LEADERSHIP

The 7 Habits and More!!Joe Colesjcoles@swprsc.org620-353-9702Southwest Plains Regional Service Center

PROCEDURESTime Out

Foul

If someone puts you down, you can call a foul.

If they call a foul on you, you have to give two put-ups about that person.

WHAT TO EXPECT TODAY . . . . .

Welcome

Human treasure hunt.

Find your partner- same color card- same number card. 222– Introduce

2- school things 2- outside of school things 2- other things

Today--- What do we want to accomplish?

Make an impact at your school.

FIND YOUR PARTNER– BY CARD

Visit with your partner Find out:

222 Introduce them:

Speak loud enough that all can hearSpeak to the entire groupFocus and have confidence

7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE TEENS

Be ProactiveBegin With the End in MindPut First Things FirstThink Win-WinSeek First to Understand,

Then to be UnderstoodSynergizeSharpen the Saw – Improving Yourself

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Relationships

PARADIGMS AND PRINCIPLES What you see is what you

get

Better keep yourself

clean and bright; you are the window through which you

see the whole world.

George Bernard Shaw

English Playwright

WHAT IS A PARADIGM The way you see something Your point of view Frame of reference Belief

They are often way off markThey create limitationsAre your paradigms of yourself helping or

hindering you?Paradigms of others can be way out of

whackParadigms of life

What is the driving force of my life? What do I spend my time thinking about? Who or what is my obsession?

PARADIGM SHIFT Seeing things from another point of view Be willing to change your paradigm when it

becomes clear that it is wrong Change the glasses through which we see the world

Open your minds and hearts to new Information Ideas Points of view

PRINCIPLESWhat is a principle?

A natural law or basic truthA fundamental truth that is timeless

HonestyServiceLoveRespectBalance

PRINCIPLES NEVER FAIL They will never talk behind your back They don’t get up and move They don’t suffer career-ending injuries They don’t play favorites based on skin

color, gender, wealth, or body features

Putting principles first is key to becoming a person of character

For every problem, search for the principle that will solve it

THE PRIVATE VICTORY The Personal Bank Account

Starting with the Man in the Mirror

SYMPTOMS OF A POOR PBA Cave in to peer pressure Wrestle with feelings of depression and

inferiority Overly concerned about what others think Act arrogant to help hide your insecurities Self-destruct by getting heavily into drugs,

vandalism, or gangs Get jealous easily, especially when

someone close to you succeeds

SYMPTOMS OF A HEALTHY PBA Stand up for yourself and resist peer

pressure Not overly concerned about being popular See life as a generally positive experience Trust yourself Are goal driven Happy for the success of others

CHA-CHING!

PBA DepositsKeep promises to yourself

Do small acts of kindness

Be gentle with yourself

Be honest

Renew yourself

Tap into your talents

PBA WithdrawalsBreak personal promises

Keep to yourself

Beat yourself up

Be dishonest

Wear yourself out

Neglect your talents

7 HABITS CAN HELP YOU: Get control of your life. Improve your relationships with your friends. Increase your self-confidence. Be Happy.

WHAT EXACTLY ARE HABITS?

#1 BE PROACTIVE Thumb to chest, who needs to be proactive, I do I Am the Force Accept responsibility for your life Promote personal change Proactive or Reactive…the choice is yours

Proactive People Make choices based on values They think before they act Take responsibility for their choices

Reactive People Make choices based on impulse (feelings, moods, and emotions) If shaken up, the pressure builds and they explode

#1 BE PROACTIVE Pop vs. Water

Proactive Reactive

Hula Hoops

You have to turn your Hula Hoop over

RULESCan’t raise over your headsCan’t take apartCannot step on the ground outside

of a hula hoop

#1 BE PROACTIVE

WHAT CAN I DO Tell me some Cool things about your School

High Quality Education “Best” Facilities Highly Qualified Teachers “A La Carte” Program (PB&J, Ice Cream) 4 Day week Extracurricular activities “Student of the Month” Coca Cola program

Get into groups by cards

YOUR SCHOOL

What is “Cool” about your school?

#1 BE PROACTIVEI am only one, but I am one. I can’t do everything, but I can do something. That which I can do, I ought to do. That which I ought to do, I shall do.

Everyone can do something!!

20 Questions Each participant needs paper and a pencil.

Instruct each one to complete the sentence, “I am” -- listing all the “roles” they fill (such as I am a daughter, I am a basketball player, I am a student council member, etc.)

Encourage the listing of roles or positions/activities, not personal characteristics/adjectives.

Each participant then shares his/her list with the group.

Ask each group member to go to 5 other people and tell them a role that that person has.

Thank You Letter

ISSUES IN YOUR SCHOOL!

What are some “concerns” about your school/community?

SOME THINGS TO THINK ABOUT

Carrying book bags between classes

Hall passes in hallway during class time.

Speed bumps

Lack of school spirit

#2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Point down, to sky, to mind Since you are the driver, decide where you want

to go and draw up a map to get there.

#2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MINDWhich paths will you takeThe paths you choose today can

shape you foreverChair and person sitting

How old are you?What are some decisions that

you are making now or in the next 5 years that could affect you down the road?

10 Person TriangleOnly 3 people can move

Rubberbands

#2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

#2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Control your destiny or someone else will.

What is your mission statement, goals?

Personal motto States what your life is about Opens your eyes to what’s really

important, what do you value Helps you make decisions Everything about you changes but

your mission statement will be like a deep- rooted tree that never moves

#2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

Five Keys to Goal Setting Key No. 1: Count the Cost

What will it require Am I willing to make the sacrifice Don’t make commitments to myself I know I’m going to

break

Key No. 2: Put it in Pen “A goal not written is only a wish” A written goal carries ten times the power

Key No. 3:Just Do it! There is a time to say I’ll try and a time to say I will!

#2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

Key No. 4: Use Momentous Moments Certain moments in life contain momentum and power Starts and finishes or beginnings and ends carry momentum (a

new year) Tough experiences can carry momentum Setbacks and tragedies can often serve as springboards for

change Key No. 5: Rope Up

Borrow strength from others Rope up with friends, brothers, sisters, girlfriends, parents,

counselors, grandparents, pastors, or whomever else you can

IF YOU WANT TO BE

ETRATORDINARY

THE FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO DO IS QUIT BEING

ORDINARY

3 THINGS TO MAKE AN IMPACT AT YOUR SCHOOL.

Discuss The 3 things to make an impact in your school

School Service Projects

SCHOOL SERVICE PROJECTS

Mix It Up day Bullying Report Box Read to a grade school kid Sports buddy Class competition Fund raiser Incentive cards

Put Up Box SADD Community pep

rally’s Student tutoring Big Brother- Big

Sister/Friends Homework club Incentives for extra

curricular activities

Example Mission Statements I will live by my own policies. I will sleep with a

clear conscience. I will sleep in peace.

First and foremost, I will remain faithful always to my Faith. I will not underestimate the power of family unity. I will not neglect a true friend, but I will set aside time for myself as well. I will cross bridges as I come to them (divide and conquer). I will begin all challenges with optimism, rather than doubt. I will always maintain a positive self-image and high self-esteem, knowing that all my intentions begin with self-evaluation.

#2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

#2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND Example Mission

StatementsReligionEducationSucceedingProductiveExerciseCaringTruthful

Example Mission Statements

Care – about the world, about life, about people, about myself

Love – myself, my family, my world, knowledge, learning, life

Fight – for my beliefs, for my passions, to accomplish, to do good, to be true to myself

Rock – the boat, don’t let the boat rock me, be a rock

LIVE YOUR LEGACY, LEAVE YOUR LEGACY How do you want to be remembered 5 years

from now?

Take a few minutes, fill out the Mission Statement Sheet.

Take a break, QUIETLY!!!

#2 BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND

#3 PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Hands build on top of each other

Prioritize, do the most important things first.

The habit of will-power (the strength to say yes to your most important things)

Won’t-power (the strength to say no to less important things and to peer pressure)

It’s all about learning to prioritize and manage your time so that your first things come first not last….and learning to overcome your fears and being strong during hard moments.

BalloonsWhat is taking your time?

#3 PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST

Go through an average day and write down the time you spend in each category. Remember, the total time must equal 24 hours.

Sleeping ______ Dressing/Hygiene ______ Eating ______ Travel ______ Classes ______ Extra Curricular ______ Work ______ Chores ______

Appointments ______ Study ______ Homework ______ Volunteering ______ Leisure ______ Family ______ Friends ______ Other, specify ______

After looking at this what do you think about the way you spend your time?

#3 PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST

#3 PUT FIRST THINGS FIRSTLine up

No talking, by birthday, shoe size

#3 PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Quadrant 1: The Procrastinator

Addicted to urgency…put things off until they become a crisis Stress and anxiety Burnout Mediocre performance

Quadrant 2: The Prioritier Things are important but not urgent Staying balanced is important Control of your life High performance

Quadrant 3: The Yes-man Represents things that are urgent but not important Often caves to peer pressure Reputation for being a “pleaser” Lack of discipline Feels like a doormat for others to wipe their feet on

Quadrant 4: The Slacker Category of waste and excess Activities are neither urgent nor important Lack of responsibility Guilt flakiness

#3 PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST What are your big rocks?????

What do you want to accomplish for the upcoming week? Study for a test Finish reading a book Exercise 3 times Call grandma for her birthday

Add in your little to-do’s, daily tasks, and appointments

Look ahead on your calendar and record upcoming events and activities.

Comfort Zone and Courage Zone

Putting first things first takes courage

You will often have to stretch outside your comfort zone

Never let fears make your decisions

Show faith in yourself Take a risk

It’s not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.Edmund Hillary (first person to

climb Mt. Everest)

#3 PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST

#3 PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST Winning means rising each time you fall Be strong in hard moments Overcoming peer pressure

Final Analysis of Habit 3 Putting first things first takes discipline

Discipline to manage your time Discipline to overcome your fears Discipline to be strong in the hard moments Discipline to resist peer pressure

The key to mastering relationships is first mastering yourself, at least to some degree.

Life’s most urgent question is: What are you doing for others?

Martin Luther King JR.

RELATIONSHIP BANK ACCOUNT

RBA Deposits

Keep promisesDo small acts of

kindnessBe loyalListenSay you’re sorrySet clear

expectations

RBA WithdrawalsBreak promisesKeep to yourselfGossip and break

confidencesDon’t listenBe arrogantSet false

expectations

RELATIONSHIP BANK ACCOUNT

RELATIONSHIP BANK ACCOUNTThe stuff that life is made of: Keep Promises

Keeping small commitments and promises is vital to building trust

Do small acts of kindness A hello, a kind note, a smile, a compliment, a hug In relationships, the little things are the big things

Be loyal Loyal people keep secrets Loyal people avoid gossip Loyal people stick up for others

Listen Most people don’t listen Listening can heal wounds

Say you’re sorry Don’t let pride or lack of courage stand in the way of saying you’re sorry Apologies disarm people

Set clear expectations To develop trust avoid sending vague messages or implying something that is

not true or not likely to happen Build trust by telling it like it is and lay out clear expectations right up front

#4 THINK WIN-WIN Point to head – arm wrestle

HAVE AN EVERYONE-CAN-WIN ATTITUDE!!

Life is an All-You-Can-Eat Buffet

#4 THINK WIN-WIN Win-Win is not…..

Win-Lose An attitude toward life that says the pie of success is only so

big, and if you get a big piece there is less for me Is competitive Winning the game, being the best, having it your way Full of pride Using other people, emotionally or physically, for your own

selfish purposes Trying to get ahead at the expense of others Spreading rumors about someone else (as if putting someone

else down builds you up) Insisting on getting your way without concerning yourself with

the feelings of others Becoming jealous and envious when something good happens

to someone close to your

#4 THINK WIN-WIN Lose-Win

The DoormatHave your way with meWipe your feet on me, everyone else does Is weakEasy to get stepped onEasy to be the nice guyEasy to give inEasy to set low expectationsCompromising your standardsGiving in to peer pressure is lose-win

#4 THINK WIN-WIN Lose-Lose

The Downward Spiral Usually happens when two win-lose people get

together If I’m going down you’re going down with me Misery enjoys company Revenge is lose-lose Lose-lose can occur when you become obsessed

with another person in a negative way

#4 THINK WIN-WIN A belief that everyone can

win You care about people and

you want them to succeed It’s abundant There is plenty of success to

go around It’s teamwork There’s more than enough

food for everyone…It’s an All-You-Can-Eat Buffet

#4 THINK WIN-WIN

Get into groups and talk about things that are a WIN-WIN situation in your school?

ROLE MODELS

HERO

For me, a hero does not have to be larger than life. A hero is someone personal to each person. To be a hero, all that is required is love, honor, devotion, and sincerity, without compromise, for another fellow human being. Everyone has the potential within to become a hero, either their own or someone else's. To be a hero, according to the word's Greek origins, means a person protects or serves.

HERO-CONT. My personal, modern-day heroes are

all the teachers who do it for the kids, not the money. You can tell the difference without even knowing that teacher personally. You can see it in the way her eyes sparkle whenever she is talking to kids or about kids; you can hear the reverence in her voice when she talks about their possibilities; you can witness it modeled in her daily life - her kids are her number one priority - both her own children and those she teaches.

HERO-CONT. I have the great fortune to work with

two such a heroes. They have given me the strength, courage, and desire to continue my education in order to help the advancement of others. I'm not studying to be a teacher but to be a counselor. They have helped me to see the light. I realize now I don't have to go into private practice but could be much more beneficial in the school system. Heroes come in all forms; my heroes have come in the form of mentors.

ROLE MODEL Everyone needs some one to look up to, to

admire, to have respect for.

Get into groups of 5-6.

List 5 to 8 characteristics that you would use to define a positive role model. Not physical. But behaviors, attitudes, life-styles, personality

traits that are noteworthy. Share with the group.

#4 THINK WIN-WIN

Think of someone that is a role model for you.

Draw things that represent that person.

Share

#5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD

Hand over eyes – then to ears

YOU HAVE TWO EARS AND ONE MOUTH FOR A REASON!!!!!

#5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD

One person leave the room.

We will clap loud when they get close, soft when they are far away.

#5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD Spacing Out

Someone is talking but we ignore them Our mind is wondering or caught up with our own thoughts

Pretend Listening Still aren’t paying attention but we pretend to be We make insightful comments, “yeah,” “uh-huh,” “cool” Speaker will get the hint and feel they are not important enough to be

heard Selective Hearing

Pay attention to only what interests us Word Listening

Pay attention but only listen to the words, not the body language, the feelings, or the true meaning behind the words

If you focus on words only, you’ll seldom be in touch with the deeper emotions of people’s hearts

Self-Centered Listening See everything from our point of view We judge, we advise, and we probe

#5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD GENUINE LISTENING SKILLS

First, listen with your eyes, heart, and ears 7% of communication is contained in our words 53% comes from body language 40% how we say words, or the tone and feeling

reflected in our voice PLEASE HEAR WHAT I AM NOT SAYING!

Second, stand in their shoes Try to see the world as they see it Try to feel as they feel

Third, practice mirroring Think like a mirror Mirrors don’t judge or give advice they just reflect They don’t mimic Repeat back in your own words what the other person

is saying and feeling

#5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD

The Wright Family Story

#5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD Sometime this week, ask your Mom or Dad,

“How’s it going?” Open up your ears and practice genuine listening. You’ll be surprised by what you learn.

If you’re a talker, take a break and spend you day listening. Only talk when you have to.

The next time you find yourself wanting to bury your feelings deep inside you, don’t do it. Instead, express them in a responsible way.

PERSONALITY INVENTORY Lion, Otter, Golden Retriever, Beaver

In each box, circle the words that best describe your personality.

Double the number of words you circle and write down that number on the line in that box.

LETS DISCUSS THE DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES

LION Lions or leaders There many accomplishments inspire awe. In the military they are the Schwarzkopf's,

Patton's, generals President of the company or think they are

the president. Take charge sometimes pushy and

overbearing.

LIONS CONT. Step in front of people or over people- all to

get things done. Lions don’t waist any time. When stressed out- need to express their

anger. Time alone sometimes relaxes them. Under pressure, sometimes become dictators

OTTER

Fun-loving type. Always looking for a party to happen. Entertainers, enthusiastic motivators. Those who know people who know

people who know people. They know everybody and bring so

much fun into our life and world. Even though you may have scored the

highest on this area, you may still have some of another personality type. High in two and low in the other two.

OTTER’S CONT.

Otters will forget to bring things that they promised to bring.

Can be dangerous and foolish risk takers.

Otters are so motivational than people actually believe them. (Trust Me)

Very verbal. Under pressure, tend to attack verbally. Otters love to play practical jokes.

GOLDEN RETRIEVER

Golden Retrievers are among the most sensitive people on earth.

“I won’t hurt you.” “I won’t say mean things to you.”

They avoid confrontation. Enjoy routine. Value loyalty. Golden Retrievers are the warm,

relational, nurturing ones. They feel deeply and will care enough

to buy appropriate card. Can be easily hurt.

GOLDEN RETRIEVER- CONT. Loyal Golden Retriever can become stubborn in

refusing to let go of hurts or grief. Gives and likes to receive warm smiles and

glances, loyal to the end. Because they are loyal and do not like change,

they can take a month to do something spontaneous.

Golden Retrievers can feel the hurts of others so deeply.

They bring concerns home with them, including the cares of colleagues and schoolmates.

Sometimes carry the weight of the world on their shoulders.

BEAVER

These people enjoy not only writing instruction manuals, but reading those manuals.

They value accuracy, getting things straight, and doing things right.

Beavers make good health and safety inspectors, quality controllers, bankers, and accountants.

They like quality, not junk. Beavers are serious, they have little tolerance for

those who mess up. When your with them, you feel like being extra

careful.

BEAVER- CONT.

Beavers are real careful with people close to them. They take the longest time to take a test or do a

project. Hardest on themselves. Often they are pointing out mistakes in themselves. Beaver trait has their socks all color-coordinated

and rolled up in the sock drawer. They make their beds every day, not only at home,

but in motels. Beavers can be late for meetings because they

must do things right. When they start something, they will not quit until

they finish.

WE USE OUR STRENGTHS AND BLEND OUR DIFFERENCES

It is very normal for Golden retrievers to have some Beaver in them.

It is very normal for a Lion and an Otter to marry a Golden Retriever or Beaver combination.

Lions and Golden retrievers sometimes have trouble getting along.

For Otters to do well in school, it has to be fun. Teachers, who are usually Beavers, don’t

understand Otters as well. Each of us has these personality strengths in

combinations which are variable and adjustable. They need to be brought into balance.

STRENGTHS AND DIFFERENCES- CONT.

If you have too much of the Lion quality, then try to be gentle and soft with people.

The Otter needs to be more of a follow-through person.

Golden Retrievers need to practice confronting.

Beavers need to realize that nothing is ever as bad as it seems or as good as it appears.

Letting go of the need to have everything exactly right is important for a Beaver to do

THE GOLDEN RULE

Do unto others as you would have them do

unto you.

Treat others as THEY want to be treated.

#5 SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD

Basketball Video

#6 SYNERGIZE Arms wiggle

WORK TOGETHER TO ACHIEVE MORE

Geese and Synergy

X X X X X X X X X X X

#6 SYNERGIZE

#6 SYNERGIZEThe “High” Way

When two or more people work together to create a better solution than either could alone.

It’s not your way or my way but a better way, a higher way.

#6 SYNERGIZE SYNERGY IS: Celebrating differences Teamwork Open-mindness Finding new and better

ways

SYNERGY IS NOT: Tolerating differences Working independently Thinking you’re always

right compromise

#6 SYNERGIZERopes

Or Human Knot

#6 SYNERGIZEBall Throw

Hold your hand up, call name aloud

#6 SYNERGIZE Paper plane activity

Get with partner Make a paper airplane using only your non-

dominate hands Throw back and forth

IT TAKES A TEAM, NO ONE COULD HAVE BUILT THE AIRPLANE BY THEMSELVES WITH ONLY THEIR NON-DOMINATE HAND.

#6 SYNERGIZESynergy doesn’t just happen – IT IS A PROCESS!!

GOLDEN SHEET OF PAPER

Take a gold sheet of paper. Put your name and today’s date at the top. Pass around to each person from you school. They will put down one leadership quality

that you have and pass it to the next person.

#7 SHARPEN THE SAW Arm in chopping motion

RENEW YOURSELF REGULARLY.

#7 SHARPEN THE SAW How many of you have flown on an airplane?

The oxygen mask drops down and your niece or nephew is sitting on your lap.

Do you put it on you first or your niece or nephew first???

#7 SHARPEN THE SAW

It’ “Me Time”

Caring For Your Body

You Are What You Eat Use It Or Lose It It’s All About How You Feel, Not How You Look

#7 SHARPEN THE SAW

Caring for Your Brain

Sharpen Your Mind Find Your Niche Don’t Let School Get in the Way of Your

Education

#7 SHARPEN THE SAWCaring for Your Heart

RBA Deposits PBA Deposits Laugh or You’ll Cry

Helps us copeReduces stress levelsConnects us with others

#7 SHARPEN THE SAWCaring for Your Soul

Meditating Serving Others Writing in journals Going for a walk Drawing Praying Thinking deeply Listening to uplifting music Talking to friends Reflecting on goals and mission statements

#7 SHARPEN THE SAW

Adjective Cards activity

NICEHappy

Tall

CARINGOutgoing

WHAT DO YOU VALUE?

Take a yellow card, piece of paper, or something to write on.

Look at this chart that is on the next slide.

Write down the things you value the most!

WRITE DOWN ALL OF THE THINGS BELOW THAT YOU VALUE.popularity patriotism car friends

money status clothes fun

sincerity honesty work God

hobby possession loyalty integrity

good looks athletics power vision

physical fit freedom family music

education leadership knowledge wisdom

Place of worship

Personal Growth

self-discipline

other:

VALUE

Now prioritize your list.

Put the most important #1, second, third and so on.

NOW LOOK AT YOUR TOP THREE!

Three ways we demonstrate what we value: By the way we spend the time!

By the way we spend our money!

By the way we treat others!

VALUES

How did you choose yours?

How important are values?

How can we really make sure we honor our values?

7 HABITS REVIEW Be Proactive

Take responsibility for your life! Begin With the End in Mind

Mission Statement Put First Things First

Prioritize, do the most important things first Think Win-Win

Have an everyone-can-win attitude Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood

Listen to people sincerely Synergize

Work together to achieve more Sharpen the Saw

Renew yourself regularly

FIRST IMPRESSIONS

You have only ___ to ___ seconds to make a first impression!

It takes approximately ____ additional encounters to undo or change a bad first impression!

MEETING AND GREETING OTHERS

Handshake – 3 pumps Eye contact Posture – Lean in Dress – Grooming Energy Level Relax Facial Expression Tone of Voice

MEET AND GREET 3 PEOPLE

How others Best hear us:Body Language -- 55%Tone of Voice -- 38%Actual Words -- 7%

I POSSESSInterpersonal SkillsPersistenceOptimismSelf-AwarenessSelf-ControlEmpathySocial SkillsSelf-Motivation

INTERPERSONAL SKILLS Combines Empathy and Social Skills – we will

come back to later.

PERSISTENCE

The ability to stick with something

What happens to a person who has low persistence?

What happens to a person with high persistence?

Dog Persistence

Chair Sit How will persistence affect some of the major

choices you will make in your life in the next few years? High School College Job Marriage

PERSISTENCE CONT’D.

OPTIMISMThe ability to be positive in the face of adversity or struggle.

Annie

What are some situations that would require you to have optimism?

OPTIMISM

THANK YOU LETTER

Think of an adult in your school that you would like to thank!

Spend a little time and write them a thank you on a yellow sheet of paper. This note is just between you and them.

Fold it over 3 times and tape it. Put the name of the person and the school on the outside.

SELF-AWARENESS

FIRST IMPRESSIONS

You have only ___ to ___ seconds to make a first impression!

It takes approximately ____ additional encounters to undo or change a bad first impression!

SELF-AWARENESS

SELF-AWARENESSThe ability to understand who you really are.How do we become more self-aware?

Think of some things you would get from developing self-awareness.

How can it make a difference in your life?

SELF-CONTROLThe ability to control your impulses or urges to do something

Self-Control is typically hardest for young and old people, why?

What can I benefit from having self-control?

SELF-CONTROL

How Well Do You Get Along With Others Handout

SELF-CONTROL

EMPATHYThe ability to feel what others feel

Empathy is the Key to being HumanCan you see empathy?Can you show empathy to someone else?

What does empathy have to do with good character?

TRAIT TRACING

It is easy to compare ourselves to others and to believe we aren’t good enough if we don’t measure up to the people we admire.

Only when we recognize our own unique traits and values as a person and stop trying to be somebody else can we begin to build a good self esteem and a strong sense of who we are.

EMPATHY

TRAIT TRACING

Everyone in the group will find traits in each other that are different from their own.

Everyone will take a piece of paper and pen or pencil and to make a list of their own unique traits.

Go around and talk to each other. On the piece of each person must write down as

many traits from other people in the group as they can find that are different from your own unique traits.

The person with the longest list at the end of the time limit wins.

EMPATHY

TRAIT TRACING

1. Why is it important to find traits in each other that are different and unique?

2. What would life be like if we were all exactly the same?

3. How can you use your unique traits to build on and improve your self-esteem?

EMPATHY

SOCIAL SKILLS The ability to interact with others in a

positive, successful way.

Would you rather go to a surgeon who has learned a technique for surgery or would you want to go to a surgeon who is “skilled” in the use of that technique?

What skills seem to be the most important when working with other people?

What skills might you need to hold a job?

SOCIAL SKILLS

Interview Competition

SOCIAL SKILLS

SELF-MOTIVATION

What do you think it means to be self-motivated? The ability to tell yourself what to do, rather than

having someone else tell you what to do.

FREEDOM If you do what you know you need to do then you will

earn more freedom!!

I POSSESS Get with your group by cards.

Come up with a cheer or chant using the I Possess skills. Example – YMCA song