

children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way,

and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.

9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

- ESV

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Doesn’t it make sense that to effectively teach the Word…

… we must first know the Word ourselves.

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“If you cannot play the saxophone, you can’t teach

your children to play the saxophone.”

-Jerry Burd

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God is calling us out!

He is raising up a generation of fathers who will affectionately

lead their children in the commandments of God.

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“Lord…… may we experience the

fulfillment of Malachi 4:6 in our Generation.”

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We must reverse the contemporary western phenomenon of the disintegration of the family…

…But, to do that we have to go against the grain…

…we have to run into the wind……we have to swim upstream…

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Put another way…

…we have to be courageous!

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Our culture, the media, political correctness – these all elevate youth

and rebellion…

…they scoff parental authority…

…diminish the wisdom of age…

…mock every semblance of a biblical worldview…

…and emasculate the role of the husband / father.

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We must be courageous!…battling every nuance of the

philosophies of men in the trenches of our homes.

Rejecting the influences that would undermine the biblical influence of fatherhood or the

nobility of motherhood.

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We must realize that the only door to

rebuilding the Christian home…

…is to Rebuild

Fatherhood!

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Weak families make weak churches and weak societies…

Strong families make strong churches and strong societies…

And, of course,

Don’t we all want strong families?

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So, how do we make strong families?

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Scientists say they have not yet discovered

perpetual motion…

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But …

Strong Fathers BUILD strong Families.

Strong Families BUILD strong Churches.

Strong Churches BUILD strong Fathers.

Is this not…….Spiritual Perpetual Motion?

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And Spiritual Perpetual Motion

is what we must have in order to sustain the church……from generation to

generation……until Christ returns!

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But there has been a breakdown in the church…

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Fathers may have been being discipled to be good Christian…

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But to disciple a father in every aspect of the faith except

the discipling of his own wife and children…

…is to teach a father to neglect the single-most important

aspect of fatherhood.

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Being equipped as to how best:

…manage a household well……be a loving and faithful husband…

…effectively disciple one’s children…

…These are areas in which the church can bring significant

assistance to a man.

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And the impact of his success or failure in these endeavors stretch well beyond his own household.

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Every jurisdictions in our culture…Church

Business Government

… all depend upon the stability of the household for survival…

…and likewise disintegrate with the disintegration of the home.

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Let’s do now what we desire for all Christian dads to do…

…let’s turn our attention toward home…

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What does it mean to “Rebuild Fatherhood?”

…it simply means to restore fatherhood

to its proper role - its originally-designed functions.

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So, what is the father’s proper role…

…the proper, biblical function of Fatherhood is best defined in terms of how the father relates to all of the other members

of his own household?

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Every householder is biblically mandated with 6 obligation to the individuals in their own households, to:

1. Respect 2. Love 3. Lead 4. Provide 5. Protect 6. Disciple

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1. Respect Each individual is the head of their

own jurisdiction.

Even God respects the jurisdiction of the individual.

Speaking to Cain, God said: If you do well, will you not be

accepted? And if you do not do well, sin is crouching at the door.

Gen 4:7

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Be in awe of the fact that - in the long term - you cannot force the will

of those in your care.

Try with your children, to make the gospel sweet as honey… …and then appeal to the work of the Holy Spirit

in their lives.

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Ps 19:9-109 The fear of the Lord is clean, enduring for

ever: the judgments of the Lord are true and righteous altogether.

10 More to be desired are they than gold, yea, than much fine gold: sweeter also than honey and the honeycomb. -KJV

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Our own sweet fellowship with the Father…

…Intimacy with God… Will help to make God and His

Word …appear sweet … of value …to be longed for …by our children.

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This is Key to Biblical Parenting…

A life and lifestyle, the fruit of which create a hunger and thirst for the

things of God in your children…

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2. Love

Genuine love allows you to be effective in the 4 remaining

areas:

leading, providing,

protecting discipling

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First, Love Your WifeThe great biblical mandate

for every husband…

…and a vital function in fulfilling the role of

fatherhood!

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Eph 5:25

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it … -KJV

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You must love her,protect her,

and help her to attain to the highest standards of the

Nobility of Motherhood.

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And wives, you are partners with your husbands in the safe delivery of your children

from man’s cradle to God’s Kingdom …

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And your husband’s success is your success…

…dwell with your husband in peace …

…as his helpmeet, make it your life’s ambition to hear the Judge say to

your husband …

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“Well done thou good and faithful servant.”…

…That the Judge may turn to you and say

likewise…

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The clearest picture of the gospel that parents can give their children is a

faithful…affectionate…

Selfless… love for one another as they

strive together in the same yoke toward kingdom objectives.

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Husbands……love your wives!

…………The Motorcycle Story………..

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Agape Love is not about our stuff…

…our personal hobbies……our free time…

…but, godly character.

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Effective leaders do not hide their character…

…or manage appearances…

…but, transparently open up their lives to God, to their wives and,

as appropriate, their children.

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One of the most dramatic ways a father can influence his family for Christ is to

showcase – in himself – the power of God to transform

the human soul.

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Dad’s love for the members of the home should include a

focused…affectionate…sacrificial …

love for each individual member of the family.

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3. Lead

Accept the Bible’s mandate to lead…

…and you can only do this well if points 1 and 2, Respect and Love,

are already in place…

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Everything that happens in the home:

Order…Discipline…Education…

Atmosphere…Social and spiritual development

of all family members…

… all are the father’s full responsibility.

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.What On This Ship Is the

Captain Responsible For?

What On This Ship Is the Captain Responsible For?

The husband IS the head - the Captain -

whether he acts the part or not…

…and…

…a spirituall-absentee husband totally dominates the home

by his absence!

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4. Provide

1 Tim 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. - KJV

We love our wife by providing for her a “castle” of her own…

…we role model for our sons the character of diligence and hard-work…

…and we embody for our daughters the focused, disciplined man that they

should be seeking in a husband.

5. Protect

…giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel. - 1 Peter 3:7

Our wives’ “vessels” may be weaker… but 360-degree protection of our homes demands that we listen to our

wives’ discerning and protective instincts…

We Protect By: Providing Being alert to physical dangers Intervening in destructive

decisions and behaviors Building strong character Forecasting future needs of family Anticipating spiritual dangers

6. Disciple

Thomas Watson:

“The Family

is the Seminary of the Church.”

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By default, everyone disciples their children –

- toward their own personal character, passions, and

values.

We are not going to go into detail on the importance of

discipline… the correction of a child…

…but know that we take it for granted that the disciplining of a

child is a critical part of his overall discipleship.

What is the world’s greatest discipleship model?

A coliseum sporting a world-wide evangelist?

A room-full of saints huddled around the Bible?

Four pastors instructing one disciple? (4:1)

A gymnasium with a hip youth leader and great technology, music, movies & pizza?

The world’s greatest discipleship model is…

One Household, - with 2 parents, - each parent with a thirst for righteousness, - modeling character that reflects Christ, - and being driven to pass the baton of

Christ on to the next generation.

Youth Ministers in every home..

Parents are the world’s greatest Youth Leaders!

Use the Ancient Pulpit of the Home to transfer your life-transforming passions

and values on to your children…

… the ORIGINAL MAKE OVER!

Thorough discipleship includes protecting our children from

harmful influences and extends into every dimension

of relationships and education.

- Kids can be discipled at home and un-discipled at school.

- Discipleship includes Parental Responsibility in the education of

our children.

We must train our children in every aspect of spiritual things.

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…We start by living the gospel… …transformation is easier

caught than taught.

Deut 29:29 The secret things belong unto the Lord our God: but those things which are revealed belong unto us and to our children for ever, that we may do all the words of this law. - KJV

Disciple Your Children Fathers must aspire to the role of

Household Theologian …seeking out and delivering to their children the secret things of God…

(Family Discipleship Plan This afternoon at 1:30 pm)

…Teaching your children:

To Delight in the Word This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be

careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have

good success.

Josh 1:8

To Be Faithful to Church and Ministry Opportunities

And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, 25 not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the

Day drawing near. Heb 10:24-25

To Pray

To personally engage in spiritual warfare on behalf of your wife and

children and to teach them to …

… enter the holy places by the blood of Jesus,

- Heb 10:19-20

And, everything we have discussed today is all

for naught if we do not teach them …

To Know Christ…

(1 John 1:1-2)

Conclusion:

To Rebuild Fatherhood is to restore fatherhood to all of its Biblical Functions.

The way we know when our hearts have been turned toward our children is when we have

willingly fashioned our lives, our schedules and our priorities to reach the hearts of our

children for the gospel!

End of

Presentation

Let’s take a

Break…

Return at 10:50 for

Reforming the Church

Dr. Klick

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The father’s biblical role also includes some looking outside the family,

as well as looking in…

What is the father’s responsibility toward the church and the society?

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We want to sharpen them…

To arm them…

…To Launch them into the

Battle!

Rebuilding Fatherhood…

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Becoming the kind of man whose household God

delights to bless!

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End of

Presentation

If he gives us 7 gardens to tend, he expects us to sow

and cultivate each…not neglecting any:

Christ, wife, children, family, work, church, community.

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RelationshipsWhen we think of relationships we

tend to think of person to person.

But God calls men into relationships with jurisdictions.

Fathers have relationships with their children, but they are having a

relationship with a jurisdiction.

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RelationshipsWhen we think of relationships we

tend to think of person to person.

But God calls men into relationships with jurisdictions.

Fathers, the head of the jurisdiction of the home, have relationships with

their children, heads of the jurisdiction of the individual.

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This means that, as a jurisdiction, the child’s life is a boundary or entity

in which autonomous power may be exercised.

Though tragic, a person has the right and authority to reject Christ. When that happens:

God recognizes that autonomous decision God decrees the appropriate eternal destiny.

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The home is the wellspring from which elders, deacons and the faithful future of the

church emerges.

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How did we get here?Deportation of our children from home.Evacuation of parents from

responsibilities.Counter-Biblical Social Movements:Public SchoolSunday SchoolIndustrial RevolutionWWII women in workforceMobility of children…technology…

entertainment.

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Yes, Christian men must awaken from their slumber and assume their biblical roles in the home…

1. Respecting 2. Loving 3. Leading 4. Providing 5. Protecting 6. Discipling …their families.

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God gives us a clear mandate in Scripture…

Dueteronomy 6

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Power - what you can doResponsibility – what you are assigned (by

another jurisdiction).Rights – What you may do.

Authority – What you may direct, narrower than power

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The Army Ranger have a motto…

“…No man left behind.”

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We must keep every one of our children in mind… individually:

Praying for ThemDisciplining In Righteousness

Building AffectionPreparing for Life

Discipling Unto Christ

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A Quiver Full of Gardens

Each individual child represents an entirely separate garden

from the rest.

We must plow, sow and reap in each individual garden…

…No child left behind.

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A combat medic, self-forgettingThe Shepherd leaves the 99 find

the one.The Buck stops here.

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Deut 6 – The great Shema - The ultimate Jewish

Prayer…declaration of faith. It is so important, Jews recite it twice a day and

on their deathbed. The Great Commandment – quoted by

Jesus as the most important commandment…

AndThe Father’s role in the home - all given

by God to Israel at the end of the 40 year wandering. In Deut. 6

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Finally, if you will be strong and courageous to do these things,

God will intervene on your behalf and make your home

stronger and stronger for the sake of His Church and for the

glory of His Kingdom.

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Parental Responsibility in Education

Christian parents should ensure that all family members see dad and mom as the primary

educators of their children. In today’s world, conscientious Christian parents must be engaged - selecting, controlling and / or monitoring the curriculum, values and

environments to which their children are being exposed throughout their years of education.

4 Statements and 4 Responses

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STATEMENT

Many strong, highly-gifted Christian women are just better leaders than their

less-gifted and/or passive husbands. _______________________________________________

RESPONSE

Should a strong and wise woman yield her household up to a lesser man,

knowing his skills and judgment are inferior to hers?

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STATEMENT

Our culture sees marriage as an egalitarian (50/50) arrangement.

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RESPONSE

Isn’t a husband a little chauvinistic to say headship of

the home resides with him?

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STATEMENT

Poor decisions or moral failures cause men to lose credibility with

their wives and children. ___________________________________________

RESPONSE

Should a man have an expectation of leading before he regains the

trust of his family?

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STATEMENT

Some men lead the home while resting in the confidence that the school is educating their

children, and the church discipling them. ______________________________________________________

RESPONSE Who better to educate the children than the school, and disciple them than the church?

Isn’t that what God made schools and churches for?

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I have given you 4 statements as to why biblical male leadership in the Christian home is suffering

today.

Do you see the biblical error in each of the responses?

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In our text, Malachi seemed to be forecasting that the last days would present a dire need for

change…

…a reformation of the family…

…not toward something new…

…but the restoration of what God had established from the

beginning.

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…and, Praise the Lord…

God is waking us up!

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He is turning the hearts of countless fathers back to their children…

back to their wives… back to

their homes… ****************************

God is Restoring the Role of

the Christian Father!

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Why did God create the family?

“So that from one generation to the next there might be mouths

to proclaim the glories of Christ.”

- Scott Brown

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Thank you for invitation...Mark, Dick, Mark and Todd - and Antioch CC – doing church great srvc.Love stories, analogies, illustrations and pics…powerful means of transferring truth in a clear

and memorable way – Jesus spoke in parables. You are here today, in an historic occasion- one among many ground-breaking FIC conferences …

Go back 27 years with an analogy…My wife, Jerry, and I started homeschooling in 1983. - didn’t know anyone else doing it…sensed calling, so we did it. - against the law then in Arkansas,…people were going to jail… - we were different, scared - persevered – still going – 6 more yrs. - today, millions of people homeschool – because God has called them to it – we were pioneers. I believe Homeschool movement = revival…of Spirit speaking to parents…dynamic generation - revival of families willing to go against grain (culture) …swim upstream (church). -God was building courage and character in his people - today we are standing on the edge of another revival.I said this was an historic occasion? Compare this spiritually to the era of Jamestown and

Plymouth Rock – this is the beginnings of something near to God’s heart FIC - Not something new, simply God restoring what was natural from the beginning – simple. You are in the presence of many pioneers, Mark, Eric, Marc, Jarrod, Steve…you! We all pioneers

Fics dot east coast and west coast– want to see US blanketed in FICs.

This Family Integrated movement is young, but the heart of God. Not really about the FIC, but the Gospel - Track coaches teach runners to pass baton – teaching is not the baton…but how to

protect the baton. The FIC movement not about the FIC, but how to live and protect the gospel for generations to come.

A core value of FIC: Restoring Role of Christian Father….

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Disclaimer – we will be discussing “Fathers” a great deal…

In the Presentation we use the terms: “ Father,” “Householder,” “head of household,” all interchangeably…may apply to single moms or single dads.

If Mother is a single parent – suggest you attempt to adopt an “uncle” for your sons, someone to help model, mentor and engage your sons in ministry…

If necessary, ask your elders to help you find a caring man willing to invest…